Secrets has changed a lot as to what can go on. When "Ryan" started 18 months ago he broke most of the rules and it stuck. Dancers walk around between sets talking to spenders and accepting tips for being very friendly touch wise. Lapdances, hands down underwear, fingering holes, kissing, back or foot massages in the dark seats, etc are all normal now. The guys make most of their tips offset now and most of their income outside Secrets.
For a mere say $20 in tips offset I think you get at least as much as in a normal 2-minute "song" at formal lapdance bars. And at most of those holes and cocks are off limits.