Monarchy79

One of my good friends also calls it the “gooch”!!! I never knew that was a term to use for it until he recently told me that.

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It’s funny you mention the specific scent that comes from that area.... I recently ordered a fragrance online without testing it first. The reviews stated that it had somewhat a of an indescribable “B.O.” note in it. When it arrived, upon first sniff, that scent was there, and I couldn’t put my finger on what that scent smelled like. It literally smelled like that “magic space”, but on a hairy man, whose nuts have been incubating in tight jeans all day... intoxicating....

THIS!!!! I think that a lot of people don’t know how to truly hold a conversation. I can engage with a complete stranger without asking them one personal question, and through our conversation we can exchange commonalities, and share interests ORGANICALLY. But the moment I encounter someone who just blasts me with a bunch of questions, I throw them in the “socially inept”, box, and further avoid them. For me, the type of person who asks a bunch of intrusive questions seems inauthentic, and almost creepy. It’s like they’re trying to “figure you out”, evaluate you, and determine how they should judge you or utilize you... The moment I get the battery of “what do you do?”, “where do you live?” type of questions (before even completing a proper introduction) , I’m immediately turned off....

Well aren’t you a “Chatty Cathy”..... lol

It’s not that everything needs to be a secret. It’s just that everything doesn’t need to be asked. I understand children asking a batter of “Why”, questions, but as adults, many things don’t require and inquiry, because it’s no one’s business; and the answer doesn’t have any impact on anyone else’s life anyway.... When people ask a lot of those type of “why” questions, I have a term for them: “Intrusive Interrogators”

It’s none of your business. Would you want him to ask you why you’re paying for sex?

100% agree!!!

Not at all. He’s just a well groomed, straight guy who cares about his appearance. He also knows (and more straight men are realizing), that a man who puts more effort into how he looks and smells actually attracts more women.

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Well actually this is exactly why low-brow tricks troll homeless guys.... so they won’t have to flash a few “Benjamins”. It’s more like flashing a couple of “Andrew Jackson’s”.

It’s was great of you to help your friend. You know good and well that’s not what we’re talking about here.

.... working out, without going to my gym.... At the beginning of quarantine, I missed going to the gym (yoga, cycling, and other classes), but once I started working out at home (using workout videos), I adapted quite well. Now that my gym is back open, I kept my membership frozen and have contemplated cancelling it. Both my residential community, and my office building have gyms that are rarely used (I’m there all by myself), and as each day goes by, I’m remembering the things about my gym that I didn’t like: Rude people, crowded workout areas, machine hoggers, and just bad “energy”. I’m an introvert by nature, and 2020 definitely recharged it for me!!!!

Aside from his advertising, I will give him credit for a lot of his tutorials. A lot of straight men have been enlightened on lessons of proper grooming, thanks to him.

Whether the man is straight or gay is irrelevant, preying on the less fortunate for a cheap thrill is just..... Low...

Well it’s holiday time!!! I’m sure some of you will start trolling around Shelters and Missions, seeing what hot & homeless guys are looking to give up the goods for a hot meal... SMH.....

I’m guessing you’re literally on your knees at the nearest crack house, waiting for the next addict who needs a fix, so you can get yours? Classy.... oh so Classy.... ?

No offense, But I would never want someone to have sex with me because they are rock-bottom-desperate. If the only action you can get is from waving some change in a desperate man’s face, I pity you. How much lower can one set the bar of decorum? What’s next? Giving change to crackhead panhandlers in exchange for sex? I’m scared to know some of your answers.... ?

It’s exploitation. It’s an absolute creep move, and delves into troll status.

Interesting discussion, What I find ironic is that the concerns of exploiting men who are down and out, for sex, seems to go out of the window when people are traveling the globe , paying “sex workers” pennies on the dollar, for sexual entertainment..... As a matter of fact, there was literally a thread on this forum about professional escorts in the US being too “expensive”, and how it’s just wonderful to get cheap sex in 2nd and 3rd world nations. Those guys in Brazil, Bangkok, and other places are feeding their families too... Getting any joy out of getting sex out of a man for a couple of bucks, because he’s desperate, broke, and down on his luck, says far more about your character, than it does about the desperate guy’s plight....

Touché

An attraction to a gender isn’t a preference. It’s a metaphysical-biological disposition. Those other superficial features you are referencing are universal, and therefore preferences are created by a multitude of influences. Those influences could be ones upbringing, learning environment, television, music, media. The beliefs shaped about people, shapes their attraction to them. I’ll get deeper: I was friends with an Thai guy, who is disgusted with other Asians. He only dates white guys and also states it’s “just a preference”. Once I dug deeper into the reasonings behind his “preferences”, the layers unfolded, and the foundation what was he was taught from his own family about race, and their colonialized ideas about which races are better.

Very insightful post. It shows that you can be very understanding, empathetic, and reasonable.... When it’s about YOU ?...... Now imagine if you had that same level of rationality, empathy, and understanding towards others on this forum? Just like we shouldn’t shame people for their bodies, we also should shame people for how they handle and react to the circumstances that life presents to them. Hmmmmmm?

I’m glad you said this. Unfortunately, people are not programmed to compartmentalize their prejudices and preferences. For me, there are fat guys I’ve found attractive (And have had some fun with) . I have fat friends, I have fat colleagues who’ve I’ve supported in many scenarios.... It’s all inclusive for me. However.... ever notice this about most “just a preference” guys: Their sexual preferences tend to match their social preferences. See a black guy who only dates white guys, and you’ll never see him in the presence of other black guys, not on his job, not at his gym, not on any of his social Media accounts, he’s usually the only black guy, in a grouping of white guys, just like in his dating. As an example, let’s say some white dude isn’t into Asians sexually... well look into is social life. He also has no asian friends or associates, and probably has never had a full conversation with one. This shows how sexual racial/body preferences trickle and spill over into other aspects of our lives. So the truth is, it’s never “just a preference”. It’s far bigger than that.

Not all fat people are unhealthy.... YET.... The idea that you can be fat and healthy, is the delusion of the “body positivity”, movement that’s dangerous. When you’re young and fat, everything is okay, and you’re living your best life.. feeling great. All that time, you’re putting your body in overdrive.... wearing out the cartilage on your joints, damaging your organs, stretching your skin, killing your capillaries, hardening the walls of your arteries, and further pressing circulation.... Then you’re 40s come.... you start moving slower, breathing isn’t as easy anymore, and then symptoms of long-term neglect and wear & tear kick in... then comes the diabetes, the high blood pressure, hypertension, heart disease, and other health ailments that’s just hit you like a ton of bricks. And life becomes an ongoing intake of various medications (which has further side effects); a cycle of pain and regret. It’s no different for smokers, alcoholics, and drug users. Everything seems “healthy”, and harmless, when you’re young. Don’t fall into the trap of denial & delusion. Make an effort to lose weight. Not for vanity, but for a quality life, in the long term.