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Sexual Orientation is independent of Sexual Activity or Behavior. It's entirely possible for a straight identified male to engage in a whole range of sexual activities with another male. Culture, socialization, and psychology all factor in just as how he's treated, talked to, touched, and more. Humans are remarkably flexible when the environment encourages it and they wish to be.

What an awesome thread. So many thoughtful replies. You've been in this business long enough to know how to run a good service. Here are some off the cuff thoughts from cruising altitude: Know what clients want. Create buzz, mystery, excitement around your service and how you fulfill those wants. Understand where the money is because this industry requires significant disposable income. Think about where clients want to hire. Near home where it's convenient? Or while they travel for work or vacation for discretion? Understand how different groups of clients will have very different expectations around this point. Research current themes, trends, and kinks that appeal to you as work you can do well and that will appeal to clients. Realize the market is saturated more than ever with low cost or no cost competitors. Differentiation becomes key. How do you stand out? What makes your service experience worth the effort, risk and cost of hiring you? Know that sexual activity, especially for men, is declining in the developed world as a growing number of people abstain, avoid, or minimize sexual activity in their lives, particularly those under 40. How do you respond? Maybe make your service about intimacy, connection, comfort, and more? Really dig into the criticality of creating an experience because the under 40 consumer is very focused on memorable experiences especially related to wellness, health, and social activities. More and more discretionary spending is going into health and wellness. Could this be an avenue to explore? Do you live in a remote location or have access to a remote location where destination retreats or other wellness weekends could be created? Do you have interests in nutrition and fitness? Could you see yourself creating a daddy-themed coaching service? Workout retreats? https://www.kiplinger.com/slideshow/investing/T006-S001-millionaires-in-america-2019-all-50-states-ranked/index.html https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/ https://www.fastcompany.com/90247896/these-10-market-trends-turned-wellness-into-a-4-2-trillion-global-industry

Thanks. I'd completely forgotten about that stuff.

Do you have a link to this experiment? I'm smelling a rat here because rats go into heat, roughly once a week, which is when they have sex and when they're not in heat, they generally don't.

Do you have a link to this experiment? I'm smelling a rat here because rats go into heat, roughly once a week, which is when they have sex and when they're not in heat, they generally don't.

$10 a month is $120 a year. That's nearly a Netflix subscription. Given how much free porn is online, you need to make compelling content and update it regularly to justify that expense. If you have a good number of subscribers who only stick around for a month, you need to work on your content and your stickiness because your thirty day churn is much too high. What's your model? How are you engaging with clients? Where's the sustainability? Advertising should be wherever your clients are, places like instagram, twitter, this forum, and any other sites or forums that have a good number of your desired subscribers. What's your niche? How are you different? What's a Dev Daddy? Are you a developer? Real estate? Software? What? Clarify your brand, find your tribes, and go for it!

$10 a month is $120 a year. That's nearly a Netflix subscription. Given how much free porn is online, you need to make compelling content and update it regularly to justify that expense. If you have a good number of subscribers who only stick around for a month, you need to work on your content and your stickiness because your thirty day churn is much too high. What's your model? How are you engaging with clients? Where's the sustainability? Advertising should be wherever your clients are, places like instagram, twitter, this forum, and any other sites or forums that have a good number of your desired subscribers. What's your niche? How are you different? What's a Dev Daddy? Are you a developer? Real estate? Software? What? Clarify your brand, find your tribes, and go for it!

The ability to plan long term is impaired by poverty and trauma according to many studies. Being alone might not be by choice. Or it may be since many people under 40 are more comfortable online than face to face.

@jjkrkwood, I don't want to get this thread thrown into politics, so I will just say the world is more divided than ever before with a growing majority of people on the knife's edge. Desperate people will do what they have to do to survive. For example, 40% of the US population say they can't pay a $400 emergency bill, even as our economy is amazing for all of us in the top 10%. Refugees are fleeing Central America because of gang violence caused by a huge increase in gang activity created by deportees from the USA and gangs born in the USA. Millions of Indians are getting their drinking water from trucks or the black market. The list goes on around the world. My point is that the internet makes it possible for desperate people to monetize different aspects of their life. Some are doing whatever they can to survive including cam performances for money. If they aren't doing it out of desperation, there could be any number of reasons for why hot guys are performing on cams. Please stop questioning a person's identity just because you believe their actions contradict their stated identity. Many studies over many years of research show sexual activity and behavior are not driven by orientation. They're related, but it's entirely possible even probable--depending on psychological and sociological factors--for a human male to identify as straight and enjoy anal play and sex. Nor does it matter that he's "jerking off for guys" because it's a performance. He's probably fantasizing about fucking a female or being sucked by a female or what ever works to get him off.

Maybe a trainer can help get the dogs adequately leash trained? You definitely don't want them pulling in different directions or possibly yanking you off balance.

Movement matters. It's one of the key 3 legs of wellness: movement, nutrition, and sleep.

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I've had such arrangements. It requires clear communication, which I would not recommend doing on the website as it's almost a sure fire way to get suspended or banned. I try to be upfront on seeking and then take it to another communication channel, sometimes even over a drink or bite to eat.

The USA has a very long history of violating American civil and privacy rights at its borders and within the constitutional rights "exclusion zone." It's only gotten worse since 9/11 and now under the current xenophobic administration. Anyone, American or not, would be very wise to be on their best behavior and have excellent opsec when entering or leaving the USA. Doubly so since CBP demonstrated the usual incompetence of any large authoratarian organization gathering data on everyone when they were deeply hacked and had millions of records stolen earlier this year. https://www.aclu.org/other/constitution-100-mile-border-zone https://www.aclu.org/blog/national-security/pbs-highlight-abuses-border https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2019/06/travelers-images-stolen-attack-cbp/591403/ The best way to protect yourself is with a full opsec inventory and plan. I'm not remotely as hardened as I used to be, but here's a decent starting place for ideas. Keep in mind, we're talking about nation states and they effectively have unlimited resources, so if they really want to know everything about you, they will most likely find it in time. https://www.kiledjian.com/main/2019/5/25/operational-security-tips-to-safeguard-your-privacy-when-crossing-a-border

Please remember to get expert medical opinions from doctors with at least an awareness of current research. Our understanding of pain is vastly different today than even a decade ago. Further, imaging is not the end all be all of diagnostics. If we imaged the entire population, the vast majority of us would have degeneration or other completely normal physiological issues without any pain. Finding structural issues does not necessarily mean they are the root cause of the pain nor does it indicate surgery will fix things. Pain is an incredibly complex experience with myriad inputs, especially chronic pain. Systematic Literature Review of Imaging Features of Spinal Degeneration in Asymptomatic Populations Reconceptualising Pain According to Modern Pain Science This science writer and MT has decades of experience and education in pain management and science. He's one of my favorites for staying up to date: Painful Lessons Vulnerability to Chronic Pain

You dirty ol' man! I love it.

Technology is always changing and so is the data gathered and used by it. Without knowing the specific ad and diving into its background, who knows why it can came up? For all we know, it's part of Russian PsyOps propaganda. But, I won't discuss that further as this is not a political thread. That was one of my favorite hobbies when I exclusively topped! The real fun were the straight married military guys who learned to love bending over for my and their pleasure. Good times!

Homophobia, like many institutionalized bigotries, stems from the overlap of power dynamics, greed, and other factors including "us vs them" tribalism, which goes back to the earliest days of humanity. As social primates, all of us have various biases in varying intensity. As our species has become ever more densely populated and social, tolerance has become a critical set of skills and adaptations to enable survival and growth over the last few hundred thousand years. Many bigotries are learned early. Research shows tolerance best develops when fostered early. Craniofacial Feminization, Social Tolerance,and the Origins of Behavioral Modernity [PDF Link] Hating Gays: An Overview of Scientific Studies Homosexuality may have evolved to aid social bonding (controversial idea, but I tend to agree with it) Major Sociological Theories As a species, we are reaching a critical crossroad where tolerance is no longer enough. We need to move toward Acceptance and we must seriously tackle our dysfunctional global hierarchy created by runaway capitalism built on millenia of classim that feeds the false belief of a "ruling class" being necessary, "natural, " or inevitable for our species.

They've had a resurgance with the popularity of American Gods and Game of Thrones not to mention Thor and all the Marvel movies.

Mobile advertising is typically geotagged and overlaid with demographic and psychographic data for targeting. In other words, it isn't necessarily website specific. It's usually supplied by an advertising network to potentially be delivered to any prospective target on any website subscribed to the advertiser so long as the target meets the geotag, demographic, and psychographic requirements. So what I'm saying is that you met the criteria for the display of that ad for various reasons, which is why you saw that ad. They didn't specifically pick that website and if they knew about it, would probably immediately ask their advertising agency to remove that particular website from the rotation because they wouldn't want to be associated with it.

True for me too because perception is reality. If I meet someone who, to me, seems like what I'm into or I can imagine myself getting into it, then that's all that's required. It's all part of a professional's personal brand.

This is why I ask about believability because if an escort is skeptical about their ability to fulfill my desired fantasy or stereotype then it almost certainly won't work in person. Little things like accent, vocal range, mannerisms, and more all matter when constructing a session that's believably enjoyable for both of us when I'm spending significant money. Ultimately, fantasies, fetishes, kinks, and limits are more important than a provider's real or advertised Sexual Orientation.

If he's a savvy escort, it's part of his marketing because it encourages the client to reach out and communicate. In Sales, it's frequently a good thing when a prospect proactively communicates. It's all about learning more about a potential client to create the best approximation of their desired service to secure a booking and earn some money. I have written about this many times on this forum. I really wish human beings would study the latest research instead of continuing to propagate misinformation. Though, the research is also clear about how we humans love our belief systems much more than we care about facts, reality, or the truth. While psychology and Human Sexuality are very complex topics, there is far more information now than ever before. For example, we know Sexual Orientation (SO) and Sexual Activity or Sexual Behavior are independent and interrelated. In other words, it's entirely possible and even probable for a cisgendered straight identified human male to enjoy various sexual activities with another human male, depending on a variety of psychological and sociological factors. We all have our fetishes, kinks, and limits. If you're interested in a hot time with another human being, it's far more important to check for compatibility of fantasies, fetishes, interests, kinks, and limits than inquiring about another human's Sexual Orientation. As a cisgendered bisexual married father who enjoys spending time with certain stereotypes, I am less concerned with a particular person's SO than I am with their ability to embody a stereotypical Westernized cisgendered male fantasy. I ask questions about believability as a Hollywood leading man in a military movie or other stereotypical tropes. If the escort expresses skepticism, I politely move on. Yes, I have internalized homophobia, we all do, it's a big part of what feeds those of us into "straight guys," which is likely the anima and animus behind this entire thread and topic.

Notice what he said about a massage? He probably advertises mostly as a massage guy with happy endings. I liked the article about the high end UK escort more: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a11658313/male-escort-questions-answered/

A large portion of flushable wipes aren't really safe to flush. It's all marketing. They do not effectively breakdown and they cause massive problems downstream. I've read that some of the newest wipes might actually breakdown well, but they are a tiny part of the market. We have Toto 700H toilets in our house and use almost no toilet paper. Sometimes someone wants to use a wipe, we use the only certified & tested flushable wipes for them. And we have a small lidded trash can in the toilet WC for feminine hygiene products.