Cyd_StVincent

How someone handles this situation has a lot to say about their maturity level, both escorts and clients. You’re putting your dick in a hole that shit comes out of (excuse my language) it’s a risk you are taking from jump. Knowing that, I’ve had clients want me to top them. I know my ad is all about my ass since I prefer to bottom but I am blessed on the front side as well. Most of my clients are straight, I have a few openly gay clients. That being said, you can only imagine the situations I’ve been in when asked to top. I always handle it respectfully. People get embarrassed and I let them know it’s okay! Relax! No need to worry, it’s normal! I’ve even made the situation a little more light by saying something like “it’s gay sex, shit happens (;” they usually chuckle and it’s all good. A lot of straight guys aren’t going to know to douche before hand. I take the opportunity to politely educate them and the next time they come prepared or others never want to try it again haha. Now would I re-enter afterwards? Personally, no. But I’d be happy to take care of them in other ways!
 
As for me? I’ve never had that problem. I don’t take any supplements or anything like that. Just enema before hand and I’m always good to go without any issues. Even before my days as an escort, even without an enema I’ve not had problems. I know my body very well.

God no! I am European, we sleep naked, period.

OK, so I personally found a lot of happiness via rentboy. RIP. I am sure a lot of the forum members kept an eye on the take down and trial.
 
Anyway, the founder is in a federal facility for 6 months. It might make him happy to get some mail from people. Here is his mailing address:
 
Jeffrey Hurant 86208-053
FCI Otisville
PO Box 1000
Otisville, NY 10963
 
From what I understand (which could be all wrong) when writing a letter to a person in prison:
 
Use only white paper, no colored paper or greeting cards (those can get returned under the guards discretion) and no perfume, stickers, anything like that.
Include his full mailing address on the note. Sometimes the envelopes get scrapped, or damaged, so include your return address info on it if you want him to have a record that you reached out.
Include a full return name and address on the envelope or it will get discarded without opening.
Rules seem to conflict about enclosing things; it seems like up to 5 pages of paper is ok, as are pictures that are enclosed or included int he note. No dirty pictures. Everything else will be considered contraband and discarded.
 
I think you can also send softcover books and magazines, which I think might be a great thing to do.

I'd settle for a mechanic

With the current political environment, I'm not sure how many Canadians or British would want to move here.

My 1000th post:
 
This forum is an incredible mountain of information about escorts and masseurs and other related subjects. But you can also access the even larger mountain of information that is stored in the members’ brains, by asking them a question.
 
Questions are welcome, but they are more likely to be answered if asked by a popular member. So you do want to be popular here, if only to get answers to your questions.
 
How to be popular?
 
Before you ask a question, you may want to do the following:
 
1. Search first! Very likely there is already a thread already about your subject. Use the search box and read the existing contributions. If you still have a question, add it to that thread.
 
2. If your question is about a masseur or an escort, look for reviews on Daddyreviews.com
 
If you are still going to ask a question or ask for a recommendation, remember this:
 
3. Accept that members here are very different. We have members who are 19, and members in their 80s. Some are not in/from the US and grew up in a completely different culture from yours. They obviously will have a different point of view on your question, and all these points of view, although some may be unhelpful to you, are equally welcome.
 
4. Accept that your preferences are not everyone else’s. They may not even be the majority’s preferences. So when you ask for a recommendation, “good looking” is not sufficient, it means 500 different things to 500 different members.
 
5. Be specific! If you are into tall guys, say “ over 6’2” “ or whatever the number is. If you are into young guys, don’t say “young”, say “under 25” or whatever the number is for you. A 35 yo is young for many of our 70 yo members. Being specific will help you get feedback that actually answers your question.
 
6. Be respectful! We love our escorts. We think they are amazing people. So do not say “he is ugly”, but you can say “that is not the type of face I am looking for, I prefer a chiseled jaw, and no wrinkles around the eyes”. Do not say “he is fat”, but “I would prefer a recommendation for a guy with a lower BMI.” Think about it, if you insult someone’s favorite escort, that someone will stop helping you with recommendations.
 
7. If someone is so unhelpful that it is preventing you from finding the info you need, there is an ignore button on their profile. That will remove (for you only) all the posts from that member, and you can keep reading everyone else’s answers. So there is no point telling someone to shut up. If someone has broken the rules, you can use the report button and an admin will look at the violation. No need to enter a posting war.
 
This is just advice and not intended to be rules.
 
This post is a draft and likely to be edited multiple times in the future based on feedback from the forum members. I hope to get it good enough to get it pinned somewhere one day.

I put a lot of work into escorting - I learn skills to refine my ability to provide a better service, I network with people and keep in touch with them, I run my own advertising and my own books. I run a porn company as well which is a whole other world of work. It is my career. It may not always be my only career and it may not be my career forever, but its a job I put an incredible about of intentional effort into.

I would agree with @Kurtis Wolfe that a lot of people in the porn industry are operating off information that doesn't have a lot of scientific backing for it - which makes sense when your job is one where the specter of HIV infection looms as a life, community and employment changing prospect, especially for the straight side. The part that is frustrating about that all is the protocols for testing are extremely rigorous to the point that there have been really only a handful of cases of HIV transmitted on set since 2004, however thanks to the fearmongering of organizations like AIDS Healthcare Foundation, who is making it their personal mission from god to end the scourge of bareback porn, straight porn performers are still very freaked out.
 
I think its incredibly sad that Ames passed away, twitter fights are often people wanting to be right more than wanting to teach and a lot of unnecessary showboating took place. That doesn't mean there isn't a place for teaching though, the initial point that performers should challenge their "I won't have sex with crossover performers/black guys/trans women/etc" framework is important, because it doesn't just effect them - it also effects other peoples ability to get work or be out based on parts of themselves that don't actually impinge on someone else's risk. You don't get HIV because you have gay sex or are a trans woman or are black, you get HIV because you have unprotected sex with someone who is HIV positive with transmissible viral load. Inability to understand that basic fact is what puts people at risk because they don't have the right information, and it enforces stigma

Thanks! The scroll button wasn't working for me for some reason so I only saw CA

Yep. Haven't finalized my plans yet, but I'll probably be at Canyon Club again. Text, email, forum message, Rentmen, phone, messenger pigeon, are all ways you can contact me if you're interested in getting together.

I always use my real first name whenever I hire. My best regular escorts have revealed their real names to me, quite a few after our first session, following me expressing the opinion that I look forward to hiring them the next time our paths cross. One fantastic escort, now retired, actually used his real name as his escort name, but changed his first name to initials for clarity. Then there are those who shared their real legal names after I had hired them regularly for a few years.
 
There are still a few escorts that have chosen to not share their real names with me at all, even some of my regulars! I really do not mind that in the least, as I believe that they are entitled to keep their private lives and/or personal information to themselves if they feel it is best or more discreet. Then there are a few escorts whose social media information has just popped up on my social media app's. I never tell them though, since I feel they have a legitimate right to privacy.
 
Finally, one of my favorites, whom I still see on a regular basis, told me his first name following our very first session. I recall doubting at the time that it was his real name but later I found out he had a social site online under that name for his self-employed (non-escort) business. A few years into our relationship, he said he wanted to be more open with me as one of his closest regulars, and he told me his real legal name. So, over the time we've been seeing each other, I first knew him by his escort name, then his business name, and finally by his real name.
 
“Call me by your name and I'll call you by mine.”
 
TruHart1

Yup its a phase-in. The ads that you see which still look normal weren't posted before the changes and have yet to expire / go up for renewal.
 
As more ads finish their current run, you will see less and less with text included. Its not even possible to renew an ad with text anymore.
 
In my opinion, what's really happening is that BP is pointing to social media to share the blame for advertising escorts every bit as much as it does. Many escorts use Twitter, Facebook, etc., and if the US government convicts BP for facilitating trafficking, it could use that as precendent to hold social media websites liable as well, forcing ALL of them to censor sex workers. I think BP is trying to force sex workers to use social media to share the details of our advertising since we can no longer write anything in BP ads. To make a point. Its a part of their legal strategy.

I put a lot of work into escorting - I learn skills to refine my ability to provide a better service, I network with people and keep in touch with them, I run my own advertising and my own books. I run a porn company as well which is a whole other world of work. It is my career. It may not always be my only career and it may not be my career forever, but its a job I put an incredible about of intentional effort into.

Did they say what kind of content they're looking for? Im a writer in general, but never thought about writing about escorting, though it would be interesting.

Hey! Sorry I just got your message. I am going to share some thoughts here because I'm sure there might be other lurkers and it could be useful for posterities sake. I think people have shared really good general advice and support here, which I would absolutely agree with. I'm going to go into the specificities of things that may or may not be relevant to your situation. In my tone I want to be encouraging but also realistic, so hopefully that comes across
 
I've been an FTM escort for what I imagine is longer than most on here, I transitioned on the job as it were in 2010. When I was earlier on in my transition the market for gay men interested in a man with a gender ambiguous body wasn't very big and so I worked as a woman until hormones made it too awkward to do that, and I got top surgery soon after. Now, times have changed. I think as a whole cis gay men are much more interested in people with different types of bodies, including trans bodies, now. Now, I'm not going to make any assumptions about what you look like (although your headshot is super cute) but since you said you don't always pass, I'm going to give advice kind of in response to that
 
How you want to advertise yourself has totally to do with the following things:
The amount of clients you want to see
The cultural literacy in the region you live in (do people know what trans is?)
What your body looks like and how you present yourself
Your comfort with how you like your body touched, referred to, safe sex practices
 
Cis women, including butchy tomboy gender weirdo cis women generally see more clients than trans guys, at a higher rate and with more ability to navigate boundaries. If it is not the situation that you can either pass as female or you don't want to, marketing will be more difficult - but as you've seen from the friendliness you've received here there will absolutely be gay and bi men who are excited to hire you, but the pool will be smaller and the rate you can charge might be lower as well. If you are doing sex work to try it out or to have side money to support yourself through transition thats totally fine though - there are free or cheaper sites you can advertise on (hourboy, craigslist dating, backpage) and you can put up an ad and wait for the perfect person to come to you. I do feel like rentmen is also the site that has brought me the best, most trans competent, clients although it costs more.
 
I honestly suggest to people new to the sex industry that they try different types of work before going to escorting, especially trans people. There are a lot of power dynamics that arise during sessions, especially when you are new and anxious about doing well - and while some people will be kind to you others may take advantage of any nervousness about maintaining boundaries. Getting used to the practice of engaging with strangers sexually for pay through something that inherently restricts physical connection can be a good way to learn how to communicate firmly and welcomingly.
 
Sometimes trans guys approach me with the assumption that once you open up shop the crowds come rushing in. Unfortunately that isn't true. As a trans guy whose pretty well established in the porn industry, with regulars, living in NYC it still takes me continuous work and marketing to find the clientele I need to have it be my only, comfortable form of income. Don't quit your day job until you really have a groove, sex work can be amazing fun and wonderful but when you are doing it because you are dead ass broke it is much less likely to be any of those things.
 
For trans people sex work can be a landmine of both validation and insecurity. Doing sex work through transition gave me some really deeply healing experiences and relationships that made me as confident as I am today. I also fretted over other people getting more clients, felt (and feel) jealous when I look at other peoples bodies, had clients say some really wacky shit that haunted me for a long time. It is important to develop a habit of validating yourself and approving of your body outside of the sex industry, because if you exist only at its whims its gonna hurt.
 
Good luck and if you have any specific questions please let me know. This forum is a great place to learn and make relationships with some solid people, I'm glad you are here.

Hey! Sorry I just got your message. I am going to share some thoughts here because I'm sure there might be other lurkers and it could be useful for posterities sake. I think people have shared really good general advice and support here, which I would absolutely agree with. I'm going to go into the specificities of things that may or may not be relevant to your situation. In my tone I want to be encouraging but also realistic, so hopefully that comes across
 
I've been an FTM escort for what I imagine is longer than most on here, I transitioned on the job as it were in 2010. When I was earlier on in my transition the market for gay men interested in a man with a gender ambiguous body wasn't very big and so I worked as a woman until hormones made it too awkward to do that, and I got top surgery soon after. Now, times have changed. I think as a whole cis gay men are much more interested in people with different types of bodies, including trans bodies, now. Now, I'm not going to make any assumptions about what you look like (although your headshot is super cute) but since you said you don't always pass, I'm going to give advice kind of in response to that
 
How you want to advertise yourself has totally to do with the following things:
The amount of clients you want to see
The cultural literacy in the region you live in (do people know what trans is?)
What your body looks like and how you present yourself
Your comfort with how you like your body touched, referred to, safe sex practices
 
Cis women, including butchy tomboy gender weirdo cis women generally see more clients than trans guys, at a higher rate and with more ability to navigate boundaries. If it is not the situation that you can either pass as female or you don't want to, marketing will be more difficult - but as you've seen from the friendliness you've received here there will absolutely be gay and bi men who are excited to hire you, but the pool will be smaller and the rate you can charge might be lower as well. If you are doing sex work to try it out or to have side money to support yourself through transition thats totally fine though - there are free or cheaper sites you can advertise on (hourboy, craigslist dating, backpage) and you can put up an ad and wait for the perfect person to come to you. I do feel like rentmen is also the site that has brought me the best, most trans competent, clients although it costs more.
 
I honestly suggest to people new to the sex industry that they try different types of work before going to escorting, especially trans people. There are a lot of power dynamics that arise during sessions, especially when you are new and anxious about doing well - and while some people will be kind to you others may take advantage of any nervousness about maintaining boundaries. Getting used to the practice of engaging with strangers sexually for pay through something that inherently restricts physical connection can be a good way to learn how to communicate firmly and welcomingly.
 
Sometimes trans guys approach me with the assumption that once you open up shop the crowds come rushing in. Unfortunately that isn't true. As a trans guy whose pretty well established in the porn industry, with regulars, living in NYC it still takes me continuous work and marketing to find the clientele I need to have it be my only, comfortable form of income. Don't quit your day job until you really have a groove, sex work can be amazing fun and wonderful but when you are doing it because you are dead ass broke it is much less likely to be any of those things.
 
For trans people sex work can be a landmine of both validation and insecurity. Doing sex work through transition gave me some really deeply healing experiences and relationships that made me as confident as I am today. I also fretted over other people getting more clients, felt (and feel) jealous when I look at other peoples bodies, had clients say some really wacky shit that haunted me for a long time. It is important to develop a habit of validating yourself and approving of your body outside of the sex industry, because if you exist only at its whims its gonna hurt.
 
Good luck and if you have any specific questions please let me know. This forum is a great place to learn and make relationships with some solid people, I'm glad you are here.

Hey! Sorry I just got your message. I am going to share some thoughts here because I'm sure there might be other lurkers and it could be useful for posterities sake. I think people have shared really good general advice and support here, which I would absolutely agree with. I'm going to go into the specificities of things that may or may not be relevant to your situation. In my tone I want to be encouraging but also realistic, so hopefully that comes across
 
I've been an FTM escort for what I imagine is longer than most on here, I transitioned on the job as it were in 2010. When I was earlier on in my transition the market for gay men interested in a man with a gender ambiguous body wasn't very big and so I worked as a woman until hormones made it too awkward to do that, and I got top surgery soon after. Now, times have changed. I think as a whole cis gay men are much more interested in people with different types of bodies, including trans bodies, now. Now, I'm not going to make any assumptions about what you look like (although your headshot is super cute) but since you said you don't always pass, I'm going to give advice kind of in response to that
 
How you want to advertise yourself has totally to do with the following things:
The amount of clients you want to see
The cultural literacy in the region you live in (do people know what trans is?)
What your body looks like and how you present yourself
Your comfort with how you like your body touched, referred to, safe sex practices
 
Cis women, including butchy tomboy gender weirdo cis women generally see more clients than trans guys, at a higher rate and with more ability to navigate boundaries. If it is not the situation that you can either pass as female or you don't want to, marketing will be more difficult - but as you've seen from the friendliness you've received here there will absolutely be gay and bi men who are excited to hire you, but the pool will be smaller and the rate you can charge might be lower as well. If you are doing sex work to try it out or to have side money to support yourself through transition thats totally fine though - there are free or cheaper sites you can advertise on (hourboy, craigslist dating, backpage) and you can put up an ad and wait for the perfect person to come to you. I do feel like rentmen is also the site that has brought me the best, most trans competent, clients although it costs more.
 
I honestly suggest to people new to the sex industry that they try different types of work before going to escorting, especially trans people. There are a lot of power dynamics that arise during sessions, especially when you are new and anxious about doing well - and while some people will be kind to you others may take advantage of any nervousness about maintaining boundaries. Getting used to the practice of engaging with strangers sexually for pay through something that inherently restricts physical connection can be a good way to learn how to communicate firmly and welcomingly.
 
Sometimes trans guys approach me with the assumption that once you open up shop the crowds come rushing in. Unfortunately that isn't true. As a trans guy whose pretty well established in the porn industry, with regulars, living in NYC it still takes me continuous work and marketing to find the clientele I need to have it be my only, comfortable form of income. Don't quit your day job until you really have a groove, sex work can be amazing fun and wonderful but when you are doing it because you are dead ass broke it is much less likely to be any of those things.
 
For trans people sex work can be a landmine of both validation and insecurity. Doing sex work through transition gave me some really deeply healing experiences and relationships that made me as confident as I am today. I also fretted over other people getting more clients, felt (and feel) jealous when I look at other peoples bodies, had clients say some really wacky shit that haunted me for a long time. It is important to develop a habit of validating yourself and approving of your body outside of the sex industry, because if you exist only at its whims its gonna hurt.
 
Good luck and if you have any specific questions please let me know. This forum is a great place to learn and make relationships with some solid people, I'm glad you are here.

As a client, I know when I am furnished what I feel is a true boyfriend experience, where I actually have not only an extraordinary sexual connection, including everything that excites me sexually, from amazing tongue work while French kissing, to having my nipples manipulated in the most sensual ways possible, to hearing his groans of pleasure as I rim him and suck him, to feeling myself nearing that point of no return as he sucks or f**cks me, but also our sharing with each other in mutually enjoyable conversations before moving on to the sexual play, which is followed by intimate cuddling after we climax.
 
There is nothing quite so intimate to me as being in his arms, with my head on his chest and our arms around each other, sharing our thoughts quietly for a bit, sometimes even napping with each other for a short time. I do think that a boyfriend experience is not necessarily the same for every man, though. I always hope to be treated as if I am the most desirable man the escort has ever met, for the time we enjoy together. As I've said many times since I began this hobby, I do fall in love with the best escorts I hire just a bit during the time we spend together, in bed or out, during both the on-the-clock and off-the-clock time we are together.
 
Now since I am only one client, with only my personal definition of the boyfriend experience expressed here, I'd be interested to get back to the "Ask An Escort" topic requested by the OP. I would love to hear from any escorts out there who are willing to explain what the "boyfriend experience" is for them with clients from their own professional perspective.
 
TruHart1

Mocha
As charming as I find your adorable attempts at putting articulate sentences together ...(and they are adorable) I had to stop reading your comment after the second paragraph. I'm not sure why you think it takes days to get to Miami ...it takes five hours...so...I'll stop there because ....suddenly I'm reminded of a George Carlin quote...he says "never argue with an idiot, they will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience".
That said, I sincerely hope u have a busy week so you can be happier. Happy Holidays from me...the "sell out" ;-) - Xo

Hi Mocha,
You didn't call me a "sell out" in this post and you were only slightly patronizing, you must be in a good mood this week.
In any event, I went and it was great. ......Mmmm I'm skeptical by nature but he ended up being the real deal which I knew when I got the ticket and he was a nice guy!!! Thanks for the concern but as I mentioned I have great instincts that always serve me well which is why I went and I'll go again if invited. To address your note, I don't know why guys hire companions from from clear across the country ...but if I had to make an educated guess I would say "it's because they can" or "because they want to" ...but I suppose you'd have to ask them for more details on that. This guy was the second person to contact me from out of state..but the other was in Arizona which is right next door to CA. I stayed with that guy for a few days and it was great and I knew it would be great because...instincts!! Florida was unique for me because it was literally across the country. Your comment makes it sound like it's unorthodox but a number of other companions here on this forum besides me have posted their similar experiences. @jawjatech mentioned on the thread that he as a client has flown guys in a number of times and all were great trips....Soooo it may not occur regularly but it's definitely not that unusual apparently. Evidence of that is that other companions have done this quite a bit and I've now done it twice and I've only been a companion for less than a year...and not even consistently because I do other things and have another job.
 
 
By the way, didn't you make a really long announcement that u weren't participating on this forum anymore? I'm just curious, what pray tell happened to that?

Stare blankly at the wall awaiting the next appointment.

Lol I always am asked about what I'm studying and why, we talk about my pets and where I live. Little questions I think are nice to start to build a context for each other - the questions that are annoying that are asked frequently are:
 
Do your parents accept you?
What is your real name?
Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
How long have you been doing this?

After thumbing thru a bunch of Forum posts and RM profiles like my gum-popping mom sitting under a beauty shop hairdryer reading The Inquirer, I stumbled across a jolting, refreshing set of observations by Tylerthebadwolf. It’s something that really struck a nerve because it seems so obvious yet elusive:
 


"For all of the hardcore, bareback, fuck-me-in-the-ass porn that exists in all the mansex world, it seems that what men want (without realizing that they want it) is to be connected. Connected to another human; another man."
 
If your thing is ejaculating into a wet hole or being ejaculated into then more power to you and have at it with sweaty gusto. I’ll even hold the flashlight.
 
But the game seems lopsided.
I read RM profiles by "heavy shooters" with close-up, bareback videos that look like Soviet-era industrial safety films and read discussions here about who didn't get hard and who didn't cum and wonder if I'm missing something.
 
What I want to do is make a brief connection with someone... to freely give and receive affection, holding eye contact and happy simply for the moment of the shared experience. Most profiles & videos I see tell me something about someone's anatomy but what I really want to see is something about who they really are and how capable they are of making a connection with me.
 
I'm not trying to change anyone's mind about what they should enjoy - to each their own. Please enjoy.
 
What I would like to do is give a word of encouragement to the escorts who are genuinely interested in creating a connection with their clients. It's so rewarding to find a guy who understands and values this and, I think, it's more rewarding for those escort too.
 
 


"...what you’re sharing with that other man is intensely personal and very often private. Something about which they may have all sorts of conflicted feelings: shame, guilt, fear, sadness, elation. You can’t do anything about their feelings, but you can be open and receptive and those are the keys to connected sexual interaction. You can be excited and you can let their expressions of pleasure enhance your own...:"

Tyler gets the trophy for "Most Insightful Observation Of The Day".
(please don't sue me for copyright infringement)

I don't care why women date bisexual men. That's their business

I often see panhandlers with dogs. About one year ago I started buying Petsmart gift cards and I give them out about once every two weeks. Where I usually see panhandlers there is a store about 3 blocks away. I love the reaction I get from the dogs owner and I feel really good afterwards. I buy them in larger dollar amounts in the winter in case the dogs owner wants to buy sweaters, coats or other items to keep their pet warm. Fortunately I've never see a dog with a panhandler that doesn't appear to be well cared for. I can imagine for these people how important their dog is; probably as important to them as mine is to me.
 
I feel a little bad I didn't think of this idea sooner.