shawshini

Because the dozen or so posts above, two within the last month saying he's ripped etc., aren't enough?
Kevin Slater

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

Yes on the politeness. Before asking for an ETA, ask if everything is ok and if they're still coming.
If they do end up ghosting you, just post a warning here.

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

Its frustrating for sure not to hear from an expected provider when late,  but I woundn't be doing any "fuck you"  thoughts or actions  until I absolutely knew for certain something terrible had not happened to him where he wasn't in a position to contact you.  In the case of an accident of some type, I doubt the paramedics would find your name or number  among his emergency contacts!    While perhaps unlikely,  unexpected things can and do happen. 

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

Or not, in this case. 🤣

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

Update!  He had a totally understandable delay and all worked out, I ended up having a great time.  Some things are worth the wait.  Thanks for all of your feedback, I am truly grateful for this forum!

@jtmick   I know you didn't hear from him after an inquiry, but did he ever get back........later?

If he's stuck in a subway, he might not have cell service.
Kevin Slater

Yeah I reached out and heard nothing. Guessing it’s a no go at this point. Just surprised because he’s been super responsive thus far. 

When a guy hasn't arrived at the agreed-upon time and hasn't let me know he is running late, I usually text between 5 and 10 minutes after time and ask for his ETA. If no response, I'll reach out again at the 15-minute mark and ask if we are still on. Usually, I will have received a response. Although I might think it, I don't send texts like "If you don't reply in the next five minutes don't bother," mainly because something extraordinary could have occurred and I'd feel bad for being an ass. 

When @MikeBiDudegives his seal of approval, the candidate moves to my personal to-do list!

Well after keeping in communication thr last few weeks, Our scheduled meshed in L.A. and we met. He’s the real deal, recommended. He’s in SoCal this week.

Wow.  You asked a question, someone provided a thoughtful answer, and you show total disregard for his perspective and shoot him down.  So why did you form it as a question when you're clearly not interested in any answer that disagrees with your take?
Kevin Slater

You’re a lucky man. Huge fan of Ace, he just does it for me!

Yes to all of this please!

I took my # off RM a couple years ago and its been great. I've never been keen on same-day appointments so keeping my number off RM saves both parties a lot of time and wasted effort.
My auto-reply asks what they are interested & where/when/how long - followed by my preferred rates. If they are not willing to engage further than that and their profile tells me nothing about them, my response isn't as necessary. And since they have to message me, establishing a conversation with their profile means helps keep me organized because I can eventually save their phone # w/ their RM profile URL - and if they are a flake or ill behaved I have a URL to reference when warning my colleagues.

I’ve written something like “Hey, I’ve seen your ad on RM, do you ever meet fans?”  It’s vague but they should know what you’re talking about.  One guy didn’t have a number on Rentmen but messaged me his phone number back and we took it to text.

I’ve written something like “Hey, I’ve seen your ad on RM, do you ever meet fans?”  It’s vague but they should know what you’re talking about.  One guy didn’t have a number on Rentmen but messaged me his phone number back and we took it to text.

I’ve written something like “Hey, I’ve seen your ad on RM, do you ever meet fans?”  It’s vague but they should know what you’re talking about.  One guy didn’t have a number on Rentmen but messaged me his phone number back and we took it to text.

I’ve written something like “Hey, I’ve seen your ad on RM, do you ever meet fans?”  It’s vague but they should know what you’re talking about.  One guy didn’t have a number on Rentmen but messaged me his phone number back and we took it to text.