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Please stop hijacking this thread. Plenty of other people understood the question and answered it.

No. I'm not I simply tried to rephrase the same question in a different way since some people are going off track and talking about other stuff. Like you. You've made your point multiple times. But it has nothing to do with what I'm asking. Your gay / you've always been gay. We get it. Congratulations.🎉But it doesn't work that way for everyone. I'd like to hear from other members now. Especially those who had more of a journey in deciding their sexuality but if someone felt it was never a choice then that's their answer.

Not that I search out gay novels but I've picked up a few to read over the years. I would say Anne Rice's "Interview with the Vampire" was definitely gay erotica (Ignore the film. They cut all that out of the script). Evelyn Waugh's "Brideshead Revisited" is a gay story of unrequited love. Quite romantic.

Gays don't celebrate their birthday on leap years.

We are getting way off topic. No one is questioning whether homosexuality exists. The thread is about people who have had heterosexual relationships in the past but decided that a homosexual relationship ( or single homosexual lifestyle ) better suited their needs.

That's what we're discussing. That segment who are bisexual. Obviously some people never have same sex attractions and some never have heteronormative attractions. But I am saying far more people are making choices today, than what the old research showed was possible.

Outside of humans, Dolphins, and Bonobos two of the major groups that are generally bisexual creatures. Their bisexuality doesn't prevent them from mating, but some members of the group do prefer their same sex partner for cuddles. I find the subject interesting, to continue to study how much of this is biology, how much is psychology and how much is sociology. Clearly the new batch of American 20 somethings weren't BORN more bisexual than their parents. Social acceptance has allowed the natural biology and psychology to perform naturally. It will be interesting to see the proportion of homosexual and heterosexual relationships as these young people mature. Will it settle back in to the often quoted 10% gay ?

You are arguing over the term norm, because you're misdirecting it's target. I am saying norm in terms of biological reward for sex. Obviously I'm not saying homosexual activity is not normal. It's "normal" in the sense that it's always present.

? huh ? Don't understand your comment.

Strange profile. Photos are pretty uninspired.

Heterosexuality in animals is a reproductive process. Homosexuality is a process whereby two animals go through the actions of reproduction but while being fully aware that no reproduction is possible. So heterosexuality is easily explained but homosexuality not. I think studying the cause of homosexual behavior in animals would certainly be an interesting subject because homosexuality IS the exception, not the norm. There is no reproductive goal in homosexual activity, so the sexual activity lies outside nature's norm, for every species, which is reproduction.

There are certain people here who never consider that someone else may have a valid point, so they don't even bother reading what you wrote before they respond.

Russian boy. I wonder if he's a scammer like all the others.

I'm married with kids, but bisexual, so I am conscious of the gay scene, even when I'm not directly participating. Costa Rica's tourism is primarily resorts on the beach. Great for a couple's get away but there is no access to any kind of social scene outside the resort itself. The only gay hotels are tiny little guest house situations where at most you'll be there with a handful of other guys. The Capitol city is in the middle of the country far away from the beaches and the gay scene there is nothing to speak of, not to mention San Jose' is sort of a shit-hole of a city. They even have road signs near the downtown area warning you that you are entering a slum. Puerto Vallarta is great. I actually started going there many years ago when I was single and traveling with gay friends. Definitely lots of options for the gay traveler in the "Zona Romantica". Food scene is great, weather is great. Prices are reasonable. Highly recommended. Leave Costa Rica for when you're old and you just want to sit quietly and hold hands on the beach. 😉

What's anecdotal is your opinion. It's just your opinion, you're not looking at the data. Current sociological research is showing a significant increase in people who identify as bisexual. This runs concurrent in countries with a relaxed attitude toward social acceptance of such behavior. So the obvious conclusion is that Bisexuality is a far more common state of being than past research identified. Your biology may determine where you fall on the scale of bisexuality but when you decide to settle down with ONE partner you're going to need to make a choice. Bisexuals can choose to gay or choose to be straight in their relationships, but they will always remain bisexual.

Globalism and the internet do indeed open up the opportunity to have a global audience.

I've been to both . PV is a great value for your dollar whether you're gay or straight. New Years Eve is like Mardi Gras with sexy boys out celebrating in the streets. Costa Rica is one of these poor third world countries where hotel chains buy up all the beaches and build resorts. The problem being that they are all separate and there's no central place where people mingle. To the best of my knowledge there is no exclusively gay resort in Costa Rica

I admire the degree of self control and planning. I live in NYC so unless, I lived in a cardboard box, there would never have been ANY formula that a 25 year old could save more than 25% of his earnings. Most New Yorkers pay nearly half their income just on rent.

You're killing me. This guy is a dream. I need to track him down to see where I can cross paths sometime. 🥳

HA !! Just "save 70% of your income" ? ! ? ! So basically...live with your parents and brown bag it until you retire at 40. You'd be such a loser by 40 you'd be retiring with no friends ! ha

He's definitely checking all the boxes for ME. Very handsome, body is totally ON POINT, cute butt and multiple people have attested to his charming personality. I can't believe some people are such size queens that they're going to turn down all THAT because the dude's penis isn't as massive as their fetish demands.

My impression is that it's been a rough time getting things back up and running after the extreme Covid panic in NYC..so I doubt you missed much. Attendance was still way down, with a lot of wait-and-see attitude in NYC about another wave of Covid. I get their email blasts, and I would say just now the RSVPs are finally picking up

Bravo. 👏

Ha. Thanks. I can't tell you how I wanted a time machine after that sentence ! ha Sure..he had come to me for some advice knowing that I am actively bisexual and very experienced having identified as gay in my twenties. So, he's known that I am bisexual for years....but never offered ME a blowjob in High School...so I am going to guess he assumed I was straight. ( which technically at that juncture of life, I was ).

Unfortunately this isn't one of them. Human sexuality is not Mineral Sciences. Perspectives on sexuality and sociology are an evolving subject. It was previously accepted that you're either gay or straight and a few people wander around the middle for a while until they accept they are actually gay. 😜 Now sociological studies show an increasing number of people who dwell in the middle for decades, and go back and forth between heterosexual relationships and homosexual relationships. Once social pressures for heteronormative behavior are relaxed, you see an increase in homosexual experimentation and it is only when one decides to settle down with a single partner does the event called CHOICE now supersede the "born this way" theory of being trapped in one's sexuality.