Charlie

Another one whose Map Me location is shown as City Hall.

In defense of the OP, I think many of these answers have distorted the obvious meaning of his original post and his later attempt at clarification: "Who was available as a provider at some time in your lifetime whom you did not hire because of lack of funds, but if you could return to that time now with virtually limitless money, whom would you hire?" It was not a question about who in history would you pay any amount to induce him to have sex with you. That is worth a separate topic.

If you were going this week, I would say forget Palm Springs: the high temperature here today is forecast to be 118 degrees. However, in 5 weeks I hope it will be better.

Love and marriage may go together like a horse and carriage, but sometimes the horse wants to be unharnessed and frolic with a mare that catches his eye. My partner and I were happily married, but I was nevertheless sexually attracted to a variety of men, though not interested in a romantic relationship with them. We agreed from the start that ours would be an "open" marriage, so both of us had occasional sex with other men when circumstances were suitable. Back then, the commercial open marketplace for gay sex didn't exist, except for street hustlers, who usually were not my type. As we aged, opportunities for sex with attractive men became very limited. Then one day, I happened to be alone in NYC, and in the Advocate I saw an ad for a sex service. Curious, I went to the address, told the man at the desk what I was in the mood for at that moment, and he directed me to a room to which he would send someone. I waited in the room for about ten minutes, and in walked a guy whom I could never have picked up cruising on my own. We had great sex, then I dressed and went back to the desk out front, and paid. Soon I learned about finding freelance providers on the Internet (I had just bought my first desktop computer), and from then on my only sex outside marriage was with the professionals, because it was quick and easy, with no danger of becoming emotionally involved with someone just because we had sex.

Sometimes what words one uses to express a feeling are important. "I love you" comes across differently from "I really like you," "I am very fond of you," "I feel a strong connection with you," "I enjoy your company very much." I am reminded of the SafeLite commercial in which the young man who responds to the worker who has just replaced his broken windshield with "I love you" as they shake hands, and the worker looks startled.

I wonder what Bruno looks like now.. He was adorable in the early '80s.

"I love having sex with you" is not the same "I love you"

Don't let that photo of Center City mislead you: you will need a car to get back and forth to his location way out on the Main Line.

Palm Springs is beginning to see the same problem, because the economy here has long assumed that there will be an influx of Canadian snowbirds every autumn. Airlines have already warned that tickets to SoCal aren't selling well this year.

I came out when I was 17 and still in high school (and, no, I wont tell you what year that was, soloyo215), so I could have legitimately claimed to be a twink, if sites like RentMen had existed in those days, but of course they didn't (because the Internet didn't exist).

Kissing is hard when wearing a mask like that!

I am reading West of the Revolution: An Uncommon History of 1776, by Claudio Saunt. While the Americans were fighting for independence from the British in the east, the Spanish and Russians were trying to expand their empires in what eventually became the western United States and Canada.

One thing that I only indirectly mentioned in my posts is that my lawyer recommends that a will name not only an executor, but an alternate if the executor named in the will is unable to execute it at the time of your death. In my case, I was lucky that my brother-in-law's daughter knows the full situation and was willing to be named in the will as alternate executor if her father can't perform the necessary duties when I die. The alternate should know how to access the same information that the primary executor needs to have.

Although William M and I lived for years in the same city, even the same neighborhoods, I didn't become aware of him until I joined this site, and I didn't recognize him as someone I had known in the many years I lived in Philadelphia. He never gave any indication that he recognized me either, although I had been reasonably active in the local gay community for many years (I was involved in the gay rights movement in the 1960's, and was active in community organizations during the AIDS crisis in the 80's). On this site we often disagreed with one another, generally on rather trivial subjects, but we never made any effort to meet or find out who "Charlie" and "William M" were in real life. It was clear from his posts that we were about the same age, so it wouldn't surprise me to learn that he has passed, like so many of my contemporaries. I wish I had seen MikeBiDude's post of that obituary, so I could have speculated on whether it could have been William.

The "Map Me" function is for Denver, and I don't see anything in the ad that indicates when he is in Palm Springs, even though he has a Palm Springs phone number and the reviews are from clients who claim to reside in Palm Springs.

I thought it was because gentlemen (G) always let ladies (L) go first.

"Bonnie Prince Charlie" (that's assuming I started advertising 60 years ago).

Even a family member may not already know important information, like what possessions need to be disposed of that are not specifically mentioned in the will, where important documents and items are stored, the status of things like mortgages and loans, etc. Such information should not only be discussed with a potential executor, he/she should also be given a written list of such things.

As I mentioned before, when I asked my brother-in-law what financial compensation he would like for his work as executor, he declined to accept anything. I suspect it was because he knew the will itself already contained a substantial bequest for his young grandchildren's future education. I imagine many family members could be in a similar kind of situation in regards to a will, and would be reluctant to expect the kind of compensation that a professional would expect..

Picking a family member as executor should be as carefully done as anything else. Most people automatically choose a sibling or an adult child for the role, but I didn't have that option, since I had no siblings, and mine was a childless same-sex marriage. As an only child, my only relations in my generation were multiple cousins, but only two of them are still alive, both much younger females whom I haven't even seen in this century. However, my spouse had two surviving younger brothers, both of whom I had known and been friendly with since they were young men. The older one, who is also gay and has a law degree, might seem like the logical choice on paper, but he is my age, has a history of medical problems, and lives 3000 miles away from me; he probably wouldn't be able to take care of anything that needs to be done in person, especially if I live a lot longer. The youngest brother lives only half as far away from me and is accustomed to make visits; he also has a daughter who is a lawyer and is willing to be a back-up executor for her father. So although I feel less close to him emotionally, he was the better choice. But no matter how well you think you know the family member and you think he/she knows you, before making the will, one should have a long talk with the potential executor, making sure he/she is aware of all the duties and expectations in your specific situation, and is willing and able to perform them.

I have recently dealt with these issues. I was executor of my late spouse's estate; the alternate executor--if I were unwilling or unable to perform--was one of my spouse's brothers. Because I was the sole beneficiary of my spouse's estate as well as executor, I was told by our lawyer that probate was unnecessary, and the settlement has gone smoothly, albeit with a lot of paperwork. Since my spouse was named executor in my will, I had to make a new will after he died. The same brother-in-law agreed to become the executor of my will, and his daughter is named the alternate if he is unwilling or unable to perform (she is a lawyer and quite competent). Both of them rejected my offer of financial compensation for their duties. There are several beneficiaries named in my new will, none of them related to me by blood, but since I have no family of my own and owe no debts, I don't expect it to be contested by anyone, but I can't be sure that it will avoid probate.

I made a cup of coffee with it an hour ago, and it can't really compete with the fresh-brewed coffee I made yesterday, but it doesn't taste any different from what I remember Taster's Choice instant coffee tasting like years ago. So I might as well use it up rather than throw it away or put it back on the shelf. "Waste not, want not."

I have a landline phone and an an iPhone. My landline phone tells me the number of the person calling, and if I don't recognize it as someone I want to talk to, I just let it go automatically to voicemail after 4 rings. Almost all of the callers stop as soon as as they are directed to leave a message. My iPhone automatically silences call which isn't in my list of contacts, but keeps a list of the phone numbers from the silenced calls.

Novak's cancellation of his practice matches for the semi is not a good sign. He took a very awkward-looking fall near the end of his quarter-final, and there is speculation that he may have injured himself, which will make it really difficult for him to beat Sinner. I happened to see one of Taylor's first pro matches (I was with a close friend of mine, who was a friend of Taylor's mother), and he has come a lot farther than I expected, but I think that if Carlitos is at the top of his game, Taylor probably will not make the final. I wouldn't make a prediction about the final until I see what happens in both semis.

I was about to make a cup of coffee this morning, when I noticed an almost empty jar of Taster's Choice instant coffee at the back of the shelf. I checked the date on it, and it was November 2004. What do you think I should do?