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The good news- I noticed that my current Rentmen membership fee is still $9.95 for the month. The bad news- I noticed just now that I am no longer able to view videos. To see the videos I’ve saved I now need to upgrade to a $19.95 plan. This is as good of a reason as any to cancel the membership and just stay free

IMHO the anticipation of much better sex trumps paying for a mediocre experience. It’s also cheaper. I have a similar situation with a local provider who is becoming less and less adventurous and the sessions have become pretty bland. I’m letting him “time out “ and saving the money for a future, more interesting adventure

Easier to navigate. Progress is a good thing

You would get inundated with providers who just want money and have no interest in really taking care of your needs

I started limiting myself to one encounter every week, then one every 2 weeks etc. I’m up to one a month. I’ve shifted my joy to the anticipation of the event rather than the event itself. That works for me but YMMV.

It really helps to practice with an incremental selection of increasing size dildos. Something that is 1.5-1.75 in diameter is a good average. Realistically that covers the vast majority of guys. I’ve personally stopped taking guys over 2in as the view isn’t worth the climb

I had a similar experience on A4A. He wanted $3000 in bitcoin. I kept stalling him out despite his continual deadlines and threats. Eventually one of his rapid action deadlines came and went and nothing happened

Watching someone else come is extremely hot

I’ve noticed that the new app makes it very difficult to bookmark videos

I had seen Jay a few times when I was living in Boston just before the pandemic. Nice enough guy but definitely an acquired taste. He is very "weedy" for sure. He had been recovering from being hit by a car while biking and hadn't been working out as much so I do wonder what he looks like now. I think of him as more of an "experience" rather than a typical masseur or escort. If you are looking for a conventional masseur experience with him you are bound to be dissapointed since he does not have a table and uses a bed in his spare room and as massages go, it's underwhelming. If you are looking to be topped, yes his dick is quite large be he is not the most imaginative top so the experience is a bit mechanical. Still there is something rather quirky, awkward and fun about seeing him that is hard to quantify and when I leave, I feel happy. I find him very complimentary and he just makes me feel good emotionally.

The last time we moved with Gentle Giant in Boston. The guys were very “hunky.”

Realize that a 4 handed massage is as much "performance art" as it is "massage" and if you are in the mood for that, it may be worth the added cost. I once had a pair of massage guys screw each other during the massage so it was just as much interactive porn as it was massage. Another time, I had a pair of guys do something I'd never experienced- one was jerking me off while the other was beating a small hand drum- the beats got faster and faster in time as I came closer to climax. It was highly erotic and VERY pleasurable. If your "team" is able to add some new twist to things, it can be great. Unfortunately most of the time, the 4 handed ones as not as imaginative.

Natural vibrant red hair sometimes does it for me too. Especially if the guy is noticeably hairy with a bushy beard

I've had a few of these in the past. In general there are two different styles. Style one is where the two providers work on either side in unison. As long as the providers are equally proficient, this can feel really good but if one is weaker than the other, it is a bit of a bummer. The other style which I prefer is where one partner takes care of the lower half and the other takes care of the upper half. They may even switch from time to time. This gives you the opportunity to blow the provider while still getting massaged. If one person is less capable in massage, you won't notice it. In general, unless they will be having a "3-way" with you at the end, a single masseur is a better use of your fuck dollar if you just want to have a decent massage.

Personally not a fan of righty whiteys. They get dingy too fast unless you bother with bleach….and I think colors and shapes give a flavor of someone’s personality.

The corollary to this….the nicest thing you can do for your partner is to stay healthy.

Certain types of clothing are triggers for me- like a nice white Oxford shirt with sleeves rolled up to reveal nice hairy forearms

The only time I ever got mugged was walking home one night to Harnwell House…some guy told me he had a bomb and was gonna blow me up. I just kept walking. To this day I always wonder if that was Ted Africa. Other than that I have occasional fond memories of my undergrad years at Penn

People have an amazing capacity to change and evolve. Since your relationship is merely transactional I suspect it’s just time to move on.

Thanks for the advice. I will broach this when I have my next physical and bloodwork in a few months. I've not been averse to taking Metformin since it acts as an mTOR inhibitor which presumably interferes with protein synthesis, and most likely tumor development as well. As my dad died of pancreatic cancer I am more than happy to take something that might help forestall tumor growth. I actually used to take the extended release metformin but my insurance carrier (Tufts and Caremark) switched me to save a buck. I have a new prescription vendor (OptumRX) and I am curious to see what they will send.

Some people text with an attitude. Don’t take it personally. Everyone’s busy these days

I got diagnosed with Type 2 about 13 years ago when I turned 55 (blood sugar at 160). At my doctors advice I first started off with aggressive weight loss which brought my blood sugar to about 120. In time it started creeping up slowly so he put me on Metformin. I’ve been on it for over 10 years (500mg twice daily ) and my A1C is about 5.9. Ive not really had any issues with it but I’ve had to supplement it with aggressive exercise (weightlifting and biking) as well as a 2000 calorie diet. The diet part really sucks.

Maybe this goes without saying but as a client, you also have some responsibility for helping create the mood. That included dressing on point (interesting underwear never hurts), making sure your body odor and breath are up to code, taming your hair etc etc. If you have a beard, make sure it was well trimmed a few days earlier so it’s not overly sctatchy ( or use a beard balm). If you are visiting a provider in call it never hurts to offer to bring coffee or something similar to show that you’re considerate. I once brought a piece of chocolate cake to a provider who let it slip that it was his birthday. We had the best time “eating.”

Retirement is awesome. I recommend it highly. Congratulations on your move

You can do this on your own if you’re really motivated to make it happen. It just means that you need to track your calories accurately. I use MyFitnessPal to do that but there are probably other programs that do the same thing. You can use an online calculator to figure out your maintenance calorie rate and manage a diet with about 400 less calories on average per day.