Shawn Monroe

Hesitant to answer this cause y’all get weird when we share our opinions in here (despite the forum being called “ask a provider”) but alas: some people are bad kissers. some guys think that kissing means licking anything your tongue comes into contact with. Some think it means lunging at you with tongue already out of your mouth. once a guy wanted to start with a kiss and he just licked the right side of my face. I excused myself to wash my face. I think I’ve had my eyeball licked before. I agree with some of the other reasons posed here, but the main reasons reallly are that it is a more intimate activity than getting off, some people have bad breath (pls scrape your tongue) and some are bad kissers.

Jarrod is actually spitting fire right here.

Because some people get off on the excitement of booking as opposed to the act itself. Do you confirm appointments the day of?

As @BtmBearDadsaid, there are definitely guys that get off more on the idea of communicating than on actually meeting. I used to say “why don’t those guys just watch porn” but porn doesn’t talk back. you have to get to a point where you acknowledge that this is a thing that happens, identify when it’s happening, and structure your communication accordingly, else you will go crazy.

To add to this, our costs, just like yours, are also skyrocketing. We have to operate in nice desireable areas (you probably wouldn’t come see me if I lived in south atlanta) and our rents are increasing 30-40% YOY as well. to think that we are immune to the factors affecting society just because we are providers is misguided. that said, I don’t know what will happen to business in the future. We all thought it would go away in the pandemic but the amount of requests I had changed very little.

I feel like that’s their own problem. If they want to cater to the midtown gays (of which I am one) then they either need to be in midtown or provide a shuttle. I’ll go to ansley or Cheshire bridge before I go to future. and BJs is what it is but I’d even prefer to go there and see their dancers over what future had

He was probably 13. If you’re being facetious. So there was no need.

All of these have happened to me. Most I wouldn’t do again. other one being someone underaged. I showed up once and the person was, I immediately got in my car and sped off.

Completely agree with this. If you’re not going to get your providers on here and in other places, then hold them accountable.

I drive by every day. The building still stands. I haven’t driven by at night so I can’t say, but don’t doubt it’s been converted to anything yet.

In your opinion, what’s the difference between the two?

I know, judging from experience 🙂

Can I also point out that as many clients hate piecemeal and a la carte rates, requests like this are largely where they come from. You want a massage with a side of oral and the masseur cumming on you, and so forth, but don’t want to pay an escort rate, and the provider doesn’t want to lose business. all I’m saying is that requests like this are largely where those come from.

One time I had a client ask me if he could contact me the next time I was in town, or if I was the type that didn’t like repeat business. weird as heck to me but there are guys out there that don’t like repeat business.

I bring everything I think I’ll need to a session, even if I’ve been seeing someone for years and they prefer to use their own supplies. Just keep it all in my provider purse. You never know!

While I 90% agree with you, the “rent” companies - rentmasseur in particular- make it difficult. They make it look like you’re in a city up to 30 days before you’re there. You’d be surprised how much time I spend typing “hey - I’m not in [city]. My ad says I’ll be in [city] on [dates]. Would you like to meet when I’m there?” and because nearly all those clients want to meet an hour of messaging, that is business you can’t recoup. that said, for clients that plan ahead it is necessary and favorable to post dates.

Most anything with a gift card is going to be a scam. I work for a major corp and they made a whole page warning of that stuff. He could be honest but prob not. Love you

These are the questions I love, that ask about our experience. but to your question, it can certainly add up, once you count the things you mentioned plus expenses like food, checking a table (which is the absolute worst experience), and the snowballing costs associated (bringing a table means needing a bigger room, which usually costs extra). some ways i mitigate: - travel to more expensive cities in off-peak times. - fly on off peak times and days. - have a number of confirmed appointments before I go to gauge if the trip will be worth it. - catch flight and hotel sales and go - work up to flight / hotel / rental car / credit card status as it can come in handy. then. - couple it with another event so i don’t feel like I need to hit a goal of sorts. - buy food up front at the grocery store to avoid eating fast food. and to the overall point, this is why I drive to most cities, and choose to live in a city that is driving distance to a lot of cities. hope this helps…

Considering the popularity of onyx, I doubt they’d give up one night for gays. And If they did it would be an off night.

Welcome to the “ask a provider” section 🙃🙃🙃

The gym is something I absolutely need to do 😉 though I’m the opposite. I’ve been starting my day with the gym for the last 7’years so if I don’t I feel off. and yes, plant daddy is absolutely a new type of gay, with no kids and no pets (because I travel so much) that need something to tend to. currently I have: - a pothos (that needs to be split and repotted) - a desert rose (that is dormant right now cause it’s winter) - a lucky bamboo - a small succulent - 2 snake plants - a fiddle leaf plant - an aloe (clippings my friend sent me in the mail that is doing great) - a fiddle leaf tree (my friend gave me when his place burned down) - a bird of paradise (my friend gave me, that I should prob split and repot) - I also have a free pot right now; I will probably put a pilea in it.

And as others have said (and we say at least once a month, y’all keep asking this) how much time we spend tending to clients varies. Getting ready to travel and being on a trip it’s more. Things can also be cyclical and some weeks I have a lot of bookings, other weeks not as many. There’s no one answer.

Interesting thoughts and perspectives here. I agree (as I often do) with @Jamie21 in that you have to have a bit of flexibility with your schedule, else this will drive you crazy. that said I’m somewhere in the middle. If I have no planned activities I’ll go crazy, and portions of my life are regimented (first alarm at 6, second at 6:10, gym at 6:30, etc). But others are up to chance. now about things I do outside of providing: - I’ve said it before but I love live music and concerts. I’m at at least one a week. If I’ve been to your city, I’ve probably been to a concert In your city. I also have a huge playlist of music I listen to traveling to and from your cities. - for 8 years I was an editor for Fleshbot (it’s linked in my signature). For a few months I was one of the lead editors on the gay side. I’ve since parted ways with them but I know some porn stars and write about a lot of them. - I’m in the gym a lot, it keeps me from going crazy. - I like going to galleries and museums and looking at all the art. I made my ec go to the philbrook in Tulsa before I moved, and he got me a membership to the high in atlanta for my birthday. - if you’ve been to my home, you know I’ve become a plant dad recently. You also know the place has changed a lot since I moved in and I’ve been making it my own.

In my sessions, I sat light oral is fine. If you’re looking to get me off or if this turns into something where the massage is not the main focal point, then we need to talk about an escort rate. Of course this varies person to person.