newdad

On 5/10/2024 at 11:54 AM, ToddH said:

There were several (10-20) guys working and not too many clients.

At the front desk reception when you're about to pay for entrance, ask them how many guys there are. (cuantas chicos hay). Ten seems to be the norm for a weekday afternoon in my experience.

3 hours ago, builder boy said:

Are we that interested.  

Seriously. Plenty of Freshmen in the sea. But I guess, some follow other members here akin to following a soap opera series.

6 hours ago, BananaBagel said:

I’m wondering the same thing. 

Just one of the recent year's freshman crop. We just get older, they stay the same age. Just wait another year, we'll have another crop coming in. Alright, alright, alright.

20 hours ago, robberbaron4u said:

With the young and beautiful, once the rain is over, an umbrella, however nice, becomes a burden.  

So deep.... I appreciate poetry, and yours is something I haven't ran into. Had to ask technology to breakdown its eloquentness:

"This quote seems to suggest that when the metaphorical "rain" or difficulties in life pass, the protection or support offered by something, like an umbrella, may no longer be needed and could even feel burdensome. It could be about letting go of unnecessary safeguards or dependencies once the situation improves."

Bravo. 🌨️☂️🌞

22 hours ago, jessmapex said:

Look out for yourselves out there, guys. Without money, nobody's gonna give a shit when you are old and frail.

Hard pill to swallow. Aint' that the truth.

That other side of the coin is: Nobody's gonna give a shit to a provider if they're not young and hot.

16 hours ago, nycman said:

As my father once said to me when I asked for a loan, "Son, if the bank doesn’t think you’re a good risk, why the fuck should I?"

He had a point and I learned a lesson.

Whenever someone asks me for a loan, I either say "no" or I give them the money and never expect it back. I will not ask nor hint to be repaid. I will however, never make another "loan" until the first one is repaid. 

So far that has worked for me. I’m not an ass about helping others. But I’m also not a sucker. And in general our friendships have remained intact. Whether or not they repaid me.

7 hours ago, Deadlift1 said:

He is breathtaking. I'm under his spell. Was he AI generated?  

Photoshopped generated, probably.

19 hours ago, Rick M said:

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.

A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.

He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.

I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

Like others have said, you've been scammed. This is more typical in the hetero world. One of my former friends started seeing a female stripper more often and they formed some rapport—am sure sex got exchanged at one point. One day, she opened the topic of financial difficulty. The rest pretty much ended up the same way in your story.

This is more common in the hetero-world because of the inherent "damsel in distress" and here's the "knight in shining armor" to save her day. In the LGBTQ world, similar can be said, but we fail to recognize it because we rarely hear such stories about a guy being the "damsel in distress" who's faking it just to steal from the knight.

13 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

I’m unsure.  This was how it was left. He had messaged me and invited me to lunch. Then the plan just kinda didn’t happen. No more was said. He’s still in my will though.

I'm surprised/impressed you put escorts in your will. Can't help but be reminded of Hugh Hefner.

On 4/29/2024 at 11:14 PM, azdr0710 said:

as Marc says, that has been the classic stereotype about Parisians for many, many decades......some truth to it, I suppose, but there are also many levels of toleration in Paris, just as in any large city!.......always make an attempt to speak French, smile, try, and you'll get along, mostly......

No need to quote Marc. I've actually put him on my block/ignore list. 😃

And I totally agree with you: smiling and trying to speak French goes a long way... 😃

6 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

I disagree with your reasoning @newdad. Yes, the beaches are used by everyone but I’d say that means that the prevailing ethos is “Live and Let Live” 

The beach in Barceloneta, close to the W Hotel, is popular with gay men, lesbians, trans people etc and nudity is unremarkable. (That does NOT mean that people have sex on the beach).

I’ve often gone there with my boyfriend (who is a younger muscleboy) and we might kiss and cuddle as part of lying in the sun together. No-one would object. The Spanish set great store by discretion and it would be seen as seriously uncool to take issue with the PDA or nudity of others.
 

Equally I’ve been with my boyfriend to other beaches in BCN and visited seasonal beach bars (chiringuitos) to eat and drink - there is a relaxed atmosphere and gay couples are very welcome.

thanks for sharing. Yes, that makes total sense. I found luck in Sitges personally moreso than Barcelona beaches, so my experience is biased.

2 hours ago, tassojunior said:

As much as I love Stiges and the week-long gay pride there, the main attraction of BCN to me after several visits is frankly Thermas and if it's permanantly slow now, I'd rather spend more time this summer in Nice. Last year I skipped a week in BCN for an extra week in Nice. While the sauna there is not many escorts, the nude bars and the Eagle have plenty of "negotible" guys who are attractive. And Romeo and RM are plentiful I find the rates online are the same in both, even though Thermas is much less. I really want to try the French Navy in Toulon too. Several gay bars there I've never been to.  

How is Nice in general? I plan to visit Paris this summer, and was told that Paris is not to happy about foreigners who don't speak French. I'm thinking of stopping by Nice.

@Simon Suraci

4 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

I have had many many many amazing experiences with him. I met him on seeking years ago. I’m not surprised he’s escorting. He’s very good at what he does and you won’t be disappointed. 

Did he not find any sugar daddies on seeking? He seems really good looking to not have found any.

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Thank you.  I'm staying 5 nights in Barcelona then 3 nights in Sitges.  I was planning on visiting the gay beaches in Sitges while there, but was wondering if I should even bother spending a day at the gay beach in Barcelona with so many other tourist things to see.  I think I'll check out Barcelona's gay beach for 1 day, and keep the church, Picasso museum, and something else on my to do list for the other days... Always remembering to be back to Sauna Thermas by early afternoon.

The beaches in Barcelona are accessible for everyone. Hence, you can't do gay stuff.

The beaches in Sitges are harder for other people to get to. There's 3 of them in Sitges, and Playa del Muerto is the one that's very secluded—and where sex is likely to happen.  FWIW, I'd only go to Sitges if it's the weekend, unless there's a big event on a weekday that you're guaranteed to expect an influx of people. When I went there, it was just a one day trip (Saturday). Train ride from BCN to Sitges is about 40 minutes for 4 euros one way. You can also rent a car.

Here are a few resources on how to find the nude beaches in Sitges:

• https://www.gaysitgesguide.com/beaches/
• https://www.theglobetrotterguys.com/gay-beach-sitges/

5 hours ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

I’ve often wondered why Thermas works in BCN and nothing comparable in Madrid. 

The most similar one in Madrid would be Sauna Gran Via. It's starting to have a reputation to be escorts only sauna. However, I don't think SGV advertises itself as an escort sauna like Thermas does.

1 hour ago, tassojunior said:

a very important aspect at Thermas is the ability to rent "Room #1" by the hour (or whatever it's called now) Instead of a little cubicle it's a double bed size room with porn vids. Much better sex than in the dressing-room size cubes. Also it has sauna hour crowds and empties out quickly early evening. 

Ah thanks for the response, but I already left Barcelona. Thank you though.

Oh forgot to add... if you're into architecture, check out Gaudí's houses in Barcelona. He's the same architect that laid the foundation for La Sagrada Familia Cathedral, but there's a few houses that he was involved in in Barcelona.

On 4/24/2024 at 3:59 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

What were the Barcelona attractions that you saw that you recommend?  I would like to do one attraction each day besides the Sauna/bars/beach.

Architecture: La Sagrada Familia (it's a cathedral) if you like architecture. (TBH, if you've been to St. Peter's Basilica in Rome, any cathedral/church is not worth visiting after that because St. Peter's Basilica is the best one I've seen and it's free.)

Beaches: Sitges Beach (the gay nude beach part of it), Barcelona Beach. They're free.

Museum: Picasso Museum

Avoid: Park Guell — it's basically just a regular park, but they charge people to get in.

On 4/25/2024 at 6:00 AM, Wolfer said:

20 providers is a lot though, you'd be surprised. Then again, it's incredibly hard to gauge an actual number since on the busy nights, almost all the providers are in cabins with clients at any given time. 

You can actually ask the person at the entrance even before you pay. That's what I did those nights. "cuantos chicos hay esta noche"

23 hours ago, Wolfer said:

As for a number it is very hard to say as providers come and go. Maybe anywhere between 10 and 20

that's a really low number for a busy Friday/Saturday afternoon. My most recent visits were on a Tuesday at 8PM and Thursday at 8PM too. Each night had about 10 providers. I was expecting it would be 30 on a Friday/Saturday peak time.

22 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Is the Hola Barcelona Card a good experience, or is it more hassle than it's worth?  What museums/attractions are "must do" for a limited 5 day trip in Barcelona?

I was in Barcelona for for almost 2 weeks. I was deciding between Hola Barcelona vs T-mobilitat Usual. I ended up getting T-mobilitat Usual which cost 21 euros for 30 days and has free subway metro access to the airport. Hola Barcelona can give you only 5 days at most and that would cost 40 euros—hence, it was easier for me to choose T-mobilitat Usual which was half the price for longer number of days too.  Also, T-mobilitat Usual is what the locals use, but foreigners can use it. I used its phone app, and I just submitted a copy of my passport and paid 21 euros on the app. There is also a pay-as-you-go version called T-mobilitat Casual, but this does not have free metro to airport (which is like a 5 euro ticket one way).  https://www.tmb.cat/en/barcelona-fares-metro-bus/single-and-integrated/t-usual

Also, if you're in Madrid, avoid the Madrid City Card. I paid 27 euros for that for 4 days and it was not worth it because all the discounts were for attractions I did not want to see (eg, wax museum). It would have been way cheaper if I paid my Madrid transportation with their pay-as-you go commuter card that the locals use.

In my recent experience, both Madrid City Card and Hola Barcelona Card (which are advertised for tourists) are tourist traps and should be avoided.

1 hour ago, Wolfer said:

ave them suck you, get fucked, fuck them, kiss or not,...) and confirm these are things he offers or not (all providers have different limits and things they offer). Th

And just to add, if you go outside of those hours (ie, outside of 4PM to 8PM), the providers are almost always top. So if you're looking for a bottom, best to go during those hours.

@Wolfer, when you went during Fridays and/or Saturdays, were there enough hot guys still available despite the number of clients there? Also, how many providers (on average) were there during their busy hours for those days?

15 hours ago, MysticMenace said:

Who are you blocking? You can tell me, I won't leak it. LOL

Ok... Maybe I'll tell you. 😘

21 minutes ago, JamesB said:

Everyone deserves a degree of privacy. If someone chooses not to disclose their occupation, it's important to respect their decision.

i agree!