Yeah his profile is a red flag for me. That all nice and sweet to want to "make a connection" and to be "more than someone's hole" but the reality is that he's performing a service. He comes across as needy to me. While a provider is indeed a human being (of course!) and more than just a hole, they are performing a job and it requires a level of acting on the their end. They don't need to be into their client or have a deep connection by going on a date first. Yes, spend some time talking (10-15 min maybe?), set the mood. Maybe have some fun with extended foreplay. That said, I'm glad he is clear with his expectations for those clients willing to jump through those hoops. It's unfortunate that the end results don't sound very appealing in his case...