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Fully ready for judgment on this but I keep a spreadsheet of masseurs I’ve seen. I’ve established a rubric for scoring them and the top two scorers are my regulars. When I try someone new and they score high on their initial session, I slot them in and hire them a couple more time for consistency. If they consistently deliver at that the high score, they replace whichever of the top two may have been lower than their score.
not to say I discard the lower scoring therapists. I just don’t hire them unless my top two are busy/out of town, etc. 

I usually have about three in my rotation at a time. But when I find someone I really like, I tend to see them a LOT in the next few months. Then they move down the rotation when someone else new and exciting moves on top.
Every now and then, I'll go back to someone I hadn't seen in six months, and the excitement is back there and they're back in rotation.
Plus I have a couple friends on this site where we're all really in sync with each other. So if someone in that small trusted group tells me I must try someone, I might make an exception and try someone off-list at least once just to see what all the excitement is about. 

i say we drag this out some of us would cry if this story comes to an end too soon:(

Sounds like it went well for being in the new environment
 
Next time, when his dick is brushing or resting against your arm or hand, move your arm/hand enough to create more pressure on his dick - subtle, but clear intent
 
And then whenever you feel comfortable at the start of a massage, ask him if it would be OK to do it without the sheet... He might be fine with that... and it would create lots of opportunities

i can definitely see Dmitri's point about cutting to the chase.. but the build up can be fun too the little moments leading up to the big bang can be nice little memories later on..
 
AND the rest of us are catching our voyueristic (is that even a word?) jollies off this... so PLEASE keep it up!

I agree with PaulM... Maybe don't do anything different on this first massage in his home.
 
Doing the massage in his home instead of in a formal office setting really does open up the possibilities a lot! In an office setting, seems like he could get into a lot more trouble doing something sexual... So he might initiate a little more in his home setting since there's little to no risk for him.
 
Also, try leaving your hands conveniently near the edge of the tableside... so he can brush his crotch up against it "accidentally"... and if he does, make sure you keep your hand firmly in place and if he keeps rubbing against it, you could try moving your hand a little to rub his crotch too... It's a form of non-verbal communication

There is an older thread that has one review from a member who saw him.
 
 

$180 for a 60 minute strictly therapeutic massage seems kind of high 😂

I actually bought a little "neck pillow" that I thought I might be able to use for a makeshift face cradle if I had to have a massage on a bed.  I haven't tried it yet, but I think it would work.
 

Have you considered being a traveling nurse until you find a new location to settle?  I have a few family members that are RN that made good money while traveling and most expenses are paid.  Think of a try and buy in a region.  

I only ever took a guy home from there once.  Mostly I just liked stopping there for dinner before meeting up at one of the bars with friends.  The food was much better than further down the strip.  Chatted with the bartenders regularly.  And then I'd stop by on my way back to the hotel when it was later and it was just mayhem.  A couple of drag queens usually at the bar.  Several hot escorts hanging out at the bar.  And I seem to remember a magician there.  When I'm traveling it's nice to sit at the bar in a nice restaurant with a lot going on hahahaha.

$180 for a 60 minute strictly therapeutic massage seems kind of high 😂

Maybe the masseur recognized the time and date the message was sent combined with information that was specific to their session. 
Whatever happened, the point is that  private messages are private. If people don't respect that, the feature is useless. 

Off topic here from above messages:
I went to a masseur who focused on meditation and breathing in his sessions but allowed nudity for both parties. He mentioned he does sensual modality but no sexual activity (especially no penetration)which was fine me since I was looking for a relaxing experience to break up my hectic work life. He was great and we respected our space. After a few sessions, he did nuru one day which I didn’t expect but also didn’t mind. I did feel his cock getting harder as he was sliding against my back and I was getting excited but thought that this was part of the sensual experience and nothing more. 
 
That all changed when I felt his cock against my hole and he started sliding across it while gently probing along the rim. It felt so amazing and I couldn’t tell if it was the oil he was using or his precum. He did kinda see that I was into by my moaning and he was getting harder and he started getting excited and began pushing the head of his cock in. I winced and yelped a bit since I haven’t been fucked in awhile. I told him to stop but I could tell he wanted it and honestly I did too but the pain was getting to me. He told me he’ll be gentle and I said ok and pour some oil down my bum and started sliding up and down. It was so fucking hot that I started precumming a lot and he saw how wet I was he grabbed my ass and started eating it and forced his tongue in and out of my hole. I started cumming and he then went under me and drained me dry and swallowed. I was exhausted afterwards but I can tell he wanted more and we went way beyond our allotted time. 
 
I asked if he wanted to cum and he said yeah. And I asked if wanted to fuck and he agreed by turning me around. This time I was more relaxed and he went in gently with his wet cock. The moment the head went in..I was fucking blown away and he gently slid his head in and out of my hole without pulling out. He pushed in further and fucked me so hard that the sound of sweat and precum between us was so wet and loud. He asked where he can cum and I told him that he cum inside me. He obliged and rammed his cock one last time and I felt cock pulsating his load into me. Everything was a blur after but he was giving me scalp massage and we made out in the end. He cleaned me up and i was a bit horny still and he could tell since I was still kinda hard. He said if I had fun and I said definitely and asked if I was done. I said no and asked if I wanted to do something else. I asked if I can suck on his cock. He agreed and we went to shower and I blew him in the bathroom. His cock and cum tasted sweet which I didn’t expect. I haven’t seen him since and I do want to go back but for his massages but I’m afraid its gonna be full blown sex. 
 

I have to agree. I've been reading this forum for a far shorter time than many of our members, but in that time, I've noticed the good and the bad, and we need to live with, and more importantly learn how to react to both. Both in my time as a punter and a moderator (or now with one or other of those hats on) I've seen responses and sadly, withdrawal in the face of negative comments and at times hectoring or even outright bullying. As a moderator I feel compelled to think more closely about negative things that have been said, rather than just thinking, 'Arsehole' and moving on. More often than I thought we had a right to expect, I've seen other members take down bad commenters comprehensively, the better replies with zero reference to anything beyond the content of what had been said, other by challenging motives but not character. That is uplifting.
None of that is to justify bad comments or undisguised contempt for others, or for their intelligence. None of us is perfect, but we can all strive to do better. We all can do better.

I think some here are used to 
You're not alone and I could sure name a few. I've noticed they're usually the same types that rip escorts for things they can't control like age or appearance. 
Some people are just naturally assholes and that's about all you can say. 
 
 

Excellent points.  I suspect there are community members who refrain from making original posts or even commenting because they know the mean girls are just going to make them regret it.  

It's something that's hard not to see, made the more so by the number of times it's not a light being switched on or off. It's a gradual, at times imperceptible trend of declining civility. Sometimes it's the same posters, perhaps unconsciously, responding slightly more stridently to someone else raising the temperature, but there are others who might leap in when the escalation has already happened, almost as if they had been waiting for it to reach a certain level before their attempted coup de grace.
Regulating shared spaces is always fraught. Some things can be either allowed or not allowed, and there's no ambiguity. Others can be more nuanced but have trigger points that say 'this far no further', but most are a continuum where crossing the line is subjective.
While it is often easy to identify a problem, it's not always as easy to see a way to solve it, and I think that's the dilemma @CheckCar has identified. Even without an apparent solution, identifying an issue and canvassing it can be the first step to resolving it, and that discussion, and the awareness it generates, in itself can go some way towards that.

We’ve all seen it happen: A benign thread on this site that gets derailed by haughty and venomous users who seemingly delight in belittling and bullying others. Sometimes their comments reflect an inability, or maybe an unwillingness, to accept that others simply disagree with them. Perhaps more disturbing are the times when their spite and snark emerge with no clear provocation, leaving the rest of us to wonder whether participating on this site is worth the hassle. Either way, this mean girl dynamic — the bullying of fellow users into submission and silence — is difficult to avoid on Company of Men, and it undermines this site as a space where all of us can convene and connect.
 
Outside of reporting such behavior to site administrators — an imperfect response that raises its own set of challenges — I see no clear path toward curbing this dynamic on CoM. (If others have suggestions, feel free to share.) I am naming it here for the benefit of others who, like me, are troubled by the mean-spiritedness of some of our fellow site members. You are not crazy; some of our peers on CoM are terribly unkind, and their petty and spiteful communication styles can make it difficult to spend time here.
 
And sure, this is not unique to CoM. Aggressive and malicious comments from others pervade practically every online domain imaginable. But I find the mean girl dynamic on CoM particularly disheartening because of the purpose of this site. As a gay man of a certain age who is often invisible in bars and clubs catering to the gym-bodied under-40 crowd, and who engages in the type of encounters discussed on this site, I don’t have many people that I can talk to about my specific “extracurricular activities.” (I imagine this is the case for some — not all, but some — of you as well.) I was so relieved when I finally discovered this site after years of wasting time and money on unskilled providers just looking to make a quick buck. I was also incredibly grateful for the outlet (and on some days, the lifeline) this site provided during the COVID lockdown. CoM has the potential to nurture a spirit-lifting camaraderie for those of us who struggle to find it elsewhere. I wish some of us weren’t so seemingly hellbent on tearing others down.
 
Note: I have not named any specific users in this post, as the issue at hand extends beyond any single user. I implore anyone who chooses to comment on this thread to follow suit.

I wish there was more of that in general going on.
I miss the days of meeting someone out, having a drink, chatting a bit before going home to fuck their brains out.
Probably why I prefer meeting providers for a massage on a first meet. The encounter is more low key/ fewer expectations and more conducive to a little conversation. Wham*bam*thank*you*Ma'am isn't always what I am looking for.

I don't remember Jerry Brown ever doing a nude scene. What movie was it? 

For one I didn’t appreciate his advice 18 years ago and had I followed it I would be dead now.  Enuff said. 

Blanche Deveraux once said, "The only way to get over a man is to get under another one."
[A wise slut, that one!]

I'm looking to make a weekend trip to WEHO soon and wanted to see if anyone had recommendations for a nice restaurant with a good amount of bar seating.  Someplace friendly.  And if there are younger guys looking for older company that would also be great
I was visiting WEHO two years ago and I tried a place called Bottega Louie, which mostly fit the bill for me -- beautiful place, friendly, good bar seating.  Wondering whether anyone had other recommendations.
I had previously posted a topic about the old Numbers restaurant.  If there's anything like that around today, please let me know!