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Thanks, everybody, for your feedback. I don’t see a single positive comment here so I’ll pass. Appreciate you. 

You got to be careful with some dancers there.  The songs (like a lot of strip clubs) are on a different system than the rest of the club and are shorter.  Do not go back there until a song is ending, if you go in the middle of a song, they count it.  Until you walk out of the area (not just the room) most keep counting songs.  Ive gotten in heavy arguments about this before.  Now when I've gone im more up front and use the method of having them ask at the end of each song if I want another.  If I decide to end it, I say no and then that prevents them from charging me for the 30 seconds I'm gathering my stuff to leave the room.  Not all of them are like this as I've had multiple that gave free extra songs.  Just be mindful of the game some play.

So I booked him in Philly. It was a mistake and I regretted it. To be clear, nothing went wrong. He was okay. Did his thing. “Check off and time to leave type” type of guy. No connection. No personality. He is a bit on the ‘diva’ side. If you’re into that type. I’m not into it.
He is calm and gentle. Doesn’t talk much. Awkward silences. But sort of rushes. Definitely a clock watcher.
He does NOT look like his pictures. They are all extremely photoshopped. He’s more closer to a twink. Just very different. He probably took those photos during his peak state and more photoshop on top of that. Be sure to manage your expectations if you want to book him. What you see is not what you get.
Overall, it’s not like he is a scammer. He came on time and did what he had to do and that’s sort of it. What’s weird is even though we didn’t have any negative exchanges, he blocked me too. Maybe deep down he knew I got caught off guard by how different he looked from his profile and therefore disappointed??? 
Bottom line, he is not worth it. My suggestion: Pass!

Contact Rentmen and explain the situation they will leave the review for you. It happened to me once, within 1 hour of contacting RM the review was up. 

Communications easy by text.  Better than the pics (pics don't capture how handsome he is in person, and the body is better than pic 4, more like pic 1, 6, and 11-12).  Nice guy.
He's out only and massage was on my bed.  Admits to being self-trained from YouTube videos.  Massage, while vigorous (those muscles are real) and reinvigorating was incomplete and repetitive.  Uses a sports massage oil which is aromatic.  Limited sensual touches.
Nude throughout.  Was happy at the end.
Considering he charges the same as the outcall cost for guys with professional level skills, can't recommend unless he's your physical type.  I will say watching his muscles flex while he worked on my chest and the front of my legs was a helluva nice view.
 

Sharing because I found this interview informative and figured others might learn a thing or two from it as well. The doctor addresses gay men’s experiences with erectile dysfunction, covering physical factors (hormonal and cardiovascular conditions), psychological and emotional factors, cultural factors (politics of sex among gay men), etc.
 
 

Here are the highlights:
10 minutes in he asked if I was top or bottom but I told him I wasn’t looking for anything like that, just a massage. We agreed to a 60-min massage and the entire appointment was less than 30 minutes. His massage oil/lotion was just a giant tub of Vaseline. In the middle of the appointment he got a call from reception. Then a few minutes later, while I was naked on the bed, he answered the door to grab his McDonalds which he had ordered for dinner from Uber Eats. The icing on the cake was that he asked me to write a 5-star review about the experience. It took a lot for me to not laugh in his face. So that’s what you can expect if you decide to book an appointment with him. I dare you…

Very interesting discussion. Only got thru half but will revisit.

Sharing because I found this interview informative and figured others might learn a thing or two from it as well. The doctor addresses gay men’s experiences with erectile dysfunction, covering physical factors (hormonal and cardiovascular conditions), psychological and emotional factors, cultural factors (politics of sex among gay men), etc.
 
 

Agreed - I often chat with other clients on RM and other forums about their experiences and compare notes on the providers we’ve worked with.
My best advice across the board is to first be honest with yourself and then be upfront with potential providers about exactly what you want from the experience.
Finding others with similar tastes and preferences and makes it so much easier to avoid disappointments. That’s one reason I love this site! I actually met another member with the same predilections as me and we’ve had a few fantastic group sessions together and I’ve discussed doing the same with others here as well. We were just saying how nice it is to have peers in this space.

I tend to observe who in this Company recommends the same providers as I've enjoyed; then, see who else they recommend because we have similar tastes and expectations of a good time.

Very true. While I’ve found reviews to be helpful, I’ve had several profoundly different experiences from others, more often better but sometimes worse. We each have different appearances, perceptions, personalities and preferences and it’s only natural that we would have different experiences. My tip is to find a reviewer that you consistently have similar experiences and follow him. Conversely, I’ve tended to discount those that my experiences have been much different. I have a limited appetite for taking one for the team and look closely at reviews, here and elsewhere. 

Disappointing. Handsome guy - looks just like his pics. And nice, friendly. But the massage was lame: he just moved his hands lightly over my body for a while, then asked me to turn over (after maybe 20 minutes) and started fooling around. I would’ve been fine with that if it were more passionate and he would have gone farther. But absent that, I would have liked a real massage. 

I saw him not too long ago. Good for some things, not others. PM for details.

Since starting this thread, I’ve seen even more provider pics that suggest the use of fillers. I can only imagine the pressure these guys must feel to be as lengthy and girthy as possible, but the long-term effects to their bodies seem like a high cost to pay.

See this thread for insights:
 
He uses “Colombia” in his profile name, not “Columbia.” Anyone who searches with the latter might miss out on previous threads. 
 

See this thread for insights:
 
He uses “Colombia” in his profile name, not “Columbia.” Anyone who searches with the latter might miss out on previous threads. 
 

"A" is before Sepulveda's enhancement procedure; "B" is current, "filler" has shifted and lumped; his sac is enhanced with saline filler. 

https://rentmasseur.com/Jordanlatin
 
Anyone with firsthand experience that you’re willing to share?
 
There are 2 thread about him in The Deli (he has a rent men account), but neither includes insights from anyone who has met him. 

I recall the gentleman pictured on this rent men profile receiving mixed-to-unflattering reviews pre-COVID under at least 1 different screenname on rent men and rent masseur. Now, the rent men ad with his pictures has a 4.9 overall rating based on 49 reviews.
 
Does anyone know firsthand if (1) the pics belong to the actual provider and (2) if so, has he actually gotten better over the years?
 
Any firsthand insights—on this thread or through private message—will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
 
https://rent.men/HotMediterranean/#platinum
https://app.rent.men/HotMediterranean#platinum

I recently saw him. Like others, I found him friendly and easy on the eyes. The massage, however, was underwhelming. Lots of slow strokes in awkward directions, seemingly with little awareness of how the body responds to touch. I wanted to end it after 20 minutes but told myself, “Maybe the next part will get better.” Sadly, it did not. Oh well…. nice guy though.

This one has an axe 🪓 
 

@Charlie, @purplekow, @jeezifonly This thread made me realize that there’s no ❤️ reaction option on CoM threads. My blue thumbs ups are really ❤️

I saw this post making its rounds on social media and wanted to share it here.
To anyone reading this who falls into this category, I thank you.  🙏
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The Invisible Survivors: Long-Term AIDS Crisis Veterans
When we talk about the AIDS crisis today, we often frame it in past tense - a tragedy that happened, a war that was fought and, thanks to modern medicine, largely won. But for long-term survivors who lived through the darkest years of the epidemic, the war never really ended. They're still living on the battlefield, surrounded by ghosts, carrying wounds that most of us cannot see.
   The Lost Generation That Didn't Die
These are people who came of age in the late 1970s and early 1980s, who watched as a mysterious illness began claiming their friends, lovers, and neighbors. They saw the first obituaries in 1981 and 1982. They attended funeral after funeral throughout the 1980s and 1990s. They held hands as people they loved wasted away, often rejected by their own families, sometimes dying alone in hospital corridors because healthcare workers were too afraid to touch them.
Many of these survivors were diagnosed HIV-positive in an era when it was a death sentence. They were told they had months, maybe a year or two if they were lucky. They quit jobs, burned through savings, said their goodbyes, and prepared to die. They helped others die with dignity. They became experts in hospice care, funeral arrangements, and managing unbearable grief.
And then, miraculously, they didn't die.
   The Cruel Gift of Survival
The development of effective antiretroviral therapy in the mid-1990s, and later the Affordable Care Act's guarantee of coverage, gave long-term survivors something they never expected: a future. But it came at a devastating cost.
While their peers were building careers, buying homes, saving for retirement, and creating stable lives, these survivors were in survival mode. They have gaps in their work history that span years or even decades. They lack the professional networks, the retirement accounts, the home equity that people their age typically rely on. At 50, 60, or 70 years old, they're starting from scratch economically - if they can start at all.
Many are essentially unemployable. HR departments may not explicitly discriminate, but they notice the gaps in résumés. They see the subtle physical markers of long-term HIV infection and treatment. They calculate the cost of adding someone to the health insurance pool. Despite possessing extraordinary skills - crisis management, emotional resilience, caregiving expertise, the ability to function under unimaginable pressure - these survivors find doors closed.
   The Psychological Toll
Beyond the economic devastation lies something even more insidious: profound psychological trauma.
Imagine living for 10, 15, 20 years believing each fever might be your last, each moment of fatigue a sign that your body was finally giving up. Imagine watching everyone you loved die, often horribly, and knowing you would be next. That kind of sustained terror doesn't just disappear when the medications start working.
Long-term survivors suffer from PTSD, complex PTSD, depression, and anxiety at rates comparable to combat veterans. They have survivor's guilt. They have what some researchers call "traumatic grief" - mourning not just individual losses but the wholesale destruction of their entire social world. Some lost 50, 100, or more friends. Entire circles of support simply vanished.
Many never told their families what they were going through. They isolated themselves, hoping they would die quickly enough not to become a burden. They made plans for suicide as a backup, just in case their deaths weren't swift. They developed what one survivor described as "a panic which was the natural byproduct of the reign of terror this disease has been."
   The Community's Blind Spot
Perhaps most painful is the indifference they now face from the very community they belong to.
The LGBTQ+ community has, thankfully, moved forward. Younger generations grow up with PrEP, with marriage equality, with the ability to live openly in ways previous generations couldn't imagine. The nightmare is over for them.
But it's not over for long-term survivors. They remain trapped in that nightmare, living reminders of a past the community wants to forget. As one survivor put it: "There's no glamour, nothing sexy, and certainly little, if any, fun in this so our issues seem to be squarely placed in the middle of a blind spot."
HIV service organizations focus their resources on prevention and helping newly diagnosed people manage their health. These are crucial services, but they leave long-term survivors without support for their specific needs: economic rehabilitation, mental health treatment for AIDS-related trauma, job placement programs, and community recognition.
Long-term survivors gave everything during the crisis. They cared for the dying. They fought for research funding and compassionate treatment. They kept the community together when it was being decimated. They survived when survival seemed impossible.
Now they need help catching up to the lives they couldn't live while they were busy helping others die and preparing to die themselves.
   What They Need
Long-term AIDS survivors aren't asking for pity. They're not asking to be forever dependent on public assistance. They're asking for:
- Economic support programs tailored to their unique situation - job training, placement assistance, and help building the financial security their peers had decades to create
- Mental health services specifically designed for AIDS trauma, provided by professionals who understand the unique nature of surviving a genocide that targeted your community
- Recognition from HIV organizations and the LGBTQ+ community that the war isn't over for everyone, and that those who fought longest deserve ongoing support
- A chance to remake their lives into something meaningful, to honor the friends they lost by finally being able to live fully themselves
   Why This Matters to All of Us
The story of long-term AIDS survivors isn't just LGBTQ+ history. It's human history. It's a story about what happens when society abandons its most vulnerable people, and about the extraordinary resilience of those who survive anyway.
These survivors have skills our world desperately needs. They know how to show up in a crisis. They know how to care for people without judgment. They know how to maintain hope in hopeless situations. They know how to build community when everything is falling apart.
We owe them more than we can ever repay. But we can start by seeing them, hearing them, and creating the support systems they need to finally, after decades of mere survival, truly live.
The AIDS crisis isn't over. It's just evolved. And its longest-serving veterans deserve better than to be forgotten in the blind spot of our collective memory.
-If you are a long-term survivor reading this, please know: Your life matters. What you endured matters. What you lost matters. And what you still have to give matters. You deserve support, recognition, and the chance to build the life you couldn't build when you were too busy surviving.
Edward Kimble