SirBillybob

I wouldn’t share deets and my personal take on a provider with an unknown third party unless I was prepared for it to go full circle. Even if they were positive comments it could come across as spilled tea, as there’s no control over context, and possibly bite me in the ass. In many cases the inquirer is a fuss-budget and mostly wishes to compare what you got with what he could get out of a booking. If you can’t figure out on your own how to vet and whether to take a leap then this hobby is not a good fit for you. I also have no desire to have a good cultivated relationship compromised by being somehow linked to a client that proved to be undesirable. My tribe does not at all consist of apparently polite strangers. I also have no problem with myself being a nobody in that regard.

Search “prostate cancer receptive anal sex” to access a few good scholarly articles pertinent to gay men. One consequence of prostate removal is that after it’s done there’s no option to backtrack to less radical approaches that may have been worth exploring. Few Urology programs and urologists will take the time to package patient education that comprehensively reviews the decision tree of progressively greater complexity with the developing emergence of novel prostate cancer management. Particularly if you’re older the assumption may be that you’ve had a good sexual run and the path of least resistance is removal because it’s such an established procedure. My urologist does not refer for brachytherapy or focused laser ablation. You accept his suite of options and like it or lump it. Fortunately, I haven’t been confronted with such a step and needing to undertake searching for an alternative that would likely involve inconvenient travel. Anecdotal reports … wait for it … of robust sexual enjoyment along with $3.50 might get you a bottle of Evian that might increase semen volume you may not actually visibly perceive, but won’t predict your own post-op sexual experience. I do think that if you are already inclined to an erogenous orientation with your skin and brain front and centre erotically as bona fide sexual organs, and not strictly genital-centric, then that portends a better outcome following prostatectomy.

No low pressure system allowed.

Hummm … he is misrepresenting prostate health surveillance guidance but I suppose it’s not so bad since physicians know the deal about the applicability of digital rectal exam and prostate-specific antigen in terms of flagging irregularities. One conundrum is putting in bold relief blundering inadequacies. Besides, if hamburgers are to be subject to portion control don’t otherwise threaten deprivation of a harmless good time while simultaneously encouraging opening up.

The idea that paid sex surrogacy defines clients as being low on the dateable continuum is one that clients may harbour and work at resolving. That the escort constituency may directly or indirectly manifest that view is of manipulative value to them; yet it isn’t uniform within that group. Simplistically, if you are old, paid intimacy is easily conflated with ageism on the one the one hand, or on the other hand objectification of paid others, depending on collective membership and bias regarding commercial sex work. If non-role prescribed denigration spills out, the easiest and laziest slur relates to paying; the only potential being loss, a loser. Ideal psychological resolution is zero sum, in which the idea of the dating pool analogy for objective worth has no real relevance. Money as appealingly compensatory stands in for other attributes that conventionally increase dateability. As a collective, some clients’ identity representation is bound up in personal sexual agency and it’s apparent lacking, the aforementioned grade of appeal aspect, while other clients may have conventional game capable of attracting non-transactional sexual experiences. Or circumstances unrelated to the trend of devaluing others based on age and stereotypes of sexiness may dictate hiring. The slur is tangential and essentially absurd. Who knew that dining out solo when invited to home-cooked dinner is preferred cloaks one as pathetic? Paid intimacy is also accompanied by the fantasy/reality dichotomy, no need to elaborate here. Race play (assuming BDSM elements, as opposed to non-BDSM sex partner race preference in which conceptual overlap may occur) conflates racism with a fantasy/reality dichotomy wherein some aspect of race is eroticized, arguably fused with the concept of power. This forum is oriented to commercial sex but I’m not sure how the notion of tran$actional sex advances a discussion of race play, particularly if attitudes that devalue punters seep in, but notwithstanding that cash cannot be decoupled from power. It’s already so complex and controversial.

Yes.

This reinforces the long held idea that the best thing about porn is choice.

As somebody already indicated, they can. I think you are wondering about a contradiction between stated boundaries and apparently demonstrating greater flexibility in harm reduction at the booking or meeting stage. The practice guidance emphasizes having methods for negotiating out of condomless sex if the context warrants it. Some sex workers understandably frame this dynamic upfront from a point of being uncompromising so that there are no surprises regarding the prohibition yet may be open to relaxing it. While some may upsell the greater risk as a way to earn more, others may do so in order to discourage unprotected sex, neither strategy necessarily taking precedence overall. As a condom is the only truly inanimate thing that I have fetishized to some extent, unwrapping, on me, on him, what have you, the sex worker need not insist on it.

As far as interaction goes, petal, yours is risk free for me. If you want to be someone that others are then inclined to handle, so be it. One would think you might be licking a few residual wounds and were reactive more to an implication of interpersonal deficiency than protesting writing style. If grandstanding helps restore equilibrium all the better. No skin off my teeth. But by all means do reveal what gets your goat because I’m not sure how you thrive. That said, relax, the topic theme was distrust and you had simply presented the idea of reading into somebody’s preference, one that you obviously honoured yet framed as curious, the possibility that their declaration had been misrepresented. This was in keeping with the thread. In fact, in some situations that type of attribution may uptick protectiveness beneficially. In actuality, sex workers that access good prevention programs and know what’s up will aim for condom use. Perhaps that had already been emphasized upthread. Their risk factors are unique. My input wasn’t designed to shame, to negate that you complied with a decision within an encounter in which it seems you’d have opted for condomless intercourse having executed your due HIV prevention diligence on your side of the equation. By accommodating him you played a part in solidifying his comfort with his boundaries. Next.

The provider declining condomless insertive or receptive anal intercourse is following clinical guidance, attending to the education and recommendations that accompany best health systems counseling practices surrounding his PrEP testing for HIV and other STIs. With solid self-efficacy, his personal autonomy should override any concerns he might have that declining condomless intercourse leads to assumptions that the veracity of his HIV and PrEP status is questionable. I’d be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that his skills and experience inform him that no free pass is conferred by PrEP. If also reciprocally mistrustful on top of the non-culpable unknown, that fits neatly with the risk mitigation agenda inherent in his personal agency as a sex worker. With less than robust self-determination and prophylaxis intentionality he could be exposed to a bacterial or viral infection, or subsequently worry about it and/or suspend his commercial sex livelihood when in fact he might have preferred the enhanced protection.

The drop down menu covers the essential status options. What it cannot do, other than not being able to resolve intentional misinformation, is display a HIV-negative person’s possible actual positive status due to the lag time between an infection unbeknownst to the person because the person may have transmissible HIV prior to the evidence of seroconversion that informs the person accurately. PrEP is not treatment for diagnosed HIV infection. Similarly, PrEP status actual protection is not unambiguously known because there are high rates of community HIV infection incidence due to lapses in uptake adherence.

Empathic attunement, however, usually comes from a place of being other than the reference person or group to whom the intended support is directed. Otherwise it leans to commonality in identification. I think I picked up an angry flare that may provide a glimpse into how furious your perception of rejection makes you. You seem to have assumed the content creator was disingenuous, and that his own relationship is smooth. This isn’t to say anger isn’t legit or real but it can insidiously become characterological over time while not necessarily expressed or manifested, eg, vociferously, in the way typically expected. How do you mentalize the rejection? It is human to (harmlessly) fantasize retribution that may befall somebody in an attempt to balance the ledger. However, that can bleed into expectancies with respect to subsequent encounters and self-fulfilling prophecy. This is basic object relations theory in which need-meeting and need-withholding commences in infancy. Therapy is the place we should utilize to reveal the degree to which we aren’t always as nice as we aim to project.

OP, without necessarily stating your racial admixture as you seem reticent to do so, and since race has come up thematically a bit, could you try to elaborate on how you think this variable plays out in such a way as to obstruct access to men and to your stated intimacy desires? After all, you broke it down in your app project as an essential descriptor along with generic commentary about relational availability. You can be general about it as there is some degree of commonality in racially based selectivity that transcends the specificity of racial stratification, so you can cover some of this territory without an explicit personal racial pie chart. Additionally, to what degree can folks that meet you without context pinpoint the racial admixture that characterizes you? How well is it identifiable? If you politely disclose it what kind of responses do you get? Surprise, cliché? And would there be anything about your speech that sets you apart as being from away, as I think you mentioned a home town but I’m not sure if you immigrated to USA?

New book from Oxford University Press. Expensive and not all chapters relevant but at least try to read the free sample which is fairly generous in length.

Well, since you understandably wish feedback from consumers … I have only used on-demand since commencing PrEP about 7 years ago. The grade of evidence for protection is strong, see attached for the randomized control trial results that underpin on-demand legitimacy. In contrast to daily PrEP the strength of recommendation is weak. That difference is not based on efficacy. Rather, there is no placebo control research evaluating efficacy among those using PrEP sporadically due to being sexually active sporadically, that is, like you and me. What happened in the on-demand trial is that participants did not take PrEP daily but took on average about 15 doses monthly and that was close to the average monthly uptake (4 doses weekly) in studies of daily (intended to be daily adherence) PrEP. They planned for sexual activity quite frequently irrespective of having it or not. That also may account for the higher rate of renal adverse events than would occur for sporadic 2-1-1 users. Personally I do not conflate the two-pronged strong/weak versus strong/strong with one being better. It’s all in the reasonable tailoring. The difference is an artefact of the inability to logistically and ethically design research in which more accurate effectiveness across all sexual activity frequency groups could be calculated. It would have taken too long to follow and evaluate for infrequent users because background HIV incidence is too low compared to flu, coronavirus, other STIs, etc. Any study of efficacy requires a relatively poor outcome for some participants. The protectiveness of on-demand in gold standard research is also superior to the findings of retrospective research of the daily regimen. That said, I haven’t not used a condom for anal insertive or receptive in 40 years. I don’t consider PrEP as TGTBT since the probability of HIV infection over extremely long life periods of risky sexual activity is elevated and the trade-off is higher vulnerability to other STIs. Regarding dose loading, some guideline entities for daily PrEP are now stating 2 doses just as in on-demand, or the option of 7-day but inserting a one-time 2-dose uptake as in on-demand if the abstinence is not possible to sustain for the week.

Lauren Weedman is a private chef in Sirens (Netflix). I think the series was already touched upon in this subforum.

My fitness coach can spell my asshole.

As we say in my neck of the woods, a nice Registered Retirement Savings Plan contribution.

Of the dozens of cases reported in Europe over the past decade, TMVII occurred predominantly among men having sex with men, often multiple partners, the majority HIV positive or taking PrEP, although this is not to say that lack of condom use is a factor. Of the dozen Paris cases in 2021/2022 some during Mpox peak incidence were co-infected with Mpox. It is deemed to be transmitted through sexual activity and is challenging to treat. Of all of these cases there have been none that pose a strong contradiction to the assumption that the route of transmission is sexual with negligible crossover to the adult female population. That is why the original post referring to the single American case refers to it so. Temperature and humidity unknown.

Yes, I suppose it can seem, appear that his orgasms are as subjectively pleasurable as when he is having nontransactional off-the-clock sex that is optimal for him. The mutual benefit is anchored. I prefer to convey no preference for what transpires yet am frequently surprised by the breadth of what occurs. Simply put, something like “whatever happens over the next hour I’m pretty sure I’ll really like it”. The unpredictability is interesting, my arousal is a blend of internal and external locus of control because I could get off without the presence of a hire, and my sense is that being a repeat client without strong predetermined expectations enhances my client value. I don’t much link money quantity in absolute or contingency terms (the latter your perfectly sound playbook) with the typical sexual response elements for which other clients may grease the wheels monetarily. I certainly don’t harbour the notion that I’m a major source of the erotic ingredients that promote his ejaculation if and when that occurs, but I can grasp the importance of that client fantasy. Who doesn’t want to feel sexy where possible? Mutual orgasm is a desirable conventional goal in nontransactional contexts and understandably something that most wish to replicate. I cannot supply solid evidence for my belief that any upsell offer made by the sex worker derives from what clients have taught him they assume is linked to the value of orgasm. Yet the unique challenges of sex worker orgasm don’t eliminate that exchange trend. His conventional sexual partners will similarly also tend to view it as something they are deserving of. However, my particular needs are not set up in such a way as to reinforce it. Most importantly, I also find it emancipating to not be distracted during sex by evaluating the degree to which predetermined expectancies inextricably linked to my billfold are being met. I’m fairly convinced that monitoring in this way is ubiquitous in the hiring world and the concrete aspects of male genital function really push this tendency.

Here is a broader guidance tool applied nationally and laying out requirements for various categories of passport status. With rights come responsibilities. ProCoRe - Sexarbeit ist Arbeit PROCORE-INFO.CH Sexarbeit ist Arbeit

The rules and infrasupports are laid out very clearly. For example, this particular canton. All this detail and it merely covers Swiss or EU members. It’s Swiss efficiency and tidiness. Unless one is a client yet also a sex worker or pimp, it needn’t concern one. My little head isn’t on the hunt for licensing credentials and income tax declaration evidence. Obviously, many cannot easily meet the requirements, or as long a period of time per entry as hoped, and will run afoul of the regulatory structure whether caught or not. https://www.fr.ch/sites/default/files/2019-12/ANG_FAQ_canton Fribourg_LProst_conseils et orientation.pdf

It’s based on the first in a series of Danish novels and Danish films / series, so considerable potential for future adaptations. Goode is no Oldman but the strong supporting characters make it work. I‘ve seen him in too much of his filmography to detail but remember him particularly as Colin Firth’s tragic partner in A Single Man. It was going to be set in Boston not Edinburgh but then we wouldn’t have the Dept Head played by Kate Dickie chewing up the fucking scenery.

TMVII was reported as worthy of surveillance for MSM because its very rare incidence in France in 2022 and USA in 2024 was associated with that subgroup, in the context of reduced condom use, and was assumed to be transmitted skin-to-skin as opposed to fomite (non-organic surfaces). It was flagged because it was resistant to standard anti fungal treatment in some cases. In the event its occurrence were to have spread meaningfully it would have been important to treat aggressively based on visual presentation even if lab confirmation had been pending or inaccessible, as well as public service alerts due to the impact of awareness in mitigating incidence. Other similar fungal genotypes are actually more prevalent and can be difficult to treat but lack the distinction of incidence blips within sexually circumscribed subgroups such as actively sexual gay men. While an epidemiological anomaly, TMVII did not take off epidemiologically.

The form is designed poorly. If Bisexual is the third answer option then it should be called Straighty-Gaybe unless the other two options are stated as Heterosexual, Homosexual.