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Even if that is Even if that is true, do you reflexively go around answering whatever is asked of you. I repeat, "Who said you had to?"

I don't have any experience with any of them. I'm hot and cold on Ethan. His ad copy is very sexy, I love his face, but his body I'm not wild about.

I would agree that I am used by unacknowledged biases, but life is an endless process of peeling back the layers of the onion. Every time you get to a new layer, you get to choose whether it will use you or not.

I've made a complete turnaround with redheads. I wasn't into the pale skin tone either. But for reasons that I don't understand, a while ago, it began to seem beautiful to me. I love that lily-white skin with the blue veins showing through.

In a perfect world, that would be true. In fact, skin color is just another phenotype, like hair color, eye color, etc. However, skin color has been inextricably linked with the notion of "race" and everything that race connotes. We live in a racist society and it is impossible not to be affected by it. If people were actually able to say that they weren't into a certain skin tone in the same way that they aren't into a certain eye color, there would be no problem, and perhaps in a few generations we will get there. You say you don't seek out people who look like you as potential partners. But I bet you haven't made a categorical decision that all blue-eyed people, forever and all, are unsuitable as potential partners. And I don't imagine you have a lot of stories and preconceived notions about how blue-eyed people are and why you don't choose them as partners. You're just not into them. Because skin color is so solidly linked with "race," it is nearly impossible to make that choice.

Acknowledging a bias allows a person to choose whether they want to be used by the bias or not.

Of course they lie to themselves. That's what an unacknowledged bias is. They say to themsrlves, " That's just the way I am, I can't help it, " and some such.

A doc who really knows the diagnosis and procedure codes can work magic with insurance carriers.

They write off the cost as long as insurance pays most of it. They wouldn't write off the cost if insurance had only covered a small portion of the cost. You are fortunate if you have insurance that covers labs for HRT.

I agree with you that you just don't pull an attraction out of thin air when no potential for attraction exists, but decisions and biases shape and limit the potential for attraction in non-obvious ways. For example, a guy who's "just not into blacks" may be looking at the man of his dreams, except for the fact that he's black, and not even recognize it. More personally, I've developed a fascination recently with 250-lb bears. I didn't suddenly make that up. But I recognized it when I opened my mind a little about guys whose height/weight proportions weren't what we consider ideal.

I just love men-any color, any ethnicity.

I don't have a close relationship with any of mine. I'm not sure what they call me.

Who said they did?

What does affirmative action have to do with anything? Affirmative action is a legal remedy for institutionalized racism. Individual racism in personal relationships isn't subject to that type of legal control. The only remedy for racism at the personal level is to recognize that it's not how you want to be and to stop it.

Tatts are a behavioral choice. They don't have anything to do with a fundamental fact of a person's being over which they have no control.

But we're talking about a guy who would have been a good partner until he found out the guys ethnic background. That one piece of information changed everything.

Who said you had to?

To me, when someone says, categorically, "I'm just not attracted to . . ." a particular ethnicity, that sounds to me more like a decision than a preference.

When I lived in the East Bay I always did park and fly, although it was unnecessary, since I lived not more than 30 min from the airport. It really eased the departure jitters. I did park and fly in SF just once. The way they do it at SFO is such a cluster fuck that it just added to the hassle of departing.

You need to get laid a lot. Being a family man might get in the way a bit.

You won't break or anything if it turns out it's not for you. An escort is the most expedient way to experience male on male intimacy. Lots of them advertise that they are good with newbies. At any time, if you don't like what's happening, you can stop. If you go through with it and you realize it's not for you, you never have to do it again.

Drinking carbonated water all the time is bad for the teeth and bones. It is a weak acid and can change your blood pH, causing calcium to leach from your teeth and bones.

Yes it is a scalp tattoo. It isn't for everbody, but on him, it's extaordinarily sexy.

Using them is also dangerous to your health.

So have me over. I want to see this garden of earthly delights.