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My two favorites are Carson and feelmeflow. Feelmeflow is better educated in massage, but otherwise, they're both great for me and what I look for in a relaxing massage.

Yes, that would probably be slash fiction. @oldNbusted, I only saw 4 stories with the Mario Lopez tag at AOO. I have no idea if any include Scott Evans. And only three stories on FF with Mario Lopez in them. An in-depth web search might find individual stories on writer's sites.

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Human males being more visual is a long held belief. Recent research, while limited, is unsurprisingly showing that sexual arousal is much more complicated and likely highly influenced by psychosocial cultural factors. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-007-9217-9 This is a very small study, but worth considering: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-013-0076-2 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0018506X11000638

Crabs aka public lice are considered a sexually transmitted infection. They like coarse hair. They can be found anywhere on the body except in head hair. Manscaping that removes all body hair greatly reduces any chance of catching public lice since the only hair on such a body that would be attractive to them would be facial hair. I understand where you're coming from, but I would argue established professional escorts are safer than general hookups because they are generally better educated and more serious about their health than the typical hookup. If you consistently and correctly use condoms and get tested regularly, you should be well protected. Adding PrEP would be good for those who bottom/receive/catch, especially for anal sex, but you must be consistent on your daily dose. It's basically a back-up in case a condom breaks. Generic PrEP is finally coming to the USA, so cost should drop significantly. Also, having your vaccines is smart, especially Hep A/B and HPV (though the HPV vaccine is only recommended now for under 45).

Yes, viral load blips are common. According to one study, blips were around 10% and associated with an increased risk of virologic failure. Another recent study suggests more intense monitoring since blips seem to be a precursor to virologic failure.

I'm not suggesting anything beyond what I said above. I believe it's risky to suggest chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are treatable when there are resistant strains that make treatment difficult and, predominantly because of condomless sex, the probability of fully resistant strains increases every year. As responsible adults we should be doing what we can to reduce that probability and that means correct and consistent use of condoms for oral, anal, and vaginal sex outside of trustworthy exclusive relationships. Like appropriate vaccine use, this is a public health issue that affects all of us. And to be clear, I am not blaming professional escorts because many of them are far more on top of these issues than most clients. That's part of what makes them professionals. There are plenty of clients and escorts who are being reckless and irresponsible. The optimist in me hopes it's an issue of education given how poor sex education is in America, which is why I try to share current information.

There is no vaccine for HepC. Research has been going on for years. Don't expect one any time soon. It's irresponsible to say gonorrhea is treatable since there are treatment resistant strains and the CDC has expressed concern about gonorrhea becoming fully resistant to known treatments. Treatment resistant strains of syphilis and chlamydia are out there too but not widespread yet. Let's hope the chlamydia vaccine proves to be effective and comes to market soon.

I hear and agree with you in that there are plenty of those writing forms like poetry or short stories that could be great options for people who want to write more but are intimidated by the idea of a novel and tens of thousands of words.

Thanks. I'm not sure which club you're referring to above, is there a secret handshake that I don't know? Foucault was in many clubs. That's one of the fascinating aspects of his work.

50,000 words is substantial if you're talking about a finished writing product. Much of modern writing theory is more about getting the ideas captured and then revising and refining over time to create the finished product. Creating 50,000 words is 1,667 words a day over the 30 days. That is a sizable amount, but the entire point is to motivate people to write and once someone discovers the freedom of letting ideas flow and go where they will, it becomes surprisingly easy to hit those kinds of numbers. Yes much of it will be crap, but writing is a skill. It takes practice to get right. And many people will be pleasently surprised to find gems worth keeping that can become core elements of the finished product.

He's hot. Somewhat over manscaped to be a cowboy in my mind. If I were in the same town at the same time, I'd probably still lasso him for a ride.

Yes. National Novel Writing Month. Write a novel. That's why you don't bust. Refocus your energies into a creative project. https://nanowrimo.org/

Yes, PCD seems to be associated with psychological distress. Stress affects us in many complicated ways. A good sexual therapist can help. If it's primarily stress driven, a general therapist can help. Additionally, activities and habits that help manage stress can be beneficial as well.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-coital_tristesse Frequent PCT (Post-Coital Tristesse) aka PCD (Post-Coital Dysphoria) is somewhat rare and not well understood in either females or males. I would suggest you find a qualified professional in sexual medicine or sexual therapy to work with to identify what may be going on and work with you to create potential solutions that work for you.

Sartre is good for challenging and opening minds. Foucault is too. After opening minds with the classics, bring in current ideas and research to build on what was right and correct what was wrong.

https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm Interesting. The CDC doesn't currently recommend anal Pap smears though that guidance seems to slowly be changing for men who receive anal sex. The best bet is to use condoms correctly and consistently and for men under 45 to get the HPV vaccine because it'll probably provide some protection against the strains that they haven't been exposed to yet.

https://www.nbcnews.com/health/mens-health/what-are-symptoms-anal-cancer-disease-rise-u-s-n1086151

Much of sex is mental. Many of the guys who go limp with condoms are mentally destroying their erection because they've convinced themselves that they can't stay hard while wearing a condom. It's like many guys with ED. Do not misunderstand me here. I am not saying there are not serious physical issues for some men with ED. Many guys do have physical issues to tackle. But, our culture tends to obsess about the physical and ignore the psychological. It's physiologically possible for every healthy human male to have and keep an erection while wearing a condom. Is sensation different? Yes! But, with the right condom and the right mood/mindset, it's entirely possible. I do not judge barebackers. I don't use condoms with my wife and haven't since college. I know what condomless sex with her feels like and I love it. In the past, I have had very trusted buddies who I've fucked without a condom. As I said above, being a mature adult means being honest about life and the risks all around us. If you want to bareback with an escort, that is your choice and the escort's choice. I hope you've educated yourself and you're tested regularly, because escorts and porn actors are a high risk demographic and men who have sex with men are too. So, probabilities are fairly high that you may catch something one day. If you are responsible, you are getting anal and throat swabs along with other STI testing at least quarterly since you're on PrEP. You should know the incubation periods for STIs, the potential symptoms, and understand that men are often asymptomatic. None of that is judgement. The only time I judge barebackers is when they show ignorance for all the things they should know to actually make an informed decision about the risks they are taking every time they take or give raw dick. Life is full of risk and risk can be exciting. A responsible man understands that, educates himself, and tries to be honest with himself and those he interacts with as he lives according to his choices.

Yes, it's important to make sure the condom fully covers the entire shaft if the entire shaft is coming into contact. I've seen amateur porn where some tops only partially unroll. I don't know if they're trying to get the condom to slip off or if they want to feel part of their shaft go in bare, but yes, in those situations, the chances of infections for many different STIs are the same as condomless sex because for those parts of skin, it is condomless.