Rod Hagen

Remarkable, important, book; good for you.

Not to shit on something you are hopefully enjoying, and knowing nothing about the book, I'm 100% sure that this reviewer either has not read one of the seminal books he namechecks, or if did read them he didn't understand them. How else to explain comparing a self-help book to two masterworks of (gay) literature? "Downs’s spry self-help manual is called The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World. It is becoming a touchstone in gay culture just as Christopher Isherwood’s Goodbye to Berlin was in the 30s, Larry Kramer’s Faggots in the 70s and Edmund White’s A Boy’s Own Story in the 80s. " Oh well.

Dumbest show, and I have to say I've enjoyed it. I have a few episodes of the final season left. Ian and Mickey, whatever the actor's real names are, are just fantastic together. Lip is a great character, and of course Fiona was wonderful. It's a very stupid show with plot lines that go nowhere, but the cast makes it more than watchable. I definitely wouldn't have started watching it if it hadn't been for the pandemic.

He had one:

How about these places? p.s. Powers that be, please don't fuckin' penalize me because the URLs of these sites/locations use the words boys and kids to describe men, it's not my freakin' fault. Thank you. http://www.kocnet.jp/profile/boys.html https://kids-jp.com/en/tk/s/ http://www.coat-embrace.com/staff/ http://tplus2017.com/page/top https://en.hi-na.com/main.php

Ikon Ski Pass, with Aspen add-on, for 2022/2023 Season

Very sorry to hear you're seriously struggling Ryan. I remember when I discovered my studied field, environmental engineering, looked like it was never going to be what I hoped. It was difficult. But you were already having difficulties, and as you know, the blow to your identity just compounded the problem. You're doing all the right things, so, have you tried medication? If so, how was the expereince? If it was bad, or unhelpful, would you consider trying another one? Remember anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications are temporary, so consider considering them if you haven't.

Before noticing this thread, I posted a thread referencing a NyTimes article on Prostate cancer in gay men.

Since people are unable to Pre-read your mind in order to avoid offending you, how do you cope?

Very glad it helped you and you stuck with it. I'm a huge fan of both Wellbutrin and Lexapro. It's wonderful the Lex side effect of delayed ejaculation, was not on the negative side for you :-) For others, that can be horrible because they don't reach orgasm. It can actually feel a bit scary, because the horniness may remain, but the gun won't shoot. One "remedy" for that is incorporating heavier than usual dose of ED medication such as Viagra. It seems to help SSRI-induced anorgasmia and/or delayed ejaculation. Of course, a high dose of Viagra can be a bit uncomfortable (when I tried vitamin V years ago it gave me such a headache, I haven't dared try it again, and I'm not a pussy when it comes to pain), but that's the 7-headed hydra of medication for you. Again, good on you for not giving up on a medication that could, and happily did, help you.

I've seen lots of guys who've lost their prostates to cancer, and it makes for a more complicated, maybe occasionally frustrating, sex life. I found this morning's article interesting. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/07/health/gay-men-prostate-cancer.html

Given that Wellbutrin is not an SSRI, its lack of sexual side effects make it useful for gays.

I don't want to see pets pawned-off or in shelters, because owners, depressed or otherwise, bit off more than they can chew, as is most often the case with discarded pets. I also touched on working on improving sleep, exercising, considering therapy, not discounting medicine, and other options, admittedly without swearing. I apologize if my dirty mouth offended.

Pets are a responsibility, not a life-hack. There are LOTS of effective things people can do to improve their own mental and emotional health short of acquiring a pet. People can wait until they are mentally and emotionally equipped to make the pet, not themselves, the priority. Shelters are full of people's selfish decisions. Mild depression or loneliness are another matter, then definitely get a pet. I was talking about, but I wasn't clear that I was talking about, heavier cases, cases where I've seen people get a pet, and said pet ends up in the fucking shelter or becomes some other friend/relatives responsibility.

You won't want to do any of these things if you are anxious/depressed. But they'll help. Improve your sleep hygiene. Daily DAILY Exercise Daily gratitude journaling, even if you eventually find yourself repeating the same gratitudes. Meditate daily, that means spending time NOT thinking about the horrible shit, or good shit, but just focus on the breathing. There are TONS of guided meditations on youtube. Online therapy. Online Group Therapy Do NOT get a fucking pet. Don't be afraid of Wellbutrin and/or Lexapro, they can help. As things improve, maintain the exercise, maintain the good sleep hygiene, continue meditation, you can drop the gratitude crap, consider dropping therapy (therapy is meant to be temporary), talk to your doctor or psychiatrist about tapering off Wellbutrin/Lexapro, and only when you are feeling much much better should you consider a pet.

Enjoyed the book long long ago. Enjoyed the movie.

Scruff works well. Not for hiring, but they are very very hungry for fresh meat. Have fun!

Great show. Hilarious. I didn't like/watch friends. matt LeBlanc was excellent in Episodes.

oops, didn't even know this was on the site. years ago Hooboy tried an escort only section of the forum. predictably, some of the posts leaked out and everyone got pissy and it closed. also, long long long ago there were two variations of the blacklist (reportedly "bad" clients) website. Someone famous started it, can't remember who. Not Talvin, but someone on that level. Was it Talvin?

I haven't read his poems, I will. I love his short stories. One Arm?! As someone who is a working man and was once a young(ish) working man, I LOVE that story. It would make an excellent 82-minute film. https://www.nola.com/entertainment_life/arts/article_cee29cf1-5b4f-5c54-8348-548924c98a18.html Also, I like Desire and the Black Masseur. Sadistic and beautiful It was also an ok movie. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0091646/

I talked to someone who saw a screener, and confirmed it's awful :-( Ridley Scott should stick to what he's a master at.

Extraordinary. I wish he could have come out as Gay, as someone living with HIV and then AIDS, but I don't fault him in the least for not doing so. When men like him die, I again wish I still believed in Heaven.

I've exchanged with photographers. It's fine. Do be clear which sessions are a compensation and which are paid, also try not to be rigid about your time vs. his, that's how the relationship can sour. In the late '90s there was an artist in the southwest who'd offer to fly escorts to him for a few days in exchange for some money and one of his paintings. He was a respected artist, but I did not care for his art (southwest) at all. I declined. A friend of mine, took him up on it and he still has the painting.

and, now, unfortunately, I have an 11. My 6s just wasn't keeping up w/my most used apps :-( I will say so far I am happy with the 11.

Maybe he chased after Alec Andrews and they are together, again, happily ever after :-)