jtwalker

Based on this one thing alone, I would never hire you even once (forget about recurring). Flip the script and think about this from a client perspective.
 
- There are multiple people I can hire
- Most don't require a deposit of any kind
- If I pay anything up front, there is a good chance that I'll be ghosted (happens all the time)
 
Based on this information, I'm clearly going to pick someone who does not require a deposit. Unless you live in some weird market where everyone requires a deposit (virtually nobody requires a deposit here), you have put up a boundary that will restrict your business and cash flow. In business, I sometimes have no choice but to match the norms established by my competition. You, my friend are not in the wedding business, you are in the escort business, so you have to match the norms of that business.
 
Even if 80% of people are OK with a deposit (I doubt this very much), this automatically means you reduce your business by 20%. Escorting is special, but it is still just a business at the end of the day and the old laws regarding customer service still apply.
 
Last thing for you to ponder... If others in your area are scoring regulars and you are not, then you are doing something different that is preventing you from gaining the repeat business. If you have contact with any former clients, I'd frankly just ask for the feedback. The fact that others have regulars dictates that it is possible with the existing client base. If you really want some regulars, you'll have to make some changes to meet or beat the competition.

And for what it's worth, I agree with jtwalker -- I will never hire someone who displays so little trust in me that he requires money up front. Invest time in an upfront conversation, my friend, and then if he sounds honest and true, you have to trust. I'm sure it's not unusual in this arena to have cancellations, but if you make me feel like you don't trust me up front, I'm for sure going to find someone else.

Based on this one thing alone, I would never hire you even once (forget about recurring). Flip the script and think about this from a client perspective.
 
- There are multiple people I can hire
- Most don't require a deposit of any kind
- If I pay anything up front, there is a good chance that I'll be ghosted (happens all the time)
 
Based on this information, I'm clearly going to pick someone who does not require a deposit. Unless you live in some weird market where everyone requires a deposit (virtually nobody requires a deposit here), you have put up a boundary that will restrict your business and cash flow. In business, I sometimes have no choice but to match the norms established by my competition. You, my friend are not in the wedding business, you are in the escort business, so you have to match the norms of that business.
 
Even if 80% of people are OK with a deposit (I doubt this very much), this automatically means you reduce your business by 20%. Escorting is special, but it is still just a business at the end of the day and the old laws regarding customer service still apply.
 
Last thing for you to ponder... If others in your area are scoring regulars and you are not, then you are doing something different that is preventing you from gaining the repeat business. If you have contact with any former clients, I'd frankly just ask for the feedback. The fact that others have regulars dictates that it is possible with the existing client base. If you really want some regulars, you'll have to make some changes to meet or beat the competition.

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

Based on this one thing alone, I would never hire you even once (forget about recurring). Flip the script and think about this from a client perspective.
 
- There are multiple people I can hire
- Most don't require a deposit of any kind
- If I pay anything up front, there is a good chance that I'll be ghosted (happens all the time)
 
Based on this information, I'm clearly going to pick someone who does not require a deposit. Unless you live in some weird market where everyone requires a deposit (virtually nobody requires a deposit here), you have put up a boundary that will restrict your business and cash flow. In business, I sometimes have no choice but to match the norms established by my competition. You, my friend are not in the wedding business, you are in the escort business, so you have to match the norms of that business.
 
Even if 80% of people are OK with a deposit (I doubt this very much), this automatically means you reduce your business by 20%. Escorting is special, but it is still just a business at the end of the day and the old laws regarding customer service still apply.
 
Last thing for you to ponder... If others in your area are scoring regulars and you are not, then you are doing something different that is preventing you from gaining the repeat business. If you have contact with any former clients, I'd frankly just ask for the feedback. The fact that others have regulars dictates that it is possible with the existing client base. If you really want some regulars, you'll have to make some changes to meet or beat the competition.

I would never knowingly hire anyone that felt it was OK to share their client's info on the internet. No, anonymity is not earned, it is expected and frankly demanded in my case.

I would never knowingly hire anyone that felt it was OK to share their client's info on the internet. No, anonymity is not earned, it is expected and frankly demanded in my case.

I know what it means, but when pnp is part of “into” list, or if the ad says “party friendly”, how does one know whether or not he MUST have some in order to participate, or if he won’t already be tweaking when I arrive? Looking to avoid, and some hot guys refer in one or both of those ways.
My instinct says move on with any mention, but there I imagine there are occasional users who will not if client is not.
From your experience, would you just ask? and are the guys truthful when answering? (Meaning you asked them not to be on it or bring it, and they complied.)
Or should I go with my gut and move on?

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

The one time I really became regular, the escort made me feel like a friend.
 
- He was excited to see me.
- He never rushed anything.
- If he kept time, I have no idea how. I always left of my own free will.
- There was never a hard stop after a climax; instead, he usually insisted I lay back down and hang out.
- A few times, when he didn't have other plans before or after, he wanted to hang out and grab a meal without ever asking me to pay for extra time. I sometimes did anyway and always bought his meal.
 
I'm convinced that he not only referred to his clients as friends, but that is how he actually saw them. In his profile, he said his job was to make you forget it was a business transaction, and nobody does a better job.
 
Gaining regulars requires a lot of work... at least in my case, and most guys simply can't or won't make the investment. Even in my business, which has nothing to do with this, the best regular clients are the ones who see and trust you as a friend.

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

I didn't say I had the answers to your problems, I encouraged you to look within to find the source of your problems. And I freely admit that I was speculating. I submit, though, that it was informed speculation, based on your ongoing complaints about your clientele. The fact that you reacted angrily, rather than reading carefully, is just more evidence that you are the source of your own problems.

That's amazing! All of these have happened to me at least once.

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

The one time I really became regular, the escort made me feel like a friend.
 
- He was excited to see me.
- He never rushed anything.
- If he kept time, I have no idea how. I always left of my own free will.
- There was never a hard stop after a climax; instead, he usually insisted I lay back down and hang out.
- A few times, when he didn't have other plans before or after, he wanted to hang out and grab a meal without ever asking me to pay for extra time. I sometimes did anyway and always bought his meal.
 
I'm convinced that he not only referred to his clients as friends, but that is how he actually saw them. In his profile, he said his job was to make you forget it was a business transaction, and nobody does a better job.
 
Gaining regulars requires a lot of work... at least in my case, and most guys simply can't or won't make the investment. Even in my business, which has nothing to do with this, the best regular clients are the ones who see and trust you as a friend.

1) Fill your cup first, by taking care of your health and wealth, and give from the saucer never the cup.
2) Be honest about who you are no matter what and don't worry about who you'll offend or lose. You'll gain just as many or more.
3) Get healthy and stay healthy.

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

The one time I really became regular, the escort made me feel like a friend.
 
- He was excited to see me.
- He never rushed anything.
- If he kept time, I have no idea how. I always left of my own free will.
- There was never a hard stop after a climax; instead, he usually insisted I lay back down and hang out.
- A few times, when he didn't have other plans before or after, he wanted to hang out and grab a meal without ever asking me to pay for extra time. I sometimes did anyway and always bought his meal.
 
I'm convinced that he not only referred to his clients as friends, but that is how he actually saw them. In his profile, he said his job was to make you forget it was a business transaction, and nobody does a better job.
 
Gaining regulars requires a lot of work... at least in my case, and most guys simply can't or won't make the investment. Even in my business, which has nothing to do with this, the best regular clients are the ones who see and trust you as a friend.

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

I found myself getting way too attached to an escort and resolved to never see him twice in a row. Always had to see someone else before I saw him again.

Second side of the coin, top 10 reasons I won't repeat:
 
10) A one hour massage lasts 40 minutes at best.
9) Whenever any escort announces I have 5 minutes left or a timer goes off.
8) A stone wall forms around the escort after climax.
7) They won't do the things they list as likes in their profile.
6) They are 10 years older than their pictures.
5) When I show up, they don't remember a single thing we discussed ahead of time.
4) Escorts that request up-front payment.
3) Escorts that show up stoned.
2) Their room, or their person is filthy.
1) The escort cannot even sort of pretend to be glad you are there.

Honestly, if I start liking an escort too much, it's time to move on. Nothing good can come from that.

Honestly, if I start liking an escort too much, it's time to move on. Nothing good can come from that.

The one time I really became regular, the escort made me feel like a friend.
 
- He was excited to see me.
- He never rushed anything.
- If he kept time, I have no idea how. I always left of my own free will.
- There was never a hard stop after a climax; instead, he usually insisted I lay back down and hang out.
- A few times, when he didn't have other plans before or after, he wanted to hang out and grab a meal without ever asking me to pay for extra time. I sometimes did anyway and always bought his meal.
 
I'm convinced that he not only referred to his clients as friends, but that is how he actually saw them. In his profile, he said his job was to make you forget it was a business transaction, and nobody does a better job.
 
Gaining regulars requires a lot of work... at least in my case, and most guys simply can't or won't make the investment. Even in my business, which has nothing to do with this, the best regular clients are the ones who see and trust you as a friend.

To be gentler, focus on what you can control, yourself, and not on the clients, whom you cannot control.
 
Me, as a client I try to treat the escort as a potential friend and hope he will do the same. If you have a good time with a guy, let him know and even offer something extra--a bit more time, another kiss, share something personal about yourself. Send a thank you note the following day. Clients are not cash machines and even the most cynical want to feel loved for a few minutes.