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I think gnats have better attention spans. Have you ever seen how they elude getting picked up in a glass of wine 🤣 That said, I try not to take it personal: but it makes me less prone to respond to messages where guys ask, “Are you available today/now or “you around tonight”. I did speak to a client the other week, and he mentioned how there are “flakes” on RM. Though he didn’t just refer to age.

Personally, I almost feel like we’re in a somewhat Covid re-make right now. Flu, cold and other viruses been going around, the politics and Ice in the news everyday probably has people feeling viral as well. I’m thinking of temporarily retiring because it’s been slow. Last week I went to 3 cities: only had 2 clients, both regulars which I enjoy…but that’s a lot of commute and days spent. Also: winter business in a place like Michigan may be different than in a place like Florida. However going where it’s “high season” often comes with the added caveat of much higher hotel prices.

…. At least have the courtesy of responding back or following back up if you stop responding. It’s bad enough when it’s just a freebie hookup, but when you’re also expecting reliable behavior with money: it’s very disrespectful. What’s worse, why do some of the same guys come around: just to play games again after they ghosted the last time. I don’t like to block (or add them to the bad list) wily nilly, but I think some people ask for it. As this google search shows, they just aren’t capable of mature interactions when it comes down to other gays:

So the better way to handle this, is to simply say: “I would like the sensual/therapeutic/deep tissue/etc etc. appointment on your ad for $XXX. That’s vastly different from asking, “hey XXX, what’s your rate? Or “how much?” (This is exactly how many of them come at us). That’s where the issue comes in. I dislike comparing escort/masseur services to food, but imagine if someone asked the price for something this: “ummm how much is the mushroom burger?” ”ummm, how much is the calamari?”

Escort standpoint here… I am glad to finally have a full beard, as I was a “late bloomer” who barely even had facial hair until I was like 21. But even as I got into my late 20s/early 30s I still couldn’t really have a full one. For me, I cannot have a shaved face. I am Black and mixed so, my hair tends to curl into my skin when it’s below a certain length (ingrown). It used to be worse in my early 20s, with ingrowns on my face and neck area. Once I started rocking the beard, that pretty much went away, although the occasional ingrown will develop under the neck or beard line. I actually developed a rather large abscess under my neck, from an ingrown too deep to pull out with tweezers. It’s gone down a bit but, it was tender and painful. That said, some guys look good with or without beards, others with a beard or without a beard. I always admire the Rock, who has sported the clean shaven face for years. But I also admire Jordan peele who is now rocking a beard:

I didn’t get this when I was 25, but now I’m 38 I can say so. It tends to make me 🤨 when someone thinks guys are too old to escort after 35. And I even see many guys posting their age as under 30, for years. Though I don’t necessarily seek out trying to hookup round the clock, it’s less to do with libido and more to do with preserving my time and energy for paying clients or discerning men. But my desire and libido hasn’t gone south by any means.

Or it can just be somewhat the same. Some people like familiarity. Doesn’t necessarily mean doing cartwheels 🤸🏾‍♂️ in the bed to keep it interesting.

Keep in mind too: just because someone has regulars doesn’t mean they aren’t still looking. One doesn’t necessarily need to stick with one guy exclusively, unless that’s sufficient for a guy when booking RMs. One of my regulars, has like 2 other regulars lol. I’m more of his companion when he’s visiting certain cities away from his home town. But we’ve had some good 🦆ucks over the times we’ve met.

I find subsequent sessions always get better with time. The first time is like exploring new territory, it may be good but both guys are not familiar with each other yet. There’s a difference between feeling out how to pleasure someone the first time, versus already anticipating that you know it’ll be good on the next visits.

I’ve heard of this before with me, I don’t feel it’s anything to be upended about. It’s an open platform, people are going to ask around.

You know I gotta fact check you 😉 Coming from Florida and Texas: Chicago IS expensive. Maybe not the deeper suburbs in Illinois, but those are also expansive. And you still pay a lot in tolls. I once had a $35 toll bill, and I didn’t even fucking go to Chicago. I drove around the outer burbs but it still cost a lot and I didn’t even know how much I was being billed because they have it all Bill by plate now. Also gas there is more expensive, taxes etc.

Either that or, you looked like muni long in drag and the provider was gay for pay: But in reality he’s hetero/pan flexible or whatever it’s called in 2026: 🤭

I never said, YOU said your word is law. You only named 1 person, out of a city with HUNDREDS if not thousands of escorts. Even if many do charge $1,000: #1 doesn’t mean everybody going to pay and #2 there’s still ample conversation I’ve found otherwise of that. Point in case: This isn’t me speaking but someone else. However I’ve done the Los Angeles circuit and I know for a fact, most of the bookings I’ve got in that area cap at $300 the hour. And it’s hard to even get that at all because there’s 50 million escorts in Los Angeles as it is. The exception may exist but I’m talking across the board…

This is another case of: fact check it versus throwing out anecdotes. Los Angeles is a expansive market, and the amount of sex workers make it to where I can be hard to reach that $1,000 an hour bracket, unless a person is fairly established and has a client that is able to arrange that.

I just had lobster tail today, grilled…like popular in the Keys. Yum As for the rest, I recently noticed: Lobster tail is not pre cooked when you buy them. Whole lobster is precooked, unless you buy it live. Something with the toxins or texture that determines how it’s prepared when it’s caught.

As someone who lives in the Midwest: I feel Chicago is expensive; compared to Omaha, Tulsa, Wisconsin. When I drive thru Illinois: the tolls, traffic, needing to be closer to the city etc. all adds up. Even St. Louis, which for awhile seemed like a “cheaper” city, they’ve been modeling Chicago in prices for like going out to eat, housing and hotel stays etc in certain areas and the hotels in town run more than towns like Dallas/Houston. I think overall: shit has become more expensive when it comes down to rent, going out etc. A single or coupled gay man probably isn’t as affected as a big family is: but in some areas, they’re still being cheap about spending, disparage guys who charge or ask for “gas money”. I’m grateful for the many clients who do see me: but across the board it’s been REAL slow in certain areas. RentMasseur isn’t as busy, RentMen has tons of views but few actual bookings. The small towns hardly have any providers, yet the bigger cities are jam packed with guys. There’s a big discrepancy and it’s translating to: it’s not hitting as much in the smaller towns. But the bigger cities have become so full with guys it’s hard to get noticed. I sometimes scroll thru, and the page reloads 4-5 times with more and more guys. If I were a client, I wouldn’t know who to pick lol. MEANWHILE: sites like the one below (I am NOT condoning anyone here use it for M4M services but it’s just for reference) have only a few select men in each city, and their rates are way more than what is usually offered on the RM sites. Home | Cowboys4Angels COWBOYS4ANGELS.COM

I’m sure you were…

If you want something deep inside, I’ve got something for that. And you don’t have to worry about how hard it is, it’ll be a replica 😹 That said, you’re incorrect about me being hurt ego about donating. Nice try but, you conveniently ignored the part I actually quoted. You made a whole new paragraph that diverted from your initial point saying: And no providers arent disfrenchised ppl, many of them make much more than your average joes. Even if they didnt, they still arent disfrenchised in any way That’s when I asked provide factual data if you believe that’s true statement. I can easily provide one from another website where a provider is discussing their struggles: “This month I took off bc I was sick for weeks after my birthday but prior to that, I actually lost money in November, bc I saw 1 client & it didn't even cover ad costs” Just because you may not be disenfranchised, speaking from a position of privilege, doesn’t assume everyone is. All it takes is a car breakdown/accident, surprise medical emergency etc and a few missed bookings to end up in struggle mode. I’ve gone to cities myself, and had medical issues while traveling, car trouble etc while there. Combine it with missing appointments due to that, flaky guys who think we don’t need the money, and just fucking off for the hell of it: it’s easy to end up disenfranchised even temporarily. You shouldn’t come making claims about folks that you don’t know their circumstances. That’s a good point you make but, you’re speaking anecdotally. I would think most non-substance using men can somewhat gauge how many times they can stay hard/get off. I don’t need someone to think, “Hmm should I call him, maybe he’s had 5 clients today already and can’t get hard”. It’s not about whether or not they all book, it’s more about can I at-least have the opportunity to CHOOSE. I have performed back to back many times, getting hard or cumming each time. Sometimes same person, other times different person. It’s not been an issue because at 38 years old, I kinda am more in tune with my body and my other parts. I rather have the say in whether or not I can take on a booking, versus someone deciding he’s going to follow thru…and having to figure out a way to efficiently handle a hard on, when there’s no privacy at your residence to use a right hand man 😬

I try to separate from the “right now” brigade, and revolve mostly around pre-booking visits. However, I have occasionally suggested RM to exchange “available now” to available today. Even if I’m 2 blocks away, it still takes time to communicate, screen and get ready to accommodate a paying suitors requests. And for me, that’s usually been anywhere from 4 to 48+ hours notice. My only thing with exchanging a few emails: I have heard some reach out to multiple providers at once. Which of the 10 guys you exchanged 10 emails back and forth, gets the carrot 🥕? That may be why some try to meet right away. Also, not everybody wants to do the back and forth email exchanges. I think more RMs would be open to do so if there was a paid incentive (one that can be used to cover ad costs and platinum boosts, etc per email inquiry session: like $10/$20). Regardless, you are doing the right thing by not rushing to “meet now”. But you may want to say initially that you want to consider reserving time in advance, with a reasonable suggestion of when.

Cute, but just for the record I want to just say: it’s not only potential clients making these type of approaches. I’d even go as far to say, it’s really not even actual clients at all doing these things. It’s a general “guys browsing for the potential of having sex with another guy” that is the bigger issue. Last week I had 2 other guys fake like they wanted to meet, they were not clients. One is a guy I’ve “dated” this year, another was an app guy who happened to be visiting my area. I’m not too upset with the app guy not meeting (even though we exchanged pics, and he talked about meeting only to say, “it’s my moms birthday today, idk if I can meet”. Well if you don’t know if you can’t meet, get off the app browsing for free nudes). I am however not fucking with the other guy, because for the 2nd time he’s come near my area where his family lives (he lives in Dallas and I’ve visited him there 3 times in between going for client visits). He asked if I would be available for Thanksgiving. He couldn’t find the time. Apologized and said he can definitely meet Christmas week. Christmas week comes around, couldn’t find the time to be available: a month later: So I’ve made 3 trips to your area but you can’t make any time for me? And this was supposed to have been someone I was pursuing a real relationship with. I know you think it’s funny to make light of someone’s dealings, but I feel bad for the clients I know who are going thru divorces right now, some being made to pay spousal support. All because they probably were in a position to support someone’s shitty behavior. If I had more money, and more ability to host/travel at the last minute: I’d have a lot more people using me for CONVENIENCE. And I’ve seen that so many times in life, people who were only there temporarily when it was convenient for them. I still feel I give way more opportunity to people who don’t deserve it, but when they come with the bullshit more than once, in more ways than one: I’m letting them know it’s not cool, and most likely they’ll take their own trash 🚮 selves out.

I agree. This isn’t directed at you but in a different subject: I don’t know how the “riot act” can be compared to me asking a client to text me, and giving a factual short explanation for why I request that: There was nothing in my message: …that was remotely close to giving this client any “stern warning”. I simply told him I need a text for same day/next day appointments. The city where most of the clients who contact RentMasseur and RentMen, is an hour away from me minimum. The airport adds an extra 30 minutes usually. I’m not always in the city 24/7 like they think. So I must get these people to respond in a timely manner, and often times if I don’t get a confirmed booking and/or deposit earlier in the day like before it gets dark: I have to then be prepared to stay up late and commute at a time of night that I may not wish to do. That’s why something like that, I can’t just BS around on an email trying to figure out. So I’m rightfully angry about it, and trust me that email I sent back wasn’t even close to angry. I met 1 guy last week who was visiting, but he TEXTED first thing in morning and sent address and deposit by afternoon. I seen him that evening. Something like that is doable because I have time to formulate my day and commute. Sending a faint email asking if I’m around, when I have to commute that distance into a city, is grating. I also had another inquiry text me the other day for a same day booking: but when I told him where I could host, he says “that’s too far”. Well then how the hell would you be trying to meet “now” when you don’t even know where F I am to begin with 🤦🏽‍♂️ People here can pretend this stuff doesn’t exist, but it needs to be discussed. The behavior out here by many is just unacceptable. I emailed RentMasseur as well today, seeing what they suggest also. RentMen and RentMasseur are bringing more Timewasters than Adam4Adam used to.

Appreciate the desire to understand however, it’s not asking to jump thru hoops. If anything, it’s helping to simplify the process. If they can at least show they are willing to assist in doing that, it’s off to the right start. I have stated in auto reply before, that I don’t always have ability to check emails right away. I simply am not inclined to interrupt my day, multiple times a day: to check on every email message that comes thru. Even If I didn’t have auto response, I would type up the same auto template and send it. Same thing I do for text. If I didn’t have auto response, emails would go unread for a lot longer because I don’t really notice every notification that comes thru. The auto reply is also filter. Is this going to be a client who’s going to expect me to meet last minute, with bare minimum info who could possibly flake on my way to him, or not show up when he says he is: or this someone who has shown to be transparent and can be a bit trustworthy? I’m not going to drag it out. I already have to travel/host. Write Ads/pay for Ads. Then perform. If I can simplify the initial contact stage, I reserve the right to do so.

Absolutely. Also, part of why I didn’t particularly feel inclined to do a same night appointment is because my area has been experiencing some bad night time fog. I had to drive thru it 2 different nights last week. And I don’t live in the main metro area, so I have to factor that in my commute. When I messaged him, I wasn’t even looking for a same day booking. It was just me sending a follow up to see when he was looking to meet the “24th-28th” he was in town. Why give me those dates, without actually saying what day he want to meet ❓ If that person was in town the dates he say he was, he had to have known the weather. Without me knowing whether he wanted to host or travel, that would determine whether I was “around” or not. So I couldn’t even say yes or no to it, that’s why I directed to text. Well you’ve seen my auto reply. Nothing in it is onlyfans related. The reason why I do auto reply, is because far too many time I will get an email that’s very vague. Here’s an example from my RM email list: Look at all those emails! Some will ask my rate and it’s listed. And yes they are different dates but, if you asking to remove auto reply: you’re also asking me to go thru and have a conversation with all those emails, and I’ve shown how some people wait hours or days between responses. People want to use the email platform like it’s a text app or hookup platform. But the responses don’t come thru at the same speed. I need to have people off the email, so we can pay attention and actually set something up in a timely manner. If auto reply wasn’t an option, I would 100% disable contact by email (which is an option on both Rent sites). The auto reply is the only reason I keep it, because I’ve already had to close texts to non signed in clients. Far too many spam texts when leaving number public, and far too many people texting who haven’t read a thing in my ad.

Okay at this point, you’re sounding like a bitter bitch yourself lol. Listen, it doesn’t matter how you sugarcoat it. You’re trying to water it down and make it sound all innocent: but what you don’t know is there were atleast 3 others (see the example) who did something similar. Are you aware that many escorts don’t do same day appointments? You talking about me making money, bruh: what money is there in that carrot dangling email response? I already gave you several examples: there was absolutely no relative info to make me feel this person actually even had any money. He didn’t talk about money. He didn’t talk about rate or price. What money did you see? No matter how you try to say it, in whatever raggedy ass tone you think is acceptable: asking a masseur “you around tonight” 2 days after sending an initial email and then ignoring all instructions: is not a confident sign that person is worth me dropping my plans and dashing out to see.

If this person wanted my time on a holiday or ANY day: he should have made the effort to do that days ago, when my reply went to him. You claim it sounds crazy, but you wouldn’t want someone to do that to you. You’d feel the same way. Does that sound like a person who’s “thirsty” for me? He’s lucky I even replied at all because many times I don’t say anything more after that auto reply goes out. Either they follow the directions, or I’m out.