newatthis

...Interesting though, a side effect is that I am noticing a few things about certain cities and their hiring tendencies and behaviors because of all this....

Would you be willing to share what you've noticed (maybe "anonymously", like "in city A such and such, in city B, thus and so"...)?

The "only seeing once" stipulation is an interesting one. I've had an awesome first time with various guys, but often the second time has been less awesome. I can only conclude that, for me, there is an extra kick that comes from the excitement of meeting someone new.

A long -- very long -- time ago, I asked a similar question here. The most useful answer I received was to communicate the things I fantasize about, which would give an escort a place to start from.

... I asked a German classmate how to say "I don't speak German" in German...

I'm pretty good at mimicking accents as long as I keep to short phrases. I learned to say "I don't speak Turkish" in Turkish and "I don't speak Hungarian" in Hungarian. These invariably elicited a torrent of Turkish/Hungarian in response, which defeated the purpose of learning the phrases in the first place.

I have no problem with my French, which is even better than my Spanish. I think it actually intimidates Canadians, who respond to me in English even when I address them in near-perfect French. I remember some years ago that my traveling companion chuckled when the hotel employee in Quebec City, who was checking us in, told us in English "Your room is on the turd floor."

When I speak French in Montreal, people often assume I'm European, rather than American. Anyway, in the places where I hang out, the young men I'm speaking with are unlikely to respond in English.

Except perhaps in France where even if they know you’re learning French they’ll deride you until they can detect no accent what so ever. After all “Le monde civilisé tout entier parle français.”

Not my experience in France at all. Occasional attitude from Parisians, but IMO that's the big city thing, not unlike the attitude you sometimes get from New Yorkers.

Being the worker in this type of situation in the past, a nice flirty exchange can make work feel amazing!!!!

The waiters in the Montreal Village have got the flirting thing down perfectly...I'm sure they understand it increases their tips. But it's still lots of fun.

maybe this?

http://www.fu-ga-tokyo.com/English.html

Wow. Thanks. Any experience with them?

And is there anyone out there who can help translate the japanese pages?

Maybe a repeat... but I’m hooked on these Japan three ways

 

https://m.boyfriendtv.com/videos/425738/japan-threeway-massage/

Does anyone know whether the kind of massages depicted in this video are actually available to real, live humans in Japan?

https://rentmasseur.com/DominicVIP

 

He looks too good to be true! Does anyone have any experience with him? Thank you in advance!

aka https://rent.men/Private_Dancer

Confusing. Rentmen says Miami; Rentmasseur says Chicago. Hot in either place.

Maybe a repeat... but I’m hooked on these Japan three ways

 

https://m.boyfriendtv.com/videos/425738/japan-threeway-massage/

Does anyone know whether these represent something an ordinary person can book in Japan? (Probably should post this in the Asia forum...oh, well.)

...FWIW, I have occasionally had dancers give me their numbers so I could let them know when I'd be back at the club, or back in town. Or even just so we could get together and hang out.

That's a new one to me. When a dancer gave me his number, I always assumed it was a proposition to meet outside the club, and do more than hang out.

My assumption had always been the same as yours until a few years ago when I had a long, confusing, and convoluted phone conversation with a dancer that was resolved only when he realized I thought we were arranging an assignation. He told me he didn't do privates and had just wanted to hang out. To say I was embarrassed would be an understatement. Thankfully, he was very good at keeping me from feeling like a complete asshole. And he continued to be very generous in the back booths -- which is what had led to my assumption in the first place.

On the same subject... if a dancer gives you their number, is that a proposition?

Best way to find out is to ask him, n'est-ce pas? If it is, you still need to discuss where, when, what, and how much.

 

FWIW, I have occasionally had dancers give me their numbers so I could let them know when I'd be back at the club, or back in town. Or even just so we could get together and hang out.

...Apparently, the former Hyatt on the Place des Arts is now a Doubletree. ...It has had several owners, and each time they redo it, they give reduced prices for a while to attract customers. I think it is that time for Doubletree.

Indulge me in a walk down memory lane. When I first started frequenting Montreal, this hotel was transitioning from Wyndham to Hyatt. In those years, I often scored rooms (very nice rooms!) in the $40-60 range by bidding on priceline.

I used to use priceline when I visited Montreal and got very good 4* bargains at the standard hotels (Marriott, Hyatt, Intercontinental, ....) in town, all of which are a very short metro ride from the Village. (I like staying away from the Village to enjoy the rest of the city.) But under $100, even on priceline, is a thing of the past. More recently, I have been using airbnb with very good results. There are a number of Montreal hotel threads here that are worth checking out -- I recall someone had a good experience with a 3* close to the Village whose name escapes me. It was definitely not the Gouverneur/Dupuis, whose quality has been a subject of dispute in this forum for many, many years. (I have never stayed there and have no opinion.)

No, this is not a metaphysical thread.

My condolences. It's always sad to find that someone you felt close with but didn't have constant contact with has passed without you knowing.

Poolboy's statement brought to mind something I've thought about from time to time -- when I die, how will my friends on/from this forum be informed? This is a part of my life that is separate from my family and non-forum friends, so they can't do it. I know I'm not the only one here in this situation; has anyone else come up with a good solution?

 

Along the same lines, who is going to sanitize my computer after I die?

This has certainly been a lesson in context for me! ...

For me, too. WADR, I think many of the responses completely ignore the context of the original question (escort, african-american, clients, ...) and also miss an important statement in his 3rd paragraph: 'the language to follow usually isn’t appropriate nor does it come from a good place (i.e. “BBC,” theatrical interracial porn lingo).'

 

I do have one question, @hypothetically. You started by writing 'An increasing number of prospective clients are greeting me with “sir.”' Any idea of why the number is increasing now? Have your ads or pictures changed? Or is it something about the client population that has changed?

Occam’s Razor has a double edge. But, yes.

Did they have double-edged razors in Occam's time?

...Aside from that, there’s the bureaucracy and politics and unfortunately, popularity and being perceived as collegial that is part and parcel of academia. ...

That's got to be true of many professions, don't you think? (Time to dig up that old joke for the 2% who haven't heard it: why is academic politics so vicious? Because so little is at stake.)

I happen to be aware of the magnitude of the plight of academics. Some of my professors were not at all shy about broaching the subject. One straight up said that life is miserable for them before getting tenure. Another told us that they owe far more in loans than they bring in each year: “...Seriously, it’s not good.” The “publish or perish” aspect of it all was the most daunting to me when I considered it as a profession. They have to keep churning out literature to stay afloat in the estimation of their respective universities and the academic realm in general.

If you view doing the work that leads to publication as a chore, you're in the wrong profession, for sure. If you love the work, the publication is just a natural offshoot. (I'm using "publication" as a short-hand for whatever counts in your field -- articles in scientific journals, histories, paintings, ....)

...Where I live, there are numerous resources for STD screenings, all free, and government-funded.

And there are resources for free healthcare coverage for the poor, and the homeless too.

...

You are lucky to live in such a place. My reading leads me to believe there are many places where access to free STD screenings, etc. is very limited or far away (not unlike abortion in some states).

 

And it's not just rural Mississippi. Ten years ago, in the major metropolitan area where I live, it was possible to get free, anonymous STD testing within a few minute's drive of my house. Nowadays the closest place is a clinic about a half-hour's drive away (and longer by public transit, which is the better option given the parking situation). My doctor can also order the testing, but I bet there are many closeted or semi-closeted guys out there who would avoid that. The time it takes to get to the clinic probably deters some people from being tested regularly.

hehe...sorry, but have to do it...

Speaking of grammar, @newatthis, shouldn't item 4 in your list read: "And most importantly" ?

We could ask @lorenipsum.

:) I was actually truncating "most important to me." Internet speak. Hope to ask @lorenipsum in person sometime.

It was open October 4. Nice crowd, polite staff, dancers - blah

Anything more to say? Is the physical layout the same as Lux, for example (fairly private dance booths upstairs)? Is it meant for both men and women or is there a ladies' night? ....

Lots of thoughts about this thread....

1. Not everyone is a native speaker of English.
   
2. As already noted, your messaging or typing app may autocorrect or autocomplete in an unintended way that can be hard to catch.
   
3. On my reading list is "Because Internet" by Gretchen McCulloch. I've seen excerpts in reviews. Basic idea: texting is rapidly adding to and changing our language. An example: ending sentences with a period in texting connotes abruptness and can turn off your reader (I've verified that with teen-agers of my acquaintance).
   
4. And most important -- I've discovered loremipsum, aka Dante, whose RM ad is a gem. Now on my San Diego radar for sure.
   

Lots of thoughts about this thread....

1. Not everyone is a native speaker of English.
   
2. As already noted, your messaging or typing app may autocorrect or autocomplete in an unintended way that can be hard to catch.
   
3. On my reading list is "Because Internet" by Gretchen McCulloch. I've seen excerpts in reviews. Basic idea: texting is rapidly adding to and changing our language. An example: ending sentences with a period in texting connotes abruptness and can turn off your reader (I've verified that with teen-agers of my acquaintance).
   
4. And most important -- I've discovered loremipsum, aka Dante, whose RM ad is a gem. Now on my San Diego radar for sure.