Monarchy79

Very accurate. They are usually playing a game where they are exploring multiple options, trying to find what they think may be the “best”, not realizing that the other guys they are chatting with are doing the same thing. Where I live, these guys pull the same crap. By the time the night starts to end, they usually end up with one of the following: 1.) blue balls 2.) or on a site like sniffies, headed out to cruise for whatever is left. 😂

Personally I’d rather someone block me for my demographic, than take my money and give me a terrible, lackluster experience.

It’s a part of life that I’m unbothered by at this point. I just make people look stupid when I encounter it in-person. If on a hook up app or a site like RM or MF, I’m not bothered by being blocked or ignored. I’d rather someone block me, than meet up and have a terrible experience. As long as my ability to vote, buy property, earn a living and invest my earnings are intact, I’m good . 🙂

Scenarios like this usually occur after the said provider asks for a picture. once that pic comes through, the potential client’s race, assumed age, and body type are all revealed. Once the provider blocks him, he can conclude that at least one of those three demographics were why.

You’re correct. There’s nothing with bumps. I’ve bumped myself. However, when the bumps are excessive, with the same person bumping continuously, this is indicative of someone who needs to just hire the person themselves, instead of waiting for someone else to take the plunge. I’ve bumped before, and when there was no response, I simply hired the guy. I had a great experience. But to sit back, and continuously bump, to wait for the next guy to make that move is socially cowardly and somewhat shady.

I 100% agree. Because many gay men are plagued with insecurity, the first (and easiest) method of handling it, is to deflect and transfer that trauma to someone else. The moment an already insecure guy sees a more vulnerable guy who is available to transfer the trauma to, he will definitely take the opportunity to expose and humiliate him, in order to take the attention off of himself. Very wise of you to advise the benefits of projecting confidence.

I’m not an enforcer of order & decorum. I’m just a promoter of good character and positive social behavior.

It’s not a narrow view. It’s noticed and documented from your multiple daily posts. Your behaviors of consistently bumping and inquiring on masseurs and providers daily, with rarely taking the plunge or sharing experiences of your own, displays a self-absorbed pathology…. under the mantras of letting everyone else take the risks of being “first”, and asking for all of the reviews and never contributing. I never attempted to control your behaviors, I just called you out on it, knowing that it teeters along a thin line of social ineptitude. You’re like the guy who goes to the bar with his friends, and accepts the other round of shots, but never treats the crew to a round on your tab. Or the guy who plays “truth or dare”, at a party, asks the most salacious questions to other players, but when it’s your turn, you consistently pick “dare”, to avoid being in the “hot seat”. You’re consistently “on the pot”, but will never “take a sh*t”. That’s clearly your prerogative, and I acknowledge that. I also have the prerogative to address it. This is how forums work. Welcome to the world of accountability and self-awareness. 😘

It’s ironic that you posted your comment as you’re literally who I was referring to when I posted this thread.

Over the past few months, I’ve made a conscious decision to not share my experiences with masseurs publicly. I now only share my experiences with members who have a record of sharing reviews on this site. And I only share them privately. Why? Because there are a lot of “serial bumpers” who inquire about masseurs/providers over and over, yet refuse to step out there and take the initial chance on their own. Although there’s always a risk with being “first”, it’s reasonable not to always leave it to someone else to step out on a new hire.

With those store cards, even if there isn’t one in your area, make a purchase (even if it is a very small purchase), online at least once a year to keep it active. Neiman Marcus, Bergdorf Goodman and Saks are great with sending out reminders to those who haven’t used their cards in a while, before closing accounts.

One could also say that while growing up poor… there are ways to be sexually satisfied for free…. So why pay somewhere between $250 + when you can bust a nut for free? I’m only giving you grief (in jest), because my mother has a similar pathology of what I call “expense displacement”. I will take her and my aunt to the casino for them to throw hundreds of dollars into a slot machine, yet when it’s time for dinner, she refuses to go to a nice steakhouse (even though she’s not paying), because the prices are “too high”. 😝

Why would someone paying hundreds of dollars for a “personal” service, care about an ATM fee?

If someone blocks you (on any site or social platform), accept that and move on. The person wants nothing to do with you and they have that right. Just like you have the right to block people when the tables are turned.

Ummm….Where is the moderator?

I’ve hired him once. Feel free to PM me for details.

A lot of tops have better butts….

1. Just because the Porn Actor’s pic was on the profile, doesn’t mean it was actually him. In most cases, porn performers do not have profiles on those apps. 2.) What was the “misunderstanding” in the conversation between these two. This sounds quite messy on both parts. 3.) If your friend exposes this person, he’s going to have to expose himself and the entire thread of the conversation too (people are going to want to know it ALL). He needs to move on, and stop bickering with people on hookup apps.

I’m not bothered by sophomoric attempts of sarcasm.

This is so true!!!

We all are in the straight world the moment we step out of our houses. The gay world is just a subset of the mainstream, which is why there are so many similarities, just like this issue of the exploitation of children.

What you stated was specific to gays… here’s the quote from YOUR posting: “I’m so sick of gay men using appearance privilege to move up in the world and gain advantages that “regular” gays don’t have.” Try spending more time comprehending your OWN messages, before replying with your stank responses.

It’s even more brilliant if you to not realize that there are gay Republicans and gay Christians…. Plus… I don’t know where you pulled any of this drivel out of my original comment. Oh, I know where ….. the same place the rest of your commentary came from… that crap hole between your legs.

You’re absolutely right. Unfortunately, the masses of victims who make the mistake in hiring these guys, aren’t aware of this site, which has saved many of us allot of wasted time and money.

News flash…. The world is shallow. Everyone (the straights included) uses “appearance” privilege. This is why everyone is blessed with traits and capabilities to capitalize off of. Some have looks. Others have artistic talents, others are smart, some guys have big dicks. It is what it is…