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This is very important. I'm not sure if it's only premium members, but on RM, you can look up a reviewer's profile and see their other reviews. I like this because you can easily tell who is real and who is suspicious. People were recently asking about how to evaluate a new provider. Well, if they're reviewed by someone on RM with a bunch of reviews that are solid, that's as good - to me - as someone on here. And I did recently end up hiring someone despite their having one bad review out of three, because the client had given EVERYONE bad reviews. 

I offered to look up a providers profile for someone here who was asking for help assessing it and have been receiving requests to do so for others DAILY now (some people haven't even said 'please') so I thought I would post a little 'how to assess and hire' guide and just send the link. 
Disclaimer - *none of this is fool-proof and there is always inherent risk in anything you do. You can walk outside and be struck by lightning today.  Please do not comment with 'whataboutisms' or tales of woe on this thread. I don’t care and I won’t read it. 
 
1. VPN
Use a VPN to view the rentmen site so you can read the text in the reviews. Pages of discussions of what VPN is best are on this site. I recommend Privado which is subscription based, but I use a VPN whenever I turn on my computer or phone.  There is a free site - nl.hideproxy.me that works however you must use Chrome browser on laptop. 
2. REVIEWS
Look at who has left the reviews. Check the client profiles. Did they open the account at a similar time to the provider, or have they been on rentmen for years? Have they left many reviews? Has one provider got 15 reviews but 7 are from the same person? Do they have lots of great reviews and then one bad one? Have a look at the person who left the bad reviews profile - has the person that left the bad review left lots of bad reviews for other guys too? 
Reach out and send a message to clients that have left reviews and ask some questions. Don't ask for a blow-by-blow account- just ask brief question that is relevant for you. eg. Does he have a nice place to host? Did he kiss?)  
Search the providers name here on Company of Men. If you find no threads - start a 411 thread and ask if anyone has experience. This is a GREAT way to see if a 'new' provider is actually a name changer, and just a new profile. This site is a cesspool at times, but it can also be a great resource. Help add to the resource. If you are interested, it's likely someone else is too! Please remember if someone posts a 411 thread about a guy who you don't like the look of - move on! no need to yuk on other peoples yum. 
How many reviews does this person have compared to how long they have been on the site. Keeping in mind – guys located in big cities will have more clients, reviews can only be left by premium members now, and so newer guys take a little longer to get some. Some guys only work this as a side hustle and also might not have as many reviews. 
3. PHOTOS
Have a look at when the photos were uploaded, are any recent? You can see the date added, there should be photos from at least this year. Does it look like any pics were massively photoshopped or changed?  Do they have at least 10 photos? 
If they have blurred face on their profile, are they willing to send via other means? For eg snapchat, whatsapp, facetime. If they are not willing to do this, it is a BIG RED FLAG.  
4. PNP
Does the provider list PNP? If so, what does that even mean?  My advice is to steer clear from providers, or people in general, who do hard drugs. If you like the look of the provider anyway, reach out ask 'what does PNP mean for you?' The results will vary. Some may say 'oh I like to sometimes take gummies' 'I like to do coke' 'I like to do Tina', 'I don't party but I don't mind if you do'. A good rule is: Only go with providers that do the same level of partying as you do yourself. 
OK SO YOU FINALLY CHOSE THE GUY YOU WANT TO MEET- NOW WHAT?
5. Messaging 
When reaching out - Be direct, polite and clear. Use this template - 
Hello, my name is (desired name) 
I'm in (desired city) and I would like to get together with you (Desired date and time) 
I'm interested in (incall/outcall) and doing (desired information) 
Don't message 'hi how are you?' and nothing else. While that may seem fine to message a friend or someone on a dating app, you wouldn't reach out to another service provider (hairdresser, doctor, cleaner, realtor, chef) and just wait for a reply to that. We don't have time to reply to every message that says "hey".
Please don't say 'I’m looking for fun.' 'I want to feel good.' 'I want to relax'. Its lame and it tells us nothing. Tell us exactly what you are interested in.  
If you use this template you WILL get a good response. Especially of you text it. 
 
6. READ. THE. PROFILE
It's extremely frustrating and annoying when 'clients' reach out and ask questions where the answer is clearly written on the profile. 'How tall are you?' "Do you host?' 'Are you cut or uncut' 'do you top' All of the stats, positions, likes and interests, current city + travel dates - there is a wealth of infomation on our profiles, it will save you time to have a quick read! 
Don't ever message and ask 'What are you into?'  It is not relevant and reeks of someone wanting jerk off material. For providers, it is a huge red flag when ‘clients’ message this.
 
7. Communicate what you are looking for. 
Say what you want. We are not mind readers. We have heard it ALL I assure you. 
 
8. Deposits. 
Deposits. To be or not to be - that is the question! Loathe to hear anyone else opinion on this - don't message me I literally do not care what you have to say- I'm just giving my take as I have been asked about it many times now, that doesn't mean I am asking for yours. 
1. New providers should not be asking for deposits.  
2. You should not be sending a deposit to someone who has no reviews. 
3. Same day in-call appointments should not require a deposit.
4. We do receive a huge amount of fake bookings and if you are wanting an outcall - providing an uber if asked is not unreasonable for a new provider to ensure it is YOU who is not a scammer/flake/pranker. 
If, and only IF -  the provider does have plenty of reviews both here and on rentmen, a SMALL deposit is fine, but really nothing more than $50. If you are wanting an overnight, or the provider to travel a great distance - it is reasonable that small amount would be ratioed taking the distance/time into account.  For eg, I do ask for  the equivalent of 1hr fee as deposit if I am to be booked for overnight, traveling interstate or internationally. 
Some factual background - I require all new clients to send minimal deposit and it has not reduced my workload at all.  The only change I experienced was the rate of cancelations has since reduced to almost zero. (last year only 2 cancellations/no shows the whole YEAR) This year after seeing all the nonsense posted on these boards by Couch Critics, Monday Morning Quarterbacks and just total Clowns - I stopped requesting them for new clients just to see what would happen. The result of the experiment was shocking even to me. A cancelation/ghosting rate of 65% for that month. This percentage rate increased when it was a client who messaged ONLY from rentmen messenger, or a burner phone number (yes we can tell if you are using a burner phone). Whilst the vast majority of people who use this forum are the real deal, please understand that if you say 'just trust me I am coming' the truth is – the stats show that you are more than likely not. 
If you are reaching out to a new provider - they have not earned the rank of being able to request deposits. Ask them if they have no deposit options instead – perhaps for a same day in-call appointment may work. If you are reaching out to an established provider, they may have no-deposit options you can do as well. If you are wanting a longer booking, or for the provider to hold a spot open for you on the just the promise that you will arrive and not a deposit - you may be out of luck. 
A well-reviewed provider will not runway with your $50 when they can make $300 or more by actually seeing you -  and maybe make a new regular client out of you (our best hope!).  
 
9.  Have fun. Be Safe. Use Commonsense. 

That's exactly why I ended by pointing out his body is phenomenal, his cock is big and rock-hard the whole time, and he knows how to fuck. For some, I know the attitude is actually a turn-on and I can appreciate that.  It just doesn't work for me.  I much prefer a man who KNOWS he is hot but somehow manages to still be a bit humble and who shows some interest in the customer beyond just the cash being handed over.  

This thread surprised me.
Isn't a mouth full of cum the expected outcome of a blow job? When I suck cock I want a mouth full of cum. Feeling a man unload in my mouth is thrilling. And I always swallow unless he's so far down my throat he bypasses my mouth entirely.  

If they don't list "daddy's" maybe it's because they just like other men.
I'm in my 50s now and am absolutely turned off by that term, Daddy, it's not my scene.
When I was in my '20s I was having sex with guys in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and yes 90s and not once did I ever call any of them Daddy, nor think of them that way.  They're guys.  I'm a guy.  We are guys:  Guys in different or similar age brackets who kiss and cuddle and fuck and talk.  Daddy is overused. 

That seems to be his m.o.  
 

Agreed. 
it was a full night I will never forget. 
West made me feel alive in a way I never had before 

Welcome @TxDaddyBear. This forum has good things and bad things, and unfortunately you've been introduced to one of the bad things. I regret this has been your introduction to the forum. Like everywhere else on the internet there are mean girls - not too many fortunately, but those that are here make themselves known.
There is indeed a market for bigger guys as well as older guys. Think of the Bearracuda parties. I used to dance at the SF Bearracuda events and loved seeing all the guys there, not to mention the big sexy gogo dancers. The biggest guys got the most tips too. 

Welcome to our forum, @TxDaddyBear. Responses of the type made about you are, regrettably, inevitable in a forum such as this. Most here are able to accept that others have different desires and preferences and are able to respect that. I'm sure your experiences here will improve, even though there may be some lapses.

Greetings all. Thank you for discussing me. To answer your questions and comments. I do quite well because their aren't a lot of Daddy Bear escorts out there, and a lot of guys are into it. If I am not to your tastes, that is fine. I long ago gave up needing to be liked by everyone, but also, ask yourself why you feel the need to put someone down to make yourself feel better? Maybe work on your self esteem rather that insult someone because of a size or age difference. 
So Marylander1940 and all those questioning the situation, I suggest you check things out for yourself. And to all of you, come and see me when you are in the Bay Area. I am a great guy.
Much love!

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

I've seen him twice, and he is fantastic. Intelligent, sweet, patient and kind. He's a great kisser and fucks like a dream. And holy fuck, is he cute!

I've seen him twice, and he is fantastic. Intelligent, sweet, patient and kind. He's a great kisser and fucks like a dream. And holy fuck, is he cute!

I've seen him twice, and he is fantastic. Intelligent, sweet, patient and kind. He's a great kisser and fucks like a dream. And holy fuck, is he cute!