Shawn Monroe

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

And this is why I don’t take appointments off RM itself, and I much prefer communication by phone or email. 

hey! so i’m in a facebook group with female escorts in australia. and though some things are the same, the biggest difference does indeed seem to be the initial point of contact. that being said the initial point of contact practices should translate well between male and female escorts. you don’t need the references or to fill out the forms!
as was said above most of us (though not all) prefer communication via text. phone calls are intrusive (and some people are not as good at the phone as they think they are), and the RM app is buggy. a good initial text (no “hey”) stating what you’re looking for and potential time to meet will work wonders. 
you’re also looking in the best place. at this point, i’d cut a4a out - it’s about as good as grindr. RM will be your best bet. that being said, getting a feel for a guy through his profile can be hit or miss; communication (and actually stating what you want) are the best ways to go about it. and sometimes it really is just trying until you find a (few) good guy(s) and sticking to them.  
i can’t speak for everyone, but the less texts to set up a meeting are usually better. trying to build up a rapport (if you haven’t hired yet) can make you seem like you’re looking for a texting buddy vs trying to set an appointment. so get it all out initially. 
oh and also, GFE or BFE means something different to everyone. every client and every provider has a different idea of what that is - is it an actual date to an event, is it talking, is it passionate sex? i wouldn’t even go about describing your experience as that and just communicating what you want, asking if they can provide it, and go from there.  
this was a lot, and some don’t like to read. but you’re on the right track!

Honestly you are asking questions that you should just discuss with the escort you are interested in hiring.  

While not wrong, I think it more stems from the (warranted) fear of assault. Not to say that won’t happen to male escorts as well, but ensuring a male client has been vetted by other female providers, can fill out a form and can communicate well, puts them less in danger. 

hey! so i’m in a facebook group with female escorts in australia. and though some things are the same, the biggest difference does indeed seem to be the initial point of contact. that being said the initial point of contact practices should translate well between male and female escorts. you don’t need the references or to fill out the forms!
as was said above most of us (though not all) prefer communication via text. phone calls are intrusive (and some people are not as good at the phone as they think they are), and the RM app is buggy. a good initial text (no “hey”) stating what you’re looking for and potential time to meet will work wonders. 
you’re also looking in the best place. at this point, i’d cut a4a out - it’s about as good as grindr. RM will be your best bet. that being said, getting a feel for a guy through his profile can be hit or miss; communication (and actually stating what you want) are the best ways to go about it. and sometimes it really is just trying until you find a (few) good guy(s) and sticking to them.  
i can’t speak for everyone, but the less texts to set up a meeting are usually better. trying to build up a rapport (if you haven’t hired yet) can make you seem like you’re looking for a texting buddy vs trying to set an appointment. so get it all out initially. 
oh and also, GFE or BFE means something different to everyone. every client and every provider has a different idea of what that is - is it an actual date to an event, is it talking, is it passionate sex? i wouldn’t even go about describing your experience as that and just communicating what you want, asking if they can provide it, and go from there.  
this was a lot, and some don’t like to read. but you’re on the right track!

hey! so i’m in a facebook group with female escorts in australia. and though some things are the same, the biggest difference does indeed seem to be the initial point of contact. that being said the initial point of contact practices should translate well between male and female escorts. you don’t need the references or to fill out the forms!
as was said above most of us (though not all) prefer communication via text. phone calls are intrusive (and some people are not as good at the phone as they think they are), and the RM app is buggy. a good initial text (no “hey”) stating what you’re looking for and potential time to meet will work wonders. 
you’re also looking in the best place. at this point, i’d cut a4a out - it’s about as good as grindr. RM will be your best bet. that being said, getting a feel for a guy through his profile can be hit or miss; communication (and actually stating what you want) are the best ways to go about it. and sometimes it really is just trying until you find a (few) good guy(s) and sticking to them.  
i can’t speak for everyone, but the less texts to set up a meeting are usually better. trying to build up a rapport (if you haven’t hired yet) can make you seem like you’re looking for a texting buddy vs trying to set an appointment. so get it all out initially. 
oh and also, GFE or BFE means something different to everyone. every client and every provider has a different idea of what that is - is it an actual date to an event, is it talking, is it passionate sex? i wouldn’t even go about describing your experience as that and just communicating what you want, asking if they can provide it, and go from there.  
this was a lot, and some don’t like to read. but you’re on the right track!

hey! so i’m in a facebook group with female escorts in australia. and though some things are the same, the biggest difference does indeed seem to be the initial point of contact. that being said the initial point of contact practices should translate well between male and female escorts. you don’t need the references or to fill out the forms!
as was said above most of us (though not all) prefer communication via text. phone calls are intrusive (and some people are not as good at the phone as they think they are), and the RM app is buggy. a good initial text (no “hey”) stating what you’re looking for and potential time to meet will work wonders. 
you’re also looking in the best place. at this point, i’d cut a4a out - it’s about as good as grindr. RM will be your best bet. that being said, getting a feel for a guy through his profile can be hit or miss; communication (and actually stating what you want) are the best ways to go about it. and sometimes it really is just trying until you find a (few) good guy(s) and sticking to them.  
i can’t speak for everyone, but the less texts to set up a meeting are usually better. trying to build up a rapport (if you haven’t hired yet) can make you seem like you’re looking for a texting buddy vs trying to set an appointment. so get it all out initially. 
oh and also, GFE or BFE means something different to everyone. every client and every provider has a different idea of what that is - is it an actual date to an event, is it talking, is it passionate sex? i wouldn’t even go about describing your experience as that and just communicating what you want, asking if they can provide it, and go from there.  
this was a lot, and some don’t like to read. but you’re on the right track!

You are right, I will have to learn to develop a thick skin and protect myself from these nonsenses. It is also important to have a set of rules for moving on, like I am not waiting for hours, if you do not reply a request for update for more than 30 mins then the meeting is cancelled. If you delay the meeting for more than an hour then it is cancelled. If you miss appointments twice then you are not welcomed any more. 

hey i’m not saying you’re wrong. common decency would be nice. but it’s often not afforded to us in this industry. even in this forum we get talked down to and talked over. 
the only thing i can say is to develop a thick skin so the next time this happens you won’t be as disappointed. 
and also to develop a contingency plan so when this happens again you’ll know what you want to do. 

How difficult is it to just text back that he cannot make it for the night so the provider can just move on or sleep early. If the client said something to not let me wait in limbo, then I would feel much better. However, I suspect that this client just shopped around providers or Grindr and then decide to move on with a new one instead of repeating with someone he already met. "Fell asleep" is just a lame excuse which makes me feel even worse. I have decided to block such client on RM and unless he texts me to apologize for his behavior, I won't see him again. I am not doing this solely for a living so losing a client like this is no big deal. 

sorry that happened, a lot of us have been there. at this point i’m iffy on clients that have business dinners.
 
business almost always run late. just had a client earlier this week that got roped into one and it ran late. 
i ask them to let me know when dinner is over, but if it’s later than my cutoff time, i’ll  politely say we should meet another time. 

sorry that happened, a lot of us have been there. at this point i’m iffy on clients that have business dinners.
 
business almost always run late. just had a client earlier this week that got roped into one and it ran late. 
i ask them to let me know when dinner is over, but if it’s later than my cutoff time, i’ll  politely say we should meet another time. 

sorry that happened, a lot of us have been there. at this point i’m iffy on clients that have business dinners.
 
business almost always run late. just had a client earlier this week that got roped into one and it ran late. 
i ask them to let me know when dinner is over, but if it’s later than my cutoff time, i’ll  politely say we should meet another time. 

I know that clients often complain about providers who are late, no show, flake etc.. but I want to share an experience recently from a client that I was really upset about. The client was a great one and we had met twice before, both was fun and pleasant, so I was very excited when he called again to set up a meeting a few days in advance of his trip to the city. We exchanged texts to make it hot and I have prepped it well before the session (edging to make myself super horny). I also declined/postponed several requests the day before we met just to make sure I am in the optimal stage for a good time. On the day of meeting, he sent text early in the morning telling me that he will keep me in the loop on when to meet as he have some meetings during the day. Then throughout the day he kept silence all the way and when I asked for an update, he just texted back several hours later that he is still having dinner with his counterparts. I was wasting the whole night waiting for him and ended up so upset as it was already midnight and no update from him. Then I texted him that if he want to postpone or cancel just let me know. Still no response. The next day he texted me back "sorry, I fell asleep"! I feel like a piece of "sh*t" being treated like this. I know this business is transactional sometime and I hate it when clients have no respect for providers' time. Just a simple message to cancel/postpone would be so much helpful. Clients like this make me feel like quitting. Maybe I am new to this so it hurts me more, I have seen providers putting the note in their ad that "only right now, no advanced appointment" and now I know why. Just ranting after a bad experience! 

I kind of like the variety of pricing levels out there.  Sometimes it's not about what's charged.  Some will tell you they're not a clock watcher, and the session goes beyond the hour.    
One I met was (at the time) 300 for one, 500 for two, and 600 for three hours, with varying rates for longer times.
And, I've been quoted 2 times hourly rate for 2 hours, or a 90 minute rate at same $5 per minute price as the hourly rate (300 for hour / 60  X 90 = 450 for ninety minutes)
 

I think loyalty rewards are great…for big business that can build the discounts into their overhead. I think small business should set their cost and hold to it. I know that I wouldn’t want to do my job for less and I wouldn’t expect a provider to take less. It somehow would feel that I’m taking advantage and still expecting 100% from them. I’m happy to pay what they are worth. The more expensive, overpriced providers, I decide where my spending limit is and engage with guys within that limit

In my experience as soon as you start discounting (whether that’s offering reduced rates for regulars or students or whatever) the discounted rate becomes the new ‘floor’ for your standard hour rate. It bleeds to other clients and then becomes the expectation. So I have a simple rule: no discounts ever.  The rate is the rate, that’s it and it’s not a matter for discussion. The sooner the conversation moves from ‘how much’ to ‘this is what I like / want’ the better. I like to minimise the transactional nature of the meeting because it doesn’t help with creating the right atmosphere. 

People here have suggested this before, but honestly, it's not something most successful escorts would jump at.
To me, the idea of this sort of rebate system makes the whole situation feel hyper-commoditized.
However, this might work well for guys who are hurting for business, a stable of regulars or simply work hourlies as their standard.

I think the benefit you get from being "loyal" to providers is perhaps first options for desired appointment slots?  But, I like your idea  I don't think though, many providers would be giving it away for free and perhaps provide more intangible benefits like spending extra time off the clock... or favorable pricing for extended vacations etc.

Some clients don’t have large windows of time for a 2 hour or longer session. I find that if they’re slipping out from work or getting in a session after work before they head home then an hour is easier to ‘lose’ than 2 hours. Especially as if you add travel time etc an hour session can take out 90 minutes or more from a schedule.
The other factor is whether they can afford the higher cost of the longer session. Some financially stretched clients save up and book a session as a special treat so an hour suits them. 
From my perspective I find a 2 hour session is most preferable for me because it’s more cost effective and efficient. I’d rather see one client for 2 hours than two clients for 1 hour especially as I like an hour between clients so a couple of 1 hour clients can effectively eat up 3+ hours in a day for roughly the same revenue as one 2 hour client. 
However as a customer focused business I do offer 1 hour sessions because there’s a market for it…but I draw the line at requests for half an hour!