Possible stalker -- Request for advice?

[adventurous old guy]

Hi, have an issue and think I'm not a first.

 

Contacted a service provider when traveling in March. Explained what I was looking for and told him a bit about me -- age, height, weight, the fact that I was very much a top -- in a RM email. He was up for it, so I shifted to text. The one time I was available, he was scheduled to work and I got an up sell - he'd take off a day of work if I would do an overnight. I said no, I wasn't interested in doing an overnight with somebody I'd never met before, plus I had to do my own job starting early the next day. I then got a hard sell -- I should take a chance because I'm exactly his type, he's a great bottom, he gets really into it and would deliver a great time and so on, way over the top. I said no thx, this won't work, thanked him for his interest and ignored a couple more follow up texts about this meeting. A few days later, he texted again proposing that he fly to my home in Chicago for an overnight. I responded thanking him for the offer, reminding him that again we had not met and I didn't want to do an overnight for that reason, and that I never hired when I was at home, it was a rule in my relationship. He then changed his offer to the effect that he would cover hotel costs if I could just do the plane ticket. So clearly this guy is an aggressive non-listener. I reiterated no, not interested, and wished him luck in life. It was firm and curt.

 

So, now I get about 2 texts a week from this guy, asking me how I am. I haven't responded at all with the goal of my silence communicating a hard stop to the back and forth. His texts haven't stopped, I got 2 over the weekend. Wondering what else I should try, or should I just continue the silence? If not silence, should I try a threat? Or should I make another firm reply of not interested, please don't contact me again. I have been almost this direct before, but not made the explicit request to desist in contacting me.

 

Btw, I'm not worried about being outed or any kind of blackmail. However, it has crossed my mind given his persistence that he is a whacko who can easily get my name and where I live and that he may just show up here one day.

 

Would appreciate advice. Thx.

Edited July 2, 2018 by adventurous old guy

[Populist Fury]

He doesn't sound like a stalker, sounds more like he's desperate for business...

 

Block him & move on with your life...

[+ PapaTony]

Why haven’t you simply blocked his number?

[steed8]

"Block him", as Corporate shill suggested. And, take extra care in watching out for your self in terms of physical safety even more than usual going forward for a while. In addition, take care to watch your personal data, accounts, social media, etc. carefully as well.

Do you have the sort of relationship with your partner that you can share with him about what's going on?

I've been on the receiving end of some pretty ugly "stalker" behavior a few times in my life that came from a variety of fronts & type of relationships. As such, I would advise caution that you never leave your guard down.

[marylander1940]

He doesn't sound like a stalker, sounds more like he's desperate for business...

 

Block him & move on with your life...

 

Exactly, he's waaay too proactive for comfort.

 

@adventurous old guy just tell him you don't hire at home in Chicago and next time you're in his town you'll hire him.

[+ Travis69]

I would ignore him. He might be doing this to 50 guys hoping one will cave in and hire him or send him money.

[+ Travis69]

and next time you're in his town you'll hire him.

I perhaps wouldn't do that as he will then pester you with when are you coming back and send weekly emails asking about future plans.

[marylander1940]

I perhaps wouldn't do that as he will then pester you with when are you coming back and send weekly emails asking about future plans.

 

He ain't a stalker.

 

I would ignore him. He might be doing this to 50 guys hoping one will cave in and hire him or send him money.

 

"cave in...". He's being proactive, that's all.

 

For a young guy (assuming the escort is a Millennial) the iPhone is part of his body, he's texting folks out of boredom.

[+ ODIN51]

Block him & move on with your life..

 

As simple as that!

[+ Travis69]

He ain't a stalker.

 

 

 

"cave in...". He's being proactive, that's all.

 

For a young guy (assuming the escort is a Millennial) the iPhone is part of his body, he's texting folks out of boredom.

I didn't say he was a stalker but he is uncomfortably too persistent in his texts and emails. My favorite would send me ONE quick email if was was going to be in town and available. That was proactive. More then two is not proactive but a sign of desperation.

[marylander1940]

Why haven’t you simply blocked his number?

 

As simple as that!

 

Please... considering the shit some folks on here have kept up with a couple of texts a week that's nothing... some of yinz made plans with Ryan Rose 3 times in a row to have him not show up all those 3 times.

 

@adventurous old guy if you think he's worth it just tell him again you don't hire at home and you want to fuck him next time you're in his town. After that stop answering his texts till you're back at his city.

[marylander1940]

I didn't say he was a stalker but he is uncomfortably too persistent in his texts and emails. My favorite would send me ONE quick email if was was going to be in town and available. That was proactive. More then two is not proactive but a sign of desperation.

 

I never said you said he was a stalker, if you look up I was replying to someone else when I said that.

 

No... sending one email or text saying: "hey, I'll be in town during this dates" it's called normal business.

 

Texting about a potential overnight IF he (the escort) goes to @adventurous old guy 's town is being proactive and I'm sure he's doing it to others trying to find an anchor (someone who will hire him for an overnight, multiple hours or pay his airfare) to make a trip worth it. I'm sure he's texting others too.

 

Desperation, that's a different level.

 

Stalking, also that's a another category.

 

I hate how so many words (specially adjectives) have become synonymous now a days.

[+ Travis69]

if you look up I was replying to someone else when I said that

Right under my quote.

[+ Travis69]

No... sending one email or text saying: "hey, I'll be in town during this dates" it's called normal business.

proactive IS normal business.

[marylander1940]

proactive IS normal business.

 

normal business

 

proactive

 

insistent

 

stalker

[Guest MikeThomas]

Block him and move on.

[LaffingBear]

Why haven’t you simply blocked his number?

+1.

@adventurous old guy : Is it possible you're unaware you can block a number? Dont know how? Not available with every carrier?

[sexymonk]

Why haven’t you simply blocked his number?

Sometimes people are in dilemma!

[big-n-tall]

Block the number. If he manages to still contact you from another number... then change your number.

[adventurous old guy]

Thanks all. I know I can block, but here's what I don't know. When I block, how does he know? I assumed he'd take no answers for 3 months as the same as blocking

[+ José Soplanucas]

Thanks all. I know I can block, but here's what I don't know. When I block, how does he know? I assumed he'd take no answers for 3 months as the same as blocking

 

Why do you care? Block him and forget about him.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Have had my own issues with these types and I'm sorry to hear of your trouble.

 

I think other people here gave great advice: Block and ignore.

[+ PapaTony]

Why do you care? Block him and forget about him.

 

+1

[LaffingBear]

+1

+2

 

Blocking eliminates the irritation. Eventually, @adventurous old guy, when you stop being reminded by texts, you'll forget about it

[+ Charlie]

Unfortunately, not everyone who advertises as an "escort" is a mentally/emotionally stable businessman. You have turned down all his offers, but he seems to hear your reasons as an invitation to bargain, not as the definite rejections that you have tried to imply. Do not continue to interact with him in any way, because it just keeps you in his thoughts. Keep a record of his attempts to contact you, however, in case legal action does eventually become necessary.