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He’s in Atlanta and married now so I scheduled him for my drive down to my Winter home in Florida. I had the appointment scheduled for weeks. He asked if we could reschedule for 2 hours later and I said it was fine. Then he called and asked if I could do the next day. I could not. He said ok. Then texted and asked if I could do 10:30 PM. I agreed. He texted again and asked if there was any way I could meet tomorrow. I said no - I had an appointment I could not reschedule. He agreed to 10:30. Then at 10:00 he asked if he could bring his bodybuilder meal with him, I said that was fine. He arrived at 10:40. We talked while he was shoveling his food in his mouth chewing and talking with his mouth full. At 11:00 ish we moved to the bed. He does have a huge beautiful body but it was clear it was all about him. I gave oral and he came (3 drops) and then at 11:30 he looked at his phone and said great, right on time. By then I was too tired to complain and just wanted him gone so I could go to bed. I think it was the worst experience I had had. If you want muscle worship I think he would be your guy. Beyond that, don’t bother. It’s clearly all about him.

Sometimes I just leave them on so my feet don’t get cold!?. Just depends on the moment!

If you invited him I'm sure he'll want you to pay for dinner, not sure about hourly rate, ask him. If he asked you then I would refuse to pay.

I have scheduled an appointment with an escort. I’m a Realtor and in our text exchange, I told him that was my career. He said he would like to discuss real estate when we meet. If I invite him to have dinner after our session to discuss his questions, am I expecting to pay his hourly rate while we are having dinner?

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I’ve had smart, young providers ask questions during a session, because they are building their own business. Those meetings are usually more satisfying for me due to the conversation. I consider the talk part of the escort’s paid time, even though I’m providing useful advice.
If a client asks for whatever reason to extend the appointment to include dinner out, I think it’s good manners to cover the escort’s time.

I have scheduled an appointment with an escort. I’m a Realtor and in our text exchange, I told him that was my career. He said he would like to discuss real estate when we meet. If I invite him to have dinner after our session to discuss his questions, am I expecting to pay his hourly rate while we are having dinner?

Sometimes I just leave them on so my feet don’t get cold!?. Just depends on the moment!

Yes. If you invite him to dinner without making it clear to the escort beforehand that it is off the clock, you are definitely expected to pay his hourly rate.
 
If he asks you out to dinner after to discuss real estate, then no, you should not be expected to pay his hourly rate.
 
As others have suggested, definitely clarify before doing it so no one is left unprepared.

I’m a Realtor. I experience the same thing with clients who at the last minute cancel an appointment. I normally spend 1-2 hours preparing for that appointment and many times they will say, we decided to go with another agent. I say this because it’s just part of being self employed. I don’t explain any of that to the potential client because I may get them back at some point. They really don’t understand the work I do to get prepared for a professional presentation. I mentor lots of new agents and my advice is the same, as a self employed person, you need a minimum of 6 months reserved for times like these. I track my numbers and I know that I have to have 30-40% more appointments because I know some are going to fall apart. Track numbers and you will be able to see that on average, I book this number of clients over time. That way there isn’t as much emotion in it because you will know that the law of averages will work in the long run. You can’t control people (believe me, I’ve tried) you can only control your activities. When someone looks at your profile, do you send a quick note? I have really appreciated that when an escort sends a note and have booked them. Treat it like a business and have a schedule with activities you do every day!! Hope that helps!!

No.
He pays you your hourly consulting rate.

My dentist knows that my professional career was in the investment business. Some time ago I was in his chair for a teeth cleaning when he started to ask me questions about equities.
 
I asked him if this cleaning was going to be free. That stopped the questions.
 
Why invite the provider to dinner to discuss real estate? If he wants your time, shouldn't he be the one doing the asking? (and the paying?) Value your time as he does his.

The “encounter” time period for adult activities should have a definite appointed beginning and end. The time spent at dinner, movies, advice, therapy, etc. that occurs before and/or after the encounter should be considered as neutral no-charge by both parties. At least this is what my brother, an attorney, told me. And he also said that his opinion, because of the holiday, would be free this time.

Just be upfront and honest.
 
“I would love to take you to dinner and discuss this....off...the...clock.”
 
Then the ball is in his court to either accept or decline.
 
No hard feelings either way....it’s a business decision for each of you.

I would definitely consider a dinner with general discussion about careers and interests to be on the clock and pay for the escort's time. If he just is asking some general questions then that is fine. If he is a local consider it a business opportunity. Perhaps he is a potential client for you if he's looking to buy property. Of course if it gets to that point, then future dinners/conversations are really now between a realtor and his client and therefore there would be no expectation of any kind of payment for time.

Perhaps you are reading more into this than is the case. I always try to learn about clients' interests to have things to talk about. Perhaps he is not asking for personal real estate advice, but merely as a topic for conversaiton. But as others have suggested, if the converation gets deep enough to be something that you would charge for, then you should be upfront about that fact. Perhaps if your rates are similar to his, you might consider doing a trade of services for services. This is certianly not unheard of.

Sometimes I just leave them on so my feet don’t get cold!?. Just depends on the moment!

I think if you invite him to dinner, the answer is yes, unless he demurs.

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I have been on an amazing plan for over a year! Lost 37 pounds and no longer on any meds. My husband lost 70 pounds. Happy to share info if your interested. We love it!!

I have been on an amazing plan for over a year! Lost 37 pounds and no longer on any meds. My husband lost 70 pounds. Happy to share info if your interested. We love it!!