Wolfer

Sure! It's super easy, only there's a bit of clean-up and you have to use it the same day or the day after at the latest since it has no preservatives. 
You put white flaxseed into a pot, cover the whole base with a layer of flaxseed. Then add water till all the flaxseed is just floating above the base and then put it on a medium heat. Let the water lightly boil for a short while (it gets sticky really quick) until the water thickens, then take the pot off the heat. Now you scoop out any foam that's formed with a spoon and next you seperate the flaxsees from the liquid. The liquid is what's gonna be used as the lube.
 
You put the flaxseed on a cheesecloth (or even better: a butter muslin). And then squeeze the liquid from the seeds (careful the seeds will be hot!) into a container and tadaa, you've got completely natural, super hydrating and healing lube (it has omega 6 fatty acids in it that particularly bond well with mucous membrames of our bodies!).
 
You'll need to experiment somewhat with the heat, amount of water and how much flaxseed you use. My experience is that it gets too thick very quickly, it's best to keep it a bit more on the liquid side 'cause if it's too thick it'll be hard to seperate the liquid from the seeds.
 
It does have a particular smell, but not a bad one. It smells like homemade cooking.

Long overdue update! SO! My ass is in pristine condition, I have gotten the all get-go from the proctologist. The only thing of note is that my sphincter muscle of my anus is apparently stronger than average. Which I don't think tops will mind too much! I do need to consciously train relaxation of my pelvic floor and anus muscles. Which a very lovely physical therapist actually taught me how to do in the hospital. All good things!
 
And I also met a bottom guy who makes his own lube (cause he has sensitive skin like I have) and I've been making my own lube and sticking things up there and the lube is like heaven! It's silky smooth and actually hydrates your tissues (you can even use it on your face! )
 
There's one thing that bothered me: I douched completely before personal play-time. The water came out crystal clear. But right after play-time was done I had to go and do quite a big number two almost right after... There was only about an hour or two between the douching and the toilet break. I was a bit surprised 'cause I'd read that you can stay clean for at least a while if you douche, but maybe not if there's a new "shipment" just ready to go right before you douche? Thoughts on this?

Oooh boy, look's like some dormant issues are cropping up. Well, opportunities for self-growth are certainly commencing! A selection of my inner dialogue about bottoming:
 
"Why are bottoms seen as lesser than?"
"Why do people assume I'm a bottom? Because I'm not masculine enough? I'm not enough of a man?"
"Why are tops supposed to be the "real man" in the equation, what the fuck is up with that?"
"Why is it assumed that guys with small (read: average) dicks should be the bottoms? Guys with average dicks can't fuck or what?"
 
I oppose these thoughts with:
"I choose to let a guy fuck me because I like getting railed and love the intimacy of having him inside me. I am in control."
"It takes a real man to take it like a man from another man."
 
Uh yeah... Hmmm. Self development opportunities abound.

You guys, you guys, ooooh my gosh. So I went back to the beefy latino. Mmmm hmm. The things he does to me just make me act like such a bottom. He just pushes all the right buttons with me.
Must've been funny, me saying I'm a top and then lie there moaning and groaning with my ass up in the air and him dry humping me, hahahaha. Phwuah, once I'm all healed up I think I might take the plunge... I mean, let him plunge into me.
I'm scared, exhilirated and excited.

Okay, I'm back from the doctor. It's something that's easily healed, apparently the connecting (or dividing?) tissue between my colon and my rectum got a little chaffed and inflamed because I had the runs a couple of weeks ago. I just have to put ointment on it twice a day and shove a pill up my butthole every night (that is actually bottom great training, right there) and everything will be completely healed up within a couple of days! YAY! I AM SO READY TO STICK THINGS UP MY BUTT! ANY TAKERS???? (I mean GIVERS HAHAHAHA).

I even found a video saying how to make it:

 
I use a lot more flax seeds. The last batch I made wasn't thick enough. I prefer it to really get thick as it slides a lot better.

Oh no, not another thread about bottoming! Ah, but I've done my research... poured hours over the various threads and posts on the forum here, dating all the way back the beginning of the previous decade.
 
So this is more of a sharing of experience and also some request for talking about how and what I felt and how I can move forward.
 
So I've never really enjoyed bottoming up until now. When I was with my ex-husband, I bottomed a few times but we naturally evolved to him being the bottom and me being the top. We were also each other's first and only until we seperated after thirteen years.
 
Since then I've topped exclusively with the guys I've been with and I absolutely love it. I get rock hard, love to ease myself into a guy while being attentive to his needs.
 
BUT! AH! Something happened yesterday! I was having amazing blow-your-socks off sex with a beefy latino until suddenly he flips me onto my stomach, lays himself on top of me and starts to work my neck, back and ass in such ways I was in pure ecstasy. Before I knew it I had my ass up in the air and a desire to get fucked by him took hold of me. I ultimately didn't, because I hadn't douched and also hadn't bottomed in a couple of years. But it had opened me up (pun intended) to become versatile and try bottoming.
 
So try I did! Having read all the wonderful threads here on the advice to prepare yourself I did just that: I douched, put on some hot porn, lubed up my ass, played with myself, took out a tiny (about 3") dildo and started working myself.
 
First thing: my anus burned. But it already started burning when I used the lube, long before I put anything up there. It also burns when I use soap. This is such a mood killer. When I was gently pushing the dildo in, the burning sensation intensified. So while the idea of getting fucked was a turn-on, almost all of the physical sensations were a mood killer, especially the burning.
 
I've read that the burning sensation might be because the muscles are being forced, but that doesn't explain the burning already starting when just putting lube on it.
 
I'm not a quitter so I pushed the dildo in completely and it flopped back out again a couple of times. But I kept at it and I'm certain I hit my prostrate because I immediately came uncontrollably while my whole body was awash with ecstasy, even after cumming physically the ecstasy remained until I pulled the dildo out. That moment did override any of the physical discomfort.
 
So in conclusion: I was a bit dissappointed that the discomfort was so big. But I'm willing to try it again. But there has to be something that I can do about the burning, because it completely, totally destroys the mood. Pain is a complete and utter turn-off for me.
 
I also hit a wall with just the 3" dildo. So what can be done about that? Work my way up to bigger?

Wolfer, it's all going to be about you, what anyone else has done may not be relevant! That said, I'll talk about it anyway. However you are cleaning yourself out, experiment with it. Do it even if you are not meeting someone, to see what happens. Think about your diet, fibre may help (metameucil perhaps). I thought I knew about douching but I bought a new shower attachment. It left water in my arse for longer than I expected (potentially embarrassing leaks) but after I'd used it I didn't have a number two for well over 24 hours. I haven't repeated the experiment, I hasten to add. How it all works for you is the best guide.

Sure! It's super easy, only there's a bit of clean-up and you have to use it the same day or the day after at the latest since it has no preservatives. 
You put white flaxseed into a pot, cover the whole base with a layer of flaxseed. Then add water till all the flaxseed is just floating above the base and then put it on a medium heat. Let the water lightly boil for a short while (it gets sticky really quick) until the water thickens, then take the pot off the heat. Now you scoop out any foam that's formed with a spoon and next you seperate the flaxsees from the liquid. The liquid is what's gonna be used as the lube.
 
You put the flaxseed on a cheesecloth (or even better: a butter muslin). And then squeeze the liquid from the seeds (careful the seeds will be hot!) into a container and tadaa, you've got completely natural, super hydrating and healing lube (it has omega 6 fatty acids in it that particularly bond well with mucous membrames of our bodies!).
 
You'll need to experiment somewhat with the heat, amount of water and how much flaxseed you use. My experience is that it gets too thick very quickly, it's best to keep it a bit more on the liquid side 'cause if it's too thick it'll be hard to seperate the liquid from the seeds.
 
It does have a particular smell, but not a bad one. It smells like homemade cooking.

Thanks!

Sure! It's super easy, only there's a bit of clean-up and you have to use it the same day or the day after at the latest since it has no preservatives. 
You put white flaxseed into a pot, cover the whole base with a layer of flaxseed. Then add water till all the flaxseed is just floating above the base and then put it on a medium heat. Let the water lightly boil for a short while (it gets sticky really quick) until the water thickens, then take the pot off the heat. Now you scoop out any foam that's formed with a spoon and next you seperate the flaxsees from the liquid. The liquid is what's gonna be used as the lube.
 
You put the flaxseed on a cheesecloth (or even better: a butter muslin). And then squeeze the liquid from the seeds (careful the seeds will be hot!) into a container and tadaa, you've got completely natural, super hydrating and healing lube (it has omega 6 fatty acids in it that particularly bond well with mucous membrames of our bodies!).
 
You'll need to experiment somewhat with the heat, amount of water and how much flaxseed you use. My experience is that it gets too thick very quickly, it's best to keep it a bit more on the liquid side 'cause if it's too thick it'll be hard to seperate the liquid from the seeds.
 
It does have a particular smell, but not a bad one. It smells like homemade cooking.

Long overdue update! SO! My ass is in pristine condition, I have gotten the all get-go from the proctologist. The only thing of note is that my sphincter muscle of my anus is apparently stronger than average. Which I don't think tops will mind too much! I do need to consciously train relaxation of my pelvic floor and anus muscles. Which a very lovely physical therapist actually taught me how to do in the hospital. All good things!
 
And I also met a bottom guy who makes his own lube (cause he has sensitive skin like I have) and I've been making my own lube and sticking things up there and the lube is like heaven! It's silky smooth and actually hydrates your tissues (you can even use it on your face! )
 
There's one thing that bothered me: I douched completely before personal play-time. The water came out crystal clear. But right after play-time was done I had to go and do quite a big number two almost right after... There was only about an hour or two between the douching and the toilet break. I was a bit surprised 'cause I'd read that you can stay clean for at least a while if you douche, but maybe not if there's a new "shipment" just ready to go right before you douche? Thoughts on this?

I had a regular fuck buddy where the sex was really good. We were about to set up a time to meet up and he asked me, "are you into anything kinky? wanna try something new?"
 
I was pretty vanilla at the time, and I told him I'd get back to him. I thought about different fantasies, role playing, etc. that might turn me on. I ended up coming up with one thing that seemed incredibly forbidden, totally taboo... even frightening. I got back to him the next day and I said, "when I'm fucking you... and I'm getting close to cumming... I want to kiss you hard and say 'I love you' and when we're done know it was just a term used in the heat of the moment - and after don't freak out or be awkward about it - and know I'm definitely not looking for a relationship, but I kind of think it would be nice to say as I haven't said it in a long time." He was open to it. (He also told me a fantasy he had which we tried one time that I'll save for a different post .)
 
Well, we did it - I did it... and afterwards it was totally fine. It was nice to say, and it made me cum my brains out because it made the experience much more intense. We stayed fuck buddies for a while after, with the sex eventually fizzling out - never going back to using that word except for that one time, and I had no real desire to use it again on him after that.
 
If part of the fantasy is saying it - it should be made clear beforehand that using the word is just that - a fantasy. I have yet to have a discussion about this with a client saying this to me, but should it come up (before or after being used), my approach would be that of flattery and empathy. I might choose to play down any discomfort he may have after the fact and follow it with an honest discussion of whether that word is something that we both would feel comfortable being used, the extent of that comfort and drawing clear boundaries.
 
Sometimes we need to feel loved - other times we need to give love. Someone once told me, "sometimes the best gift you can give someone is to accept their gift." Roll with it, but like I said, have an honest discussion about it - try not to dismiss it or make it seem wrong or bad.

Well said...I'm quite aware that I'm in a business transaction and asking for an illusion...so why not unless it has cross boundaries to outside of the transaction. If folks are paying for all kinds of other far more physically dangerous activities, what's the harm in a few words utter in the moment???

And people who know them and care about them don't offer them alcohol. In the same way that an escort who knows his client has developed an unhealthy attraction to him should quit seeing the client and not fan the flames.

I'm less tall than you are (just over 6') and I've noticed that all escorts I've hired have always been shorter than me, sometimes by quite a bit. I always forget that I'm a bit taller than the average person in Belgium. It's almost become a desire to find a guy as tall or taller than me

I'm less tall than you are (just over 6') and I've noticed that all escorts I've hired have always been shorter than me, sometimes by quite a bit. I always forget that I'm a bit taller than the average person in Belgium. It's almost become a desire to find a guy as tall or taller than me

The Czech is in the male!
 

Boy, am I glad I live in Prague, where the going rate is 150 dollars tops.....:eek:

I've paid 300, even 400, and I've paid 150. Once again it bears repeating, price does not necessarily equal quality of services rendered. Many would like you to believe otherwise, but the facts are irrefutable....http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/yes.gif

I love long kissing sessions with both men and women. I can't imagine an intimate act such as having sex without locking lips at the beginning, middle, and post-coitus.
 
My most recent hire was such a good kisser that I had to rush to finish because all I wanted to do was keep kissing.

Yeah, I've heard of this too. It makes equally no sense to me... It seems like an interesting sort of self delusion. But then we all delude ourselves in various ways about ourselves and how we act in the world, of course.

It all depends on what a client wants/needs from a session. As I said earlier in this thread, I've refused hiring some really hot guys because they didn't kiss. Kissing for me is part of sex just like topping or oral is. While I like to cum as much as the next guy (or maybe I don't since my libido is on the low side these days), but my preferred method to cum is while at the same time passionately kidding my partner-or my partner passionately kissing me. If I don't have that, it feels like something is missing-kind of like if I end up masturbating and cuming without being totally hard. In fact that happened yesterday-and it just wasn't that enjoyable.
 
A former frequent Forum poster used to frequently say "De gustibus non est disputandum" (in matters of taste there can be no disputes). If you don't need passionate kissing to have a good time with an escort, that's great. But some of us do. In my case I wouldn't knowingly hire an escort who didn't like to kiss anymore than I'd hire an escort who hated bottoming because that doesn't fit in with my likes.
 
Gman

Oooh boy, look's like some dormant issues are cropping up. Well, opportunities for self-growth are certainly commencing! A selection of my inner dialogue about bottoming:
 
"Why are bottoms seen as lesser than?"
"Why do people assume I'm a bottom? Because I'm not masculine enough? I'm not enough of a man?"
"Why are tops supposed to be the "real man" in the equation, what the fuck is up with that?"
"Why is it assumed that guys with small (read: average) dicks should be the bottoms? Guys with average dicks can't fuck or what?"
 
I oppose these thoughts with:
"I choose to let a guy fuck me because I like getting railed and love the intimacy of having him inside me. I am in control."
"It takes a real man to take it like a man from another man."
 
Uh yeah... Hmmm. Self development opportunities abound.

Oooh boy, look's like some dormant issues are cropping up. Well, opportunities for self-growth are certainly commencing! A selection of my inner dialogue about bottoming:
 
"Why are bottoms seen as lesser than?"
"Why do people assume I'm a bottom? Because I'm not masculine enough? I'm not enough of a man?"
"Why are tops supposed to be the "real man" in the equation, what the fuck is up with that?"
"Why is it assumed that guys with small (read: average) dicks should be the bottoms? Guys with average dicks can't fuck or what?"
 
I oppose these thoughts with:
"I choose to let a guy fuck me because I like getting railed and love the intimacy of having him inside me. I am in control."
"It takes a real man to take it like a man from another man."
 
Uh yeah... Hmmm. Self development opportunities abound.