Mydavid

I would assume he’s on meth, not safe, and get tested.  Not participating quite honestly sounds like rape…

Providers like this need to be “outed” - with the ability for them to defend themselves of course which is why forums like this are good. At some point if what you say is accurate this becomes akin to extortion, preying on client fears for safety, discretion etc - would help to know who he is if you’re comfortable sharing. 
The few times I’ve tried to leave without fully paying a donation for reasons I consider fully justified, it’s turned ugly; the most disengaged / high / drunk / entitled / narcissistic (etc etc) provider still wants his cash at the end of the day.  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

That's so annoying, frustrating, unprofessional and unfortunate. I'd personally want to stop what I was doing, get dressed, let him know that I was leaving because he was showing little to no interest and that I was only going to pay him $X for his time. But then you risk a possible confrontation which no one wants. It's a tough situation to be in. Sucks having to pay full price when I'm sure you weren't even into it at that point. You probably just wanted to get off and go and have it all over with. 
I probably would have done exactly what you did.

Yea, sorry that happened to you. But I can't imagine I'd act any differently than did you. I'd be hoping that surely the experience would turn around, become more positive at any moment. That it never did is no way your fault. You know that, right? In this little hobby of ours sometimes lousy experiences, like shit, just happens. You came, paid, and left. Probably couldn't not pay without getting into some sort of a fight, and nobody knows where that might go. And you did have some sort of consensual contact, lousy as it was.
It was just a lousy experience. It sucks. 
But there are a lot of good guys around, many on this site. Hope your next experience is wondrous, mind blowing, and ends way too soon. 

Save money. Buy a blow-up doll.

What a weird experience. That guy doesn’t know what he’s doing. I’m sorry you had to navigate such an uncomfortable predicament with an unprofessional provider.

No you didn’t. You met someone pretending to be an escort. A proper escort would not have behaved like that. If you did anything wrong it was probably when you decided to hire him because it seems you didn’t hire a professional. Sorry it happened to you. 

If it's clear he's checked out part way into the session, I think I'd simply say things don't appear to be working out between us and say we can cut it short and offer half the fee.  There is a possiblity that could get confrontational, unfortunately, so it depends how he appears to be reacting how I'd proceed if he demanded the full amount.  Your ability to extract yourself from the situation safely is most important.

In my position I would have come straight to the point as soon as it became clear he wasn't interested by asking "Be honest, I'm boring you aren't I?".

*Googles happy baby yoga pose*

Agree! And it’s about the position, generally I prefer to ride it if it’s a big one because I can be in control of the pace and depth, at least initially. 
In some cases small dicks can be difficult. I had a client who was quite overweight and his dick was small, I guess around 2 inches? He’d booked a massage and wanted to top me during the massage. This is fairly unusual because if clients do want an escort type session they’re usually bottom….(or they turn into a bottom on the day 😂)
My client hadn’t mentioned anything about his size (dick or body) when booking so I was surprised when he turned up as he was really large and I wondered how he’d fit on the table. He seemed quite anxious and shy so I tried to make him relaxed and we started with a cuddle before he got on the table.
Fortunately my table is quite wide and electrically adjustable (I can raise and lower it using a foot pad) so I lowered it a bit for him to get on see that he fits ok. I then raise it up to the correct height (where my crotch is beside his hand at his side  😉) and we begin the massage with him face down on the table. 
With larger guys it can be quite challenging to get to certain areas and I find that this guy’s no different. Even with his legs spread to the width of the table I couldn’t easily massage his bum hole or dick and balls.
After a while I ask him to turn over to his back. As he turns I see he’s hard but it’s not very big. I’d planned to mount the table and ride him but I realise that might not be possible. I tried to get on the table from the side but it was difficult because there wasn’t much space either side of his waist to kneel, so I went to the legs end and knelt between his knees to suck him for a bit while I worked out how I was going to get him inside me. 
I did try cowboy but kneeling on the table meant I had to squeeze his waist in either side and that caused his cock to disappear into the flesh so I couldn’t get it in me. We tried a couple of times and just managed to get it in but as soon as I started to ride it fell out. So I lowered the table right down and stood on the floor either side of the table. This was ok as he did get in but with my legs so far apart and his belly in the way it wasn’t comfortable. I then turned around to face away from him which was better but still challenging to keep it in. 
I thought it best to ask him if there was a position he preferred but he said he didn’t know. I’m guessing he’d not had sex before… so I suggested that I lay across the table on my back, he stand at the side and I lift my legs. I’d thought I could put my legs on his shoulders but that didn’t give him enough depth…so for those familiar with yoga I assumed the ‘happy baby’ pose and that seemed to give him enough space to get it in (he held up his belly with his hands) and it didn’t take long for him to cum which was fortunate because my happy baby isn’t a position I like to keep for too long 🙂. 
I was glad we managed to get there because he seemed delighted by the session. Nothing was said about his size by him or me. I think he was self conscious about it so I tried to make sure he knew it didn’t matter. Must be difficult for him wanting to top but facing those physical challenges. 
 


 

 


 

 

 

It’s all about that money, honey. Bring whatever kind of dick you own and have a blast! Hell, I don’t care if you even have a dick. Strap it on if that’s what gets you off. Willing to pay? You’re in!
It’s more about how you use it anyway.

I think that holds for providers who top as well 

For the record "prepping" for a small dick takes less time than getting ready to take a big one. 

Anyone who has the money... that's what providers who bottom prefer.

It depends on the client.  Small is definitely easier to handle but if it's big as long as the client takes his time initially and doesn't try to ram it in then big can be enjoyable.  
Keenan

Well I have been told that the size of the tip (of donation) is what brings most joy 

For providers who bottom, which do you prefer?  Small dick because it is easy to handle, or big dick for more fun?

I always check weather forecast before booking and skip the snow days.

I always check weather forecast before booking and skip the snow days.

I always check weather forecast before booking and skip the snow days.

That's what I always do too. And I always text them to tell them what time I will arrive when I go to them.

Things are changing, in 2020, 61 % said they'd bottom and now it's up to 68 %. So progress ("too hot to bottom strict tops" ruin everything)

Also worth noting though, on behalf of bottom providers …stakes are a bit different!  Clients are paying for the fantasy of a perfect ass.  Nothing is fool proof in that department.  But if you’re aiming to be someone’s fantasy of a perfect ass, you’ve got to learn to be as close to 100% fool proof as you can. 
Like someone said above: rehearsal is everything!

I used to have problems sometimes finding the right amount of water. Surprises, as you say. 
Listen to your body, and you gotta rehearse if you expect to perform. 

Rehearse, as in try different methods of delivery, retention, and expulsion when you have no plan for sex, and no pressure.
Learn timing of your system’s natural elimination cycle, and you’ll become more confident with less water to be effective for the depth anticipated. 
Find tutorials on muscle isolation of upper and lower abs - very useful, along with breathing. 
A thin, long dildo is a good friend to have. Even if you don’t like toys as part of sex, it’s the most effective way to check your instincts.
And just to beat the long-dead horse… FIBER. Fiber. Fiber. 
Good luck!