When it’s not him. But it’s great

[Cliff]

Met with an escort yesterday and it was hot as hell. One of the best encounters I’ve ever had, and I knew I wanted to return for more. Later I looked at the photos of him in his ad, and realized it wasn’t the guy I met with! I kind of have a big issue with this. But then, again, if it was so great, why should I care? Wondering what you guys think.

[Cliff]

In hindsight, this should probably have been placed in the Deli section.

[+ poolboy48220]

If it took you a day to realize it wasn't him in his pictures, I'd say he's using pictures that are close enough that I'd lean towards giving him a pass. How different were his pictures in his ad?

[Cliff]

If it took you a day to realize it wasn't him in his pictures, I'd say he's using pictures that are close enough that I'd lean towards giving him a pass. How different were his pictures in his ad?

The guy in the photos was more muscular and had some hair on his chest. But both photos and person had a huge cock. I think I got hypnotized by it. Ha ha

[nsguy45]

The guy in the photos was more muscular and had some hair on his chest. But both photos and person had a huge cock. I think I got hypnotized by it. Ha ha

Maybe he hasn't worked out in a while and shaved his chest.

[+ harey]

Don't trust the guy as far as you can throw him, unless you like that kind of thing, too!

It would be a trust issue for me, too, especially when considering a repeat. Can I ever leave him alone while I go to the bathroom, do I need to hide my wallet and phone, etc.

[down_to_business]

Next you might find out he is lying about his name on his ad too.

You mean your birth certificate name isn't MasterAssDestroyer WTF!!!

[+ g56whiz]

Don't trust the guy as far as you can throw him, unless you like that kind of thing, too!

If he was that good and that muscular you might want to trust him just a bit farther than you can probably throw him.

[LivingnLA]

I wouldn't be able to trust him. I understand discretion, but using pics that aren't his along with all the other aspects of discretion (fake name, stats, etc.) and I start to really worry about things like actual STD/STI status, and safety of myself and my property when with him. But I'm a very cautious person so to each his own.

 

If you enjoyed yourself, felt safe with him, and want to see him again, do so. But, don't be stupid. Keep your property with you or in a safe. Don't drink or eat anything you didn't watch the preparation of, and be thoughtful about the sexual risks you take. Trust your gut and have fun!

[TruthBTold]

I wouldn't be able to trust him. I understand discretion, but using pics that aren't his along with all the other aspects of discretion (fake name, stats, etc.) and I start to really worry about things like actual STD/STI status, and safety of myself and my property when with him. But I'm a very cautious person so to each his own.

If you enjoyed yourself, felt safe with him, and want to see him again, do so. But, don't be stupid. Keep your property with you or in a safe. Don't drink or eat anything you didn't watch the preparation of, and be thoughtful about the sexual risks you take. Trust your gut and have fun!

 

Besides the above, if you are fairly certain that he is not the same person, I would probably email him and ask him outright if that were him. Tell him that you felt that it was not despite the fact that you in person were attractive, muscular, and that you enjoyed himself. Maybe he will come clean. If he does not I don't think I would see him again as you probably could not trust him. If he does then you would have to make a decision about whether you would see him and be really careful because he has confessed.

[LaffingBear]

Ive done repeats with guys who use fake pics - he said for reasons of discretion. IMO, he was actually more attractive than the pictured guy. It changed my attitude. Before meeting him. I was absolutely skeptical about guys using phony pics - never would have trusted the situation. But I took a low-risk, low-effort chance, and it mitigated my skepticism. I'll see him again.

 

Trust comes in "levels." I trust him to be good company. To provide good service. I trust he'll match my desires for looks, hygiene, safety. Wont scam me. I've provided some no-cost personal assistance to him.

 

Do I have unlimited trust?-no. I'm not inviting him into my life. Not giving him my ATM PIN or the passwords for critical e*accounts. I have no expectations we're getting married, or going to be buds.

 

I found a service I like. I trust that I can repeat the enjoyment. What more do I need to trust?

[GTMike]

Ive done repeats with guys who use fake pics - he said for reasons of discretion. IMO, he was actually more attractive than the pictured guy. It changed my attitude. Before meeting him. I was absolutely skeptical about guys using phony pics - never would have trusted the situation. But I took a low-risk, low-effort chance, and it mitigated my skepticism. I'll see him again.

 

Trust comes in "levels." I trust him to be good company. To provide good service. I trust he'll match my desires for looks, hygiene, safety. Wont scam me. I've provided some no-cost personal assistance to him.

 

Do I have unlimited trust?-no. I'm not inviting him into my life. Not giving him my ATM PIN or the passwords for critical e*accounts. I have no expectations we're getting married, or going to be buds.

 

I found a service I like. I trust that I can repeat the enjoyment. What more do I need to trust?

I fully get it that everyone needs to be cautious and careful for so many numerous reasons and i probably like most everyone absolutely strongly prefer that pic's in Profiles are real and represent the escort accurately and also provides clients more ways to satisfy safety and certainity concerns, but with that said, I've had a similar experience with two different guys who don't use their real pic's and have maintained long-lasting, on-going good relationships. It's not for everyone to risk that level of certainity, but in theses cases, i know for sure the reason they don't use real face pic's is entirely related to their "privacy" concerns because they view it is a "side-profession" for a few years as they transition into other work.

[Mocha]

Ive done repeats with guys who use fake pics - he said for reasons of discretion. IMO, he was actually more attractive than the pictured guy. It changed my attitude. Before meeting him. I was absolutely skeptical about guys using phony pics - never would have trusted the situation. But I took a low-risk, low-effort chance, and it mitigated my skepticism. I'll see him again.

 

Trust comes in "levels." I trust him to be good company. To provide good service. I trust he'll match my desires for looks, hygiene, safety. Wont scam me. I've provided some no-cost personal assistance to him.

 

Do I have unlimited trust?-no. I'm not inviting him into my life. Not giving him my ATM PIN or the passwords for critical e*accounts. I have no expectations we're getting married, or going to be buds.

 

I found a service I like. I trust that I can repeat the enjoyment. What more do I need to trust?

 

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

 

Whether or not one is religious/spiritual doesn’t matter. It’s the message behind the phrase that matters. Of course, this does not assume the escort the OP mentioned isn’t their actual selves either. Innocent until PROVEN otherwise.

 

[+ harey]

Next you might find out he is lying about his name on his ad too.

You mean your birth certificate name isn't MasterAssDestroyer WTF!!!

You see a parallel between an escort concealing his real name and pretending he’s an entirely different person?

[down_to_business]

You see a parallel between an escort concealing his real name and pretending he’s an entirely different person?

 

I was just trying to interject some humor into the situation while making a point. I think it is incredibly shady to use fake (or even old and outdated) pictures and it is not ok with me. But I also acknowledge that almost everything about the ad can be a lie and that starts with the name. I have seen lies made commonly in age, orientation, ethnicity, weight, body hair, body type, safe sex practices, position, and what they are into just to name a few. I also find it quite interesting about peoples different interpretations of what is an acceptable field in the ad to lie about and what is not. It would be great if everything was accurate and truthful, but how can you say with conviction that someone who lies about their appearance is any more of less honest than someone who lies about their age, health, penis size, or whether or not they smoke?

[TruthBTold]

. . . It would be great if everything was accurate and truthful, but how can you say with conviction that someone who lies about their appearance is any more of less honest than someone who lies about their age, health, penis size, or whether or not they smoke?

 

Unfortunately, they are less honest than someone who tells the truth about those things. The point is to tell the truth.

[+ freecahill1965]

Met with an escort yesterday and it was hot as hell. One of the best encounters I’ve ever had, and I knew I wanted to return for more. Later I looked at the photos of him in his ad, and realized it wasn’t the guy I met with! I kind of have a big issue with this. But then, again, if it was so great, why should I care? Wondering what you guys think.

All I can say is that anytime I saw the person and it was not the person in the pics, the experience was a disaster. Agreed, some were better looking than pictured person. I tell them sorry and send them on their way now.

[Cliff]

Ive done repeats with guys who use fake pics - he said for reasons of discretion. IMO, he was actually more attractive than the pictured guy. It changed my attitude. Before meeting him. I was absolutely skeptical about guys using phony pics - never would have trusted the situation. But I took a low-risk, low-effort chance, and it mitigated my skepticism. I'll see him again.

 

Trust comes in "levels." I trust him to be good company. To provide good service. I trust he'll match my desires for looks, hygiene, safety. Wont scam me. I've provided some no-cost personal assistance to him.

 

Do I have unlimited trust?-no. I'm not inviting him into my life. Not giving him my ATM PIN or the passwords for critical e*accounts. I have no expectations we're getting married, or going to be buds.

 

I found a service I like. I trust that I can repeat the enjoyment. What more do I need to trust?

I agree with LaffingBear 100%. I’m gonna see this escort again. And again.

[Mocha]

I agree with LaffingBear 100%. I’m gonna see this escort again. And again.

 

Well I guess if you see a pic of a Mercedes, but when you arrive it turns out to be an Infiniti...by all means. (Not suggesting either car manufacturer would play such games with people, but...to each is own).

 

[Inkdnaija00]

I just understand why there is a need to lie about your stats at all. That pissed me off before and I have actually turned around and walked away WITHOUT paying the two escorts/masseurs

[MattDaniel]

“Before we meet I need to tell you, the pics aren’t me. They are representative, and my stats are real. I hope you understand. I’m cool meeting you in a lobby or something first if you want.”

 

That’s what should happen. Instead we as clients get put into these awkward positions where we’re expected to know how to graciously respond to someone who is actively gaslighting us... because we’ve already identified them as a liar and so we’re concerned about our safety and privacy and unsure how to respond.