Muscle_Admirer

I saw LJ last year while he was traveling. While some say his massage skills are hit or miss, they were excellent for my requirements.  He was kind, engaging, and eager to please. He's VGL in person - photos don't do him justice.  I recall that booking required some patience and persistence, but in my opinion, it was absolutely worth it.  Good luck! 

I saw LJ last year while he was traveling. While some say his massage skills are hit or miss, they were excellent for my requirements.  He was kind, engaging, and eager to please. He's VGL in person - photos don't do him justice.  I recall that booking required some patience and persistence, but in my opinion, it was absolutely worth it.  Good luck! 

You are such a charming young man!  Your polite and thoughtful interactions with your fans are what I like most… though your look and glowing endorsements don’t hurt either 😉.  I’m hoping to take a detour through Austin around your visit dates.  If it works out, I’ll be in touch.

You are such a charming young man!  Your polite and thoughtful interactions with your fans are what I like most… though your look and glowing endorsements don’t hurt either 😉.  I’m hoping to take a detour through Austin around your visit dates.  If it works out, I’ll be in touch.

You are such a charming young man!  Your polite and thoughtful interactions with your fans are what I like most… though your look and glowing endorsements don’t hurt either 😉.  I’m hoping to take a detour through Austin around your visit dates.  If it works out, I’ll be in touch.

I've never really taken the time to introspectively explore my feelings for other men until recently. What I've realized is that I'm simply not wired for traditional monogamy. In past romantic relationships, I usually feel genuine attraction and affection for the first six months to a year. But after that, the intensity fades, things start to feel routine, and I find myself craving variety and newness. It's not that I stop caring about my partner… it’s just that the spark becomes dull for me, and I need something fresh to feel fulfilled.  I think this transition is traditionally seen as the evolution of love, but I’ve never experienced it as being mind-blowingly intense as I’ve seen it described on occasion.
This pattern is ultimately what led me to transactional connections with escorts. For me, it’s a clean, no-strings-attached way to meet an immediate intimate need. Hiring ensures that I can select a top-notch partner on my terms.  I can connect with an attractive person for a short time, compensate them fairly, and then go on with my life without expectations or complications. It works well with how I’m built.
I do enjoy kissing in the moment because it feels good during physical intimacy, but I’ve never experienced it as something that creates deep emotional bonding. Once the encounter ends, I feel satisfied and complete. Because of this, I don’t believe I’ve ever truly been “in love” in the lasting, enduring way many people describe. What I’ve felt in romantic relationships has been closer to strong affection or infatuation. That excitement tends to wear off after a while, and the connection usually settles into something more like a close friendship in the context or a romantic relationship.
This is simply how intimacy and love have shown up for me.  I’m curious how others have experienced the intersection of romantic love, physical desire, and emotional needs… especially in relation to our shared hobby.

If he looks anything like his photos, I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s a $500/hr guy. What’s unusual is that while he lists himself as straight, he still takes the time to detail quite a few 'intos'…something that isn’t typical for those fly-by-night 'straight dude' profiles. This gives me a little hope that he’s actually an Adonis guy who knows the score.

I've never really taken the time to introspectively explore my feelings for other men until recently. What I've realized is that I'm simply not wired for traditional monogamy. In past romantic relationships, I usually feel genuine attraction and affection for the first six months to a year. But after that, the intensity fades, things start to feel routine, and I find myself craving variety and newness. It's not that I stop caring about my partner… it’s just that the spark becomes dull for me, and I need something fresh to feel fulfilled.  I think this transition is traditionally seen as the evolution of love, but I’ve never experienced it as being mind-blowingly intense as I’ve seen it described on occasion.
This pattern is ultimately what led me to transactional connections with escorts. For me, it’s a clean, no-strings-attached way to meet an immediate intimate need. Hiring ensures that I can select a top-notch partner on my terms.  I can connect with an attractive person for a short time, compensate them fairly, and then go on with my life without expectations or complications. It works well with how I’m built.
I do enjoy kissing in the moment because it feels good during physical intimacy, but I’ve never experienced it as something that creates deep emotional bonding. Once the encounter ends, I feel satisfied and complete. Because of this, I don’t believe I’ve ever truly been “in love” in the lasting, enduring way many people describe. What I’ve felt in romantic relationships has been closer to strong affection or infatuation. That excitement tends to wear off after a while, and the connection usually settles into something more like a close friendship in the context or a romantic relationship.
This is simply how intimacy and love have shown up for me.  I’m curious how others have experienced the intersection of romantic love, physical desire, and emotional needs… especially in relation to our shared hobby.

I've never really taken the time to introspectively explore my feelings for other men until recently. What I've realized is that I'm simply not wired for traditional monogamy. In past romantic relationships, I usually feel genuine attraction and affection for the first six months to a year. But after that, the intensity fades, things start to feel routine, and I find myself craving variety and newness. It's not that I stop caring about my partner… it’s just that the spark becomes dull for me, and I need something fresh to feel fulfilled.  I think this transition is traditionally seen as the evolution of love, but I’ve never experienced it as being mind-blowingly intense as I’ve seen it described on occasion.
This pattern is ultimately what led me to transactional connections with escorts. For me, it’s a clean, no-strings-attached way to meet an immediate intimate need. Hiring ensures that I can select a top-notch partner on my terms.  I can connect with an attractive person for a short time, compensate them fairly, and then go on with my life without expectations or complications. It works well with how I’m built.
I do enjoy kissing in the moment because it feels good during physical intimacy, but I’ve never experienced it as something that creates deep emotional bonding. Once the encounter ends, I feel satisfied and complete. Because of this, I don’t believe I’ve ever truly been “in love” in the lasting, enduring way many people describe. What I’ve felt in romantic relationships has been closer to strong affection or infatuation. That excitement tends to wear off after a while, and the connection usually settles into something more like a close friendship in the context or a romantic relationship.
This is simply how intimacy and love have shown up for me.  I’m curious how others have experienced the intersection of romantic love, physical desire, and emotional needs… especially in relation to our shared hobby.

I agree providers have every right to refuse service to anyone. The most successful ones, however, tend to be direct about the clients they prefer. What irks me is the lack of transparency here: an age requirement that appears and disappears, aesthetic preferences delivered with a wink. We can all get rejected on Grindr or Scruff for free. But when a potential client follows every step, including submitting a photo and is willing to pay the requested fee, presumably stays respectful and direct, and still gets turned away for no clear reason, it doesn't just reek of hookup culture… it's simply bad business.  This is a business no?

Semantics and definition of a business aside, consent is absolute and I never stated otherwise.  My point was narrower - clear  upfront expectations of potential clientele may help potential clients determine if they should even approach a particular provider or move on to someone else.  Your time availability as stated in your RM profile (8am - 10pm local) is a perfect example of this.  I know before contacting you that your off time is between 10pm and 8am the next day.  However, I wouldn’t have known a photo was required or an age limit was set if I hadn’t read it here in this forum from persons that didn’t take/make the cut.  In my view, clarity saves needless exchanges that oftentimes don’t go well.  As the cliche goes, clear is kind.
No advice given, just setting the record straight when being accused of setting aside human dignity and consent via a Taco Bell analogy… for asking questions of all things.  Moving on.

Semantics and definition of a business aside, consent is absolute and I never stated otherwise.  My point was narrower - clear  upfront expectations of potential clientele may help potential clients determine if they should even approach a particular provider or move on to someone else.  Your time availability as stated in your RM profile (8am - 10pm local) is a perfect example of this.  I know before contacting you that your off time is between 10pm and 8am the next day.  However, I wouldn’t have known a photo was required or an age limit was set if I hadn’t read it here in this forum from persons that didn’t take/make the cut.  In my view, clarity saves needless exchanges that oftentimes don’t go well.  As the cliche goes, clear is kind.
No advice given, just setting the record straight when being accused of setting aside human dignity and consent via a Taco Bell analogy… for asking questions of all things.  Moving on.

Semantics and definition of a business aside, consent is absolute and I never stated otherwise.  My point was narrower - clear  upfront expectations of potential clientele may help potential clients determine if they should even approach a particular provider or move on to someone else.  Your time availability as stated in your RM profile (8am - 10pm local) is a perfect example of this.  I know before contacting you that your off time is between 10pm and 8am the next day.  However, I wouldn’t have known a photo was required or an age limit was set if I hadn’t read it here in this forum from persons that didn’t take/make the cut.  In my view, clarity saves needless exchanges that oftentimes don’t go well.  As the cliche goes, clear is kind.
No advice given, just setting the record straight when being accused of setting aside human dignity and consent via a Taco Bell analogy… for asking questions of all things.  Moving on.

I agree providers have every right to refuse service to anyone. The most successful ones, however, tend to be direct about the clients they prefer. What irks me is the lack of transparency here: an age requirement that appears and disappears, aesthetic preferences delivered with a wink. We can all get rejected on Grindr or Scruff for free. But when a potential client follows every step, including submitting a photo and is willing to pay the requested fee, presumably stays respectful and direct, and still gets turned away for no clear reason, it doesn't just reek of hookup culture… it's simply bad business.  This is a business no?

I agree providers have every right to refuse service to anyone. The most successful ones, however, tend to be direct about the clients they prefer. What irks me is the lack of transparency here: an age requirement that appears and disappears, aesthetic preferences delivered with a wink. We can all get rejected on Grindr or Scruff for free. But when a potential client follows every step, including submitting a photo and is willing to pay the requested fee, presumably stays respectful and direct, and still gets turned away for no clear reason, it doesn't just reek of hookup culture… it's simply bad business.  This is a business no?

I agree providers have every right to refuse service to anyone. The most successful ones, however, tend to be direct about the clients they prefer. What irks me is the lack of transparency here: an age requirement that appears and disappears, aesthetic preferences delivered with a wink. We can all get rejected on Grindr or Scruff for free. But when a potential client follows every step, including submitting a photo and is willing to pay the requested fee, presumably stays respectful and direct, and still gets turned away for no clear reason, it doesn't just reek of hookup culture… it's simply bad business.  This is a business no?

I agree providers have every right to refuse service to anyone. The most successful ones, however, tend to be direct about the clients they prefer. What irks me is the lack of transparency here: an age requirement that appears and disappears, aesthetic preferences delivered with a wink. We can all get rejected on Grindr or Scruff for free. But when a potential client follows every step, including submitting a photo and is willing to pay the requested fee, presumably stays respectful and direct, and still gets turned away for no clear reason, it doesn't just reek of hookup culture… it's simply bad business.  This is a business no?

I have to say that CoM is simply not the right place for providers to advertise. Far too often it turns into exactly what we’re seeing in this thread: a provider getting defensive in front of potential clients, which ends up harming their own brand…usually unintentionally.  The fact that these threads are public on the internet means the reach… and negative impacts may be unfathomable.
My unsolicited suggestion is that providers treat CoM like a scalpel, not a mallet. Drop in occasionally to say hello to your fans, answer questions you’re comfortable answering publicly, and keep the actual advertising on the paid websites where it belongs.
The few providers who remain consistently active here seem to have quickly learned that arguing with or disparaging a whole forum of clients is bad for both their mental health and their bottom line.

I have to say that CoM is simply not the right place for providers to advertise. Far too often it turns into exactly what we’re seeing in this thread: a provider getting defensive in front of potential clients, which ends up harming their own brand…usually unintentionally.  The fact that these threads are public on the internet means the reach… and negative impacts may be unfathomable.
My unsolicited suggestion is that providers treat CoM like a scalpel, not a mallet. Drop in occasionally to say hello to your fans, answer questions you’re comfortable answering publicly, and keep the actual advertising on the paid websites where it belongs.
The few providers who remain consistently active here seem to have quickly learned that arguing with or disparaging a whole forum of clients is bad for both their mental health and their bottom line.

I have to say that CoM is simply not the right place for providers to advertise. Far too often it turns into exactly what we’re seeing in this thread: a provider getting defensive in front of potential clients, which ends up harming their own brand…usually unintentionally.  The fact that these threads are public on the internet means the reach… and negative impacts may be unfathomable.
My unsolicited suggestion is that providers treat CoM like a scalpel, not a mallet. Drop in occasionally to say hello to your fans, answer questions you’re comfortable answering publicly, and keep the actual advertising on the paid websites where it belongs.
The few providers who remain consistently active here seem to have quickly learned that arguing with or disparaging a whole forum of clients is bad for both their mental health and their bottom line.

@BrazilianDOM This is a forum where members share information and provide feedback about providers. This enables us to make informed decisions as we go about pursuing our favorite avocation.
There is absolutely nothing demeaning, ridiculing, speculative, or unnecessarily cruel (all your words) when longtime COM members point out some of your questionable business practices (although, as with everything else, that will be up to the discretion of the site moderators).  Many of these posts are by longtime COM members with unquestionable credibility who have had personal interactions with you. In this case, Bozo finds it tremendously valuable to know that you: bombard potential clients' in-boxes with solicitations after clicking on your ad; are a frequent name-changer; and in at least one instance, failed to return a deposit and then blocked the guy. 
All of the posts on this thread seem to be fair and legitimate. There is no reason to get defensive. Just put on your big-boy pants and use it as a learning tool.
You are both very hot.
Best of luck.

BTC
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When addressing someone personally, then NO. A critique shouldn't be dehumanizing. Unfortunately this forum is not directly addressing providers but rather discussing them with the assumption that they arent here. So the things that happen will be that escorts/masseurs will be discussed sometimes as more of a commodity and with less humanity. Any "dehumanizing" effect is a matter of the bluntness of that critique which may sometimes include ridicule for clumsiness in presentation. (Which is the case with BrazilianDOM). My suggestion to him/them is to either grow a thicker skin or find another career. No one is throwing stones to humiliate but rather bluntly commenting on the obvious failures of their marketing. 
To @BrazilianDOM - The majority of gentlemen here are opposed to deposits. So don't even bother to try and convince anyone otherwise or defend your opinion. Its been discussed here (ad nauseum) and the consensus is always AGAINST hiring anyone who asks for deposits. Don't take it personally, its just a matter of SO many advertising con-artists making the tactic untenable.

I had a couple of sessions with CHI_Jock back when he was going by DTX_Jock a few years ago. From what I recall, he was pretty tough to pin down, especially when setting up our first meeting.  It was mostly related to his travel logistics.  Since I typically host, I have no problem arranging an Uber if transportation is an issue.
Nothing about our correspondences felt off, he simply seemed a bit absentminded or distracted (I could never quite tell which). I ended up repeating myself several times over text, which was odd. To his credit, once we finally settled on a date and time, he was extremely punctual and even arrived early for our second visit.
At that point he was doing massage only, and he was quite good at it (as an amateur)…very interactive, engaged, and attentive. As everyone else has said, he’s incredibly good-looking, he has a body and ass to die for 🤤, is a little shy, and has a beautifully deep voice.  I got the sense that he sometimes felt unsafe with clients, so I went out of my way to make him comfortable. He responded really well to that, and something about him genuinely brought out my nurturing side which on occasion, with the right provider, enhances my experience.
Aside from the booking challenges, I wouldn’t hesitate to see him again…maybe on my next trip to Chicago.

I haven’t personally met him, but I do know that he’s been on escorting sites for years (perhaps under various names) and is probably much older than 23 if that matters to you.

I’ve made a similar (but tamer) observation about masseurfinder.com… they’ve only recently started allowing shirtless pics. So there I am, innocently scrolling for legitimate therapeutic details like technique and setup, when I get ambushed by images of perfect pecs and rippling abs. The sheer nerve… 
On a serious note, it’s certainly safe to assume that if the masseur is showing skin, he’s enticing you to indulge in his erotic services OR is a cocktease…YMMV.  Sometimes it’s a total surprise.  I once had a very attractive, fully clothed masseur give me a mind-blowing, legitimate massage then towards the end was obviously aroused and eager add some heat to our session… which I enthusiastically encouraged.  I do enjoy surprises the most.