Kcdave

It depends. There are a number of providers who have ads on both Massagebook and Masseurfinder.

Not so odd @Studsearcher - bedroom skills have to be learned.
 
I had a similar experience on an ordinary first date when I was in my late 20s; he was 2 years younger and had a very fit body. After an enjoyable evening, we went to bed. His body was even better than I thought. He was wonderfully muscled and he just lay there. It was like making love to a marvelous marble statue…but I don’t enjoy topping a statue. A sexy friend of mine (the same age as him) was interested and they had a date the next week. When my friend confided that in bed he had the same result, I was so relieved.
 
Further on ”adult education”, when I was in my 40s I had a good date with a 25 year old hot-bodied working guy. He had a bubble butt that I readily enjoyed, but his cocksucking was basic. I didn’t see him again until about 4-5 years later: his physique was even better, he still enjoyed being a bottom…but his oral skills were off the chart! He worshipped my cock: he kissed it, licked all of it and my balls and he sucked me off slowly and lovingly. I could only conclude that in the intervening years he had sucked LOTS of cocks and become much more skilled.

I don’t know how the other party feels about your “arrangement” but it sounds to me like this may be a case of less is more.

So, I met a guy on Seeking Arrangement and he is becoming my regular. We normally meet for a fixed amount, have dinner, fun, and spend a night together. I am thinking to propose some alternative model where he gets rewarded for doing things I like without being prompted (like call me by my first name, cuddle after sex, wearing underwear I like, etc). I will add a certain amount for each checkpoint that he met. The reason I want to try this that is that he is super affordable with his base rate (he is very inexperienced) and I would to bring an element of fun/game into our interactions.
 
Has anyone tried to have different compensation model for the guys you see based on their performance (I know some people tip escorts)? How did you communicate it to escorts?

I’m a masseur (and I’ve done some escorting). Your approach is excellent. It’s exactly what a masseur would prefer to hear. It shows you’ve read their bio, you’ve made your decision and you provide all the information the masseur needs to confirm the booking.
 
I like requests such as yours. If I get requests that start “hi” or “how much do you charge?” or worst of all...a dick pic, then I’m almost certain they’ll never book. Those are red flags. They just ask lots of questions or want to engage in sex chat. You quickly get used to who the time wasters are.

There is this from @latbear4blk
 
https://ilikepinga.com/2017/07/12/jarrod-brandon/

Don’t overthink it. THEY are not watching you.

Tee hee. Well maybe I could pass as their Older Cousin!! ? Seriously though, sometimes the Comp package comes up and it’s just easier to have an honest convo if people are not judging the whole thing. Seriously - contemporary society is not at all understanding. They seriously disapprove. They tend to be horrified. Especially me cause I’m a POC who loves my beautiful/handsome Caucasian young men. (College fantasies at play).

There is a absolutely nothing wrong with an “uncle” meeting with his “nephew”! ?

I’d also think of some place you can chat without curious eyes and ears looking on. People can get quite curious when they see a Thanksgiving/Easter pair meeting and chatting. Especially when you can’t pass as biologically related. They especially are nosy about what’s going on when they see beautiful/handsome young men with me!!! ????‍♂️???

You're right @Kcdave to have the initial meeting somewhere public and where you can chat easily. My own experience is that coffee shops are better than bars. You want to be able to exit readily, aka cut it short, if the guy isn’t your type or you just don’t relate well together.
 
I wouldn’t offer a “normal honorarium”…and I hope you wouldn’t say that unless you were dating a classics student. I feel it’s better to ask the young man how you can help him. You may be pleasantly surprised when you find out what he’s looking for.

Great question. I don’t know. I would direct the question to the guy you are planning to spend time with.

Interesting website seeking. I did sign up for a 90 day trial (they had a 20% off link). Amazed at the number of contacts being made daily. What is even more shocking is that how young most of these contacts are. While it’s nice to talk to a 18-year-old. I would prefer somebody mid 20s. It makes me wonder if some of these 18-year-olds are even legal.
So I probably would not meet up with somebody that young. They are fun to chat with but I would not exchange much more than a back-and-forth dialogue.
 
i’m just shocked how many people there are contacting me. I will take it slow as I really don’t want to expose myself to anything or anybody and less I have a real good comfort level with them.

Needing more:)

I’m about 230 lbs on a 6’2 frame. 36 waist. But work out 5 days a week. I got the Covid 19 (lbs)

I’m about 230 lbs on a 6’2 frame. 36 waist. But work out 5 days a week. I got the Covid 19 (lbs)

That’s why I use a burner app or burner phone. Come on it’s Client 101

I’m about 230 lbs on a 6’2 frame. 36 waist. But work out 5 days a week. I got the Covid 19 (lbs)

Here in the ?? you have an average body! Tell them you have a temporary beer belly but I would send pics before/after agreeing on rate for their amateurish services
 
I'm sure others who spend days searching on SA might give you the right advice about how to proceed.

I wonder if you are deliberately missing the point here @marylander1940 ?
 
I agree with @The_Impeccable_G that Seeking is not a site to use to find an instant hookup or hire.
 
I feel that many young men on Seeking are enthusiastic amateurs. They are sexually fluid or versatile, and they see an older man as interesting because he can look after them. They are interested in a classic “mutually beneficial arrangement”. I feel they would regard as crass and vulgar any older man saying I will pay you for sex.
 
I do understand that some posters will regard any unconventional relationship as entailing “paying for sex”. Of course, an attractive young man wanting an expensive gift may please his partner in bed either to provide an incentive for purchase or to say Thank you…just as a wife may please her older husband in bed, hoping for a similar outcome. I don’t feel you can reduce the complexities of a relationship to a simple transaction.
 
I always had a clear photo and true stats on my online profiles. Over the years, I met a few young men who genuinely prefer an older man, but on Seeking I found there were many who responded well to me. The ones I liked were nice young men with nice fit bodies; they were generally well-educated and well-mannered. Building friendships with them took time, but it was an enjoyable experience.

I am flying a guy from Seeking to meet me in Vegas for 4 days. Of course I'm taking care of all travel and expenses while we are in Vegas, but nothing has been discussed in addition to that. He hasn't asked and seems thrilled to be going on an all expense paid trip for his Spring Break. Should I bring it up or just assume that the trip is enough? I do plan on giving him some spending money while we are there. He's a hot D1 college swimmer.

Good information thank you for your comments I was not sure that I would be able to find guys in at $100-$300 range even if it’s for a couple of hours. Overwhelmed by the number of young guys 18 to 23 reaching out.

Mostly fashion models on short stay in my city.

Start slowly. No overnights. I rarely hire escorts. I prefer the less transactional amateurish SA and Instagram guys.

I have used a strategy suggested by someone previously - paying $50 just to meet for coffee and chat and just had my first meet. It was great! The guy was nice and pleasant, showed me a couple of good places to eat and I had overall a great time.
 
Now we are moving towards more intimate things, like spending a night together. I have never spent a night with an escort before, but I want slow sensational encounter. Any tips from the pros how to make it happen in the best way?