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Which is so ignorant because let me just say this....the guy who gave me the most money to this very day, is a tall, black man who was an executive for a football team who flew me to Arizona for a week. I have never made as much money in a week as I did with him...and I'm just going to leave that there.

I don't think you know "most masseurs" to make that kind of generalization/insult; and as half Black/half White masseur, I can tell you that it certainly doesn't apply to me. I prefer clients who treat me with respect and generosity. Truly! I may gravitate towards certain types in my personal life but I certainly don't discrimante and when it comes to my clients, the amount of melanin, or lack of it in your skin makes no difference to me.

I usually stop after 11:00.. I don't take anyone after that. Ive made a couple of exceptions that is for my a couple of clients who made it worthwhile. Otherwise, there are more weirdos after 11:00 and in the wee hours and you leave yourself more vulnerable to those who are askew if you work those hours

WTF?!! I couldn't imagine treating a client or prospective client like that. When I book a client I have no idea what their ethnic background is (unless they have an accent)and I couldn't care less. It doesn't even cross my mind.
 
It sounds like you dodged a couple of bullets because they sound like they are not only terrible business men but also awful/ugly human beings.... and that's that on that.
 

This week a client who happens to be White asked me if I would take him (Im a massuer) even though he is a white client...and he was serious.....(most of my clients happen to be white so of course I took him). Then a Black client yesterday also asked me the same thing...So here I have white guy and a Black asking me if I'll discriminate against them.....Is this really a thing? Why would I? Do clients think I care how much or how little melanin is in their skin? Am I in the twilight zone? Was this just a coincidence? Is this happening to others? What in the hell is going on out there?

This week a client who happens to be White asked me if I would take him (Im a massuer) even though he is a white client...and he was serious.....(most of my clients happen to be white so of course I took him). Then a Black client yesterday also asked me the same thing...So here I have white guy and a Black asking me if I'll discriminate against them.....Is this really a thing? Why would I? Do clients think I care how much or how little melanin is in their skin? Am I in the twilight zone? Was this just a coincidence? Is this happening to others? What in the hell is going on out there?

WTF?!! I couldn't imagine treating a client or prospective client like that. When I book a client I have no idea what their ethnic background is (unless they have an accent)and I couldn't care less. It doesn't even cross my mind.
 
It sounds like you dodged a couple of bullets because they sound like they are not only terrible business men but also awful/ugly human beings.... and that's that on that.
 

WTF?!! I couldn't imagine treating a client or prospective client like that. When I book a client I have no idea what their ethnic background is (unless they have an accent)and I couldn't care less. It doesn't even cross my mind.
 
It sounds like you dodged a couple of bullets because they sound like they are not only terrible business men but also awful/ugly human beings.... and that's that on that.
 

WTF?!! I couldn't imagine treating a client or prospective client like that. When I book a client I have no idea what their ethnic background is (unless they have an accent)and I couldn't care less. It doesn't even cross my mind.
 
It sounds like you dodged a couple of bullets because they sound like they are not only terrible business men but also awful/ugly human beings.... and that's that on that.
 

Don’t discourage him @Mocha, everyone’s experience is individual and there are flakes on every portal. Let him navigate the various websites available and find what works best for him.

Both times I've traveled, I lucked out because both clients pitched an offer I thought was fair and it spared any need for negotiation. I'm so glad it worked out for the both of you and that you both agreed on a number you thought was fair. I hope you have a blast!

For me, being a gentleman goes a very long way! Sounds simple but not everyone has that quality. My favorite experience was going to Phoenix. He was a gentleman, thoughtful, just a very sweet human being. He was a retired football player so he did not look like who you would think would be sweet but he was, and he gave me more money than anyone ever has in a week. I’ll never forget him!

For me, being a gentleman goes a very long way! Sounds simple but not everyone has that quality. My favorite experience was going to Phoenix. He was a gentleman, thoughtful, just a very sweet human being. He was a retired football player so he did not look like who you would think would be sweet but he was, and he gave me more money than anyone ever has in a week. I’ll never forget him!

Anywhere you go there will be pros and cons. I live in Los Angeles and feel so at home here. I'm originally from Colorado and I think Denver is great as well. You may want to consider Chicago or Philadelphia.I think you are approaching it the right way, by spending extended periods of time and seeing where you will feel most at home and where your business will perform well.

I’m writing this just because something happened that reminded me how vulnerable we all are. I’m a masseur and I had a client, I hadn’t worked on before come and see me. He visited again about a week and a half later, and this time after the session he tells me that he thought his partner was cheating on him, and he went through his phone and discovered that his partner is a client of mine as well because he saw the scheduled appointments with my business phone number. They seem to keep their sessions with me a secret. That guy is harmless but he could’ve been a jealous maniac and it could’ve gone another way. I have instincts about people and experiences that have served me well and really kept me from dangerous situations and people but it’s always good to be reminded that we are vulnerable human beings. Just wanted to share in case anyone needed this reminder.

I’m writing this just because something happened that reminded me how vulnerable we all are. I’m a masseur and I had a client, I hadn’t worked on before come and see me. He visited again about a week and a half later, and this time after the session he tells me that he thought his partner was cheating on him, and he went through his phone and discovered that his partner is a client of mine as well because he saw the scheduled appointments with my business phone number. They seem to keep their sessions with me a secret. That guy is harmless but he could’ve been a jealous maniac and it could’ve gone another way. I have instincts about people and experiences that have served me well and really kept me from dangerous situations and people but it’s always good to be reminded that we are vulnerable human beings. Just wanted to share in case anyone needed this reminder.

I would absolutely do this. While I appreciate other beautiful men, and I find different things and features beautiful, Ive never been fixated on the physical. I do need to be attracted to you but your personality will play just as large a role in that as your exterior looks. While others balk at monogamy, I really like monogamy so if the terms were beneficial and worthwhile of course I would do this

I would absolutely do this. While I appreciate other beautiful men, and I find different things and features beautiful, Ive never been fixated on the physical. I do need to be attracted to you but your personality will play just as large a role in that as your exterior looks. While others balk at monogamy, I really like monogamy so if the terms were beneficial and worthwhile of course I would do this

I would absolutely do this. While I appreciate other beautiful men, and I find different things and features beautiful, Ive never been fixated on the physical. I do need to be attracted to you but your personality will play just as large a role in that as your exterior looks. While others balk at monogamy, I really like monogamy so if the terms were beneficial and worthwhile of course I would do this

I agree with this. I don't mind driving in LA, but it can be difficult. When the trip is far and parking is difficult, it can add 1+ hours to a trip for (often) an hour of work. I'll ask for a Lyft if a client insists on meeting on the same day or if I have a feeling they aren't serious about meeting--like if they provide an apartment building address but not an apartment number. Thankfully, Lyft and Uber are cheap in LA.

This isn't the forum for this but how much melanin someone has or doesn't have in their skin is not a social construct...it's biology. Race on the other hand is a social construct. So... I'm not missing anything, we just see it differently and I will always identify myself as Black or mixed :-) .....now spotlight back on Mocha and his quest to move.

This isn't the forum for this but how much melanin someone has or doesn't have in their skin is not a social construct...it's biology. Race on the other hand is a social construct. So... I'm not missing anything, we just see it differently and I will always identify myself as Black or mixed :-) .....now spotlight back on Mocha and his quest to move.

This isn't the forum for this but how much melanin someone has or doesn't have in their skin is not a social construct...it's biology. Race on the other hand is a social construct. So... I'm not missing anything, we just see it differently and I will always identify myself as Black or mixed :-) .....now spotlight back on Mocha and his quest to move.

If one finds it absolutely necessary to highlight my ethnicity, I loathe the term "exotic", which indicates that Whites see themselves as the standard and anyone else as "exotic". (A bit narcissistic)
"Person of color" is also silly because everyone is of a color or hue,
"African-American" is also silly
My roots in the country go back a good 400 yrs (ever since there was an actual America). So I don't hyphenate being an American. Being Black White & Native American, you can't get more American than that. I didn't immigrate here nor did my parents, or theirs, or theirs or theirs
So if it's necessary, referring to me as Black or Mixed would suffice.

If one finds it absolutely necessary to highlight my ethnicity, I loathe the term "exotic", which indicates that Whites see themselves as the standard and anyone else as "exotic". (A bit narcissistic)
"Person of color" is also silly because everyone is of a color or hue,
"African-American" is also silly
My roots in the country go back a good 400 yrs (ever since there was an actual America). So I don't hyphenate being an American. Being Black White & Native American, you can't get more American than that. I didn't immigrate here nor did my parents, or theirs, or theirs or theirs
So if it's necessary, referring to me as Black or Mixed would suffice.