Rudynate

I think getting built is (1) evidence of a strong character and (2) helps to further develop a man's character. And I find men with strong characters to be very sexy. But the sexual marketplace doesn't place a premium on character.

You're looking to be entertained?

That's true, they do sometimes.

Not an escort. I last visited Canada a couple years ago. Although they didn't specify in their ads, the Canadian escorts I talked to said their advertised rate was Canadian. They preferred to be paid in Canadian to avoid exchange fees.

None of that would have mattered if he had died. It would have been at least a manslaughter charge for you.

The communication snafu shows that "safe" isn't safe.

Exactly. Everybody seems to forget that we can't read each other's minds.

Here in SF, if you get out and about at all, you will see escorts and masseurs. In particular, if you go to a popular SOMA gym, you will see LOTS of escorts and masseurs. It becomes a commonplace experience. One time, I saw my favorite porn actor of all time, Tom Vaccaro, on a treadmill. He glanced over at me, we smiled at each other and we each went back to what we were doing. Only a couple weeks ago, I was waiting in line at Kaiser to pick up a script and right behind me was a masseur I had seen a few months before. It was an exceptional massage with a nice erotic component. We said Hi, I reminded him what my name was and we chatted in line while we were waiting - no discomfort at all.

Now and again. For my business, I don't write a single check, ever. All my recurring bills are automatically paid out of my operating account. I use a debit card for non-recurring bills. I haven't switched yet, but I'm thinking of paying the business expenses with my AMEX, for the Starwood points.

I can imagine it being awkward if you're with others, but if you're alone, or virtually alone, as in a crowded gym, there doesn't seem to be any reason for discomfort.

To you or them?

I encountered a meth freak once during an upaid hookup. Somebody who knew him even told me he thought he was a meth freak. I got to his house and chatted with him - sure enough he was working his jaws and couldn't sit still for more than a few seconds. I just said I wasn't into it and left. I've never had a problem with hires. But then, it would be surprising, in the kind of guy that I go for, to encounter it.

And then what happens?

No.

He didn't get an appointment just on his looks. He was selling something your company could use. He was probably engaging, respectful, smart.

It's your love life. You should conduct it how you want to.

If the posts on this site are any indication, I think some people really do give it that much thought.

We make up a lot of stories about nice-looking men that may or may not be true. If a guy of average appearance is lazy, he's just lazy. If a nice-looking guy is lazy it's because he's used to getting by on his looks and has never learned the value of hard work. If a guy of average appearance is manipulative, he's just manipulative. If a nice-looking guy is manipulative he uses his looks to hoodwink people and on and on.

The same way everybody else does.

No. Good looking men are sheer joy.

I love to get flowers.

I used to enjoy dishes like this but I've pretty much lost my taste for them. I like simple things generally but not always. We're having a dinner party soon and I'm going to try my hand at one of my favorites- Black Forest cake.

The entire funeral has to be in two days or burial?

When I was a little kid - a distant relative laid in state at home. They lived in an isolated, rural part of the state where people still did things the old-fashioned way. We weren't allowed at the funeral because my parents thought that little kids didn't belong at funerals. We staid with some neighbors down the road. We stood in the front yard and watched as the pallbearers brought the casket out the front door and down the front steps. They were professionals, all dressed identically, and walked in step, carrying the casket on their shoulders. It seemed like such a grand end for a modest little old lady.

I think with the trend toward cremation followed by memorial service, there can be a fairly long interval between death and the funeral. My mother died in late March and we didn't have her funeral until the middle of April.