WhamIAm

I have met Alex many times and while I don't fit into the "not HWP" category, I am confident that Alex will provide a great session for you. Above all, he is a really nice guy who happens to be tall, sexy and really hung. In your text conversation with him, feel free to mention that you are overweight so that you won't be worried as to how he will react. I am assuming that he will be gracious and tell you not to worry...that he will provide you with a great time. Good luck!

You've got to expect some percentage of flakes in any kind of customer service business. Comes with the territory. 60%, though? That's insane. Hopefully you're just on a streak of bad luck. Is that percentage common among escorts? Do the flakers book in advance or are they short-notice appointments? (If the latter, are the 4 out of 10 that work out worth the stress and anger the other 6 create for you? If not, consider going appointment only.)
 
I totally agree with the suggestions to text night before/early day of. I'll usually book in advance if I'm travelling and text when I hit town and the morning of the appointment. Probably 50% of the time the guy I've hired will text me first to confirm. Gives both parties a sense of confidence that things will go as planned.
 
I've had to cancel on short notice once or twice. Sometimes life happens. But, I always try to call to tell the guy directly, text if I can't get him. (I've had escorts no-show, but only one extended me the same courtesy.) Whether client or escort, there should be a special place in hell for those who just don't follow through.

I spent 3 hours with Tyler today and he is one of a kind - I’ve never met a companion quite like him.
 
For whatever reason he and I really clicked... he’s a true pro, threw himself with abandon into our discussions and remained wholly and completely focused on me from the moment we met to my reluctant departure.
 
If you’re thinking about meeting Tyler I recommend that you read his web site thoroughly to get a sense of who he is. https://tylerthebadwolf.com/

I had the reverse problem. Set up an in-call to an escort's hotel. Texted/called him a couple of times from the hotel lobby. Left after about 25-30 minutes, but got stressed out thinking he might be unconscious in a ditch somewhere. Couple of hours later, his "Available Now" light was on. Then I thought he might look good in that ditch.

I had the reverse problem. Set up an in-call to an escort's hotel. Texted/called him a couple of times from the hotel lobby. Left after about 25-30 minutes, but got stressed out thinking he might be unconscious in a ditch somewhere. Couple of hours later, his "Available Now" light was on. Then I thought he might look good in that ditch.

My business has, arguably, a similar/parallel circumstance which is dependent upon people honoring their commitments, and when they don’t, blame can be found on both sides of the equation. For the most part, business proceeds smoothly. When it doesn’t (over the years) I’ve adopted the following point of view a) not to colorize the whole business based on the actions of a few b) accept the loss as part of doing business and c) forgive and move on. In general, the success of the business is my overall reward.

I really disagree that an escort should end an otherwise respectful and fun session early based on his perception of "body language." Much easier and more professional to say "Let's [cuddle, take a shower, chat, whatever] or would you rather I head out?" When I first started hiring I had one guy pretty much jump into his underwear and get ready to leave as soon as we came with an hour left to what was otherwise a pretty good time (from what he said, for both of us). Paid him the whole fee, but felt pretty annoyed with myself for doing so after. I've also cut sessions short, even with good cause (guy went into a k-hole and started nodding off). If I do, I pay in full for all time booked.
 
That said, I agree with the advice given the OP above:

Don't just leave the donation out for the escort to pick up on the way out the door. Put it in an envelope somewhere sticking out in plain sight but not instantly accessible -- under a lamp, etc. At the end, hand him the envelope, stick it in his back pocket at last hug, etc. (My system may get a bit over-involved -- money in an envelope as above, potential tip money in a nearby dresser drawer, another stash of money in case we agree to extend. Works for me, though. I find it awkward to be fumbling through cash at the end of the session.)
Don't book more than an hour first time with a provider. I used to suggest an option to extend until one guy stopped mid-thrust with 5-10 minutes left on the original hour to say "If you want me to finish it will cost another hour." Needless to say, I showed him the door.

Shake it off and go find someone else to have fun with. Plenty of fish in the sea, grains of sand on the beach, and good, communicative providers out there.

You're a better man than I. A no-show shows no respect for your time, especially with all the blather (rightfully so) by responsible guys about wasting theirs. Kills your ability to make other plans for the night (and, for me at least, wastes a perfectly good Cialis ). CJ's ghost was especially dickish after his emphasizing the point in our call beforehand and the Uber request. And, back when I was a naive baby client, I actually spent a fair amount of time worried the guy was unconscious in a ditch or something.
 
Glad your forgiving nature has led to good times. Me, I guess I hold grudges.

You're a better man than I. A no-show shows no respect for your time, especially with all the blather (rightfully so) by responsible guys about wasting theirs. Kills your ability to make other plans for the night (and, for me at least, wastes a perfectly good Cialis ). CJ's ghost was especially dickish after his emphasizing the point in our call beforehand and the Uber request. And, back when I was a naive baby client, I actually spent a fair amount of time worried the guy was unconscious in a ditch or something.
 
Glad your forgiving nature has led to good times. Me, I guess I hold grudges.

I love to make out. I think kissing is just as intimate as full on sex if not more so.
 
Hugs,
Greg

https://rentmen.eu/AlxWard
You will enjoy with him!

So I guess you have reached a point in your career where you are using your business processes to manage demand.

Gee, forgive me for pointing out that your comment makes you sound...ummm...a bit full of yourself. Those of us who have been burned in the past have legitimate grounds to request some form of verification. That you will not deign to address the concerns of potential customers in an industry full of scammers, hucksters, and frauds says a great deal. So by all means, please put me on your blacklist now.

Yeah, I refer to myself as a 'porn character actor'.
 
Kevin Slater

Bumping. Anyone taken one (or him) for the team?

Asked a guy I'd seen a couple of times in NYC (I'm from DC). Not only did he take it like a champ, he had a DC recommendation and called the DC guy first as an introduction. Apparently said nice things, b/c DC guy called, introduced himself and gave me his personal cell number. Both NYC guy and DC guy became heavy regulars and traveled with me overseas, until one left the biz and the other one moved farther away. Still good friends with both and frequently see DC guy for coffee. Both were/are awesome. I got very lucky.
 
Never did play with them together, though. They just didn't seem to fit together in my brain. One at a time was plenty!

Appreciate any info:
 
CJ Kendall
https://rent.men/Cjkendall
 
Jake Morgan
https://rent.men/JakeMorganCHI
 
Much obliged -- Wham

Asked a guy I'd seen a couple of times in NYC (I'm from DC). Not only did he take it like a champ, he had a DC recommendation and called the DC guy first as an introduction. Apparently said nice things, b/c DC guy called, introduced himself and gave me his personal cell number. Both NYC guy and DC guy became heavy regulars and traveled with me overseas, until one left the biz and the other one moved farther away. Still good friends with both and frequently see DC guy for coffee. Both were/are awesome. I got very lucky.
 
Never did play with them together, though. They just didn't seem to fit together in my brain. One at a time was plenty!

Asked a guy I'd seen a couple of times in NYC (I'm from DC). Not only did he take it like a champ, he had a DC recommendation and called the DC guy first as an introduction. Apparently said nice things, b/c DC guy called, introduced himself and gave me his personal cell number. Both NYC guy and DC guy became heavy regulars and traveled with me overseas, until one left the biz and the other one moved farther away. Still good friends with both and frequently see DC guy for coffee. Both were/are awesome. I got very lucky.
 
Never did play with them together, though. They just didn't seem to fit together in my brain. One at a time was plenty!

Asked a guy I'd seen a couple of times in NYC (I'm from DC). Not only did he take it like a champ, he had a DC recommendation and called the DC guy first as an introduction. Apparently said nice things, b/c DC guy called, introduced himself and gave me his personal cell number. Both NYC guy and DC guy became heavy regulars and traveled with me overseas, until one left the biz and the other one moved farther away. Still good friends with both and frequently see DC guy for coffee. Both were/are awesome. I got very lucky.
 
Never did play with them together, though. They just didn't seem to fit together in my brain. One at a time was plenty!

OK, so I took the hit for the team. Glad to have done so. Really nice, interesting guy. Excellent skillz. Best kisser ever. Not my thing, but if you like feet, even better. We were pretty vanilla, but I'm led to believe he has a dominant wild side. Go forth.
 
You're welcome. My pleasure.

Chicago? Alx Ward
 
https://rentmen.eu/AlxWard
 
Tall, gorgeous, sweet, in-charge and would probably be excellent with a rookie! (I think he is 100% top, so not-so-great a choice if you want to flip, but sounds like what you're mostly interested in would be right in his wheelhouse). If you contact him (or any escort) just explain what you're looking for.
 
Go have fun!
 
PS -- I wouldn't go to a hook-up app first time around the block. IMHO, chances of finding someone who would actually be attuned to your needs as a first-timer are slim.

Oh yeah. I would have pushed him out of bed and had him sleep on the couch if he was going to treat me that way. How about waking me and suggesting that he sleep on the couch. Being the gentleman I would have suggested I be the one. I'm sorry the way he handled it (if I got the gist right) was hardly gentlemanly.

Yay! for truth on RM. Much preferred to the dudes who have their "Available Now" light on 24/7, then can't schedule until a day or two later.

as suggested, I'd go with a professional provider who has solid reviews at daddysreviews dot com.......when you zero in on a few dudes, mention them in this thread (with links) and see if we have any comments
 
be honest, but I'd wait until the second text/email to get specific (some providers like a modicum of discretion!).....in the first email or text, just say hi, very briefly describe yourself, mention you're new at this and are looking for a "teacher" of sorts (though some providers may not want to bother with all that seems to entail)......be polite, professional, to-the-point and brief, and don't bombard them with too many contacts......
 
the tone of their communication will help a lot.....