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Unfortunately it has happened to me several times. I've had guys no-show who were supposed to come to my place, and typically when someone doesn't show up they just don't bother to respond to texts asking where they are. One guy had the nerve, however, of replying that he was on his way to visit his family for the holidays and questioning why I would think it was okay to make an appointment right before Christmas. Uh, because you agreed to said appointment? Seemed obvious to me that if the guy didn't want to schedule something on December 24th he could have just said so. The funny/awkward thing is that I frequently saw him at my gym after that. Hot looking guy but because of his rudeness I always just ignored him. Another time I traveled to the hotel where some guy said he would be staying because we had an agreed-upon appointment time and he said he would give me his room number after he checked in. Didn't hear back from him before I traveled to his hotel, didn't hear back from him when I was outside his hotel; in fact, he never responded. It's bad enough to stand someone up, but one would think that at least a simple acknowledgement/apology would be in order.

I assume the gym in his building is good enough for most people but not people seriously into body building. For example, I think the maximum dumbbell weight in my condo gym is 70 pounds; more than I'll ever need, but I definitely saw guys using heavier weights when I went to an actual gym. In terms of weight plates, I also don't think there are enough of those in high enough weights to provide a challenge to serious weightlifters. There's also not a lot of room to work out due to all of the equipment in the gym. But the other reason might be that he likes the social scene of the gym. Where I live, there generally are only a couple of people in the gym at any one time. There were more people at the real gym I used to go to at 4:00 a.m.!

And there are other threads about ChineseHOT here as well.

I assume you didn't search before posting?

Renting someone's apartment versus staying in a hotel is definitely a gamble. While I have never been entirely disappointed by an Airbnb or VRBO rental, there's always been something that was disappointment. My best experience was in Los Angeles, near Paramount Studios. The living room was nice, the kitchen was nice, there was a washer/dryer and dishwasher. Unfortunately, the bed was just okay -- certainly not as comfortable as a standard hotel bed. Another apartment had a better bedroom with a more comfortable bed, but two nights out of five we were awakened in the middle of the night due to neighbors setting off fireworks for over an hour. (This was pre-pandemic; I know that random fireworks that have nothing to do with the 4th of July have become a bigger problem since 2020.) The worst was a rental on Kauai. It was basically a converted laundry room behind someone's house; on my approach to the property, I was hoping that I had taken a wrong turn because the front yard looked like a junk yard. At least it was a tropical destination and I wasn't planning to spend a lot of time at the property anyway, but the place really was one step above a dump.

I understand what you are saying, and I don't disagree in the sense that hidden camera footage of most client activity isn't likely to be posted online because there simply wouldn't be much interest. I read the concern to be more about the potential for blackmail, though, and it doesn't matter if the camera angle is bad or the client is the ugliest man in the world. If the footage contains recognizable images, someone could attempt to use it to extort money from the client. I just think the odds of this are so low that it isn't worth thinking about, but I have read here that some clients have been blackmailed (or at least there were attempts to blackmail them) simply because they answered someone's ad. So I don't think this concern is just paranoia, depending on what one's situation is. But there really is no way to avoid all potential risks, only to minimize them, and if someone feels better being in control of the meeting space (i.e., renting a hotel room themselves for the meeting) then they certainly should do so.

What is the speed at which escorts depreciate? There are definitely escorts who post here who have been in the business for over a decade, if not two decades. There are escorts who didn't even start their careers until after 40. Based on someone I know and the impression I have from some long-time escorts here, the answer is that it's possible to be a very successful escort and invest one's money wisely. That takes more than just being willing to be hired by clients, though. Despite some people believing this is "easy money," to actually build a business (and the truly successful escorts have clients who hire them regularly) requires providing an experience so good that the clients keep returning instead of just moving on to the next new guy advertising in their area.

If I'm not mistaken, this is the same Heath that was part of the Heath and Matt duo that received lots of negative comments on the previous site several years ago. I definitely hired the Heath shown in the current ad many years ago in San Francisco. What stands out in my mind is that I very much enjoyed my first massage with him and then the second one was almost as if a different person was there (even though it was clear it was the same man). I never did figure out why he was so friendly and engaged the first time I hired him and then seemed so unfriendly just a month or two later.

I only get actual gifts for two people at this point in my life. For many people, just paying for their birthday dinner and then them paying for mine constitutes the gift giving. I much prefer this because gift cards aren't personal anyway (you're basically just exchanging cash with friends that is already tied up with a specific retailer) and there isn't much that anyone can buy me that I want that I don't already own (within reason, I mean -- I'm not so wealthy that any of my friends would spend several thousand dollars on a gift). For people who are just visiting your area, lessening the chance that they will reciprocate and pay for the host's birthday dinner at some point, I can understand your disappointment in their manners but even if they had bought a gift for you you would be the beneficiary, not the person who bought their meal.

Actually, I don't think a near miss means a hit. There can be a near miss and a miss that's so far away that it cannot be considered a near miss. To my ears and brain, near miss means that there was almost a hit, but a small distance or small amount of time prevented a hit from happening. If the miss is farther way, it's just a miss or, if it's really far away, one might say, "You missed it by a mile." Near hit, if you think about it, doesn't really make any sense in this case. You could say, "You nearly hit me" but not "you near hit me," and people would understand that there was no hit but it was a close call. Back to the actual subject of this thread, I don't feel any more unsafe flying now than I ever did. I do get anxious while flying, especially if the takeoff or landing is rough, but generally have faith that the pilot is well trained and the plane has been well maintained. It certainly feels safer than riding in someone else's car.

With respect to near miss versus near hit, here's Merriam-Webster's take on it: https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/near-miss-near-hit-word-history-usage

Clearly the advertiser wanted to cast someone who wasn't so unattractive that most viewers would be repulsed but not so attractive that he would be recognized by most as a sex symbol. They did a good job. I wouldn't hire him as an escort because one can certainly find more attractive men in that line of work, but I don't think he's unattractive.

This highlights a problem for some sex workers: Just because you are your own boss doesn't mean that you should run your business without regard to the satisfaction of your customers. Given that scheduling is in the hands of the provider, he can easily set parameters such as "I only take same day appointments" or "I do not take same day appointments." The only valid excuse for making an appointment that you neither keep nor explicitly cancel in advance is incapacitation. And it isn't difficult to text someone to cancel or reschedule, so simply ghosting someone makes no sense unless one really doesn't care about one's reputation.

I'll just toss this out there: Despite the risks of STIs with unprotected oral sex, I think you'll find that most people don't use condoms for oral sex. I personally could never get into sucking on a penis with a condom on, but I will admit that I didn't try a lot of different condoms to see if I could find one that didn't bother me from both a taste and texture perspective. Given how many people use PrEP now as their only STI prevention (which only reduces the chances of HIV infection and doesn't prevent the transmission of any other STI), I doubt you're going to find a lot of forum members using condoms for oral sex. Even before PrEP, I think regular condom use was typically reserved for anal sex among gay men. Still, I don't mean to disparage your desire to be on the more cautious side when it comes to safer sex. Do a Google search and you will find some sites that give suggestions for condoms (both traditional condoms and "tongue condoms") for oral sex.

I agree with not being too specific with someone you've never met. I'm thinking something a little more nuanced than direct questions like, "Can I blow you? Will you fuck me?" I agree that if one is looking for specific sexual activity, one should just hire an escort. However, there is nothing wrong with communicating some general expectations such as expecting more than just jerking yourself off at the end of the massage.

The age-old dilemma of hiring a guy for "erotic massage" and then wondering what, exactly, that means to that provider. As discussed many times here, there is no set definition of "erotic massage" which, unfortunately, results in some guys advertising that they provide that service when they end up doing nothing more than an untrained body rub with nothing erotic about it other than that they are touching you. And sometimes it goes the other way, with a masseur providing full service and not just a little mutual touch. I've had experiences all along the spectrum, so if you really want to know what a specific provider offers before hiring him then you need to ask him. By the way, in dark mode the text in your post is impossible to read. When I turn off dark mode your post looks like the others in this thread. I'm not sure what setting you used in terms of how your posts will appear, but you might want to check that so that your posts are readable in both light mode and dark mode.

At first I thought that those of you taking that video ad seriously were being naive, but after searching for the company online I don't know what to think. The video is so stupid that I thought it had to be just a poorly done parody, but I guess it was just done to get attention (and it worked since it got featured on some television programs).

What to do about it now is a very different question than how you could have handled the situation. I will focus on the latter, which is what you asked: What either/both of you should have done is talk about it in the moment so there wouldn't be any weird after-the-fact wondering about the other one's expectations. As the provider, one could argue that it was his responsibility to broach the subject by saying something like, "Would you like me to spend the night at X rate?" or "If you want, I can stay the night, gratis." Given he didn't do this, I think that you should have simply said something like, "I'm sorry that my budget is spent for this trip. You're welcome to stay if you want because I'm really enjoying being with you, but I cannot afford to pay you anything additional this trip."

Maybe this news got fed to you due to other articles and websites you've visited? As I wrote, I haven't seen a thing about any of this outside of what got posted here. This reminds me of a puzzle I had a year or so ago: Suddenly my Facebook feed was full of articles about the Kardashians. It was annoying me and I started to hide them and indicate I wasn't interested. At the same time, I posted a question to my friends (and I have a very small friend list and strict privacy settings) asking if anyone had any idea why all of a sudden this family was being marketed to me when I didn't think I had sought out anything related to them. One of my friends laughed and said that now that I had mentioned them in my post, I was sure to see even more posts about them. I guess I am posting this to suggest that it isn't wise to even read about something that you find distasteful let some algorithm assume you are interested in it in a positive sense.

Just an honest question: Does one have to go out of one's way to find stuff like this to get riled up about? I haven't seen a link to a "news" article on any site I frequent that was about who Jeff Bezos is dating or about any photoshoot he had with or without a woman who looks like a sex worker. Maybe the stories were there for me to notice but I just tuned them out, but I honestly don't recall seeing anything about this anywhere but here. I know some people care about stuff like this just like some people obsess over other people whose fame is all about self promotion such as the Kardashian family. All that stuff just bores me, though, so I tune it all out. I don't mind people promoting themselves online and if their content is to my liking I might even help their monetization (i.e., "follow" them). Given I don't find Jeff Bezos hot, though, I'm not interested in taking a peek into his private life. I'm shallow that way.

I don't think someone needs to write a lengthy ad, but I noticed that both of these guys just have a sentence or two that claim they are great. That's a red flag for me, as I think that someone who is serious would take the trouble to write something about what he's offering. To make matters worse, both of these ads seem to have had everything under the "into" category checked. Are both of these guys really into everything, including fisting, PNP, etc? Having everything checked just makes me think that the ad was posted in a hurry and that the guy isn't serious.

One possibility is that they left the glowing review after their first appointment, and then subsequent appointments left the client feeling less than satisfied. The only reason I raise this as a possibility is that I have had that happen to me but did not leave second, downgraded reviews because (in almost all cases) I couldn't really lay blame for my diminishing satisfaction solely on the providers.

I have walked away a number of times (when I used to hire I preferred going to the escort's place) when the online representation was significantly different than reality. I had a few dramatic moments, but I think a lot of these guys aren't so delusional that they don't understand why a client would walk away so they just take it in stride. A few did shout at me as I walked away, though. I certainly have gone through with more appointments where the guy isn't quite as hot as his photos would suggest but isn't so far from the truth.

I just tried to create a Rentmen.eu profile and it indicates I have to provide an email address because a temporary password will be emailed to that address. I also tried Rent.men and it indicates an email address is required because an activation code and link will be emailed to that address. This exercise did cause me to learn why some would see safe/bb info and others wouldn't: It does not show for me on rentmen.eu; it does show on rent.men

It is not visible to me in California regardless of the device or browser I use. I have never had a Rentmen account, so if you see the category when logged out in the USA (again, displaying the response in the ad, not the ability to filter search results) maybe that's due to some cookie Rentmen placed on your device.