Monarchy79

Be nice. These forums allow people to express their experiences, and in some cases allow people to vent.

The problem with the “reality of numbers”, is that it’s selectively used to draw “scientific” conclusions and generalizations towards black men. For example, in many discussions on crime, the easiest “statistic” that people use to make the generalizations that black men are pre-destined to be criminals is that they are “a small percentage of the US’s population, but are the highest percentage of those conducting crimes”. Because of this, I’m looked at as a potential criminal, simply because of this statistic. However, the profile of a lone-wolf, IS terrorist of a middle aged white man; The world’s most prolific serial killers are white men; and The highest demographic of child predators are white men. Yet, no one (of any race) carries any fear or discomfort around white men at all. Jeffrey Dahmer, the Craigslist Killer, Stephen Port (the original Grindr killer), and Mark Latunski (the Grindr killer who mutilated his victim), are all widely known, yet no one (of any race), will have any reluctance to hook up with a white guy in the middle of the night anonymously from an app, because white men are generally assumed to be harmless, regardless of data or statistics.

Additional translation from the “street level Hooker” from this study…. “I can snooker a white guy out of $200.00 by shortening time, but I can’t pull that B.S. with a black guy…..” Further, I’ve seen quite a few posts on threads where people complain about providers shortening them on time. Kudos and respect to any customer (black or white) who has the balls to call out any provider who is trying to pull stunts like this for a fast and easy buck.

Always remember that you can’t impose your standards or beliefs of etiquette onto others. Carmax doesn’t haggle, Neiman Marcus doesn’t complain and never explains…. … and neither should you. If you provide your pricing to a potential client and he responds with what he “can’t afford” and what he thinks you’re “worth”, simply don’t respond. I wouldn’t even waste my time being offended.

I definitely don’t manifest these stereotypes, not to apply them to how I view or judge people. My posting was based on observations of things I’ve witnessed in life, from conversation to posts on this forum. I make a conscientious effort not to apply generalizations to others, because I hate when it’s done to me (and it’s done to me a lot). However, I do enjoy debunking those generalizations and watching people embarrass themselves in the process.

There may be a twist to this… The average looking white guy is now a “niche”. And many command higher rates… Remember, Paul Rudd got voted “sexiest man alive”, and the COVID pandemic gave more empathy for the “dad bod”.

Agreed!!! It’s so disrespectful.

America welcomes diversity, but not equality.

At least he’s being honest. A lot of white guys (and even other minorities feel this way). As a black man, I understand the generalizations and how they evoke fear in others. But I find it disturbing that generalizations ONLY stick to black providers or clients. It’s as if Jeffrey Dahmer never existed. I think that one of the biggest privileges of being white is that you are not chained to the screw ups of others in your own race (you’re treated as an individual). When your are black, you are connected with every crime, affliction, and bad experience that every group has had with a black person in their entire life.

Agreed. I just find it hilarious (and hypocritical) when men of various ethnicities call white men racist for having a preference for white men, when they have the exact SAME preference…. I find this to be very common….

This topic is a bit more layered and complex than people are realizing. Although the rest of the world of business is quite clear that there’s a racial hierarchy, the sex/“personal services” area is a bit different; and it takes more than just one’s ethnicity to determine what type of rates they can charge…. From what I’ve witnessed: 1.) An average looking white guy can probably command a higher rate than an average black guy, BUT a good looking black guy with a BBC can charge more than an average white guy. 2.) a Latino guy in his home land (brazil, Puerto Vallarta, Dominican Republic), will get lowballed due to the saturation of competition and the currency exchange rates, but he can come to the US, oil his sexy body up and offer unskilled massages with his uncut pinga swinging by around, and command a higher rate than a white dude with training. 2.) White guys however have longer shelf lives. Other groups get older and “fade out” the business. White providers morph into “daddies”, and capitalize off of that easily. For example…. a white twink can morph into a twunk and then into a daddy; but you rarely see that progression with other groups. 3.) Then there’s the “niche” effect…. black “thugs”, get paid more than white “skaters”, but a young white twink can command more of a higher rate than both of them. A white guy that gives you “redneck, white trash” vibes can also compete with the black “thug”, in rates. Then factor in such things as age, body type, hair color, etc. For example, if you’re a white guy, and have a hot body, are within an “appropriate” age range, AND have a rare physical attribute , such as being a natural blonde (like Nordic blonde, where even your pubes are bright blonde) or a natural redhead (ginger), then you’ll be able to command top dollar. All in all, whatever your ethnicity is, find your strengths and capitalize off of them.

And Asians exclude other Asians themselves… When was the last time anyone heard or saw an Asian vocalize a specific preference for another Asian? I’ll wait…. 😎

Fleece Johnson would agree….

I completed my second dose in August of 2022. The only side effect I had was mild itching (at the site of the shot) for one day, and a scar that faded in three weeks.

Further, The Monkeypox became somewhat of a “scarlet letter” of diseases, and came along with stigmas. Catching it, reflected a narrative of being a sexually-irresponsible, reckless deviant. No one wanted to have that image (even if they were all of those things). Add to that, being quarantined and locked away from one’s livelihood (earning money) scared the crap out of people too. This was one disease that no one wanted to catch. I’m glad people took it seriously.

Personally I believe that there’s a “twist” to this comment, as I personally believe that we gays mobilized only because the Monkeypox had drastic physical/visual impacts. if Monkeypox didn’t have the side effects of those terrible rashes, it would have grown to Pandemic levels. Gays weren’t mobilized in the name of vigilance. The Gays mobilized in the name of VANITY. I know this, because I did too. I went full on celibate until a month after I got both shots.

The easiest way to help with sex addiction is to discipline yourself to avoid “triggers”, like porn, hookup sites etc, and find another “addiction” to replace it…. Preferably an addiction with benefits, such as working out, or a craft related hobby that requires, time, study and review, and possibly volunteering or and extra job. they key is to be so inundated with other things that you won’t have time to be triggered by the incessant desire for sex. Idle time is a major issue for any sex addict.

Life lesson: Men, in general are shallow and critical on appearance. And being in a group that’s exclusive to men (the “G” in LGBTQ), it’s going to amplify it. Whether it’s your level of femininity/masculinity, skin color, race, hair color, eye color, body size, body shape, economic status, intellectual acumen, age, zip code, car type, profession, political affiliation, or style of dress, someone is going to be a cruel critic. 1.) Grow a thick skin 2.) ruthlessly defend yourself to those who insult you to your face 3.) ignore & block haters/critics online ……and live your best life.

I think that Kissing (in any situation) is extremely YMMV…. So many factors involved, extending far beyond general attraction… specifically dental health and oral hygiene. A lot of guys simply don’t brush, floss and rinse enough… you’d never notice until you get close enough to kiss them.

I’m in absolute agreement with you!!!

The only problem with that is politics is going to rear its head in other forums (it’s happening now).

It’s time for you to try him. Take the plunge. We’ll gladly appreciate your feedback!!! 😁

Just don’t have sex until you are fully healed. even if you’re not conducting any oral action, your facial expressions from sex can impact recovery within your face. Just consider this to be a point of temporary celibacy. Sex will always be there. Congrats on the surgery!!!

That’s a reflection of HIS ignorance, not on the general assumptions of massage therapists. People with common sense know the difference and act accordingly. You should be thankful that this potential date displayed his stupidity early on…

The irony of all of this revolves around your screen name. The “Mr. Humphries” I remember, (licensed or not) would definitely be one of the naughtiest masseurs in the industry…. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣