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I’ve done it once on the agreement that it would cover our next meet... but before that meet he asked for another loan, some rambling post-midnight message about being in serious trouble and at risk of having his fingers cut off.
 
I didn’t reply.
 
Weirdly he messaged about 4 weeks later like nothing had happened. And still messages me every now and then to this day. Apparently his fingers are still working.
 
Never ever loan an escort money! As with a deposit or payment up front, I don’t do it and if that’s a problem they know where the door is.

Generally I would not advance any guy money unless I knew him well and believed the circumstances. One guy I used to see regularly was in financial difficulty and I offered to loan him money. He declined, saying that he did not want to compromise our relationship. The second time, he did take money from me but was almost paranoid about making sure he gave me adequate “service” for my money. He was well into his 30’s, so a different profile from the student types that need tuition money. I would probably not consider it outside of such circumstances.

I‘ve given a visiting czech escort more than 6K as he kept on pestering me after our visits. He was very nice and apparently had lots of debts to pay. Anyhow, that is 6K gone. We still keep in touch, but he has never broached returning the cash...lol. Oh well, listen learned. And, by now, my interest in him has waned...

I agree with most of what you've said, but I'd add that if you're concerned about repayment, future requests, extra costs to schedule a repayment in service, etc., you should simply not advance the money. If I were to advance money, it would be without expectation of repayment in cash or trade. I'd be clear that it was a gift. If he offers a free session, I'd tell him that would be great, but I don't expect it. In my scenario, there'd be no point to trying to capitalize on the free session asap.

In my experience these types of requests tend to finish off the...friendship, shall we say. Or at the very least it sprouts tentacles for future requests. Even if the guy agrees to see me again, there will be resentment. ? And he wont be able to afford traveling to me and needs another loan for travel expenses. And can I help him out with some holiday cash so he can get his mom a gift. And...and... Let us know how your decision turns out. ?
 
I follow the same approach as @purplekow - try to set something up immediately. ?

I’ve loaned money to young acquaintances twice and it didn’t end well either time.
In both cases I got a sense of resentment from them when trying to schedule the follow up meet. I started to feel like a bill collector: “Hey, are you available next Tuesday to meet?”.... “No, I have other plans.”

Not a good idea. I have done it only a couple of times, knowing full well that I could lose the money but not caring about it because it involved small, expendable amounts. The number of “terribly tragic situations” boys can come up with to elicit pity attests, to say the least, to their extreme creativity. The only way I have been paid back has been with free sex.

Rather than just advance next month's payment, why not just see him the next day? He gets the money, you get laid, Better than what happened this time, He got the money, you got screwed.

One weekend with the same guy, once a month. Occasionally add a two hour session or two with a different guy.
 
What I'm more curious about, what income people have in relation to how often they hire. I'm definitely torn sometimes... saving for retirement vs enjoying my current financial situation while I'm still relatively 'young'.
 
One more tangent... I have not had a 'non-hire' hook-up in years. My somewhat pessimistic outlook lately has me wondering - Would anyone fuck me if I didn't pay them? Its definitely putting a negative outlook on me finding a LTR. I'm thinking I should quit hiring for awhile.

I never met him, but I do remember he was active here. I just tried to call him using @ but I am not sure the Killian that popped up is him.
If he is back I would hear what he has to say. I believe in second and third chances. I know I have made many mistakes and benefited from forgiveness.

I avoid this by sending a picture when I contact them!
 
I figure I have seen them and they have a right to see me!
 
I would prefer to know it won't work BEFORE paying for an unsatisfactory session!!

Very 70's...yes, but I always liked the lyrics.
 

Many of the $300 guys in NYC will happily oblige if you negotiate them down a bit. It doesn't even take much effort. Just say that '300 is above my spending cap'.
 
NYC is a buyers' market.

The dividing factor is dancer privacy. What spurs media dev’t with Stock is the online streaming and related services. The dancers there need to be comfortable with exposure. They have local families and this is a temp gig.
 
The club even has an area geo-nogo zone for the site. And the FB/Instagram media is focused on the more “respectable” ladies crowd, less stigmatized because it is again like a strip-o-gram concept for bachelorettes.
 
The central theme of social media is the entertainment.
 
There needs to be a place for strippers to be relatively on the down low if they require. Even then, a hen party may be very awkward if they attend the same gym, school etc. Or a cousin informs Mama Bear ‘guess who shoved his dick in my face’. Many are physique competitors who need a certain image for sponsorships. Therefore, Campus.
 
Dancers are ersatz escorts with minimal anonymity. Why should they bother if the promise of great bank is not fulfilled?
 
I thank God in heaven Campus does not push media banner ads with pics of fake guys.

Adonis has one nude night per month. (The other two nights, dancers wear briefs). The cover for Nude Party is $50. Private dances are $20/song, done in a sectioned-off , shared room, how far you go varies with the individual dancer.
 
There is a private ‘Champagne Room’ avail for $100 for 20min ...that is the fee for the room only, you negotiate with the dancer his additional fee.
 
I was there a few nights ago, had a great time. Some really sweet, beautiful guys.

Clearly, the English as a Second Language classes are being put to good use!

Clearly, the English as a Second Language classes are being put to good use!

You specified the nights, so really , you were his first priority, anything else he did worked around your schedule. So long has he was a good provider during this time, and you did not incur additional expense, I think he fulfilled his end.

You specified the nights, so really , you were his first priority, anything else he did worked around your schedule. So long has he was a good provider during this time, and you did not incur additional expense, I think he fulfilled his end.

You specified the nights, so really , you were his first priority, anything else he did worked around your schedule. So long has he was a good provider during this time, and you did not incur additional expense, I think he fulfilled his end.

Damn!!! I was hoping your pool was suits optional. Lol.

After three days of back and forth, Pedersin showed up at my house...nice guy, and truly crazy gorgeous. I took him out to dinner afterward and as the night wore on he took me up on my offer to crash at my house for the night. It’s been a good day! =)

Just met up with him and he's the real deal. Amazing ripped body, great dick, perfect muscle butt....
Nice and very slutty/naughty. WOOOOOF

I'm one of those - LOVE 18-27ish!
 
I'm early 50s, partner is early 60s. I love the bodies of younger and minds of older

I have no skin in the game either way but my spidey sense is abuzz. IMHO today's review is a little suspect. For a lawyer the guy does not write very well. Also says he's been hiring for years but this is his 1st review