Can A Person Be Too Good Looking?

[+ Avalon]

Regarding a person who is both good looking and an asshole I'm reminded of this story from Ovid about Cyncus and Phyllius

 

http://www.theoi.com/Heros/KyknosThyrios.html

 

I think it interesting that Phyllius had 3 Labors, Theseus had 6 and Hercules performed 12.

 

Actually Hercules was supposed to only accomplish 10 Labors but two were discounted because he had help - killing the Hydra and cleaning the Augean Stables.

Edited June 18, 2018 by Avalon

[+ sniper]

Football. I don't know heritage, but just stunned, just two years older than me .

Football is another sport where the players burn a tremendous amount of calories and then have a hard time adjusting when they stop playing, and on top of that sometimes the chronic injuries make them move even less.

[+ friendofsheila]

And then what happens?

 

Snoooooze!

[Rudynate]

Snoooooze!

 

To you or them?

[Youngmilkman]

http://digitalspyuk.cdnds.net/18/20/768x1154/gallery-1526662967-joe-davidson-plays-cassius-grady-on-neighbours-4.jpg

 

On the Australian soap opera "Neighbours" a new character has been added; Cassius the gardener. The women oggle him. And then go have sex with their husbands.

 

The husbands fired him from his gardening jobs.

Well he does absolutely nothing for me so Joe Davidson's universe has been equalised.

[jcmiami1]

All I can say is don’t date a hot guy or be friends with a hot guy unless you’re on the same level of hotness ...why?...it’s happened to me...guys will use you to get to them :mad:

[Rudynate]

All I can say is don’t date a hot guy or be friends with a hot guy unless you’re on the same level of hotness ...why?...it’s happened to me...guys will use you to get to them :mad:

 

 

That's true, they do sometimes.

[+ friendofsheila]

To you or them?

I snooze because the conversation is about as dull as dirt.

[+ E.T.Bass]

No

[+ Avalon]

All I can say is don’t date a hot guy or be friends with a hot guy unless you’re on the same level of hotness ...why?...it’s happened to me...guys will use you to get to them :mad:

 

I thought of this song. Just change the gender. ;-)))

 

[Rudynate]

I snooze because the conversation is about as dull as dirt.

 

You're looking to be entertained?

[amused1]

I think a person can be too aware of how good looking he/she may be.

 

I once dated a guy who was absolutely stunning. Imagine the statue of David with a solid 8" cock. He never showed any awareness of how attractive he was. That lack of awareness made him even more attractive.

[Wolfer]

I once dated a guy who was absolutely stunning. Imagine the statue of David with a solid 8" cock. He never showed any awareness of how attractive he was. That lack of awareness made him even more attractive.

Ugh, my dream guy! Add in kindness and considerateness and I am a puddle on the floor.

 

I sometimes have a strong longing to be super hot, because I think it'd make my life more fun or something. Or I'd be more accepted. But then a couple of years ago I worked really hard and finally (after years of wanting it) I got a six-pack and the lean built that goes with it. I remember looking in the mirror and just being super disappointed because I had the six-pack but inside I hadn't changed at all. The six pack didn't make me happy...

 

And you know what attracts people? Being happy. Radiating warmth and joy and charisma. Sure, a hot ass and a big dick attract people also, but they'll have other things in mind. Which is also fine, of course, if it's the right time. But when you radiate joy people will also be looking for more than a fleeting connection, which is also nice.

[Rudynate]

Ugh, my dream guy! Add in kindness and considerateness and I am a puddle on the floor.

 

I sometimes have a strong longing to be super hot, because I think it'd make my life more fun or something. Or I'd be more accepted. But then a couple of years ago I worked really hard and finally (after years of wanting it) I got a six-pack and the lean built that goes with it. I remember looking in the mirror and just being super disappointed because I had the six-pack but inside I hadn't changed at all. The six pack didn't make me happy...

 

And you know what attracts people? Being happy. Radiating warmth and joy and charisma. Sure, a hot ass and a big dick attract people also, but they'll have other things in mind. Which is also fine, of course, if it's the right time. But when you radiate joy people will also be looking for more than a fleeting connection, which is also nice.

 

 

I think getting built is (1) evidence of a strong character and (2) helps to further develop a man's character. And I find men with strong characters to be very sexy. But the sexual marketplace doesn't place a premium on character.

[Dave]

many people in the world are attractive. and there's a much smaller percentage of ppl who are, what I'll call, "Model Good Looking" - those who turn heads every time they walk into a restaurant, as an example.

in my experience with MGL ppl - from having had one boyfriend that I'll consider "MGL", and one girlfriend too, to being close with several MGL male and female colleagues in the adult industry, to having some male and female MGL clients, to having a few good and long-term MGL friends - I've learned these things:

 

- they're sometimes quite frustrated with how good looking they are, because there's more than a few people who just won't stop commenting on their looks, instead of moving on to some other aspects, like their personality or intelligence.

- almost all of them have more insecurities, or are lacking in some particular departments of confidence, than the average person. I'm not saying that a fair number of average-looking people don't also suffer from insecurities... just that with the MGLs, this is more likely to be the case.

- although they get a lot of attention in one way, they do not get approached by others as a love interest - or at least, that's what they perceive. their explanation (and I've heard this from more than a few)... they think that people assume they're out of the MGL's league... or that the MGL, being so incredibly good looking, must undoubtedly already be in a relationship.

 

in my own experience, the only times it's odd is when we (me and the MGL) are around others, and that other person is going on ad nauseam about the MGL's looks, and the MGL feels awkward. the conversation gets weird because that other person's focus is based on superficialities (looks, I mean). I think I'm just of average attractiveness, but at times I've even felt a bit of the MGL's level of discomfort.

 

over time, as I've learned all this, I've found the MGL's experience to be a really interesting one.

on another note, I feel quite lucky to have these relationships - love or friendship or client - where confidence like that has been shared with me.

[+ friendofsheila]

You're looking to be entertained?

 

I'm looking to enjoy a man's conversation if I'm going to be intimate with him.

[Rudynate]

I'm looking to enjoy a man's conversation if I'm going to be intimate with him.

 

 

So you don't click with unusually nice looking men. You think it's because they are deficient in some way?

[+ tassojunior]

For me depends how sexual they are. I know several incredible looking models, bodybuilders, and porn stsrs who are boring as hell in bed.

 

I know a few rough-edge Marines who are the most intense sex imaginable even though in photos they look average.

 

Pretty is as pretty does.

[+ sniper]

I recall Candice Bergen on some talk show reminiscing that modeling was "a terrible career for anyone who has a mind." Particularly when you consider that male models don't really make that much, a guy who spends his 20s doing only that is somewhat less likely to be, well, all that smart. That is not to say there aren't very smart models out there, just that they are the exception.

[+ honcho]

I recall Candice Bergen on some talk show reminiscing that modeling was "a terrible career for anyone who has a mind." Particularly when you consider that male models don't really make that much, a guy who spends his 20s doing only that is somewhat less likely to be, well, all that smart. That is not to say there aren't very smart models out there, just that they are the exception.

 

Bring to mind an Italian Ph.D in mathematical physics (who I have a minor obsession about) ... Pietro Boselli

[Rudynate]

many people in the world are attractive. and there's a much smaller percentage of ppl who are, what I'll call, "Model Good Looking" - those who turn heads every time they walk into a restaurant, as an example.

in my experience with MGL ppl - from having had one boyfriend that I'll consider "MGL", and one girlfriend too, to being close with several MGL male and female colleagues in the adult industry, to having some male and female MGL clients, to having a few good and long-term MGL friends - I've learned these things:

 

- they're sometimes quite frustrated with how good looking they are, because there's more than a few people who just won't stop commenting on their looks, instead of moving on to some other aspects, like their personality or intelligence.

- almost all of them have more insecurities, or are lacking in some particular departments of confidence, than the average person. I'm not saying that a fair number of average-looking people don't also suffer from insecurities... just that with the MGLs, this is more likely to be the case.

- although they get a lot of attention in one way, they do not get approached by others as a love interest - or at least, that's what they perceive. their explanation (and I've heard this from more than a few)... they think that people assume they're out of the MGL's league... or that the MGL, being so incredibly good looking, must undoubtedly already be in a relationship.

 

in my own experience, the only times it's odd is when we (me and the MGL) are around others, and that other person is going on ad nauseam about the MGL's looks, and the MGL feels awkward. the conversation gets weird because that other person's focus is based on superficialities (looks, I mean). I think I'm just of average attractiveness, but at times I've even felt a bit of the MGL's level of discomfort.

 

over time, as I've learned all this, I've found the MGL's experience to be a really interesting one.

on another note, I feel quite lucky to have these relationships - love or friendship or client - where confidence like that has been shared with me.

 

 

In what context do these conversations occur that a third person's comments about a companion's looks embarrass you? I'm trying to imagine having lunch with two other people where one can't stop commenting on the others looks. Of course, maybe I run with the wrong crowd, I'm not sure I know any MGLs.

[+ sniper]

Bring to mind an Italian Ph.D in mathematical physics (who I have a minor obsession about) ... Pietro Boselli

Yes, and he's not modeling full time, or if he is now he's striking while the iron is hot and then going back to academics. But he's not a representative sample of models by any stretch.

[Dave]

In what context do these conversations occur that a third person's comments about a companion's looks embarrass you? I'm trying to imagine having lunch with two other people where one can't stop commenting on the others looks. Of course, maybe I run with the wrong crowd, I'm not sure I know any MGLs.

 

well, I'm not saying they embarrass me - I might get embarrassed about my own actions sometimes, but not those of others. the discomfort I'm writing about is a sort of empathy; I know that they are uncomfortable and I start to feel it too. I've been in a variety of situations with that, but - perhaps no surprise - the most frequent is when the escort and I share a client. and no, it's not a personal thing where I'm feeling ignored, heh heh. I think in some escort situations, clients feel they can say things that in other situations would be inappropriate - and that's probably how it starts.

 

hey, it'd be great if anyone who considers themselves MGL would chime in on this discussion... I feel like I'm talking about a group of people without their input, and we all know the perspective of the person / group / type discussed is the most valuable voice in the discussion...