When you hire, you get to take a vacation from your self-consciousness and low self-esteem and just enjoy being with a great looking man who's there to make you happy. Of course there's some staging and play-acting, but that's paid sex. When you watch a play or a movie, you don't sit there ruining the experience for yourself by constantly reminding yourself that it isn't real life and therefore sucks. It's the same here, its just that there's an audience of one with audience participation being expected and encouraged.