Cyd_StVincent

Any communication that I get more than 2 weeks before they want to book always feels unreliable. Things change very quickly in the escorting world - people want to see you and then they don't in hours or days so to take seriously that someone is able to plan that they are going to be horny, single, available and interested in 2-3 months feels very suspect.
 
The type of communication I take the most seriously is emails that introduce yourself, why you are interested in seeing me, when, where and for how long. Nothing super explicit. Then we usually email back and forth a few times to solidify the details and within that I get a phone number which I text to confirm the day before. For me text messages are 50/50 real and phone calls are usually just the same guy pretending to be different wealthy gentlemen but his voice sounds like a made for tv movie pervert so I always know exactly who it is.
 
This is my preference and I've heard other people say the exact opposite, but my 2c. Also if you are approaching someone respectfully with full sentences and a name you are already two arms and a head above the many text messages I receive saying something like "do u raw?" and that's it.

OMG lol Craigslist is truly the land of the ghost. Four times a year I'll decide I want sex or furniture from there but in 8 years I've come away with one chest of draws, one pretty odd threesome and a guy who showed up and was so unlike his picture that I couldn't figure out what he was doing at my house.

What do you do if you don't hear back? Because often people will ask me about bareback and since I don't want to go down the road of arguing about it I don't reply. Now I just think some of them might have been testing me lol.

Also, just make sure that this is NOT going to be a surprise for him.

Right, most of my bookings are for extended periods or overnights. My preference is for extended times to begin with. If I’m not able to set aside and book at least 3 hours, in general, I’m not interested. So, your point is well taken.

I'm not saying I wont respond to a very far in advance email. I'll actively respond to any booking that seems like it comes from someone who isn't clearly a time waster - but if the question is what is the ideal way to communicate with an escort I think two weeks in advance - unless of course its asking for an overnight, travel or longer.

I'm not saying I wont respond to a very far in advance email. I'll actively respond to any booking that seems like it comes from someone who isn't clearly a time waster - but if the question is what is the ideal way to communicate with an escort I think two weeks in advance - unless of course its asking for an overnight, travel or longer.

I'm not saying I wont respond to a very far in advance email. I'll actively respond to any booking that seems like it comes from someone who isn't clearly a time waster - but if the question is what is the ideal way to communicate with an escort I think two weeks in advance - unless of course its asking for an overnight, travel or longer.

I use a combination of frozen crisco and butter in my pie crusts. I now have a new visual to occupy my mind while I'm bent over the table rolling out the dough.

Lol....I use a mix of both for pie crust (or lard) too - and I will never look at the Crisco baking blocks in my freezer the same way ever again

Happens to everyone by everyone.
 
Recent months, happened to me by

Rentguys
Electrician who came, wrote a bid, but stopped responding when I returned the signed bid.
The service used to clean gutters annually for past 10 years... provided quote but wouldnt respond to multiple messages to schedule this year.
Two handyman workers who came by, walked through potential projects, stated interest, then disappeared
80% of people who say they're going to purchase anything I've listed on eBay, OfferUp, Craigslist, etc (99% of all enquirers)
Countless people who've submitted resumes when Im recruiting for my clients, who schedule phone interviews, never call, don't answer, and fail to respond to follow up.

Ghosting is the new norm.
 
Craigslist is reportedly adding a category to their personals section. There'll be men4women, women4women, men4men, and ghost4ghost.

+1
The only sutuation I would consider seriously someone planning months in advance is a multiple days contract . If you are planning traveling with a companion, the more challenging scheduling needs of such a plan justify the very early contact. Otherwise I fully agree with your post.
 
Great thread, so many knowledgeable advises!

If you have a type of lube that has especially worked for you in the past you might want to bring that. Hopefully though the person you have hired has the experience with fist fucking to have lube, nail files, and gloves handy however. If he doesn't I would hesitate to go there personally.

Part of the enjoyment of escorting is the chance for both parties to leave the selves that they inhabit outside that door. Thats the joy of the flirt, I tell people true things about me but not the things they would find from my personal facebook page. The me thats on my facebook page might not be the kind of person that gels well with an investment banker or a business administrator, tbh but the person I am as an escort does. Why would you want to invite the parts of ourselves that might not be a perfect match for you into the room?

Any communication that I get more than 2 weeks before they want to book always feels unreliable. Things change very quickly in the escorting world - people want to see you and then they don't in hours or days so to take seriously that someone is able to plan that they are going to be horny, single, available and interested in 2-3 months feels very suspect.
 
The type of communication I take the most seriously is emails that introduce yourself, why you are interested in seeing me, when, where and for how long. Nothing super explicit. Then we usually email back and forth a few times to solidify the details and within that I get a phone number which I text to confirm the day before. For me text messages are 50/50 real and phone calls are usually just the same guy pretending to be different wealthy gentlemen but his voice sounds like a made for tv movie pervert so I always know exactly who it is.
 
This is my preference and I've heard other people say the exact opposite, but my 2c. Also if you are approaching someone respectfully with full sentences and a name you are already two arms and a head above the many text messages I receive saying something like "do u raw?" and that's it.

Any communication that I get more than 2 weeks before they want to book always feels unreliable. Things change very quickly in the escorting world - people want to see you and then they don't in hours or days so to take seriously that someone is able to plan that they are going to be horny, single, available and interested in 2-3 months feels very suspect.
 
The type of communication I take the most seriously is emails that introduce yourself, why you are interested in seeing me, when, where and for how long. Nothing super explicit. Then we usually email back and forth a few times to solidify the details and within that I get a phone number which I text to confirm the day before. For me text messages are 50/50 real and phone calls are usually just the same guy pretending to be different wealthy gentlemen but his voice sounds like a made for tv movie pervert so I always know exactly who it is.
 
This is my preference and I've heard other people say the exact opposite, but my 2c. Also if you are approaching someone respectfully with full sentences and a name you are already two arms and a head above the many text messages I receive saying something like "do u raw?" and that's it.

If you're going to provide crisco for each client, use the baking sticks - a new one for each client. Less cost to you, easy to transport. Keep them frozen. When you're ready to lube your client, push the entire frozen stick up his hole. He's lubed for the entire session.

Venmo and PayPal are both known for freezing funds if they get any inkling that the transaction is related to the sex industry, sadly. What a lot of people do is ask for an airline or Visa gift card and then use the funds to purchase flights or buy things online. Some disposable visa gift cards can be loaded with up to $500. You can also receive blank money orders in the mail or money orders made out to to your legal name if you don’t mind him knowing it.

Sadly, even in some places where independent escorting is decriminalised, like in the UK, escorts working together in groups remains criminalised. It’s even risky there for groups of escorts who are friends to share a working apartment as an Incall. I hope if we ever get decriminalisation over here we avoid making the same mistake. Being able to work together in groups offers a lot of safety and social support.
 
My URL (FTM4RENT.com) is actually something I registered years ago, long before I was out of the closet in the industry as FTM myself. It was originally intended to be a directory for FTM escorts, much like RentMen but specific to transmasculine guys. Nowadays I’m too concerned about the legal consequences to pursue that project. Might repurpose it for that same reason later if the legal climate changes a little. Waiting to see what happens with Backpage...

Part of the enjoyment of escorting is the chance for both parties to leave the selves that they inhabit outside that door. Thats the joy of the flirt, I tell people true things about me but not the things they would find from my personal facebook page. The me thats on my facebook page might not be the kind of person that gels well with an investment banker or a business administrator, tbh but the person I am as an escort does. Why would you want to invite the parts of ourselves that might not be a perfect match for you into the room?

I totally wish you could do that, I'd be one of your boys! A long long time ago I worked as a stripper (in a different life) and always enjoyed the atmosphere of working with others. That is the one thing about escorting, it can be lonely - I imagine thats why many of us spend so much time on here. I wish I could work at a brothel or with an agency.

Part of the enjoyment of escorting is the chance for both parties to leave the selves that they inhabit outside that door. Thats the joy of the flirt, I tell people true things about me but not the things they would find from my personal facebook page. The me thats on my facebook page might not be the kind of person that gels well with an investment banker or a business administrator, tbh but the person I am as an escort does. Why would you want to invite the parts of ourselves that might not be a perfect match for you into the room?

Part of the enjoyment of escorting is the chance for both parties to leave the selves that they inhabit outside that door. Thats the joy of the flirt, I tell people true things about me but not the things they would find from my personal facebook page. The me thats on my facebook page might not be the kind of person that gels well with an investment banker or a business administrator, tbh but the person I am as an escort does. Why would you want to invite the parts of ourselves that might not be a perfect match for you into the room?

I totally wish you could do that, I'd be one of your boys! A long long time ago I worked as a stripper (in a different life) and always enjoyed the atmosphere of working with others. That is the one thing about escorting, it can be lonely - I imagine thats why many of us spend so much time on here. I wish I could work at a brothel or with an agency.

I totally wish you could do that, I'd be one of your boys! A long long time ago I worked as a stripper (in a different life) and always enjoyed the atmosphere of working with others. That is the one thing about escorting, it can be lonely - I imagine thats why many of us spend so much time on here. I wish I could work at a brothel or with an agency.