Shawn Monroe

Thank you! 😘

any time I hear a midwesterner talk about driving and flight times haha. my point being that I need to drive to cities within a days drive. Driving 12 hours and then working doesn’t sound feasible to me. At that point it’s a flight, and flying with a massage table expensive and cumbersome. That’s why I like atlanta in that there are enough cities around that are within a 6 hour drive. And when business gets slow in town I can plan a trip elsewhere.

Both times for my career. I left texas because I was more so thrown out. I got laid off, couldn’t find an acceptable position within my salary range in Houston or dallas, and most places in other cities wanted you to live there. I had a colleague in OKC and she brought me on and it worked out. that’s also when I became a provider. OKC was a decent city and had a little money because of oil and gas. It was also decent for travel as a provider; austin, dallas, Houston, San Antonio, Little Rock, Tulsa, @Jarrod_Uncut’s KCMO were all in a days drive. but I knew if I was to continue my career it wouldn’t be in OKC so I had to start looking elsewhere. this time, I did take being a provider into account with the city I was going to move to. While I love Seattle, it’s expensive, not diverse, and you can only drive to Vancouver or Portland. LA was over saturated. so ATL was the place with enough upward mobility in my career, diversity, with a good airport, and enough business as a provider, with enough cities in a days drive away.

It’s not that it’s bad, but like @Lazarussaid, he could very well lie and say he is. It’s like asking if someone is neg or DDF. It’s fine and if doing that gives you peace of mind that’s cool, but you can’t be 100% sure. not to mention that by asking, you’re trying to place the responsibility of your health in the hands of someone else, when: 1) it’s no one’s fault but your own, and 2) you’re scheduling an activity you know is somewhat dodgy in the middle of a pandemic with rising cases. You can ask Al you want, but If you get it you have absolutely no one to blame but yourself.

So in this post we don’t consider Oklahoma the Midwest. “Is Oklahoma the south or the Midwest” is one of my favorite questions to ask where no answer is wrong. anyway I’ll come back to this cause you know I had to leave Texas, and then depending on if you think Oklahoma is the Midwest, I had to leave there too.

Or actively in an appointment.

This question gets asked every few months and I doubt you’ll get a straight answer. Any answer viewed unfavorably in the eyes of clients will paint the escort in a bad light. if an escort says he takes what is deemed as too many clients, he’s seen as a numbers game escort. If he says too few, he may seem undesirable. Not to mention nothing is ever certain. ill say this: most anything you think about this industry is counterintuitive. What you think as a client is not always the case.

Another interesting question. originally I wanted to go by my pen name that I (used to) write for gay.fleshbot.com, and my own blog under, which was Garridan P. Faxton. garridan translates to “you hid” and I like names with x In them. It was the perfect pen name that coincided with the original name of my porn blog. I also wanted it for brand building when people googled that name. but my BFF Jeremy Davis (some of y’all know him) veto’s it. so when we were setting up my profiles I had to brainstorm. shawn is part of my middle name. Monroe comes from a boy I used to talk to online that I was rather smitten with. Not his real last name, but kind of a symbolism that has stood behind standing behind a name for a better part of my life.

Hopefully one day you’ll come around.

Some reasons off the top of my head: - awareness. Many may not know about It. - benefit. There really isn’t any. You can run a successful business and not participate. - this forum really isn’t for us. Even the “ask a provider” section. We get talked over (“not a provider, but…”) talked about by people that hide behind screen names and profile pics, and the questions asked either force us to frame ourselves in negative light, or are just someone looking to validate something they’re already gonna do. - anything you say, can and will be held against you. Sometimes it’s best for us to just be quiet. That’s why I participate much less than I used to, and often just lurk to keep up. hope that helps!

I think sometimes people forget that we are people too.

I find the more difficult one to define here is “dominant”. A lot of times I’ll specifically ask someone what they’re looking for when they say they want someone to dominate them. Usually what they’re looking for, when it boils down, is to be choked while giving head and to be asked “you like that?” In an authoritative tone While giving head or bottoming. Maybe an ass slap if they’re into that.

This is like rule #3 in Murphy’s law of escorting: you take the day off, and you’ll be off for the next week; that will magically be the day everyone wants to book and no one will want to book the rest of the week.

An unfortunate downside of RentMen taking rates off the site in the US.

If someone is window shopping, let them window shop. If they’re ready to meet and message I respond, but this is mostly a demand-driven business. Messaging first is often seen as intruding.

I also don’t like being tickled or tied up.

Race play…

My experience has usually been the opposite. The week leading up to pride can be ok for business, but generally I avoid working during pride. More people in town, but they’re generally hooking up with each other or are too busy to hook up with you. Accidentally ended up in KC for pride in 2016 and almost just went to the festival instead.

I love this question. As an escort / masseur, the laundry is never done and YES it is difficult to keep up with. - I work out at least once every day. That’s a shirt, jockstrap and pair of shorts. - regular clothes is at least a shirt, underwear, and shorts. - any massage appointment is at least 1 sheet, 1 headrest cover, 1 towel or handtowel, and one washcloth. so I go through about a load of laundry per day. Often more. And that doesn’t take into account when I’m traveling...

I will say this - I hate the notion some guys have of “hire him as the first session of the day; that way he’s fresh and hasn’t cum yet”. The amount of guys trying to hire me for 7am appointments makes me laugh. as everyone else has said, everyone is different. But me? I’m horniest after the gym. And I go to the gym in the morning. All the testosterone is flowing. Take that how you will.

Like everyone has said, you won’t find a divinitie answer. Every city is different. Abs every trip to every city is different. Abs this goes for every escort. My best advice is to travel to cities where you stand out a little. But it may just be worth it to travel to see which cities stick.

Always so interesting to hear what clients think is happening vs. what is actually happening. The one interesting caveat I see is the increase in work from home, especially when I travel. In some cities, especially smaller ones, I could take a half day off work, get in Friday afternoon/evening and guys would see me after work. Now I’m getting multiple guys in every single city asking me how early I’ll get in on Friday and are able to see me up until 5. Interestingly enough, I’ll still get guys worried about coming to see me during rush hour because of the traffic. All That said, I tend to see the same things you see. @Jarrod_Uncut

Yup! I have my address input to mine. But you can’t see that on the front end - it just helps give a general location of where I am considering it’s an urban district.

I will also add that we are able to input an actual address, a city, or just a GPS point. When we are traveling to a city (or if you just enter a city) it picks the city center. Often times guys will update to an actual location when traveling to be more accurate, since the big sites are still bad at locations.

As others have said asking HIV status is fine but it’s ultimately up to you - not a provider, or anyone else - to protect your health. Now on the topic of vaccines which no one has touched on. It’s fine to ask, but if you’re basing a decision to hire on whether a provider has been vaccinated then you may be hiring prematurely. Most states are still prioritizing essential workers, first responders and medically fragile over the general population - and we won’t be prioritized until much later. Even though I know you said you don’t plan to hire until after you’ve had your second vaccine.