Johnnyroad

I’m regularly faced with a 400 or 450 ask these days. Negotiating used to work but seems like it always ends up with a “have a nice afternoon”.
Well, when you want quality, you have to pay for it.

He’s a very nice guy. I met him back in 2023. Excellent oral skills. Really good kisser too. Seems to have disappeared for a while.

I’m regularly faced with a 400 or 450 ask these days. Negotiating used to work but seems like it always ends up with a “have a nice afternoon”.
Well, when you want quality, you have to pay for it.

Interesting article.  Anecdotal evidence, but probably somewhat accurate.  I haven't seen an inflow of new escorts on rentmen/NYC yet.  But it could be happening soon.
A note on haggling.  I like to haggle in other areas of my life but not when it comes to hiring escorts.  Sure, a guy may be in a financial pinch and reluctantly agree to a lower price.  In my mind, you are starting the session on a sour note already.   I expect the level of service and the overall enthusiasm to be much less than if you paid the ask.  But I don't really know - I have never haggled over escort rates.  I prefer to say thank you and walk away.

Luke is one of the best! Glad he’s now here in NYC and I am able to see him regularly! 

I’m into regularity, for privacy reasons as well as avoidance of scams / entrapment/ legal problems.
If I do see a new guy, he’s unfortunately going to need to have at least 10 reviews on RM 😂. Just so I know I’m not walking into a legal trap .

If you must, I wouldn’t enter personal information about specific people. Even inputting the website repeatedly suggests it’s a site of illegal activity that some government arm (like the trump administration) must crush.
Also, depending on where you live, prosecutors might be hungry to charge folks. The recent raid in northern Florida is crazy. Innocent folks who just wanted fun being charged with a permanent record.
I would strictly interact in incognito mode, if at all engaging in discussions about *** for money. I would also never ever input the exact stage names of particular providers. That puts them and you at risk. 
 
let’s keep prevent rentmen the website from being in the crosshairs of the government, and let’s keep providers and you safe from an OpenAI inquiry/investigations/charges 

I’d remain cautious. You never know how quickly information inputted into ChatGPT can be used to identify you, and you never know which authorities are in partnership with OpenAI (such as the Trump administration, which isn’t very pro-sex work, surveillance companies like Palantir, etc).
Even with a privacy guarantee, I do believe that OpenAI can be tipped off to messages it deems “very concerning”.
per a search: 
automated moderation systems constantly scan inputs and outputs, and conversations that trigger safety thresholds are immediately flagged. [1, 2] When an inquiry is flagged, it bypasses standard privacy filters and undergoes a stricter review process: [1]   What Happens to Flagged Chats Human Review Escalation: Flagged conversations are sent to specialized pipelines where a trained team of experts and contractors manually review the text. System Logging: The flag is permanently logged to your account. Even if you delete the chat or use "Temporary Chat," OpenAI retains logs of policy violations for safety and compliance purposes.           ,

No, and the same goes to men of all other colors.

I have a question regarding your position preferences for Black men.
Do you find it a turnoff to learn that a Black top  occasionally bottoms?
Be honest.

You will not find much of a taste for partying and slamming on this website lol. There is a very high stigma attached to it here.
Even the mere mention of partying seems to signal meth or harder drugs (which it doesn’t, to me).

i don't know about the race element but i can say when it comes to porn stars that i follow (mostly tops) when i see them do a bottom video it does make me not like them as much.  With the bottoms that i follow when i see them top it doesn't give me the ick in the same way.  
probably internal misogyny going on there. 

No, but I don't really hire based on race. Also, my husband and I (being a bottom and top) hire a lot of vers guys so it's not unusual for a guy to top me and then bottom for my husband; sometimes simultaneously. 😆

I’d remain cautious. You never know how quickly information inputted into ChatGPT can be used to identify you, and you never know which authorities are in partnership with OpenAI (such as the Trump administration, which isn’t very pro-sex work, surveillance companies like Palantir, etc).
Even with a privacy guarantee, I do believe that OpenAI can be tipped off to messages it deems “very concerning”.
per a search: 
automated moderation systems constantly scan inputs and outputs, and conversations that trigger safety thresholds are immediately flagged. [1, 2] When an inquiry is flagged, it bypasses standard privacy filters and undergoes a stricter review process: [1]   What Happens to Flagged Chats Human Review Escalation: Flagged conversations are sent to specialized pipelines where a trained team of experts and contractors manually review the text. System Logging: The flag is permanently logged to your account. Even if you delete the chat or use "Temporary Chat," OpenAI retains logs of policy violations for safety and compliance purposes.           ,

Met a provider that I have seen a couple times before, we are very comfortable with each other and he has even recommended other providers to me when I’ve been traveling. We have “known” each other for about a year. But during this conversation he brought up the difficulties of being a provider - some of the horrible clientele he’s had to deal with etc. He talked about what he’s done with learn how to deal with people like and he says things are better now. 

I did get a bit in my feelings about the nature of the conversation. I know he doesn’t feel like that about me and it was more of a moment for him to vent but still left feeling weird about the whole thing. I do believe that although the nature of our meetings is transactional that we have a pleasant rapport with one another. 
 
Has anyone else had a conversation like this with a provider and it almost made you feel guilty - maybe not the right word but I’m struggling to find the right ones right now. Was just curious of anyone else’s experience. 

If you must, I wouldn’t enter personal information about specific people. Even inputting the website repeatedly suggests it’s a site of illegal activity that some government arm (like the trump administration) must crush.
Also, depending on where you live, prosecutors might be hungry to charge folks. The recent raid in northern Florida is crazy. Innocent folks who just wanted fun being charged with a permanent record.
I would strictly interact in incognito mode, if at all engaging in discussions about *** for money. I would also never ever input the exact stage names of particular providers. That puts them and you at risk. 
 
let’s keep prevent rentmen the website from being in the crosshairs of the government, and let’s keep providers and you safe from an OpenAI inquiry/investigations/charges 

ChatGPT's answer doesn't really give any new leads on finding escorts, though Slixa has a collection of female escorts in most cities.   We've discussed before the dodginess of MintBoys and Seeking, the difficulty of finding appropriate hires on Grindr and Sniffies, and that Craigslist and Backpage are shadows of what they once were, so other than through recommendations and private networks (including this site!), RentMen is the only real option in the US. 
If that's true, then the RM search function can do almost anything AI can do.  If you have a type, you can enter his characteristics in the search and see what you get.  If you don't like the results, you can fiddle with your inputs to see type-adjacent escorts in case one of them tickles your fancy.  If I am thinking of hiring in a particular city, I can usually in a few minutes do a very effective search of escorts who appeal to me and deserve closer inspection, about 10% to 15% of the profiles.  In that context, AI isn't the miraculous time saver it should be, especially when you think about how much info you have to give it to really know your type.   
Save AI for choosing stereo speakers and vacation planning.  (I use it to help me repair broken appliances in my home.)  Leave this hobby to your own devices.  

Good advice in Johnnyroad’s post. Only disagree with one little thing: He married a sex-worker, so there is at least some sympathy for the practice…

I’d remain cautious. You never know how quickly information inputted into ChatGPT can be used to identify you, and you never know which authorities are in partnership with OpenAI (such as the Trump administration, which isn’t very pro-sex work, surveillance companies like Palantir, etc).
Even with a privacy guarantee, I do believe that OpenAI can be tipped off to messages it deems “very concerning”.
per a search: 
automated moderation systems constantly scan inputs and outputs, and conversations that trigger safety thresholds are immediately flagged. [1, 2] When an inquiry is flagged, it bypasses standard privacy filters and undergoes a stricter review process: [1]   What Happens to Flagged Chats Human Review Escalation: Flagged conversations are sent to specialized pipelines where a trained team of experts and contractors manually review the text. System Logging: The flag is permanently logged to your account. Even if you delete the chat or use "Temporary Chat," OpenAI retains logs of policy violations for safety and compliance purposes.           ,

If you must, I wouldn’t enter personal information about specific people. Even inputting the website repeatedly suggests it’s a site of illegal activity that some government arm (like the trump administration) must crush.
Also, depending on where you live, prosecutors might be hungry to charge folks. The recent raid in northern Florida is crazy. Innocent folks who just wanted fun being charged with a permanent record.
I would strictly interact in incognito mode, if at all engaging in discussions about *** for money. I would also never ever input the exact stage names of particular providers. That puts them and you at risk. 
 
let’s keep prevent rentmen the website from being in the crosshairs of the government, and let’s keep providers and you safe from an OpenAI inquiry/investigations/charges 

I’d remain cautious. You never know how quickly information inputted into ChatGPT can be used to identify you, and you never know which authorities are in partnership with OpenAI (such as the Trump administration, which isn’t very pro-sex work, surveillance companies like Palantir, etc).
Even with a privacy guarantee, I do believe that OpenAI can be tipped off to messages it deems “very concerning”.
per a search: 
automated moderation systems constantly scan inputs and outputs, and conversations that trigger safety thresholds are immediately flagged. [1, 2] When an inquiry is flagged, it bypasses standard privacy filters and undergoes a stricter review process: [1]   What Happens to Flagged Chats Human Review Escalation: Flagged conversations are sent to specialized pipelines where a trained team of experts and contractors manually review the text. System Logging: The flag is permanently logged to your account. Even if you delete the chat or use "Temporary Chat," OpenAI retains logs of policy violations for safety and compliance purposes.           ,

This is just low-key racism that sees white providers who embody some "All-American" A&F jock as the ideal archetype. Meanwhile, since politics are banned from discussion, I'll just say that the A&F guys were trafficking young men for two decades. Perhaps we should question why we desire a specific ideal foisted upon us by advertising, Hollywood, etc. 

I don't know why you quoted me....
I don't ask for discounts, I think it's disrespectful and I also find it tacky to brag about it on here, whether is real or made up.
Some guys might give a different rate to clients they see on a monthly basis, but most won't do it. 

It's like presenting a coupon while ordering... you'll get more rice and less beef. 
This isn't the first nor the last time someone brags about hypothetically getting a discount... 

I agree with what @Jamie21 said.
Personal connection is HUGE too. I’ve had technically perfect massages at great rates, but the vibe just wasn’t there… and I never booked again.
My regulars almost never ask me to rebook. I just genuinely like them as people and enjoy their energy 🙂 That part matters way more than most people think.