The_Impeccable_G

The only reason I opened this thread is that I couldn't open the review site. Not to fuel a discussion about the rules of the site.

The only reason I opened this thread is that I couldn't open the review site. Not to fuel a discussion about the rules of the site.

The only reason I opened this thread is that I couldn't open the review site. Not to fuel a discussion about the rules of the site.

Seems like an easy yes/no question. So....No.

Although Daddy is gone. From my perspective his rules continue to the apply as it's still his site. As @sync outlines I expect Cooper will keep us apprised if he is informed of its future.

I would say that the reasons why reviews were not permitted here still pertain, the more so since FOSTA/SESTA. Changing the reviews rule here can no longer affect Daddy, but such a change could place the admins in jeopardy and risk government closure of the forum. And, as AZDR noted comments here would be largely unmoderated, which could increase the risks to the site.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

I have a relationship of sorts that started as a hire. I hired him and we clicked the first meeting. I hired him many times, over a couple years. We became pretty good friends and I talked with him often over those years. We lived in different cities a few hundred miles apart, so more phone conversations than direct meetings. During one of our sessions, he mentioned that his current BF was being pretty difficult and they were headed to a break up. It was going to be difficult for him because he had no where to go. Of course I offered him a place to stay if he was willing to live by my rules. I would cover house expenses, but he would have to work and cover all his personal expenses including car, food, etc. We would have to work out anything sexual as we went along. He took me up on the offer. That was in 2002. He’s still here. I consider him my closest friend today.
 
We have never engaged in sex since he moved in. He has had several BFs over those years ( none stuck) and I continued to engage in this hobby with others.
 
He watches out for me. For example, this year hitting up all his medical field friends trying to get me vaccinated. I am fully vaccinated today.
 
He worked in a financial services office when he got settled here. Eight years ago he founded his own practice. This year he merged his practice with another gay office. In short, a very successful transition from one service to another over about 19 years.
 
Perhaps not exactly what you were asking about, not a significant other in the sense you used. But a real situation that started out as a hire and is significant for me and for him.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

My condolences to the people that knew him. It is good he did not suffer long.

I did not care what they said, but the tone and vitriol was disturbing and bothersome and as the question asks, disheartening. . The words themselves were rude and in the first case, would have been incomprehensible for me to imagine anyone saying. it is bothersome because as we go about our lives, we are faced with people who are so desperate and so thoughtless as to say these things. That one would not be disheartened by these statements suggests that perhaps we have become inured to the outrageousness of these kind of indignities. I have heard worse and had worse directed at me, shrugging it off to an acceptance that this is just the world we live in is a sad commentary on how far we have fallen.

Start slowly. No overnights. I rarely hire escorts. I prefer the less transactional amateurish SA and Instagram guys.

As I mentioned a few pages back, I really enjoy seeking and this type of relationships. In my experience, despite the large numbers of escorts in seeking, most of the guys there are not escorts and do not seek hourly compensation. They are after a true relationship with the ambiguity and fluidity that all relationships have. Some have a clear view of how they want it to shape and how to monetise it, others don't. Some will be insulted and ghost you if you mention money. I remember a first meet with a very nice guy. After dinner I offered him taxi money and he refused. So my advice is don't confuse seeking with rentmen, they are different animals. Start slowly, take him for a drink. Do what you would do with a date, not an escort. And see what happens.

As I mentioned a few pages back, I really enjoy seeking and this type of relationships. In my experience, despite the large numbers of escorts in seeking, most of the guys there are not escorts and do not seek hourly compensation. They are after a true relationship with the ambiguity and fluidity that all relationships have. Some have a clear view of how they want it to shape and how to monetise it, others don't. Some will be insulted and ghost you if you mention money. I remember a first meet with a very nice guy. After dinner I offered him taxi money and he refused. So my advice is don't confuse seeking with rentmen, they are different animals. Start slowly, take him for a drink. Do what you would do with a date, not an escort. And see what happens.

I am sure that would be a great story to tell over a drink ? Can you share key points?

I am sure that would be a great story to tell over a drink ? Can you share key points?

As I mentioned a few pages back, I really enjoy seeking and this type of relationships. In my experience, despite the large numbers of escorts in seeking, most of the guys there are not escorts and do not seek hourly compensation. They are after a true relationship with the ambiguity and fluidity that all relationships have. Some have a clear view of how they want it to shape and how to monetise it, others don't. Some will be insulted and ghost you if you mention money. I remember a first meet with a very nice guy. After dinner I offered him taxi money and he refused. So my advice is don't confuse seeking with rentmen, they are different animals. Start slowly, take him for a drink. Do what you would do with a date, not an escort. And see what happens.

As I mentioned a few pages back, I really enjoy seeking and this type of relationships. In my experience, despite the large numbers of escorts in seeking, most of the guys there are not escorts and do not seek hourly compensation. They are after a true relationship with the ambiguity and fluidity that all relationships have. Some have a clear view of how they want it to shape and how to monetise it, others don't. Some will be insulted and ghost you if you mention money. I remember a first meet with a very nice guy. After dinner I offered him taxi money and he refused. So my advice is don't confuse seeking with rentmen, they are different animals. Start slowly, take him for a drink. Do what you would do with a date, not an escort. And see what happens.

@cany10011 I could not disagree more! The guys I met from SA were amateurs (not pros) and interested in finding some financial support. Some of the guys like spending time with older men. It helps if you’re a good listener and prepared to be generous.
 

 
I feel that’s perfectly reasonable @fedssocr1 For my part, I would move things along to a dinner date quickly if I was interested in a guy. Often there was mutual interest and he stayed for breakfast.
 

 
Excellent advice @The_Impeccable_G I feel Seeking is great but you have to be patient and enjoyed the ‘dating game’. I certainly had some great times with guys I met from Seeking, but I also had some frustrating times. I even had one bad dinner-date that was so bad that I refer to it as the gold standard of bad dates. Even now, it makes me chuckle to remember how, as we parted, he asked me when we were going to meet next.

As I mentioned a few pages back, I really enjoy seeking and this type of relationships. In my experience, despite the large numbers of escorts in seeking, most of the guys there are not escorts and do not seek hourly compensation. They are after a true relationship with the ambiguity and fluidity that all relationships have. Some have a clear view of how they want it to shape and how to monetise it, others don't. Some will be insulted and ghost you if you mention money. I remember a first meet with a very nice guy. After dinner I offered him taxi money and he refused. So my advice is don't confuse seeking with rentmen, they are different animals. Start slowly, take him for a drink. Do what you would do with a date, not an escort. And see what happens.