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heads-up on the spread of a drug-resistant strand of shigella among queer men
https://www.advocate.com/health/sexual-health/what-is-shigella#rebelltitem2
 

If you are taking it from more than one top and he is hitting bottoms around the room, you can definitely be infected if he is not cleaning off between bangs.  So the wise thing is to make sure he is cleaned off properly, use a condom, or not participate in these activities.  As the last two are unlikely, you need to ensure that he has cleaned up and the best way to do that is to clean him yourself with an antibacterial soap and a thorough wash and dry.  

heads-up on the spread of a drug-resistant strand of shigella among queer men
https://www.advocate.com/health/sexual-health/what-is-shigella#rebelltitem2
 

Well, just finished Ep3. This series certainly keeps one at the edge of their seat!

Just saw Ep 2. Wasn't expecting any of that.

heads-up on the spread of a drug-resistant strand of shigella among queer men
https://www.advocate.com/health/sexual-health/what-is-shigella#rebelltitem2
 

Terrible joke…

I can see how these things happen, but I'll also say that a wise escort will always read the signs and put up non-awkward relationship roadblocks.

It can happen, but it’s best to check in with yourself from time to time, like you seem to be doing already. 
I’ve had clients express that they were starting to develop feelings for me. I always met them with appreciation, saying that feelings is normal. This type of work is built on connection and intimacy for many, so it can get confusing at times. 
I also talk about their needs and what I provide. If during our time together their needs change, then the question of professional compatibility arises. If being with me causes you more harm than good, am I still providing what you want? 
It’s a tough question to ask yourself, but rather than look at it like “oh I’m doing this again” maybe looking at it more objectively can help frame what’s going on? Like “oh I’m finding that I have new needs popping up that this provider can’t deliver on. Maybe it’s time for me to change things up”. 

I think most of us have fallen for a provider at some point or at least I like to think so to feel better about myself, LOL!.
In my case, it happened after a particularly hard breakup from an almost 10 year relationship. I was in a really bad place emotionally and returned to hiring as a coping mechanism to fill that void. Not the smartest decision I've ever made.
This particular provider pushed all the right buttons and really made me feel good. In my defense, he was excellent at manipulating me and played me like a master, but I don't place the blame on him since I should have known better. This went on for a little over a year. Deep down, I knew he was just playing me for money, but I chose to ignore the signs. As expected, I ended up paying for my mistake both financially and emotionally.
The financial loss was significant, but the emotional devastation was even harder to deal with. It took quite some time and professional help to recover but I learned my lesson.

I don't think you should feel bad about this @Rgsnva but some of the suggestions here may be worth exploring. 
Americans are experiencing an unprecedented epidemic of loneliness. I don't know your situation, but the cultural moment lends itself to people wanting to feel loved and connected. This could make you more likely to invest emotionally in your relationship with a provider. 
In addition to the suggestions above, perhaps you can invest more time in developing and deepening your relationships with friends so you're less susceptible to putting all your eggs in this provider's basket. 

You’re not the only one mate, I’ve been going to the same masseur for 4 years and even though I’m married and can never actually have anything with this guy, a part of me has this fantasy that I’m the kind of guy he would actually go for in real life even though I know I’m far from that. But for me our time even though it’s only a massage is something I look forward to every time I hire him, it’s a break from my real life I suppose. And even though In the moment with him it all feels so real I know that as soon as I leave his place it’s all over and he becomes just a figure in my mind.. I don’t think anything is wrong with having the fantasy but I often remind myself that it’s not real so I stay in reality and not get to attached. 

I had a very honest talk with a provider I’ve been seeing regularly.  I think it went  well.
Me: There have been things I wanted to say to you and ways I wanted to behave around you that I’m afraid might creep you out and turn you off.
Him:  I appreciate that regard and concern.  But you are free to speak and behave as openly and honestly as you are comfortable.  It does take alot to creep me out.  🤓 The only caveat I will offer is make sure you have firm understanding and control of your emotions.
Me:  I assure you, I know this is a fantasy.  A good one at that.
I promise you that I will never stalk you, I will not be the jealous possessive boyfriend. lol.
But in living out the fantasy,  I want to be able to say “I love you” and behave like I’m really “head over heels in love with you.”  I’m not saying the feeling is fake or real.  It is what it is… a fantasy.
Him: Feel free to be whoever and however you want to be  ☺️

I can say that this has never happened to me. It would 100% shock me if someone pulled their teeth out before sucking me off. 
However, if they advised me of it beforehand, I would have no problem with it at all. 
Like always - speak with your provider beforehand. We just want to know so that instead of being worried you have been offended by us being shocked 😯, we can just focus completely on your pleasure. Help us make it a seamless and pleasurable time for you. 
I had a guy take down his pants and reveal he had a fake leg and was amputated above the knee. No issue about that - but warning would be nice! 

I haven’t completely abandoned hiring, but I don’t do it nearly as often as I used to (so much so that sometimes it feels like I’ve quit). My reasons:
The frequency of poor-to-non-existent massage skills (since I primarily stick to masseurs), even from those who’ve received flattering reviews from others on this site The amount of time and effort it takes to “research” new potential providers every time my current go-to moves away, leaves the business, or offers increasingly underwhelming service My growing concerns as I get older about safety (especially with a new provider, given how physically vulnerable we can be as clients) and privacy (again, especially with a new provider) My desire (while there’s still time) for a more fulfilling intimacy with someone who might actually be into me, not my payment for service  

I haven’t completely abandoned hiring, but I don’t do it nearly as often as I used to (so much so that sometimes it feels like I’ve quit). My reasons:
The frequency of poor-to-non-existent massage skills (since I primarily stick to masseurs), even from those who’ve received flattering reviews from others on this site The amount of time and effort it takes to “research” new potential providers every time my current go-to moves away, leaves the business, or offers increasingly underwhelming service My growing concerns as I get older about safety (especially with a new provider, given how physically vulnerable we can be as clients) and privacy (again, especially with a new provider) My desire (while there’s still time) for a more fulfilling intimacy with someone who might actually be into me, not my payment for service  

Bumping. I, too, am curious about others’ experiences with Mingleo. It sounds like a cool idea, but since the ads I’ve seen have featured conventionally attractive guys in their 30s (and maybe early 40s), I wonder how different (if at all) it is from looks-based hook up apps.

I haven’t completely abandoned hiring, but I don’t do it nearly as often as I used to (so much so that sometimes it feels like I’ve quit). My reasons:
The frequency of poor-to-non-existent massage skills (since I primarily stick to masseurs), even from those who’ve received flattering reviews from others on this site The amount of time and effort it takes to “research” new potential providers every time my current go-to moves away, leaves the business, or offers increasingly underwhelming service My growing concerns as I get older about safety (especially with a new provider, given how physically vulnerable we can be as clients) and privacy (again, especially with a new provider) My desire (while there’s still time) for a more fulfilling intimacy with someone who might actually be into me, not my payment for service  

I haven’t completely abandoned hiring, but I don’t do it nearly as often as I used to (so much so that sometimes it feels like I’ve quit). My reasons:
The frequency of poor-to-non-existent massage skills (since I primarily stick to masseurs), even from those who’ve received flattering reviews from others on this site The amount of time and effort it takes to “research” new potential providers every time my current go-to moves away, leaves the business, or offers increasingly underwhelming service My growing concerns as I get older about safety (especially with a new provider, given how physically vulnerable we can be as clients) and privacy (again, especially with a new provider) My desire (while there’s still time) for a more fulfilling intimacy with someone who might actually be into me, not my payment for service  

While I’m still actively hiring, I have to agree with @Pensant. The drop in quality lately has been pretty discouraging. Sometimes the amount of time wasted searching and filtering through disappointing experiences honestly makes me feel like giving it up altogether.

I have to be in a very particular mood now to hire, which I noticed is slowing down. This is true even with guys I have had a great time with. 

In Junior High I had a Science Teacher who also was the Track Couch.  This was back when "OP Lightning Bolt" shorts were popular with guys....corduroy and short lengths 🥵.....which he pretty much wore every day and some days he'd go commando.  When we were running, we all wore those skimpy Dolphin Shorts back in the day.  He would lead us in stretches before running and I would always try to get front row because often times, he'd go commando and his furry cock would flop out the leg or the leg was wide enough you could clearly see it.  When he'd run with us and wear those skimpy shorts, sometimes commando too...I was always watching him flop around.  We'd have to shower after and while he didn't shower with us, he did change in front of us.  He was 6' tall, probably 180 lbs (Total Fox/Otter Body) and really furry...from the full head of hair, big full beard, chest, bush and legs.    Going through puberty at this same time... I am convinced this made me realize I was gay.  Good times...😈

It was definitely 8 inches flaccid! I never knew a cock could be that large! If I had any doubts about being gay, my attraction to his large tool, sealed the deal! LOL 😝 

Isn’t it funny what details we remember from such brief encounters!