KensingtonHomo

A provider asking for a deposit to hold a time slot is not the same as asking for a huge sum of money upfront. Were you paying for his company that weekend?

The French are not historically discriminated against in the West, nor are white Argentinians. Don't act brand new.

I'm a bottom, and without disrespect, I wouldn't even linger on your profile. I look for tops or tops/vers. If a provider even has a lot of ass shots or hole pics, it puts him lower on my list. This has nothing to do with masculinity versus femininity. I like tops of all kinds, but I want to know what I'm getting if I'm hiring.

I don't know if I'd go so far as to say it's racist, but it's insensitive to the history of Chinese people being accused of organized crime. I don't know the race or ethnicity of people commenting, but if others point out that it is insensitive, maybe think about it.

I get asked for deposits from some providers. If they seem legit, I’ll do a nominal one. I haven’t been burned yet, and I’ve never been asked for one after the initial meeting. I understand a request for one initially but once you’ve proven you’re not a flake, I don’t see the need for them.

Adam, As a client, this is my biggest frustration at being on here. I'm a feminine f@g, who has dealt with this femme hatred my whole life. I try to see these guys as being sad. They're so invested in a toxic form of masculinity that prevents them from enjoying variety ("I only fuck masculine muscle bottoms") and probably their own bodies. But I'm sure you see as a provider, and I see as a client, and in my life, the joke is on them because I have never wanted for lovers. And I'm happily married to a *gasp* masculine, baritone-voiced gorgeous man I've been with for over two decades. That they need to bash and disparage providers they deem unattractive says more about them then they want to admit.

Some of you are doing a lot of work! I’m very regular - in part thanks to Metamucil - so if I’m having sex in the afternoon or evening, a couple of passes with a bulb does me fine. I’ve only had an issue once when I didn’t prep and the guy was really big.

True, but if you book an appointment and then your flight is delayed or canceled, you could run into trouble.

Why do they bother you? I had the same earrings when I was younger.

And he says "don't forget to order my Uber." LOL

I can understand crashing after a long trip. But once the client couldn't do the later time, the provider should have returned the deposit. The deposit is the client locking in that time. If the client can't make it, the deposit is forfeited. If the provider can't, it should be returned.

There's an entire subculture of bears and their admirers, so not all gay men are obsessed with skinny or muscular guys.

For me, it depends on the provider and the situation. It can be really hot, or it can be awkward.

There’s a few members who find their own masculinity to be incredibly tenuous so they bash feminine men, trans folks, etc., to prove they’re “MEN.” It’s really quite sad.

“This thing?” He’s a person. Using nasty dehumanizing language about w provider says a great deal more about you then them. 🙄🙄🙄

Your ignorance of science and transness doesn't mean you know the "truth."

You jumped the shark here. Matt Walsh would have you and every other "I only like straight acting men/its biology/trans people need their own movements" homosexuals in a gas chamber. You're all basically "bridge and tunnel gays" who never expended any effort to secure our rights, never raised awareness, and are likely still closeted to some degree. And without people who are femme, gender-bending, kinky, "stereotypical," etc., you'd have absolutely zero queer rights. So stop your nonsense.

Trust me. No one is missing your self-hating ass at Pride, "studchaser." 🤣

I'm feminine and have never wanted for lovers, and I'm married to a "straight-acting" man. Bottoming is a feminine act no matter who is doing it. And what is considered masculine today is different from 50 years ago, let alone 500 years ago. Etc. Etc. You feel the need to endlessly share your shitty and antiquated opinions on subjects for which you have little to no knowledge. Maybe spend more time reading about history and less time judging people on the Internet.

JFC, you're a transphobe on top of all your other awful qualities. I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

I'm in a similar age group. I haven't experienced this. So maybe it's people who want more engagement before unlocking as @BuffaloKyle suggested.

oh really? I hadn't noticed that at all. Thanks for the catch.

This is a rationalization. To the extent there is a "human nature" it is one of cooperation and community, which has allowed us to be the most powerful species on the planet. Your sense of history is truncated. Before agriculture, most humans lived in bands of hunter-gatherers, where cooperation was the primary factor in their survival. It's only once you get a surplus that SOME people take advantage of it to exploit others. And we also have a concurrent history of people resisting that exploitation. To this day, some tribes live this way without hierarchy or oppression.

So you're not upset that I'm scolding you. You're upset that you never lived your fantasy of being a rent boy because you'd have nicer stuff? Yes, 95 percent of people are exploited to some extent under capitalism. But we're not talking about people who have chosen to be escorts. This thread is about people who are in a vulnerable position being exploited. It's predatory and immoral.

Honestly, there's a lot o really predatory behavior in this thread. None of this is due to human nature but the gross version of neoliberal capitalism we live under. People with greater financial means pressuring poor people into performing any kind of labor is exploitation. This is the kind of behavior that LibsofTikTok and other anti-gay forces use to make us look bad. Why are you helping them? JFC