caliguy

No it isn't appropriate for two basic reasons: the OP didn't ask for advice about his weight and we have no knowledge about his genetic/environmental/medical issues. There are many reasons for someone to be overweight and a large number of them are not directly controllable. Without far more information, we have no idea and no valid basis to say something like was said above. We don't even know if he's medically obese! All he's said pertains to the extreme lookism he's experienced. The statements by gymowner and others are loaded with implicit assumptions based on illusions of "control" and "will" that are frankly condescending and elitist. Given what's been shared so far, those comments are counterproductive and potentially harmful.

"I experience a great deal of anxiety trying to hire someone because of my weight. I often fantasize about having an amazing experience with a hot guy. Mostly I tend to choose less attractive escorts to mitigate some damage. I just want to feel wanted and validated."

He wants the hot guys to want him too. He's not interested in just average guys. I get that. When I was 30 I wanted desperately to fit in and of coarse you want the hotties to notice you so I started going to the gym and guess what. My dream came true. Yah. Also, he never stated that he has a disease or whatever so I'm going with that.

This is an inappropriate, insensitive, tactless, self-centered response. I'd suggest joining a group that can help you with sensitivity and ego issues. Set up small goals such as reading the room and being sensitive to others' concerns. Learn no to imply that others need to change to match your perceptions. There is synergy within positive momentum. Take the first step. We all want you to succeed and not post responses like this again.

It's totally appropriate. He's a 30 yo man not happy with his current situation so what's so wrong about giving someone advice who asked for it on the root cause? Not to mention it's something Gymowner has a bit more knowledge then the rest of us on.

I think some of you are reading your own insecurities into this and thus making this more about you then the OP.

I always search for bb btms ...... no strict fukn tops (sorry, just hate these guys)

 

So you hate yourself?

Then the cigarette in his hand in one picture is also a prop? I doubt it.

Funny that wouldn't fly here but I guess it's France and smoking cigarettes are still seen as something hot.

Personally I find it gross. At least you know what you'll be tasting.

Here’s the quandary: if you do a reverse image search the pics are all over the place.

 

If it really is him - the model/rugby player - then I’d have posted the real name of an escort. A bad thing.

 

My guess, as you suggest, is that the pics may have been acquired in a non-conventional fashion.

Either that or he's looking to expand his portfolio. I'm sure all the modeling agencies are looking for escorting experience these days.

Wow. Really gorgeous, my type. I am in NYC so I may give a tried but first I will do that reverse search that the other poster replied. He looks to good to be true :/

Yes. International models are my type too!!! Good that there are a few of us into that. Lol

Maybe I should rephrase that. If there's some attraction then of coarse swallowing might happen. Just like kissing can range from nothing to full on tongue swap. You'll never get the full monte unless their into you are at least somewhat. Also a piggy situation where the guy is just into it. Those are usually on the kinkier side.

Skipthegames..ha. 100% scammed. No cop would work alone doing this much less extort you for $ due to the first part. If it was real it would need witnesses for the court.

Looks like he wanted you to know that he blocked you.

Another very common thing I run into are guys not trained in massage and clearly don't know what they are doing. Again, money.

A real massage therapist will never include sex in the session. Maybe if that concerns you stick to the pros.

I have different opinion for the escort. I think he is racist. He doesn't like men of color.

I guess because I'm not into fucking women I'm a mysogonist.

I have different opinion for the escort. I think he is racist. He doesn't like men of color.

I guess because I'm not into fucking women I'm a mysogonist.

Yeah, he wanted to make sure he was hard for you. Tri mix most likely. If he came out bug eyes and grinding his teeth that would be a real concern for you. Learn to relax a bit.

In all honesty for me that was the most traumatic experience of my life.

 

Oh noes. I hope you had friends to get you through it.

Seems like a nice guy, but made it clear he wasn't the right escort for old, fat guys like me.

Yikes. He said that to you? How rude.

Oh please. I doubt that's the way it was said and points for honesty. That said he does have this on his profile.. "Usually looking for <60yo." and (I also enjoy topping young smaller guys). Some of you need to learn how to read.

I did it a few times at first I thought Grindr for escorts would be a bad thing and that's why I was against it specially after Sesta and Fosta. After reading posts by other members and talking with a few escorts I think I was wrong and Grindr would be a good thing for escorts.

 

Hiring is a big step in life we all have crossed at a different type and for different reasons. Grindr might be a way to make some folks hire someone they can't have for free because he's "out of their league". Later on that client after a few good experiences paying and getting exactly what he wants without drama (and some not to so good times spending hours texting and getting blocked) will move on to hire from RentMen.com.

 

I still think most of the guys offering money on Grindr do it because it's cheaper and they feel they're "hunting" for someone not available to others yet they know they're paying for sex a guy who's on the app trying to get laid with guys he likes.

 

The ugly truth is they're hiring... This might get rid of the guys asking for a 30 mins rate and other bottom feeders who after CL and BP were shut down started harassing escorts on Rentmen.com

 

Caveat emptor: some folks start using it to attract men with fake pictures and mugging them if they don't give their wallet. Something like this happen a few blocks from my place at a hotel called Dorchester House to a well-known lawyer. I think it was either Back Page or Craigslist.

 

@Benjamin_Nicholas recently posted in Europe guys on Grindr are using diamond and roses to announce they are available to anybody who wants to pay. I guess based on some of the posts on here that's common this side of the pond.

 

I think Grindr should use the system of Adam4Adam* and make sure those making a profit from the site pay to use it and have a free account to have fun. After Sesta and Fosta I'm sure they'll never do it.

I should say that I get hit up by both escorts and gen equally. There are other venues instead of this cloak and dagger method that just leaves the regular users annoyed. You're interested and you think they are too and after plans are set up it's oh by way its going to cost.. That's just insulting. If I go to Rentmen then at least it's clear.

Yes it's hunting for guys not available through the usual means which of coarse comes with a danger since you know nothing about them.

I should also say if the guy advertises their services gen/escort and just leaves me alone I don't do anything. Also I recently got hit up by a gen but because he was so damn ugly I just felt sorry for him and said no and wished him a nice day. So there are exeptions. :-)

A wise gentleman once told me that if you do include language (“gen” or “generous”) or emojis (?) in your profile it is easy to get your account banned. Users (especially guys that you don’t respond to or reject) will report your profile, so if somebody message/tap you and you are not interested, block them immediately before they can report you...

I get hit up with gen all the time and I report their profile. Grindr just isn't the place for it.

His new album isn't half bad though.

Penile implants are done more on the geriatric crowd I thought.

Today my masseur "cancelled me" because I didn't confirm the appointment this morning. He presumed I would be a no-show, even though I've never flaked on an appointment on him (or anyone else) before. I booked this appointment many days ahead of time, and re-confirmed the time after he acknowledged it earlier in the week.

 

My gut feeling is that he was home, as I heard clapping going on presumably while a sporting event was on tv. He may have peeked through the peephole when I knocked, took a look at me, and decided watching sports was a better use of his time today. When I called him, he told me he sent many messages to confirm today that I didn't respond to, and he was nowhere near his home at the time.

 

I had my phone off all day as I was at a conference, and then my phone died. My phone exploded with his messages from this morning after I left his home once I charged it. He seemed angrier at me than I was at him. I don't at all understand how I could be in the wrong here, but I know he has permanently lost any future business with me.

Texting days before is just meaningless. I can't imagine going over to someone's place without a simple text the day of. Doesn't take but a second to do. Hey are we good for today?

At any rate, sounds like he wrote you off and had some friends over which would explain why he didn't answer the door.

Push two viagra down his throat! And then see the wonder! He will screw you like a stallion! But make sure that things don't end up like the infamous Mr. Hands!

I didn't know that there was still some escorts out there not doing the ED drug thing already. He might OD on it.

Jeez. Some here just think they're putting money into a vending machine and not a flesh and blood human being. Mine works 95% of the time but things sometimes things just happen. Mostly it was just due to them though. Some guys are akin to having sex under a cold shower.

When you run across an escort’s personal profile on Scruff or Grindr, and you see “Treatment as prevention,” do you ask them their HIV status prior to hiring off of Rentmen? I get the feeling that some guys don’t get the fact that “treatment as prevention” means HIV positive, and that they think that “treatment as prevention” means they are negative and taking Prep.

 

I’ve broached the issue with a few guys on the apps and asked them if they really knew what “treatment as prevention” meant. Some claim that they honestly thought it meant negative and on prep. Is there really that misconception out there or is that just a line of BS?

Why wouldn't they just say on PrEP? Wouldn't that just be simpler? At any rate, I've never come across any ad where it's a negative guy saying that. If you're in treatment that means you're being treated for something.

Ive tried messaging him but he never responds.

Maybe you just aren't the best.