Hand Holding?

[+ Avalon]

If an escort advertises the boyfriend experience and the time includes going out for a meal etc. would hand holding in public be okay?

[big-n-tall]

If an escort advertises the boyfriend experience and the time includes going out for a meal etc. would hand holding in public be okay?

 

It depends on the escort. Some have no problems with it and some do. You have to talk to the guy to see if he's ok with it and willing to do hand holding or any public displays of affection. It also may be a matter of how comfortable the escort is with the client and vice versa.

 

Two escorts I see have never held my hand in public, but have been very affectionate otherwise. They have hugged me, kissed me, and touched me in some way regularly out in public. Another guy is not very open to pda, but will hug and kiss me deeply almost any time. And yet another, we're very playful in public (not sexually... usually). However, he has said we should go to a gay resort and have sex out in the open. I don't think I'm up for that in this day and age. I mean everybody has a damned cell phone. LOL!!! In any case, I have never requested any type of pda. It seemed to happen naturally over time with my regulars.

[liubit]

Like @big-n-tall says, it depends on the escort, but also on where you are (Chelsea as opposed to an ultra-orthodox Jewish neighborhood LOL).

[MikeBiDude]

And like/dislike of PDA is not limited to escorts...everyone is different about it.

[+ nycman]

Funny, hand holding in public is a million times more “intimate” to me than

all the private fucking and sucking in the world. I think part of it is growing up

in a time and place where the very small act of holding another man’s hand in

public was a very real and large act of defiance.

 

When you openly held a man’s hand in public you were basically saying to the world

....I’m willing to physically fight and die for this love if I have to. And although times

have certainly changed, to this day when I hold your hand in public...in my head.....

it’s us against the world.

 

So no, I wouldn’t hold an escort’s hand in public, unless I had grown very close to them

....it’s far too “intimate”....for me.

[big-n-tall]

And like/dislike of PDA is not limited to escorts...everyone is different about it.

 

Agreed.

[Rudynate]

It depends where you are too. Handholding in the middle of an urban gayborhood and handholding in rural Mississippi are two different things.

[jcmiami1]

Good question but I feel same sex hand holding in public is just too risky these days especially with the rise of hate crimes going on. If it was in a very gay friendly neighborhood I might take the risk.

[+ Hoover42]

Probably not quite as public as you intend, but I sometimes hold hands with dancers at Campus or Stockbar while between lapdances.

 

The more drunk I am, the more likely I am to be holding hands. Sometimes it feels so intimate I could cry.

[+ Avalon]

Interesting that hand holding like kissing can be viewed as more intimate than sex itself.

[Gadfly22]

When you openly held a man’s hand in public you were basically saying to the world

....I’m willing to physically fight and die for this love if I have to.

I kissed my bf goodbye at the airport in 1996 (on the lips) in front of lots of people. Wasn't planned. I was totally in the closet and made him swear from the beginning that there would be no PDA's but it just happened. Nothing bad happened just went right on with my day.

[+ Keith30309]

I’ve held someone’s hand once, in the context of this thread.

 

About 3 years ago I met a guy on RM and it became pretty serious... it evolved into more of an arrangement but we were pretty wrapped around each other emotionally.

 

I took him to Austin with me on a business trip and stayed the weekend. Sunday afternoon we walked down the street together holding hands.

 

It was one of the most terrifying and exhilarating things I’ve ever done, on lots of levels.

What it said about me to myself.

What it said about me and him.

What it said about us to everyone.

 

I still remember how I felt as if it were yesterday.

[+ Pensant]

A young man who I see often in SoCal and I did a little experiment one evening. After a lovely French dinner (he’d never enjoyed French cuisine before), we walked a mile or so past a bunch of bars and restaurants along the Balboa Peninsula beach walk. Not a person even noticed or said anything. It’s a different world now.

 

Some providers like to kiss on departure from an airport or hotel. I used to be nervous about others’ reactions. It took me a while to not worry about it.

[Rudynate]

A young man who I see often in SoCal and I did a little experiment one evening. After a lovely French dinner (he’d never enjoyed French cuisine before), we walked a mile or so past a bunch of bars and restaurants along the Balboa Peninsula beach walk. Not a person even noticed or said anything. It’s a different world now.

 

Some providers like to kiss on departure from an airport or hotel. I used to be nervous about others’ reactions. It took me a while to not worry about it.

 

I think pretty much anywhere along the coast, from San Diego to Seattle, same-sex PDAs are everyday occurrences. Years ago, redneck tourists would venture into the Castro to gawk and sneer in disgust at same-sex couples touching and kissing in public, but you just don't see that any more. I think things have changed for most people, the extremely hateful and/or extremely conservative being excepted.

[+ peterhung85]

If an escort advertises the boyfriend experience and the time includes going out for a meal etc. would hand holding in public be okay?

As others have pointed out before, it highly depends on the escort. Every scenario is different, so does the tolerance in every city, therefore the best advice I can give you is to reach out to the escort of your choice and discuss this in advance, that way there will be no misunderstandings or uncomfortable situations. Hope you enjoy your time!

[+ peterhung85]

...Years ago, redneck tourists would venture into the Castro to gawk and sneer in disgust at same-sex couples touching and kissing in public...

Or simply because they were curious and they camouflaged it with such behavior

[Rudynate]

Or simply because they were curious and they camouflaged it with such behavior

 

Agree. In that case, they are to be commended for having taken that first step.

[+ SundayZip]

And like/dislike of PDA is not limited to escorts...everyone is different about it.

 

So very true. I was once walking with an escort in San Francisco. We were strolling down the sidewalk when he reached out to hold my hand. I politely declined. Even in San Francisco, holding hands in public is a bit too much for me.

[Rudynate]

So very true. I was once walking with an escort in San Francisco. We were strolling down the sidewalk when he reached out to hold my hand. I politely declined. Even in San Francisco, holding hands in public is a bit too much for me.

 

 

It gives me feeling of being joined at the hip that I don't like.