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I know some have said they want to hear some good word for a change from me, well here it goes: next day: Notice: there was no arguing or awkward silences when I asked for deposit. Issue is: some people do just the opposite. Appointment request comes thru, everything seems on track, ask for a deposit: no response. Or some entitled story about how they never paid one and been hiring for 20 years etc etc. And this guy has been scammed before. But he understood: it had nothing to do with me. At all. Real recognize real. No drama necessary. Here’s an example of a bad ☹️ booking request: The word “Never” is mentioned twice, then made to feel gaslit and unappreciated. Who has time for all that? I’m trying to provide relaxation and an experience. Yet I’m having to explain what I already explained in my ad: something I sit and spend hours perfecting to ensure everybody understands.

Hmm, nostalgic for sure but: I doubt it. I wasn’t really “in the industry” during those days, but I used to like reading hot spots in Miami and seeing the escort/masseur pages. I used to think nothing of it at the time, but didn’t cross my mind that I’d actually be doing it some day. Plus I don’t want to go backwards. These days we have better screening, deposits, etc. As for RentMen: I think they deserve some grace. They’ve done a lot for us. They are the first M4M site to ever come out with “client profiles” (actually adam4adam/gay.com did before that but…as far as designated escort sites goes). They’ve also done things for me that other sites wouldn’t, and I feel they have done way more than what RentBoy used to do (anybody recall having to place ads in other cities and paying extra $20 to do so?) Overall, I’ve also had my concerns with the platform. Namely what I’ve mentioned earlier.

Right, and by all means I’m not thrilled about the decision. In fact, what had stopped me from removing all my nudes is: I try to think about how porn has done it for years: you go to a bookstore, browse DVDs, and you can see lots of dick and ass action on the back cover. Definitely gets the juices flowing. And online sites have put out free previews and such, and I even have that on my site as well: for members who sign up. They don’t even have to pay, just sign up and if they want the full versions, they can do the payment part. But I’m just saying, if it is going to be the normal: there may be some silver lining to it, however it doesn’t sound like they’ve revealed that yet. I’ve been one to suggest to them in the past: maybe use our private gallery be a way to get paid either monetary or “points” towards the fee we pay for platinum boosts and memberships. I stopped unlocking my private pics couple years ago, and recently just got rid of the whole gallery and put it all on the public: the ones I want to display, and then the others in premium. I don’t mind people seeing the goods but, there’s just has to be a point and honest observation that: maybe some people don’t want to show all their goods for free. I’ve seen escorts, some who have even been hired side by side with me in 3som situations…with me who showed dick pics. So it’s almost like: how is fair for the same guy to advertise no dick pics and get hired by the same client who saw mine for free? That’s not a question but rather: it’s a fact. It should be equal level playing field. Of course I don’t know what providers may do in their private conservations, maybe they send out Dick pics over phone or whatever. I think with men4rent it was more than one thing though right? Like they took off rates, and raise their ad price exorbitantly (at one point $49.99 for 10 days platinum). Then it seemed like scam clients were getting in and emailing us fake booking requests, and it just didn’t seem like they wanted to do much innovation from when they started since 2003 or whatever. It was sad to see them go, and they were getting me the most bookings of of the sites. But they voluntarily closed after the RentBoy raid. They could have still been around today if they wanted to.

This may come off as unpopular opinion but: I think we should embrace this change to an extent. I’ve lamented before that, it’s time out for non clients getting free material and nudes. (clients are people who show up and pay, shoppers are those who are just inquiring). These same guys look at the content, but may never end up being a client or worse, pretend to be interested in hiring only to fall thru. So not only getting free nudes, but free use of time and giving nothing in return. Even if they have seen other providers in the past, they shouldn’t have a free pass to “size us up”, metaphorically speaking, before providing any form of payment. Think about how Grindr, Scruff and others have swept online gay hookups by storm, and non of those allow open nude pics. Think of Instagram and the likes where there’s already so much “content” that isn’t nude. Even at a bathhouse, you can’t always walk around naked for all to see. You have to at least make the commitment to approach/get that person back to your bed, or steam room bench, etc. I’m already a step ahead with the website thing, as I been putting my content for pay for awhile. However I can understand nobody wants to be made to feel the “have to” abide by a set of rules, especially when it comes without a survey from the providers using the site. My take may be: they may be needing it as protective measure of sorts. Maybe they have plans to evolve the site into something more compensated based for the providers. And then you have the Rent.Men app and messenger which, technically may come with some restrictions to content. But like I said as the last word in my other thread: people need to be willing to fight for us, and each other. And that’s not physical violence I’m talking. But moreso: contacting credit card companies, contacting Apple, doing regular protests in cities, etc. It has to start somewhere.

Are you now descending to using racial slurs to get leverage? Should I just go ahead and report that? Because I can do that too… It’s not the occupation, I’m certainly getting pleased. Just because I talk about an issue, doesn’t imply unhappiness or incompetence. People have to step away from this thinking that someone wanting better treatment, equates to not liking what they do. You see it all the time with teachers, in schools, even companies like manufacturing. Flight attendants just as all. Sex work is the only industry, where people don’t want to fight for us. Hell, we don’t even want to fight for each other. It’s very clear even on here, you guys don’t even acknowledge the issue exist. You sweep it under the rug, try to shame and embarrass, while others devil advocate situations and deny the underlying reasons.

You’re right. I was a contributor and did gas light myself. Next time I’ll just get a deposit, and not 2nd guess myself into believing 🚮 is anything other than 🚮. No matter how much he’s “dreaming of meeting me”. Now, can we just settle this and ✌deuces, please?

I get where you’re coming from, I could have suggested a meeting time instead. But I guarantee you: he would have said, “that’s too late for me, let’s plan for another time”. And then not get back to me until 2 years later. Just like he did back in 2021. However, I did give him an approximate arrival expectation when I said: I’m on my way in 15 minutes, and it’s a 50 minute ride to his location. So there was in no way he could have been “stewing with uncertainty” like you implied. On top of that, he was already getting a discount, so to cancel when I’m already in route: was plain and simple: an asshole move. We can nitpick small clues to defend his childish and inconsiderate actions. But all that’s doing is making it seem like I’m responsible for someone’s lack of consideration. And that, I’m not ☝️ If he needed a specific time, he could have suggested that. And like I said: he wasn’t in hurry to do so, until the morning of. So…that’s on him. 100%.

That’s a good point you made, I actually want to go back to that in regards to what a fellow poster mentioned: I don’t think I appropriately addressed this earlier, but I’ll go over it again. I did not leave him stewing in impatience and uncertainty, and I also don’t do that to clients either. I think you misinterpreted the message that was posted. What I did do: is tell him upfront, I can follow back up shortly and provide a time of arrival. As I did not want to do that prematurely and make sure I got the timing right. He was not on my schedule that day. 11:30-1 pm on a Sunday: it’s expected most people are either recovering from the Saturday night out prior, or are doing other things like church, brunch, yard work, catching sales, etc. it’s a Sunday. That’s what people do. However, he had no basis to suddenly assume I would be able to instantly push aside everything I was currently engaged in BEFORE he contacted me. He did not earn that privilege. He never sent me a deposit the day prior, he never even mentioned he wanted to meet on Sunday the night prior, and then he specifically implied he PREFERRED to meet “today” (Sunday), which means he should have been willing to give the necessary time for me to accommodate. Reason why, is because: the day prior he was messaging me on adam4adam, and this is the language he was giving me: Now @Simon Suraci: do you see anywhere in that message that gives a sense of urgency on his part? Nothing. Then the next day I’m getting: So, why all of a sudden I have to stop, drop and roll for him? I had to already lead him to water, and make him drink. All I was doing, is getting him to first text and confirm: I do not set ANY TIMES ON ADAM. Period. That’s not an appointment request. Appointment request doesn’t start until I receive text message. That’s for any website. I don’t think it was accurate to make it seem like I kept him waiting and was indecisive. And I was a bit offended by that, to be honest. No, he hit me up at the last minute on the day of. I already know from experience with a lot of gay men and dealing with sex: they are NEVER available as fast as I want them to be. I know that for a fact. So I’ve learned to just have patience and understanding. Nobody is going to drop their life for me, so…where’s this expectations that I have to do the same? 90% of these clients are never available when I reach out to them, but meanwhile I have to basically had to leave my sick grandmother’s bedside to meet 2 clients years ago. And one even had the nerve to say, “if you’re not here by 10, just cancel”. And this was after I drove from Fort Lauderdale to Tampa. What a fucking bitch of a client now that I look back. So rude. And @BenjaminNicholas is right. Some of that is due to just being a Black gay sex worker. They expect super-hero powers: hard dick, fast arrival, no deposit…because we’re all broke and scammers and need money, stereotypical speaking. And @Monarchy79and @pubic_assistance need to stop spreading that false propaganda making it seem like I’m the reason and fault for everything that I encounter. No, it’s not. I don’t give a fuck how much you don’t like it, don’t want to hear or don’t believe it. I will keep talking about it over, and over, and over, and over again until either one of you say: I understand. I emphasize. I see your point of view and realize it’s NOT YOU, it’s them. The reason why I’m posting all these messages, is to show that these things I talk about are reality, and nobody can gaslight that existence. Sometimes it’s just hard to say: There are some people, some gay men online, in this country: they’re cheap, they waste sex workers time, they don’t respect them. And they are a problem for our business. We need to discuss this and do something about it. Was that so hard?

Again: also only giving you 5 seconds to scan your post too because: your posts towards me are always nasty anyway. We’ve been there before… But you sound foolish because, I simply addressed a statement another provider asked about. #1 you were not being addressed by @BenjaminNicholas and #2 I did not inquire your input in that response either. Now, if you can’t handle a discussion that includes certain factors that contribute to certain behaviors: You can leave too. You are so motivated to say stuff to get me to try and run off. It’s not going to work with me, honey. We already settled long time ago: we will not see eye to eye on certain discussions. And that’s okay…But don’t keep coming around trying to project your opinion about me, where it’s not necessary.

Thanks much. No you weren’t insensitive, just giving your viewpoint. Especially compared to some of the other stuff I’ve had to respond to. At the moment I just sent out cancellation fee request to someone who said he wanted to book me for Thursday 1.5-2 hour session. Claims he never confirmed. Also has: 10 reports, only 2 positive. Then has the audacity to claim he’s been hiring 20 years and never paid a deposit. Why wouldn’t I? 🤦🏾‍♂️ Definitely, I was trying to use it in a way that implied “widespread occurrence” of something. Versus the actual medical definition. But you’re right, it is. With the particular person in the original post: he reached out the day prior, but he didn’t text me to request a time until the following day. He wanted to rush me to hurry up and figure out a time for him, but there was nothing signifying that I was expecting him to meet that day. That’s why I told him, I would return back to him an approximate time. Which I did, but he couldn’t even be patient enough for me to arrive. It’s just very frustrating dealing with so many of these type of people in my area. Like I’ve literally been home from tour for a week, and haven’t had one serious client book. Yet I’ve had 3 people who lied about wanting to book. I don’t even need to have anyone tell me what I need to do, go thru this shit all the time: I want to leave. Leave the state or leave the business. It’s depressing, and I’m not doing anything differently from when I meet reliable clients who don’t flake, don’t argue about deposits, and write nice reviews to my page. These other people don’t read ads, yet claim they been hiring for years. Well how have you been hiring for years, but fail to be able to read an ad? They tell me something they don’t want to do, that’s specifically mentioned FIRST LINE, in my ad. Do they just click my profile and go straight to my number, why would they think that’s a smart thing to do?

And that’s understandable. There’s some clients who I can genuinely understand having to cancel here and there when needed. I try to extend the same grace, as I may need when I have to cancel things, even unrelated to clients. I even allow one of my clients to fantasy text me, even though he hasn’t booked a session since 2020. But he’s hired me for so many overnights, that he’s on my “lifetime” standby status lol. I wish he’d just work up and re-book again some point. But I can pick up between genuine cancels, and just being passive aggressive. In the 2 cases I mentioned, those were clearly passive aggressive moves. One definitely had no basis to cancel, and the other: couldn’t have just found out at 6:30 in the morning that he couldn’t include my service with his bills. Plus, that’s too early in the morning to be waking me up with bad news. It’s sad because, I really did like that particular guy. He had a nice dick, nice ass, talented mouth, was a good host at his place…everything was fine. But he also took me thru a lot of cancel/book/cancel/cancel book patterns. Then came around with the new boyfriend story AFTER we had #1 just prior agreed on meeting every 2 weeks #2 going to a local resort in the state (and he should have been cut off long time ago, just for that). That goes beyond an understanding escort, to being subjected to emotional labor. I can’t be bothered with someone who lies, can’t keep their word, plays games with me, etc. People wonder why I feel strongly about this topic, but they don’t always know the full story. That’s why I post copy of messages. It’s not to be messy or expose the client or disclose privacy, but when you can actually anonymously see what’s going on: maybe there can be a better understanding.

I quickly glanced at all what you wrote, in a 5 second time frame. Because that’s all you’re getting from me at this point. It’s nothing about owning the site or thread, it’s simply me informing you that you have the option to not post or read here if you don’t like it. This thread was not designed to address you, and if you’re not even the type of client I’m referring to: it shouldn’t even apply to you at all. So I don’t understand where your animosity is coming from. You’re inserting your opinion and annoyance where it’s not required. I appreciate wholeheartedly the advice you have given, however if you season it with criticism and abrasive tone: I don’t have to receive it. That’s my choice, just like it’s your choice to leave this particular thread. You can stay on the forum all you want. But what you’re not going to do, is keep coming for me after I told you, I’m not going to agree if you can’t talk to me respectfully ☝️ If you want to stay here and continue arguing, we can do that too. But, that’s contradictory to the message you’re trying to give to me. And I really don’t have time to do all that. I had the thread hidden for a day, to cool things down. Now you just bringing the heat back. At this point, I’m just not going to respond to you anymore. I’ve said what I had to say:

Typical Nordic model…

What days were that? And what makes it any less now than then? You’re not implying that racial discussions constitutes someone needing to feel disconnected, right? I 100% get that last part. I concur. And it also applies to the forum and I also. They can’t change if I feel a certain way about how I’m being treated by clients. Take for example this passive aggressive situation with a client the other day. Now mind you, last month he “bailed” on an appointment even after sending me a deposit, because I was expecting him at the hour he wanted to meet. But then he told me, “mid September” he would be available again. But now he’s singing a whole other tune: (mind you I wasn’t referring to another client’s appointment, it was just a service appointment that I could have easily rescheduled.) And I know I’m being more proactive than what’s typically expected escorts to do: but I try to be so, follow back up, agree to a time etc. But instead of just being upfront that he doesn’t want to do it, he strings me along, makes up excuses, etc. So clearly he’s not reliable so, I’ll take the advice and just stop engaging. And I’ll add another point: I can understand if I was working in a sales job that involved soliciting/cold calling new clients. In those situations, you have to really have a thick skin and patience, and that’s why I left “sales” jobs back in 2009 and never looked back. I even tried it again after a couple years break, and ended up quitting again within a couple months, and sticking with escorting. However, these guys are contacting and initiating with me. In both situations including the original post where I put the guy on blast: they contacted me first. I was minding my own business not expecting a penny of their money, until they started harassing me and then flaking out. THAT is why I got mad and THAT is why I put them both on blast. At this point, the only welcome that’s being worn out: is yours in this thread. So you can go ahead and escort yourself out. And while the discussion of therapy is being thrown around: let me share some tips with you: you don’t have to insert yourself here if you don’t like the topic. I didn’t invite you to respond, if it’s not something you want to do. I never quoted your name or messaged you to respond. I don’t even know who you are, why are you even discussing what I’ve been doing for years? It shouldn’t even matter. Focus on controlling what you can control, which is not coming here trying to disparage me…and that’s one less argument you have to hear about. It’ll benefit you AND me. And that goes for anybody. It’s a million other threads to respond and read. You don’t have to throw shade on my discussion, which is doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to better the situation and only serving to ignore and minimize the issue. So please, leave. It’s nothing else to talk about ☮️ ✌

I thought it had a particular reference to hiring male providers, but it doesn’t say. Also when it say “on going investigation”, it almost sound like something may have happened or been going on in the area to initiate that.

Update: decided to request a change to this thread because I didn’t want it to just be passed off as another rant/complaint. When I think about it, it is an actual epidemic within the industry. There shouldn’t be this expectation that, a provider’s time is less important to that of a client: and trying to speak and think for a provider should not be considered acceptable. Hopefully we can all leave off on a positive note, with a better understanding of the message 📝

Well, this is exactly what I had pushed and projected would be the case, And part of that “strike” I had proposed not long ago. Providers are tired of guys looking at pics and not booking. And providers are also tired of these incessant spam texts day in/day out talking about painting a mural of us, offering a text buddy, a sugar daddy: just about everything besides actually putting money into our hands or accounts. So Hollywood is off strike, but we’re on it…Not necessarily verbatim in the same way, but the “strike” is moreso a demand from the customers to either start paying up, and stop playing around: or less free jerk material. And it’s also: until RentMen gives the option to get paid for private pics, don’t expect everyone to want to unlock for free… It’s funny how RentMasseur doesn’t allow any public nude pics, yet it seems just about every person who contacts me by phone: is from RentMasseur. On RentMen, they private message in droves, but the turnover to text that I request, most don’t do it.

Funnily enough, I usually debate whether to turn my phone on or off for Black Friday. I wonder why 🤔

And I have done certain things to make solutions accordingly. But to insinuate a set of solutions is immediately attainable per one’s circumstances, is a bit assumptive. Just like the article above I stated: change the pity to empathy. But if that’s how you feel, then that’s on you. You don’t have to understand, you already said you could never be an escort and prefer to stick with massage. That’s great. But I don’t think that could be used as a “solution” on a site that’s called “company of men”. So if you’re going to get snappy and start being condescending towards me, you can leave too. Here’s the door 🚪 and please don’t wish me best of luck if you don’t really mean it. The whole point of this thread is addressing passive aggressiveness, and you’re epitomizing that by leaving off with that, after you just insulted me. Don’t ✋🏾

There is no, “charge his account” button on cash app. The only way to wipe any account, is to add cash to your own cash app from your bank account. I try to imply this with clients who use apps or my site. Also: there’s many “text buddy” and “sugar daddy” scammers who contact me by text daily, even multiple times daily. This is another reason I have to regularly remove my phone number from my RentMen ad, and hope clients click my website or send me a messenger which delivers my auto-reply. I recently came up with a clever line in my ad, to further let people know: you can trust me: Meet one of RentMen’s longest 🍌 running advertiser, since 2009! So when someone says something equally clever like: “I’m not going to send money to a stranger”, I’ll know what to do 🚪 ☎️

Thanks for the tips. I appreciate what you’re saying but, I can’t only hear one person’s side and then expect it to speak for each particular situation. I also still say: there’s no getting defensive, but rather I’m answering the questions and comments that are being given. If someone misinterprets something I say, or do: I have the option to address and/or give my take on that. That’s why it’s a forum, unless I just post a topic and run off and never respond to anyone. Which some do. But I’m also not going to just sit back and say: “you’re right you’re right” to everyone. Not that a person is “wrong”, but maybe misinterpreted. Just like I mentioned about the therapy statement that you said: I have friends who have gone to therapists, but fact is: people are going to be who they are regardless. That’s the thing that you, and a few others just need to accept. You’re not necessarily going to change my reaction or perspective about a particular client. I have my way of dealing with them, to ensure I make it clear: it’s over and done with. Don’t come back around next year or the year after and think it’s going to be all good. As for the rest: I agree with what I need to do. I do plan to move, in fact I have a client who owns rentals in a neighboring state: and last we met we discussed my desire to leave this area. I got in contact with him yesterday, and hopefully the ball can get rolling. But even if it doesn’t, I’m still looking. The other thing is: telling me to move without giving me the means to do it, doesn’t help either. I know I need to move. Yes, I hate my home market. I have never traveled more in my life, than I have since I moved here. I mostly never fully unpack my bags because I already have another trip coming up. The days I try to stay here, all I do is deal with timewasters, people who make fake appointments, last minute appointments that I can rarely accommodate: it’s a racket. And all that traveling makes it hard to save money. It’s really been a merry go round to an extent. Normally I would be able to use proceeds from travel to save and make a move: But RentMen, RentMasseur and Adam4Adam are SLOW ever since the political climate has become toxic. Take for example this real text from a former client (and he’s far from broke; Edited for privacy and censorship obviously): So where am I going to get the money to pack up, uhaul, put a down payment, transfer vehicles, and do ALL of that: when you see right here: I lost $400 between 2 clients, in one DAY. One guy agreed to pay my regular rate $250, the other wanted just my basic $150 rate. And both cancelled on me Sunday. Neither was my fault in any way. I don’t care how people make it seem like the guy didn’t have an exact time, etc etc. He knew what he was doing, being a liar. Now, that’s $400 I don’t have to relocate with. So now: if I’m supposed to move in 30-60 days, where am I going to get that money? That’s what I’m saying: you’re telling me everything that worked for you: that’s great. It worked for me too, I wasn’t always in this position. I been sex working since 2009. I’ve had several apartments, in different cities. I even had a condo for 5 years in Denver. I paid so much for it, I could have practically brought it. But it wasn’t for sale and then, goodbye Rentboy and hello rent prices skyrocking. And guess where that left me? Figure that one out… Don’t look at me now like I’m struggling and have nothing going on, or don’t know how to manage my life. That’s not the USUAL routine. That’s only the current moment, and that’s because of having to work in a market that literally hates sex workers. Like yes: In Kansas City these people literally HATE SEX WORKERS. I hear it all the time from friends, men on hookup apps in the area. They talk about us derogatory, they’re interested until any mention of payment is brought up, the “potential” clients are just the worse inconsiderate types I’ve encountered. It’s easily the worst place I ever marketed in my life (albeit almost a tie with Nashville which however used to be quite decent for me during the time I lived there). But they were also hit with the rental crisis and influx of escorts. And that’s the thing: even under performing markets like Kansas City are filled to excess with escorts, so everybody is all trying to reach the same decent clients who are here. Or, the only ones doing good happen to be the guys lucky enough to marry an older well off White guy (which is very common I see in this area). Many minorities in this part of the Midwest partner up or marry much older White guys with money, and do their BEST to keep other Black men away from them, unless it’s like their trusted trusted guys from high school: even if they are 30 and 40 years old. I’m just over it. I talked to my therapist so many times, that there was nothing else to talk about. Only suggestion he made that was similar, was consider looking for other sources, and worked with me to find things I would like: but But I’ve also had jobs PRIOR to being an escort, and they had not much promise than some of these flaky clients have. Many companies hire an influx of semi-qualified candidates, then use them for a few months/couple years, only to drop them once their busy season is over. Which is okay if that’s what you’re looking for but: that’s a lot of commitment to something that’s temporary. Many jobs want your whole life, each and every day: but don’t want you to depend on them “too much”. Because: it’s “at will”. I have an idea and suggestion right now: how about we raise some money TONIGHT to help me relocate, so I can stop dealing with what I am dealing with. Then I can stop talking about it here 🙂 In the meantime, I’m thinking about removing all of my nudes on RentMen, and making them only available for rent on my website. That way I can have an extra source of income, versus relying on in person visits only. Just put my nudes on sale. If people want to start donating $100, $500, $1,000 to my cash app: it can be used to help me fund a move. Because at this point, with the shit I’ve been dealing with: I don’t have the means to move. Like I said, I’m hoping a client of mine who owns some rentals, can come up with something. If so, I might be moving to Arkansas ✌ I’m tired of over saturated, cesspool markets where there’s nothing but flakes and unreliable.Then you have 20 escorts being contacted all at once by the same flakes at the same time ✋🏾

Interesting read. At the same time: I should have better prepared for the typical nonsense that often arises when I have re-market back in my home base area. I should have known better than to make a rookie mistake like I did, but I’m looking forward from here. And the only reason I even took that route that I did, by posting: is because this person descended from being a potential client to: okay this guy is just fucking with me, and it shows from TWO prior messages that he either can’t make up his mind, or is very inconsiderate. I don’t get bent out of shape about clients looking at my profile and not booking, or asking reasonable questions with intention to book. But I draw the line at those who know better: they didn’t do it once, or twice. For every person who says I’m not this or that or need to do this or that with my life: apply that to every person who does the things I mention above. It’s funny how people always want to say what I need to do, but never make an honest assembly about those who instigate the situation: need to do. And in my case, I’m usually trucking along just fine minding my business…doing what I need to do and focusing on good clients: then some bozo clown (not referring to bozoTclown here) wants to come around and be childish. I don’t have time for that. And I definitely don’t have time to be reading texts at 6 fucking 30 in the morning, talking about he need to cancel a booking because he doesn’t want to part with the money.

Well you’ve just included DOZENS of other providers, many who on this board who are over 30, 40, even 50 and 60 and are still in the biz. I definitely don’t “feel” old, I don’t look old, I’m still bagging 20 year olds and have clients who are in college even. So, you really need to lay-off that mentality. 36 is not “old” and if anything, it levels out the playing field because, as a Top; many clients want an older nature guy, they don’t want to get fucked by someone barely out of high school (hopefully, I mean…I would think). The escort shelf life for Tops is likely a bit longer, I can be 70 years old, and still be escorting as a top and I guarantee I would still have some young guys wanting me. I know for a fact because: I just had a (real and in person) client tell me this the other week. He’s 75 and has young guys hitting him up all the time. And I appreciate the career advice but, reserve that for someone who’s asks for it: please.

Well, thanks? I guess 🤨 I mean yeah…I used to talk about race more but, it’s a bit deeper and more complex than that. Plus, I got tired of going down the race rabbit hole, that wasn’t necessarily pertinent to the specific situation at hand. Like for example, I could easily have made this title to: a racist client stood me up. But then, that solves the issue prematurely without really addressing the other factors. When in reality, it was an inconsiderate, impatient client who stood me up: but he probably does treat other Black prospects that way too. Which is a very real aspect of racism. I’ve found that attitude from guys rife, specifically in certain places in the Midwest, Tennessee, Pennsylvania, and Texas. But it’s all over the country pretty much. You can’t come off rude and condescending, then expect to be in the mood to sleep together. Why some guys like to make their potential sex quest upset, is beyond me. But I think it would be easier to address the impatient and inconsiderate part, before trying to solve the racist part because: the latter is something one needs to work on within and can take WORK to resolve, whereas the former directly affects my scheduling and our communication IN that moment. I can’t book someone who thinks I’m supposed to show up MOMENTS after he works up the courage to FINALLY contact me again. After a lousy A4A message where he essentially semi-flaked twice, and then was making passive aggressive statements to try to “think ahead of me” like he suddenly has my whole life figured out. Dude, calm down and have a seat 🪑 You haven’t even known me 24 hours ✋🏾 Which leads to the next article, because I’m just about done. I’m going to let articles speak for me. Just replace every line that says “women”, with “male escorts/masseurs” No More Last Minute Dates! | Dee's Dating Diary DEESDATINGDIARY.COM More and more men seem to think it is okay to ask women out on a date with less than 30 minutes notice! While I...

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