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I simply hate how (understandably so) Microsoft is constantly pushing their own shit. No. I do not want Edge. I like the Firefox I already have. I fired up my gaming computer the other day to play some Cities Skylines and I had to wade through 10 minutes (exaggeration) or nonsense to basically tell the computer to fuck off with the new Edge. We were not amused.

I don’t know what porn you all are watching but this isn’t happening to me! ?

To my knowledge, correct me if I’m wrong, no one from this forum has met with him? Nor have they done a cam session?

$70 for ten minutes of phone time with him!

End of August

@GTMike – FWIW... Is it worth his rates?

Who doesn’t love Sophia?!

? We’re waiting for helpful info from folks who’ve met with him!

Then let us wait to see what materializes that is useful regarding this provider!

This will give you a lot to read over... Caveat emptor. https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-ivyleaguehungvrs.157990/

I find these stories fascinating because they’re all very different!

Wondering what “bigger” means when some guy says “I actually like bigger guys” or “All my relationships have been with bigger guys.” What exactly is “bigger?” Bigger than you? Bigger as in 250+lbs? 300+lbs? Reading this thread, it seems the majority opinion is there is no problem, and fat gay men just need to suck it up and deal. Nothing needs to change in our community around body image and acceptance. We truly do welcome all. Mea culpa for thinking otherwise! ✅

I grew up in the middle of nowhere. The only gay man I knew was my uncle who was “different” according to the family. My grandmother always insisted, lovingly but nonetheless insisted, that if my uncle had just gotten married and had had kids, he would’ve been fine. The only gay people who seemed accepted where I grew up were lesbians who hung with the guys and worked for the DOT – “butch lesbians,” you might call them, for lack of a better term. Every year, when pride came around, the pictures that were shown in the newspaper (if at all in the local conservative rag) or on national TV, focused on the “glamorous” gays – the ones who fit the picture of the young Adonis. You didn’t see pictures of bears or normal folks at pride. You saw the young and nubile waving rainbow flags and dancing and having a good time together. The subliminal message was clear. Gay guys are young. Gay guys are partiers. Gay guys exude energetic, desirable masculine-but-yet-not-too-masculine sexuality. So to say that pride has been about exhibiting the diversity of the gay community is only partly true. If you go to pride, yes. But if the message as one by circumstances looking in from the outside was that gays are a certain type, then it’s understandable that people might form imbedded notions about what makes them fit in or not. Also – let’s not forget the all-too ubiquitous response from someone to the announcement, like my own, at my coming out – “But you don’t act gay.” Where in the world would people get that notion if they didn’t get a message about what it means to be gay that wasn’t particularly narrow? Such a response can’t be borne out of a message that does in fact convey diversity within the community… So forgive me for pushing back against the notion that the gay community isn’t portrayed as monolithic and doesn’t, complicity, embrace that stereotypical monolith to a (large) degree.

I intended to point out that the idea of an “ideal X” elusive to everyone, by means of a different yet similar example. I go on to ask if the same might be say for the ideal gay man. The point wasn’t to say “this is how it is for (some) gay men,” but rather, “this is the gay dream life socialized into gay men by their culture.” Many gay men have bought into the notion that “everyone is accepted,” when it’s simply not true. Unless you’re “gay enough,” you’re not accepted. That’s what this is about – people crying “accept me!” who themselves make clear distinctions about other people’s worth. I wasn’t attempting to describe your experience. I’m not sure how you got that from what I wrote

Perhaps the woke crowd is right – some in the gay community have achieved a status of privilege that is rather mainstream. Put another way, what purpose does pride serve if it’s no longer about standing up for inclusivity in the face if exclusion? Who is included, after all? Much like “All Lives Matter” doesn’t really mean “all,” it seems more and more that “acceptance” in the gay community is less and less about everyone and more and more about a narrowly defined, perceived ideal. Once heard about whiteness as the paradigmatic ideal for humanity. Many things went into being “white” – of course skin color, but also wealth, employment, relationship status, intelligence, etc. So while you may have white skin, if you're a poor single man living in Appalachia in a rundown shake, you’re really not the picture of structural whiteness, even if you possess more privilege over against a black woman raising a family in center city Philly. Part of the ideal white human is cisgendered heteronormative masculinity. Could the “queer” side of that be what we’re dealing with here? Is there an ideal “gay man,” and fatness (along with other factors) simply don’t jive with it? Worth pondering...

My doctor has insisted weight is just a number among many, and not the most important measure of health. Apart from my weight (which is much higher than is outwardly considered “normal”), my stats are that of any other healthy person. My doctor monitors me and she says there’s no reason to be upset about my weight and size if my is doing okay according to all other diagnostics. It’s that sort of thing that makes me, and others like me, bristle at the notion that we’re unattractive because we send a subliminal message of being unhealthy. Just like every muscle jock isn’t a dolt or every twink an airheaded space cadet, not every fat* person is unhealthy. *I use the term “fat” quite openly to describe myself in this way because it’s true. It fat. If I were short, I’d say that. Same for left-handed. I’m fat and that as such is neither negative or positive. It’s how society has decided to socialize us, fat and not-fat people alike, around fatness.

I’ve actually thought about writing a book...in all seriousness.

I don’t have a desire to go to pride. From what I’ve heard, pride is like the school yard in middle school. No thank you. But I do have a desire to call out those shouting “Accept us!” and yet they don’t accept folks they’ve determined aren’t worthy of their acceptance because of something that’s a big part of who they are. Gay men respect three things: looks, money, and connections to power. If you’re going to be accepted, the trifecta is best. Looks will help a lot, money overcomes looks, and influence can get the money to buy the looks – for you and your sugar baby.

Thanks...if I had a dollar for every time someone made other people’s myopic intolerance into my problem to fix by going to the gym, I could get six tummy tucks and ass implants… The same logic could be applied to sexuality in general. Don’t like how the homophobic straight majority treats us? Put your gay dick in some pussy ya fairy...That or become a monk.

It’s amazing just how ugly a hot guy can become when you realize they’re an asshole...

That is true for some. Opposites attract, they say.

The issue is that many who are continually on the receiving end of being beaten down feel helpless to stick up for themselves. Instead of expecting the sidelined to wrangle their way in, perhaps we should consciously make the circle broader.

https://mensvariety.com/gay-fat-pride-lgbt-skipping/ This is as true as the sun rising in the east.

Perhaps a subconscious effort on our part to rationalize why he would expect get more than the market rate for his sexual skill – especially as that skill has yet to be substantiated beyond his word. His reviews are limited to non-existant on RM and on this forum, the extent of interaction with as reported on this forum has been inquiry, which hasn’t gone especially well for several of us. If you had a good experience communicating with him, good for you. Why don’t you hire him and report back to the rest of us if his exorbitant fees – not for his Ivy League education apparently, we’re not allowed to think that – are worth it? Maybe he’s Zeus come down from Olympus and we’re all just failing to believe ahe god of god is among us.