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Oh yeah. I can vouch for Dax. Sexy and sweet. And talented.

I've had a great experience with Dax
 
https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/30019/
 
Not a traditional daddy, but great hands, awesome tattoos.

Blue cheese can be very polarizing.
 
I have made this salad a few times with an herbed mayo. Lemon juice helps thin the mayo and adds a nice zing.

Blue cheese can be very polarizing.
 
I have made this salad a few times with an herbed mayo. Lemon juice helps thin the mayo and adds a nice zing.

I should have been more specific: I have never been to the far north, like the Punjab and Kashmir. I have, of course, been to the places that I tend to think of as central, although they really are certainly north India, like Delhi, Agra, Rajastan, Varanasi, Khajuraho, Gwalior and Calcutta.

massage therapy center.- although it’s been years since I have been- is legit and has really qualified therapists. Not a Thai place. Higher prices and more spa quality. They have a small steam room I think.

North India is the home of Bollywood!
 
I am North Indian btw.

I have this in the UK all the time.
 
There are endless variations -- usually what hipsters would call farm-to-table and charge an exorbitant amount for.
 
I love mine with eggs, cheese, radishes. Oh and a good mustard.
 
I make a platter for parties and everyone oohs and ahhs at the "charcuterie." Much fancier than "ploughman's lunch."

I first visited India 1992 when I was 24 years old. I spent a month backpacking and visited Delhi, and Rajasthan (Jaipur, Udaipur, and Jaiselmer). Took a two day camel safari into the Thar desert. Hit by a sand storm in the middle of the night. Woke up to about 30 scorpions. Also visited Kashmir. I was young and dumb and didn’t realize how dangerous it was. I could hear a lot of gunfire. Stayed Ina beautiful old house boat. Waterskiing in Srinagar.
Ended the tour in Agra with the red fort and of course Tahj Mahal.
 
Went several times for work.
 
Then went again in 1997. Visited the south, Tamil Nadu and Kerala. Beautiful temples...shore temple, mahabalipurim.
Backwater tour of Kerala. Cochin was great. Visited an old synagogue.
 
Then Karnataka. Mysore palaces....Srabananbelaga...huge nude Buddha on top of a mountain. Amazing temples and caves....
 
I want to go back. Plus I think Indian men are gorgeous.

Khajuraho is indeed a very interesting site that shouldn’t be missed when touring India.

India is an amazing place. I'm heading back in December, but seeing Agra and New Delhi this time. Mumbai was fascinating and kinetic.
 
If I let local politics affect my yearning to see the world, I'd be like most Americans and just stay in the States.

I am an astute observer of life and human behavior -- it's actually part of what I do for a living.
 
Walker 1, I greatly respect the art of drag. At the risk of sounding cliche, one of my good friends is a successful drag queen. He -- and I'm not trying to offend by using that pronoun (as you see from previous posts I'm super sensitive when it comes to offending) -- has a super hot boyfriend. It's just not for me. No judgment there.
 
Likewise, going to a circuit party (whether it be in Palm Springs or Thailand) is not for me, regardless of it's racial make-up. Because honestly I wouldn't "pass" there either -- too many muscled, shirtless party boys. Not for me.
 
For lack of a better word, I'm very str8-acting. My gay friends joke that I don't remotely "ping." Sure, I act (or I should say am) that way I don't want to be gay bashed. But also, it's truly my personality -- masculine, non-flamboyant. Now that doesn't mean I'm toxic or homophobic. But it also doesn't mean I'm a bump on a log when I go out. Or a top lol.
 
I will admit rejection wrecks me. It literally pains me when someone blocks me on a dating app (I never reach out first btw). It upsets me when guys walk out on me in steamroom. I assume it's because of my looks or my race. It usually is, because they won't walk out on a say, older heavy bald white guy.
 
Those who reject have the power. That's why I ask a masseur if they are okay with Asian clients. 98 percent of them are, but I don't want to be rejected. The very first time I hired a provider, I of course checked with him. He said enthusiastically yes, but he kinda gave me "the look" (and after years of interactions you know what "the look" is) so gave him his $300 (with a tip ... I know, it's me not trying to offend, again) and sent him home early. The second (and last time) I saw a provider, he seemed to be into me. Afterwards, I jokingly asked him about his lasting erection and he said he injected Trimix. I took this to me he did not find me attractive, was forced to have an erection and interact with me, and immediately felt very rejected.
 
If a guy (usually multiple) get up and leave from a steamroom or sauna, I will apologize and avoid them (and the rejection) for the rest of the night. Sure it sucks. Sometimes I end up sitting in the bathroom because there's nowhere else to go. Or I just concede a room and leave. And yes, I absolutely can and do keep track and remember for future visits. But I'd rather not go in and get the reputation as a creeper Asian or a guy ruining things for others.
 
I could never be an actor or model. The rejection would drive me to suicide. Again, that doesn't mean I lock myself in the house and work from my basement. I'm very senior and good at what I do, but I made sure of that super early in my career to avoid any professional rejection.
 
Simply put, I don't like rejection and consequently, losing. I believe the way our society is and through observation, Asians are on the losing end versus the white elites. These elites are the tastemakers, the guys who others gravitate to. So of course when they write "No Asians," that power gap is reinforced.
 
BoiledEggz is probably going to jump in here and bemoan the fact that I'm so weak. But I'm not. I fought that fight. I've spent my entire adult life seeing "No Asians," getting walked out on, being told all guys like me are undersirable, weak, ugly. I'm just tired of fighting that fight. As I've written previously, I takes so much energy just to "pass" nowadays anyway because we're already fighting an uphill battle against stereotypes and guys who ruin it for us.
 
To frame it in the greater thread, that is the power of discrimination. Sure, we can call those who discriminate as awful people, but they still hold the power. And when these people are the elites, it just makes the fight so much harder.

We have a lot of beautiful Persian men in Beverly Hills and Hollywood. I'm sometimes mistaken for Persian but I'm not.
 
Sure, there are the uberdouche types who plow down SMB in their Range Rovers. But sometimes I see them coming out of synagogue (Persian Jews), suited, well-groomed, gorgeous.

Drained Empty, no need to "tone it down." Too often we are accused of playing the "race card" when in reality it is played against us. I have read yours posts and would like to share my experience.
 
I am South Asian. I was born in Cali and went to school/worked in NYC. I have gotten the looks from straight and gay people. I have been asked if my dick tastes like curry. I have been asked if I smell. During my best friend's bachelor party (he is a beautiful black man from Africa) at an upscale restaurant, a man at the next table asked "who let the cabbies in." It ruined the night.
 
I graduated college just months before 9/11. Imagine being called a terrorist or getting looks every day for months. I'm Hindu, not Muslim. It was also a downturn in the economy and people accused Asians and South Asians of stealing jobs.
 
I have faced everything you have. Now that I live in Los Angeles, I don't go to West Hollywood because I know how I will be treated. I have been to the spas you talk about and witnessed the walk-outs you describe. I have been on the receiving end of them. It has ruined my visit too.
 
People are hateful. Gay men are especially hateful. They hate for no reason or because of your skin. For a long time it got to me. I asked, why am I on the receiving end of all this hate? And I can understand why you feel defeated.
 
If you ever want to meet for coffee or chat, let me know.
 
-- Vik

Crossfit can be intimidating for some, motivational for others.
 
I would recommend starting slow. Most major cities have ClassPass, which allows you to visit many different gyms and classes per month. Find one you like, or an instructor that you like, and be disciplined about it.
 
As you can tell by my handle, I go out and run 3x a week. It's a great way to get outside (even though Los Angeles is quite polluted) and out of the office/car/apartment grind.

Drained Empty, no need to "tone it down." Too often we are accused of playing the "race card" when in reality it is played against us. I have read yours posts and would like to share my experience.
 
I am South Asian. I was born in Cali and went to school/worked in NYC. I have gotten the looks from straight and gay people. I have been asked if my dick tastes like curry. I have been asked if I smell. During my best friend's bachelor party (he is a beautiful black man from Africa) at an upscale restaurant, a man at the next table asked "who let the cabbies in." It ruined the night.
 
I graduated college just months before 9/11. Imagine being called a terrorist or getting looks every day for months. I'm Hindu, not Muslim. It was also a downturn in the economy and people accused Asians and South Asians of stealing jobs.
 
I have faced everything you have. Now that I live in Los Angeles, I don't go to West Hollywood because I know how I will be treated. I have been to the spas you talk about and witnessed the walk-outs you describe. I have been on the receiving end of them. It has ruined my visit too.
 
People are hateful. Gay men are especially hateful. They hate for no reason or because of your skin. For a long time it got to me. I asked, why am I on the receiving end of all this hate? And I can understand why you feel defeated.
 
If you ever want to meet for coffee or chat, let me know.
 
-- Vik

Yes, my relatives tell me about how terrible attitudes are against Southeast Asians.
 
Colonialism? Resentment? Who knows? London is another place I would never go.

Drained Empty, no need to "tone it down." Too often we are accused of playing the "race card" when in reality it is played against us. I have read yours posts and would like to share my experience.
 
I am South Asian. I was born in Cali and went to school/worked in NYC. I have gotten the looks from straight and gay people. I have been asked if my dick tastes like curry. I have been asked if I smell. During my best friend's bachelor party (he is a beautiful black man from Africa) at an upscale restaurant, a man at the next table asked "who let the cabbies in." It ruined the night.
 
I graduated college just months before 9/11. Imagine being called a terrorist or getting looks every day for months. I'm Hindu, not Muslim. It was also a downturn in the economy and people accused Asians and South Asians of stealing jobs.
 
I have faced everything you have. Now that I live in Los Angeles, I don't go to West Hollywood because I know how I will be treated. I have been to the spas you talk about and witnessed the walk-outs you describe. I have been on the receiving end of them. It has ruined my visit too.
 
People are hateful. Gay men are especially hateful. They hate for no reason or because of your skin. For a long time it got to me. I asked, why am I on the receiving end of all this hate? And I can understand why you feel defeated.
 
If you ever want to meet for coffee or chat, let me know.
 
-- Vik

Drained Empty, no need to "tone it down." Too often we are accused of playing the "race card" when in reality it is played against us. I have read yours posts and would like to share my experience.
 
I am South Asian. I was born in Cali and went to school/worked in NYC. I have gotten the looks from straight and gay people. I have been asked if my dick tastes like curry. I have been asked if I smell. During my best friend's bachelor party (he is a beautiful black man from Africa) at an upscale restaurant, a man at the next table asked "who let the cabbies in." It ruined the night.
 
I graduated college just months before 9/11. Imagine being called a terrorist or getting looks every day for months. I'm Hindu, not Muslim. It was also a downturn in the economy and people accused Asians and South Asians of stealing jobs.
 
I have faced everything you have. Now that I live in Los Angeles, I don't go to West Hollywood because I know how I will be treated. I have been to the spas you talk about and witnessed the walk-outs you describe. I have been on the receiving end of them. It has ruined my visit too.
 
People are hateful. Gay men are especially hateful. They hate for no reason or because of your skin. For a long time it got to me. I asked, why am I on the receiving end of all this hate? And I can understand why you feel defeated.
 
If you ever want to meet for coffee or chat, let me know.
 
-- Vik

I comprehend just fine. Don't insult my intelligence because I have never insulted yours.
 
What follows will probably make you (and others) cringe, because I know you don't share the same views. Maybe you're enlightened. Maybe you're in denial. Maybe a bit of both. But here we go.
 
The reason I act "deferential" is simple; it's been ingrained. Most minority/immigrants are instructed from childhood to assimilate, to fit in. We are taught not to offend, and if we do -- even when we've done nothing wrong -- to apologize. Whiteness is epitomized; Asianness (or blackness, etc.) is marginalized. This is heightened in our society, where whiteness is seen as desirable and the ideal. That's why many Asian women (and our gay brothers) go after white guys. Not only are they seen as physically desirable, they're a ticket into whiteness. Your skin color will never grant you entry, but perhaps your partner will. In the gay community, this is heightened to the nth degree as 95+% of the media and advertising promotes white beauty. Not only that, but Asianness is demoted. Asian men are emasculated, "supported" by the fact that biologically we tend to be smaller (a non-masculine trait). We are "othered."
 
We are categorized as all the same, hence the frequency of seeing "no Asians." Anything white? Fine. Anything Asian? "No." Categorically "no."
 
Others take it to extremes, saying "no Chinks/Gooks" (reducing us to a slur), or "no rice" (reducing us to not even humans). In bars, clubs, and especially spas, social mores and political correctness go out the window under the pretense of "preference." And while it's still unpolite to say "get away from me" -- again, even if we've done nothing wrong -- it's acceptable to repeatedly clear out a room when an Asian enters, sigh, roll your eyes, glare, intimidate, etc.
 
Take pride, you say. Grow some balls! It's very difficult to break free from something so ingrained. On top of that, whites have power. That's why they're called the alpha gays. For God's sake they have so much power they've completely taken over Korean spas in LA, SF, and NYC. KOREAN Spas. It's why I reveal my race to masseurs. It's why I let whites claim space. They have power, specifically the power of rejection and "othering" me. Sometimes, I'll have moments of defiance or anger or activism and say something. Which, as you've pointed out, only makes things worse because then I sound "crazy." I am told "it's my fault." Or you get shamed for playing the "race card" (see post above). And its not just those in power. Asians do it themselves. For those with your views, Asians who are "deferential" are weak. For those with my views, we're just tired of fighting the system. I get walked out on in every visit. It gets tiring. I let the people with power be.
 
We have no leaders. Not to get too political, but look at BLM. African Americans have been fighting for civil rights for decades and are still trying to get recognized. Asians were enslaved as well and we're barely scratching the surface when it comes to political rights and recognition, much less in the socio/sexual sphere. And definitely not in the LGBT sphere, as many Asian families disavow or don't discuss gayness.
 
That, my friend, is why we as a whole are "defeated." Not just me.

We have a lot of beautiful Persian men in Beverly Hills and Hollywood. I'm sometimes mistaken for Persian but I'm not.
 
Sure, there are the uberdouche types who plow down SMB in their Range Rovers. But sometimes I see them coming out of synagogue (Persian Jews), suited, well-groomed, gorgeous.

We have a lot of beautiful Persian men in Beverly Hills and Hollywood. I'm sometimes mistaken for Persian but I'm not.
 
Sure, there are the uberdouche types who plow down SMB in their Range Rovers. But sometimes I see them coming out of synagogue (Persian Jews), suited, well-groomed, gorgeous.

New to this board (discovered this post-CL) and laughed at these stories.
 
Mine is funny (and painful).
 
I visited a masseur in NYC. It was the winter, and I went to his place in an old walk-up. Because we don't have those old school heaters, I didn't know what it was. After my massage I was still nude and we were making small talk. I was getting dressed and sat on the heater, badly burning my rear. I yelped and grabbed a pipe on a wall, which was also burning hot. It was like an "Itchy and Scratchy" cartoon. I left with burns on my butt and hand.

That being said, good massage schools instruct more than just anatomy and modalities.
 
I usually prefer CMTs because they can address my needs, pain points (literally).
 
I go for the full package: skill, intuition, then looks -- in that order.

New to this board (discovered this post-CL) and laughed at these stories.
 
Mine is funny (and painful).
 
I visited a masseur in NYC. It was the winter, and I went to his place in an old walk-up. Because we don't have those old school heaters, I didn't know what it was. After my massage I was still nude and we were making small talk. I was getting dressed and sat on the heater, badly burning my rear. I yelped and grabbed a pipe on a wall, which was also burning hot. It was like an "Itchy and Scratchy" cartoon. I left with burns on my butt and hand.