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Perhaps it’s the strip club veteran in me… 
I understand the transactional relationship entered in. Sometimes there’s a genuine friendship formed but it’s rare and often complicated for a variety of reasons. 
 
If you are catching feelings for a provider that’s understandable, but it’s taken to the point of jealousy/envy. That’s not healthy full-stop!  The fantasy is turning into a delusion. 
 
If you ever date a stripper, you have to be ultra secure in yourself and what you bring to the table. Even having stripper friends, I’ve reminded them at work. “Listen I know we’re pals, I’m just drinking tonight - there’s some whales here go earn your rent. I’m staying til close as usual”.   Lol. That was when I was a regular before the day job came back in my life. 

Perhaps it’s the strip club veteran in me… 
I understand the transactional relationship entered in. Sometimes there’s a genuine friendship formed but it’s rare and often complicated for a variety of reasons. 
 
If you are catching feelings for a provider that’s understandable, but it’s taken to the point of jealousy/envy. That’s not healthy full-stop!  The fantasy is turning into a delusion. 
 
If you ever date a stripper, you have to be ultra secure in yourself and what you bring to the table. Even having stripper friends, I’ve reminded them at work. “Listen I know we’re pals, I’m just drinking tonight - there’s some whales here go earn your rent. I’m staying til close as usual”.   Lol. That was when I was a regular before the day job came back in my life. 

Perhaps it’s the strip club veteran in me… 
I understand the transactional relationship entered in. Sometimes there’s a genuine friendship formed but it’s rare and often complicated for a variety of reasons. 
 
If you are catching feelings for a provider that’s understandable, but it’s taken to the point of jealousy/envy. That’s not healthy full-stop!  The fantasy is turning into a delusion. 
 
If you ever date a stripper, you have to be ultra secure in yourself and what you bring to the table. Even having stripper friends, I’ve reminded them at work. “Listen I know we’re pals, I’m just drinking tonight - there’s some whales here go earn your rent. I’m staying til close as usual”.   Lol. That was when I was a regular before the day job came back in my life. 

A gay with no college options joining up because there’s no other options that seem better AND his best friend is there? 

I know a sailor and coastie, who did just that to get out of their dead end min wage life post high school and they didn’t have a best friend joining with them.  
 
So in that, I can believe it. 18yos are sometimes that impulsive and listless. 

I get a text - “hey, can you send John the video of Big Boy?”  
Then you have to ask yourself… Are they asking about Big Boy the steam loco, a rescue dog you transported, or a Brazilian?  and who is John? 
 
Turns it was the Steam loco video, and John is a friend of friend. 
 
Code switching - the ability to adjust your conversation/reaction based off current situation. I primarily heard it used in a racial context, but witnessed it when relatives slip out of their northern accent back to southern roots depending on location/company. 

Meet up with Ace.  
Wholeheartedly endorse.  While his RM pics are femboy, he exercised discretion in showing up to the hotel for those with those concerns. Only does Outcalls so factor that in.  Easy to communicate with to set things up, and very professional following through.  
 
I was very happy and hesitate to share him with others. He’s super sweet guy.  Booked 2 hours and spent the last hour cuddled up like spoons chatting for the BFE.   
 
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We feel your pain. I think the consensus here is to go slow. No need to get married now but see how all of the issues that have come up in this thread evolve. Your relationship may strengthen as a result or you may ultimately go your separate ways. Either way, you should have greater clarity. 

Another Chuck-ism from a dearly departed friend.  

After discovering the swim coach hottie, I fell head over heels for, ended up having a secret husband and I was the side dish…. I asked Chuck for advice. I KNEW better, I had red flags I ignored, but damn he looked great in a speedo and he’s from my town, etc.  
Chuck faked a bad Irish accent and just laid it out - “Well, laddie it appears you have been taken”.  No other magic advice, get over it.  Don’t sugar coat and don’t try to salvage it.  

Tragic at 31… too young. Motorcycles are unforgiving.    
it’s a smidge morbid, but wonder how his OF online presence will be managed or terminated now.  He went no PPV to spike his residuals thru subscribers.  

After having a bf I considered getting serious end up having a secret husband once, I reframed my thoughts on similar subjects.  
 
“If you have to tie up a dog to your porch, he ain’t your dog”. I used to think this was about dog needing to stay on property.  Over time, I see it as long as the dog stays loyal to you and comes back.  It’s your problem to square away if you can’t handle other folks petting your dog.  What matters to me - knowing when it counts, the dog is in my corner.  
 
A decade plus after the husband in the closet - we still talk and somehow have an odd fellows friendship/lovers relationship.  He’s since gone through multiple husbands.  I’d probably never marry him tho. I can’t count on him to be in my corner if shit got hard.  
 
Same vein as Philleas - no matter how he earns his living, if shit gets hard in your lives, will he cut and run, or stay and fight thru it with you?  That’s the only question I see mattering.  

The first time my Dominican Masseur called me Papi, I did get some goosebumps.  
 
but yes @PhileasFogg, I’ll joke about Daddy advice, but I don’t like the Daddy/Boy labels outside of the bedroom as role play.  In everyday life, I’d rather two adults mutual respect etc. Power dynamics will still exist between older/younger or provider/clients, but I don’t get off on that being pointed out in public. 

Another Chuck-ism from a dearly departed friend.  

After discovering the swim coach hottie, I fell head over heels for, ended up having a secret husband and I was the side dish…. I asked Chuck for advice. I KNEW better, I had red flags I ignored, but damn he looked great in a speedo and he’s from my town, etc.  
Chuck faked a bad Irish accent and just laid it out - “Well, laddie it appears you have been taken”.  No other magic advice, get over it.  Don’t sugar coat and don’t try to salvage it.  

The first time my Dominican Masseur called me Papi, I did get some goosebumps.  
 
but yes @PhileasFogg, I’ll joke about Daddy advice, but I don’t like the Daddy/Boy labels outside of the bedroom as role play.  In everyday life, I’d rather two adults mutual respect etc. Power dynamics will still exist between older/younger or provider/clients, but I don’t get off on that being pointed out in public. 

I’m guessing you’re not hiring Latins, since most of them will definitely call you “Papi.” 😂😂

A dearly departed friend had quite a few witticisms; we'd call them Chuck-isms.  
One such Chuck-isms applies when a younger friend receives a decent inheritance. Not enough to retire early, nor too little to blow through without regret. It's admittedly subjective on what's "decent" vs fuck you money.  
"Save that money. Don't touch it. Put it away, that's future money for booze, strippers and escorts."
There was a collary for car advice. 
When faced between buying a nice brand new car(BMW 323i) and late model used SugarDaddy Sedan or Roadster (BMW 740IL/Z4), both about the same price
"don't buy the sugar daddy sedan/roadster. It'll attract boys. The WRONG KIND of boys. You'll end up broke, single, and heart-broken(if you're lucky over the car)"  
I wish I saved more of this life advice. It was classically delivered with humor and love. I aspire to be that kind of daddy as I enter into my 40s.

A gay with no college options joining up because there’s no other options that seem better AND his best friend is there? 

I know a sailor and coastie, who did just that to get out of their dead end min wage life post high school and they didn’t have a best friend joining with them.  
 
So in that, I can believe it. 18yos are sometimes that impulsive and listless. 

Posing this to the group.  From a privacy standpoint, I will always die on the cash in an envelope is the most traceless.  However, it’s getting hard to source cash.  Banks making it a pain in the ass to withdraw out in larger bills. $20s common in the ATM end up bulking up a wallet.  Add into that any extended hours, overnight, weekend rates. 
 
Short of paying in gold coins…  Has there emerged a preferred payment platform?  I’ve used Zelle a bunch.  But I know there’s also Venmo, PayPal and CashApp floating around.  
 
I know the short answer is the one you both can agree on!  

Yeah, I’ll usually bare down my wallet to just some essentials, but even an ID and single credit card can be an ID theft’s great start.  

Credit freeze/lock and keeping strong unique passwords on MFA and your emails will go a long way.  Very least, always keep an eye on your card transactions!  Lot easier to clean up while it’s small. 

Tragic at 31… too young. Motorcycles are unforgiving.    
it’s a smidge morbid, but wonder how his OF online presence will be managed or terminated now.  He went no PPV to spike his residuals thru subscribers.  

After having a bf I considered getting serious end up having a secret husband once, I reframed my thoughts on similar subjects.  
 
“If you have to tie up a dog to your porch, he ain’t your dog”. I used to think this was about dog needing to stay on property.  Over time, I see it as long as the dog stays loyal to you and comes back.  It’s your problem to square away if you can’t handle other folks petting your dog.  What matters to me - knowing when it counts, the dog is in my corner.  
 
A decade plus after the husband in the closet - we still talk and somehow have an odd fellows friendship/lovers relationship.  He’s since gone through multiple husbands.  I’d probably never marry him tho. I can’t count on him to be in my corner if shit got hard.  
 
Same vein as Philleas - no matter how he earns his living, if shit gets hard in your lives, will he cut and run, or stay and fight thru it with you?  That’s the only question I see mattering.  

Yeah, I’ll usually bare down my wallet to just some essentials, but even an ID and single credit card can be an ID theft’s great start.  

Credit freeze/lock and keeping strong unique passwords on MFA and your emails will go a long way.  Very least, always keep an eye on your card transactions!  Lot easier to clean up while it’s small. 

A gay with no college options joining up because there’s no other options that seem better AND his best friend is there? 

I know a sailor and coastie, who did just that to get out of their dead end min wage life post high school and they didn’t have a best friend joining with them.  
 
So in that, I can believe it. 18yos are sometimes that impulsive and listless. 

Yeah, I’ll usually bare down my wallet to just some essentials, but even an ID and single credit card can be an ID theft’s great start.  

Credit freeze/lock and keeping strong unique passwords on MFA and your emails will go a long way.  Very least, always keep an eye on your card transactions!  Lot easier to clean up while it’s small. 

After having a bf I considered getting serious end up having a secret husband once, I reframed my thoughts on similar subjects.  
 
“If you have to tie up a dog to your porch, he ain’t your dog”. I used to think this was about dog needing to stay on property.  Over time, I see it as long as the dog stays loyal to you and comes back.  It’s your problem to square away if you can’t handle other folks petting your dog.  What matters to me - knowing when it counts, the dog is in my corner.  
 
A decade plus after the husband in the closet - we still talk and somehow have an odd fellows friendship/lovers relationship.  He’s since gone through multiple husbands.  I’d probably never marry him tho. I can’t count on him to be in my corner if shit got hard.  
 
Same vein as Philleas - no matter how he earns his living, if shit gets hard in your lives, will he cut and run, or stay and fight thru it with you?  That’s the only question I see mattering.